Shy-One:

Little man - I will stomp a hole in your green azz, 

Kill it with the "green card shitzzzz" - he is not trying to be in AMERICA - you numbnutzz

I need your advice 190 - not your immigrant bullshitzzz thoughts - please where is the 190 who writes intelligently and with great perspective - where did he go?

since mzdarkskin decided to continue fornica[i]tin[/i]g with her ex boyfriend - i changed for the worst

190_@:

since mzdarkskin decided to continue fornica[i]tin[/i]g with her ex boyfriend - i changed for the worst

190_@:

since mzdarkskin decided to continue fornica[i]tin[/i]g with her ex boyfriend - i changed for the worst 

Shy-One:

Thank you so much - You, Mz. D and Chima and even a few of the guys have been wonderful and soo helpful - I was upset since yesterday.  I feel that I will be much calmer once I get there and see him and am with him - It will be much different - maybe this is last minute (for the next few weeks) - nervousness and fear because it is coming much closer and much sooner.

Shy-One:

Dang this is why I love you soo much and I don't even know you.  Of everyone you have completely NAILED IT.  You and that girl with the name that starts with a T - she wrote on page one - I forget her name now at this moment.

Your first paragraph - I understood you clearly.  I guess its the distance.  And his flaws aren't flaws to him or to a woman who is OK with it.  But to me - they are flaws and to him - I have flaws as well.

WE are just really different - really different and CULTURE is a major difference.  But Mz. D - I love him even for his differences - I write this now and my heart hurts - I see his face and his glasses and his smile and want to fling myself at him because I love him so much.  This continent thing - if he were here and I was there - I would be with him.  But the sex thing - I can tell he is very good in that area - but the oral - he will have to give or no part of his body will enter my mouth.  I don't give unless I get.

Shy-One:

^^^

Thank you Mz. D

Your words have brought big, salty tears to my eyes.  I miss him so much and I don't understand clearly this hold this guy has on me.  I cannot move from him.  When I am away from him even a few days - by my choice.  I miss him so much.

Well Lagos, here I come.

Thank you for your understanding.

On a side note - you really had quite on effect on 190.  In order for him to make those comments on NL - he is hurting on some level.  Mz. D - don't change who you are, your contributions to NL are invaluable - we need you.  I hope your Sunday has been good.

CyberG:

@Shy-One:

Looking at your posts, you missed something VERY IMPORTANT: you did not listen or seek advice from a male's point of view. Except you don't really care much for your chances of success, yes you can just go. But if you wish to make things work, even if he is bogged down with his kids and business, you need to consider male's point of view too and not look at it from almost an entirely women's point of view. I say it constantly: women don't really know men as much as they think they do. Well, goodluck.

CyberG:

@Shy-One:

Looking at your posts, you missed something VERY IMPORTANT: you did not listen or seek advice from a male's point of view. Except you don't really care much for your chances of success, yes you can just go. But if you wish to make things work, even if he is bogged down with his kids and business, you need to consider male's point of view too and not look at it from almost an entirely women's point of view. I say it constantly: women don't really know men as much as they think they do. Well, goodluck.

jay bee:

You HAVE [/b]to spend [b]QUALITY time with someone before you can conclude if the person is right for you.

andromida:

All i see in your posts are a lot of worries and fears about the future.

I want you to have this at the back of your mind- It seems to me from your posts that your Nigerian man is made and does not need your money, he is also into his forties. I very much doubt if he will be willing to relocate to the states seeing as he has kids here and family and is used to a certain way of life. In Nigeria when it comes to marriage most of the compromises is expected from the woman. She follows her man and i bet you at his age he is not looking for drama but support, companionship, love and care and someone who will fit into his life. Can you do this?

You talk about mouthaction and how much you love it, what if he is willing to do it only fourtimes in a year will you love him all thesame? is mouthaction so important to you that if he is a good man you will let go of him because he cannot give mouthaction are you willing to teach him, cajole him, until he is comfortable with it which may be a while if at all. Thesame way you are evaluating the rship is thesame way he is evaluating it and wondering if you will fit into his life If he is a made man as you say.

andromida:

All i see in your posts are a lot of worries and fears about the future.

I want you to have this at the back of your mind- It seems to me from your posts that your Nigerian man is made and does not need your money, he is also into his forties. I very much doubt if he will be willing to relocate to the states seeing as he has kids here and family and is used to a certain way of life. In Nigeria when it comes to marriage most of the compromises is expected from the woman. She follows her man and i bet you at his age he is not looking for drama but support, companionship, love and care and someone who will fit into his life. Can you do this?

You talk about mouthaction and how much you love it, what if he is willing to do it only fourtimes in a year will you love him all thesame? is mouthaction so important to you that if he is a good man you will let go of him because he cannot give mouthaction are you willing to teach him, cajole him, until he is comfortable with it which may be a while if at all. Thesame way you are evaluating the rship is thesame way he is evaluating it and wondering if you will fit into his life If he is a made man as you say.

Mrs, Chima:

Make sure your family have the address and contact number of your guy in Nigeria and the hotel you are staying.  Make sure you contact the American Embassy once you step on the Nigerian soil and give them the entire contact information including family in America.  

In case of emergencies, they need to be able to contact you.  

Mrs, Chima:

You are 100% correct on the first paragraph and that is what I tried to tell a few of my friends who have married or dating Africans not just Nigerians. I told them to learn the culture first and see if you are willing to adapt to it.  Older African men are set in their ways and most likely will expect the women to compromise just as you said.  

That's why I said she need to learn HIS culture if she is going to be with him.  If she is willing to compromise on a huge scale then she will be okay with him.  Its sound easy over the Internet and people can dream big online however when reality kick in its a hard pill to swallow because you are looking for that dream you guys painted together.  

Once she spend quality time with him in Nigeria she will see things that I would have shared with her but prefer she experience it first.  I suggest she take it easy and open her mind.  

She will be okay.  

Mrs, Chima:

Is that a bad thing?

sauer:

almost!

Mrs, Chima:

We were merely only giving her advices because she asked for it. Regardless what anyone say to her she will still do what she wants to do. The best thing is to give her tips on how to protect herself and prepare for whatever comes her way.

Now if that a bad thing to help her prepare mentally and physically then I guess it is. Many women sadly go see a man without being prepare in all areas. At least she asked and got some ideas what she should do before making that trip.

A few women left and never came back because they were not prepared.

195:
Shy one - Go and ask your real friends and take your problems off this forum

i dont know why 90% of the women in this forum are so un happy in their relationships despite they advice people

week in week out