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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by MrAgbako: 7:43am On Apr 13, 2023
Rayban25:


We go start dey hear Lampard out now grin
commot mouth for Chelsea matter. Amebo
Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by id4sho(m): 8:17am On Apr 13, 2023
For me, give her responsibilities i.e cooking gas, tv subscription, food stuffs except meat, toiletries, let her fuel her own car, kids juice and biscuits.

Some of my Nigerian sisters stubborn die and need to be controlled and given direction. Collect small small change from her. Let that sense of responsibility stick to her brain


Am not married though but this has been my observation. Don't abuse and beat her up. Spending their own money aches them

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by Khyrvxjzy: 8:53am On Apr 13, 2023
Kobojunkiee:
1. You are not looking at this from the right angle at all. undecided

This isn't a matter of weakness but inner conflict. Are Nigerian men ready to exist as partners in their marriage with their opinions carrying equal weight as that of their spouse? Are Nigerian men ready to also share the responsibility in other aspects of their union? Are they ready to let go of the Head-of-Household status that traditionally goes along with bearing 100% financial responsibility? Many of these men know that the moment they begin to share financial responsibility, they are likely to also share in cooking and other household chores in addition to losing their god-like status in marriage. Are Nigerian men ready for such a change? undecided

If a man is ok with being a partner, all he needs do is make that clear to the woman he marries in his marriage agreement with her, and they both go from there. undecided


anti so lorokan ur money is ur money, my money is our money, e le ma sise ki e tun teriba

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by colestephan86: 9:04am On Apr 13, 2023
Queendera:
Lately men are complaining.

And seriously it's getting to me like never before.

I try to wrap my head around certain things and just couldn't understand it.

It's this issue of a wife working and not really contribute to the family.

How can you as a wife be working and somehow still feels only your husband should shoulder all the responsibilitis?

What exactly are you doing with your income if you are not spending it on your family?

Is marriage not supposed to be partnership?

It's one thing if the wife is not working but you are working and earning and yet only your husband is spending?

And you as a man, you are actually stup*d to allow such nonsense from your wife.

Gosh, some of you are so weak. Too weak I must say to give your wife such liberties.

The life expectancy of men is so low, they overload themselfs with burdens they could have shared

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by DMerciful(m): 9:22am On Apr 13, 2023
Even if your wife is contributing 40% of her salary, you're still the head of the family if you're not a simp.

Respect is not because you carry 100% of the financial responsibilities but because of your leadership and discipline!
Kobojunkiee:
1. You are not looking at this from the right angle at all. undecided

This isn't a matter of weakness but inner conflict. Are Nigerian men ready to exist as partners in their marriage with their opinions carrying equal weight as that of their spouse? Are Nigerian men ready to also share the responsibility in other aspects of their union? Are they ready to let go of the Head-of-Household status that traditionally goes along with bearing 100% financial responsibility? Many of these men know that the moment they begin to share financial responsibility, they are likely to also share in cooking and other household chores in addition to losing their god-like status in marriage. Are Nigerian men ready for such a change? undecided

If a man is ok with being a partner, all he needs do is make that clear to the woman he marries in his marriage agreement with her, and they both go from there. undecided

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by DMerciful(m): 9:24am On Apr 13, 2023
They are stuck with the mentality of the okd ways. Now women work so must support their husband substantially ekse the man dies easily from stress!
Queendera:
Lately men are complaining.

And seriously it's getting to me like never before.

I try to wrap my head around certain things and just couldn't understand it.

It's this issue of a wife working and not really contribute to the family.

How can you as a wife be working and somehow still feels only your husband should shoulder all the responsibilitis?

What exactly are you doing with your income if you are not spending it on your family?

Is marriage not supposed to be partnership?

It's one thing if the wife is not working but you are working and earning and yet only your husband is spending?

And you as a man, you are actually stup*d to allow such nonsense from your wife.

Gosh, some of you are so weak. Too weak I must say to give your wife such liberties.

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by DMerciful(m): 9:30am On Apr 13, 2023
A decent and well brought up woman will respect her husband, not because he bears 100% of the responsibilities but because of his leadership, wisdom, love for her and his discipline.

A man carrying 100% of the financial responsibility when his wife equally work is gross foolishness!

Rokiat:
Because those men are actually smart and understand how a woman’s brain works. The moment a woman start contributing in the house she will now think she’s the leader of the home. Her respect for her husband will start to diminish this is just fact.

That is why a true masculine guy don’t care for a woman’s money what he want is a woman that will bring value to his home because when you as a man become too lazy as to depend on a woman to help you run your household financially one of two things happens


1 She lost total respect for you because now she feel she don’t actually need you. She will start undermining you, talking to you any kind of way thinking you both wear the pants in that relationship. Some men think they can cheat the system and just married and lash on a woman. I laugh grin the moment anything goes wrong the woman will be first to yell out all the things she’s doing, even if she only does 20% this is just how women are. They will subconsciously resent you because this is unnatural. The woman is not designed to be the leader, the provider, they are just not. So if you try to use her for that, guess what, you wouldn’t get the results you want, trust me on this. A man can be successful, provide for his family and not put it in nobody’s face what he’s doing because it is not that serious to him. This is what God designed him to be, but that’s not a woman’s God given role. God is a powerful force guys and you really can’t cheat divine order. And now we think we can rewrite the rules which is why most relationships are failing miserably.


2 She wouldn’t be able to pour into her house, her marriage, her children, and herself as she should because she will be spending more hours at work trying to help you contribute to the household it’s just impossible that she will give 100% to her home as she’s supposed to. This is why women don’t naturally make good leaders because they can’t do it all be a homemaker and then go to work and be a leader. That is why they become emotional in those leadership roles because they are overwhelmed. Don’t argue with me argue with your keypad.


A woman’s achievement and money don’t mean Shi..t to a real masculine man because he don’t need it. That don’t mean Shi..t to them. An uneducated woman who’s broke and never been to college don’t work but can cook, have good nurturing skills, a good mother, fine as hell, good in bed, will always get the better man than a woman who’s hella accomplished and is totally out of touch with her womanly side and roles.


You can’t cheat divine order. This whole switching of roles is the number one issues in relationships today.
That is why the west most of them have the highest divorce rate and hella unhappy in their relationships.



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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by Tombrown3(m): 9:40am On Apr 13, 2023
Smartguyboy:

If a married woman is supporting her husband with 20-30% of her salary is not a bad idea after all she’s not giving the money the woman just to support the family in her own little way.
If your wife can’t support you she doesn’t love you
I mean where is the love ?

Exactly my question, this topic is making everything sound like it's a roommate union like base. This is marriage for goodness sake, people who love themselves!

Where is the love.

I had a girl who came from a more financially stable home than I, she was there for me when I was down, this is a no brainer na, when someone loves you, they will suport you.

U guys should stop making this seem like it's a man a woman living in same roof like roommate.

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by SenecaTheYonger: 10:01am On Apr 13, 2023
Queendera:
Lately men are complaining.

And seriously it's getting to me like never before.

I try to wrap my head around certain things and just couldn't understand it.

It's this issue of a wife working and not really contribute to the family.

How can you as a wife be working and somehow still feels only your husband should shoulder all the responsibilitis?

What exactly are you doing with your income if you are not spending it on your family?

Is marriage not supposed to be partnership?

It's one thing if the wife is not working but you are working and earning and yet only your husband is spending?

And you as a man, you are actually stup*d to allow such nonsense from your wife.

Gosh, some of you are so weak. Too weak I must say to give your wife such liberties.

Well feminism fought for equality, and that means both the husband and wife working and contributing, but that’s not what feminist really want. They want to work, yes, but they don’t want to contribute equally.

Sorry you all fell for it.

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by Kobojunkie: 10:33am On Apr 13, 2023
DMerciful:
■ Even if your wife is contributing 40% of her salary, you're still the head of the family if you're not a simp. Respect is not because you carry 100% of the financial responsibilities but because of your leadership and discipline!
1. Notice how that logic only works inside of your heads--- it doesn't carry over well to reality? Denial doesn't help at all in these things.. undecided

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by Kobojunkie: 10:36am On Apr 13, 2023
Tombrown3:
■ Exactly my question, this topic is making everything sound like it's a roommate union like base. This is marriage for goodness sake, people who love themselves! Where is the love. I had a girl who came from a more financially stable home than I, she was there for me when I was down, this is a no brainer na, when someone loves you, they will suport you.

U guys should stop making this seem like it's a man a woman living in same roof like roommate.
1. Most Nigerian men do not understand what love means though. Many assume that a woman submitting to them is what love is when it isn't. undecided

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by Kobojunkie: 10:37am On Apr 13, 2023
Khyrvxjzy:
anti so lorokan ur money is ur money, my money is our money, e le ma sise ki e tun teriba
You dey read at all?, undecided
Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by Rossycares(f): 10:42am On Apr 13, 2023
My gender truth be told,no matter how little, we should at least try to contribute something,help mate no be for mouth!!
I think this is something that should be discussed with Ur partner, even b4 walking down d aisle, some certain agreements should be made and understood clearly by both parties

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by livingstone2013: 10:44am On Apr 13, 2023
Rokiat:
Because those men are actually smart and understand how a woman’s brain works. The moment a woman start contributing in the house she will now think she’s the leader of the home. Her respect for her husband will start to diminish this is just fact.

That is why a true masculine guy don’t care for a woman’s money what he want is a woman that will bring value to his home because when you as a man become too lazy as to depend on a woman to help you run your household financially one of two things happens


1 She lost total respect for you because now she feel she don’t actually need you. She will start undermining you, talking to you any kind of way thinking you both wear the pants in that relationship. Some men think they can cheat the system and just married and lash on a woman. I laugh grin the moment anything goes wrong the woman will be first to yell out all the things she’s doing, even if she only does 20% this is just how women are. They will subconsciously resent you because this is unnatural. The woman is not designed to be the leader, the provider, they are just not. So if you try to use her for that, guess what, you wouldn’t get the results you want, trust me on this. A man can be successful, provide for his family and not put it in nobody’s face what he’s doing because it is not that serious to him. This is what God designed him to be, but that’s not a woman’s God given role. God is a powerful force guys and you really can’t cheat divine order. And now we think we can rewrite the rules which is why most relationships are failing miserably.


2 She wouldn’t be able to pour into her house, her marriage, her children, and herself as she should because she will be spending more hours at work trying to help you contribute to the household it’s just impossible that she will give 100% to her home as she’s supposed to. This is why women don’t naturally make good leaders because they can’t do it all be a homemaker and then go to work and be a leader. That is why they become emotional in those leadership roles because they are overwhelmed. Don’t argue with me argue with your keypad.


A woman’s achievement and money don’t mean Shi..t to a real masculine man because he don’t need it. That don’t mean Shi..t to them. An uneducated woman who’s broke and never been to college don’t work but can cook, have good nurturing skills, a good mother, fine as hell, good in bed, will always get the better man than a woman who’s hella accomplished and is totally out of touch with her womanly side and roles.


You can’t cheat divine order. This whole switching of roles is the number one issues in relationships today.
That is why the west most of them have the highest divorce rate and hella unhappy in their relationships.



you wrote rubbish

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by Kobojunkie: 10:47am On Apr 13, 2023
Rossycares:
My gender truth be told,no matter how little, we should at least try to contribute something,help mate no be for mouth!!
I think this is something that should be discussed with Ur partner, even b4 walking down d aisle, some certain agreements should be made and understood clearly by both parties
It should be discussed indeed. But how many men are ready for these discussions which will essentially end up stripping them of their godhood status in marriage? Because no sane woman would want to contribute and still remain a mere slave/househelp cum glorified sex tool/worker cum baby mama in her own marriage. undecided

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by captaininiobong(m): 11:06am On Apr 13, 2023
That's even small, what of a wife earning twice the husband salary and still ask the husband for money to buy undies?

Husband is earning NGN150, 000and she is earning NGN310,000..she works in her father's company.

The man buys food, pay children school fee and rent.

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by ednut1(m): 11:22am On Apr 13, 2023
Gerrard59:


This is the koko. Are the men prepared to partake in house chores? Are they OK with assertive and somewhat opinionated wives? Money gives people confidence and makes them bold and assertive. Are Nigerian men prepared for that? Because let's be honest, the moment she starts contributing financially to the household, she will demand a say in how things are run. The idea of siddon look and Agama-nodding to every idea and declaration by the man would fly out of the window. It is like a company. The moment you become a major shareholder, you begin to question the CEO on the moves he takes because you have a financial stake in the company even if he is more experienced than you are.

Are our men prepared for that? Na why anytime una say women in the west contribute, I dey laugh. Una go fit be like western men? Una go fit allow una wives question you on things in the house? grin
house maid no dey Women of today will not agree to be house wives too. So if you want to work. Part of that money is for the family o. So painful seeing men dying young with all the responsibilities

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by Maxxim: 12:00pm On Apr 13, 2023
ednut1:
house maid no dey Women of today will not agree to be house wives too. So if you want to work. Part of that money is for the family o. So painful seeing men dying young with all the responsibilities
😩😩😩
Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by online4business: 12:03pm On Apr 13, 2023
Rokiat:
Because those men are actually smart and understand how a woman’s brain works. The moment a woman start contributing in the house she will now think she’s the leader of the home. Her respect for her husband will start to diminish this is just fact.

That is why a true masculine guy don’t care for a woman’s money what he want is a woman that will bring value to his home because when you as a man become too lazy as to depend on a woman to help you run your household financially one of two things happens


1 She lost total respect for you because now she feel she don’t actually need you. She will start undermining you, talking to you any kind of way thinking you both wear the pants in that relationship. Some men think they can cheat the system and just married and lash on a woman. I laugh grin the moment anything goes wrong the woman will be first to yell out all the things she’s doing, even if she only does 20% this is just how women are. They will subconsciously resent you because this is unnatural. The woman is not designed to be the leader, the provider, they are just not. So if you try to use her for that, guess what, you wouldn’t get the results you want, trust me on this. A man can be successful, provide for his family and not put it in nobody’s face what he’s doing because it is not that serious to him. This is what God designed him to be, but that’s not a woman’s God given role. God is a powerful force guys and you really can’t cheat divine order. And now we think we can rewrite the rules which is why most relationships are failing miserably.


2 She wouldn’t be able to pour into her house, her marriage, her children, and herself as she should because she will be spending more hours at work trying to help you contribute to the household it’s just impossible that she will give 100% to her home as she’s supposed to. This is why women don’t naturally make good leaders because they can’t do it all be a homemaker and then go to work and be a leader. That is why they become emotional in those leadership roles because they are overwhelmed. Don’t argue with me argue with your keypad.


A woman’s achievement and money don’t mean Shi..t to a real masculine man because he don’t need it. That don’t mean Shi..t to them. An uneducated woman who’s broke and never been to college don’t work but can cook, have good nurturing skills, a good mother, fine as hell, good in bed, will always get the better man than a woman who’s hella accomplished and is totally out of touch with her womanly side and roles.


You can’t cheat divine order. This whole switching of roles is the number one issues in relationships today.
That is why the west most of them have the highest divorce rate and hella unhappy in their relationships.




Anty abeg which god you dey serve : outside Nigerian even here in seme everything you said is just off.

Nigerians and entitlement better teach your daughters how to not depend on any man money

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by DMerciful(m): 12:58pm On Apr 13, 2023
There are a lot of ladies looking for husbands or do common law partners. Its not compulsory to stick to your first wife, if she's not ready, show her the gate.
Kobojunkie:
1. Notice how that logic only works inside of your heads--- it doesn't carry over well to reality? Denial doesn't help at all in these things.. undecided

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by RomanGreen: 4:18pm On Apr 13, 2023
Rokiat:
Because those men are actually smart and understand how a woman’s brain works. The moment a woman start contributing in the house she will now think she’s the leader of the home. Her respect for her husband will start to diminish this is just fact.

That is why a true masculine guy don’t care for a woman’s money what he want is a woman that will bring value to his home because when you as a man become too lazy as to depend on a woman to help you run your household financially one of two things happens


1 She lost total respect for you because now she feel she don’t actually need you. She will start undermining you, talking to you any kind of way thinking you both wear the pants in that relationship. Some men think they can cheat the system and just married and lash on a woman. I laugh grin the moment anything goes wrong the woman will be first to yell out all the things she’s doing, even if she only does 20% this is just how women are. They will subconsciously resent you because this is unnatural. The woman is not designed to be the leader, the provider, they are just not. So if you try to use her for that, guess what, you wouldn’t get the results you want, trust me on this. A man can be successful, provide for his family and not put it in nobody’s face what he’s doing because it is not that serious to him. This is what God designed him to be, but that’s not a woman’s God given role. God is a powerful force guys and you really can’t cheat divine order. And now we think we can rewrite the rules which is why most relationships are failing miserably.


2 She wouldn’t be able to pour into her house, her marriage, her children, and herself as she should because she will be spending more hours at work trying to help you contribute to the household it’s just impossible that she will give 100% to her home as she’s supposed to. This is why women don’t naturally make good leaders because they can’t do it all be a homemaker and then go to work and be a leader. That is why they become emotional in those leadership roles because they are overwhelmed. Don’t argue with me argue with your keypad.


A woman’s achievement and money don’t mean Shi..t to a real masculine man because he don’t need it. That don’t mean Shi..t to them. An uneducated woman who’s broke and never been to college don’t work but can cook, have good nurturing skills, a good mother, fine as hell, good in bed, will always get the better man than a woman who’s hella accomplished and is totally out of touch with her womanly side and roles.


You can’t cheat divine order. This whole switching of roles is the number one issues in relationships today.
That is why the west most of them have the highest divorce rate and hella unhappy in their relationships.




You're a woman full of wisdom. God bless you.

You took the words out of my mouth

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by FORWARDEVERLY: 4:29pm On Apr 13, 2023
Queendera:
Lately men are complaining.

And seriously it's getting to me like never before.

I try to wrap my head around certain things and just couldn't understand it.

It's this issue of a wife working and not really contribute to the family.

How can you as a wife be working and somehow still feels only your husband should shoulder all the responsibilitis?

What exactly are you doing with your income if you are not spending it on your family?

Is marriage not supposed to be partnership?

It's one thing if the wife is not working but you are working and earning and yet only your husband is spending?

And you as a man, you are actually stup*d to allow such nonsense from your wife.

Gosh, some of you are so weak. Too weak I must say to give your wife such liberties.


Wallahi Nara'Sai'Allah this truth can not emanate from a woman...
Op I put it to you that you are a MAN...


Nice thread thou..

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by FORWARDEVERLY: 4:38pm On Apr 13, 2023
humilitypays:
A typical Nigerian man likes to be 100 percent responsible for his family's financial burden, this is the wish and desire of most Nigerian men born and raised in Nigeria, it only changes when the man is not doing well financially or if he is struggling financially and not making enough income.



A typical Nigerian man born and raised in Nigeria have ego, especially when it comes to asking woman (his girlfriend, fiance' or wife) for money or financial help, its almost like a taboo, he will rather starve to death than ask a woman for financial help, except the woman is his mother or sister or Aunt.




Lastly, a lot of financially buoyant Nigerian men married to working class ladies prefer their wife uses her income to take care of her family's financial demands on her own, and also to take care of her personal needs.



Most Nigerian men born and raised in Nigeria hardly believe that their wife is earning more than them lol, they always have this innate belief that their wife's income or salary is a peanut meant for her and her kids/family.




Any Nigerian man married to a Nigerian woman should take his eyes off his wife's income if he truly desire a happy home/marriage because Nigerian women don't joke with their money, they are so fixated on it, so to enjoy peace in your marriage, forget her income and work to take care of your family, this is what Bible expects from Christian husbands, and this is one of the many reasons why women from other countries rush Nigerian men.


A huge pile of Bull crap you wrote....

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by Amumaigwe: 5:10pm On Apr 13, 2023
Gerrard59:


This is the koko. Are the men prepared to partake in house chores? Are they OK with assertive and somewhat opinionated wives? Money gives people confidence and makes them bold and assertive. Are Nigerian men prepared for that? Because let's be honest, the moment she starts contributing financially to the household, she will demand a say in how things are run. The idea of siddon look and Agama-nodding to every idea and declaration by the man would fly out of the window. It is like a company. The moment you become a major shareholder, you begin to question the CEO on the moves he takes because you have a financial stake in the company even if he is more experienced than you are.

Are our men prepared for that? Na why anytime una say women in the west contribute, I dey laugh. Una go fit be like western men? Una go fit allow una wives question you on things in the house? grin

Your standpoint is very weak. Are you now saying that wives that their husbands pay all the bills are all submissive and respectful to the man? The fact that you allude that just provision makes women honour their husbands should be viewed as an insult to decent wives.

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by Kobojunkie: 5:24pm On Apr 13, 2023
DMerciful:
There are a lot of ladies looking for husbands or do common law partners. Its not compulsory to stick to your first wife, if she's not ready, show her the gate.
If that is the delusion you choose to feed yourself, continue! undecided
Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by imustsaymymindo: 5:30pm On Apr 13, 2023
Rokiat:
Because those men are actually smart and understand how a woman’s brain works. The moment a woman start contributing in the house she will now think she’s the leader of the home. Her respect for her husband will start to diminish this is just fact.

That is why a true masculine guy don’t care for a woman’s money what he want is a woman that will bring value to his home because when you as a man become too lazy as to depend on a woman to help you run your household financially one of two things happens


1 She lost total respect for you because now she feel she don’t actually need you. She will start undermining you, talking to you any kind of way thinking you both wear the pants in that relationship. Some men think they can cheat the system and just married and lash on a woman. I laugh grin the moment anything goes wrong the woman will be first to yell out all the things she’s doing, even if she only does 20% this is just how women are. They will subconsciously resent you because this is unnatural. The woman is not designed to be the leader, the provider, they are just not. So if you try to use her for that, guess what, you wouldn’t get the results you want, trust me on this. A man can be successful, provide for his family and not put it in nobody’s face what he’s doing because it is not that serious to him. This is what God designed him to be, but that’s not a woman’s God given role. God is a powerful force guys and you really can’t cheat divine order. And now we think we can rewrite the rules which is why most relationships are failing miserably.


2 She wouldn’t be able to pour into her house, her marriage, her children, and herself as she should because she will be spending more hours at work trying to help you contribute to the household it’s just impossible that she will give 100% to her home as she’s supposed to. This is why women don’t naturally make good leaders because they can’t do it all be a homemaker and then go to work and be a leader. That is why they become emotional in those leadership roles because they are overwhelmed. Don’t argue with me argue with your keypad.


A woman’s achievement and money don’t mean Shi..t to a real masculine man because he don’t need it. That don’t mean Shi..t to them. An uneducated woman who’s broke and never been to college don’t work but can cook, have good nurturing skills, a good mother, fine as hell, good in bed, will always get the better man than a woman who’s hella accomplished and is totally out of touch with her womanly side and roles.


You can’t cheat divine order. This whole switching of roles is the number one issues in relationships today.
That is why the west most of them have the highest divorce rate and hella unhappy in their relationships.




Delicious post.

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by achorladey: 8:48pm On Apr 13, 2023
Queendera:
Lately men are complaining.

And seriously it's getting to me like never before.

I try to wrap my head around certain things and just couldn't understand it.

It's this issue of a wife working and not really contribute to the family.

How can you as a wife be working and somehow still feels only your husband should shoulder all the responsibilitis?

What exactly are you doing with your income if you are not spending it on your family?

Is marriage not supposed to be partnership?

It's one thing if the wife is not working but you are working and earning and yet only your husband is spending?

And you as a man, you are actually stup*d to allow such nonsense from your wife.

Gosh, some of you are so weak. Too weak I must say to give your wife such liberties.

Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ


I sometimes wonder how married people miss the above in the way they deal regarding marriage intricacies regarding RESPONSIBILITIES grin grin grin

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by achorladey: 8:52pm On Apr 13, 2023
Rokiat:
Because those men are actually smart and understand how a woman’s brain works. The moment a woman start contributing in the house she will now think she’s the leader of the home. Her respect for her husband will start to diminish this is just fact.

That is why a true masculine guy don’t care for a woman’s money what he want is a woman that will bring value to his home because when you as a man become too lazy as to depend on a woman to help you run your household financially one of two things happens


1 She lost total respect for you because now she feel she don’t actually need you. She will start undermining you, talking to you any kind of way thinking you both wear the pants in that relationship. Some men think they can cheat the system and just married and lash on a woman. I laugh grin the moment anything goes wrong the woman will be first to yell out all the things she’s doing, even if she only does 20% this is just how women are. They will subconsciously resent you because this is unnatural. The woman is not designed to be the leader, the provider, they are just not. So if you try to use her for that, guess what, you wouldn’t get the results you want, trust me on this. A man can be successful, provide for his family and not put it in nobody’s face what he’s doing because it is not that serious to him. This is what God designed him to be, but that’s not a woman’s God given role. God is a powerful force guys and you really can’t cheat divine order. And now we think we can rewrite the rules which is why most relationships are failing miserably.


2 She wouldn’t be able to pour into her house, her marriage, her children, and herself as she should because she will be spending more hours at work trying to help you contribute to the household it’s just impossible that she will give 100% to her home as she’s supposed to. This is why women don’t naturally make good leaders because they can’t do it all be a homemaker and then go to work and be a leader. That is why they become emotional in those leadership roles because they are overwhelmed. Don’t argue with me argue with your keypad.


A woman’s achievement and money don’t mean Shi..t to a real masculine man because he don’t need it. That don’t mean Shi..t to them. An uneducated woman who’s broke and never been to college don’t work but can cook, have good nurturing skills, a good mother, fine as hell, good in bed, will always get the better man than a woman who’s hella accomplished and is totally out of touch with her womanly side and roles.


You can’t cheat divine order. This whole switching of roles is the number one issues in relationships today.
That is why the west most of them have the highest divorce rate and hella unhappy in their relationships.





I don't know what divine order you are talking about here but is it related to the below


Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ

Can you align this with your post? Does carrying your husband or wife's burden equate to losing total respect for the person to means the person is not fit to lead or be the head?

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by achorladey: 8:54pm On Apr 13, 2023
Kobojunkiee:
1. You are not looking at this from the right angle at all. undecided

This isn't a matter of weakness but inner conflict. Are Nigerian men ready to exist as partners in their marriage with their opinions carrying equal weight as that of their spouse? Are Nigerian men ready to also share the responsibility in other aspects of their union? Are they ready to let go of the Head-of-Household status that traditionally goes along with bearing 100% financial responsibility? Many of these men know that the moment they begin to share financial responsibility, they are likely to also share in cooking and other household chores in addition to losing their god-like status in marriage. Are Nigerian men ready for such a change? undecided

If a man is ok with being a partner, all he needs do is make that clear to the woman he marries in his marriage agreement with her, and they both go from there. undecided

Have you taken a look at this from this angle based on the below......


Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ grin grin grin

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Re: Why Do Men Agree To This Nonsense Arrangement? by achorladey: 9:03pm On Apr 13, 2023
zedegit:


Your username fits you well. KoboJunky.

A man is the head in the family while a wife is a helpmate: financial helpmate inclusive.
A man doesn't have to cook or change diapers before you assist him financially in some areas in the home.

Assume feeding money is #25 k monthly. If he brings #20k, bringing #5 k shouldn't be hard for you unless you're a liability.

The funny aspect about this is you will see the Christian religious women and counsellors online and on whatever platform that the men should carry their responsibility as the Head of the family and should not bother about the money made by their wives yet I laugh when they fail to

Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.....

Is carrying each other's burden in Christian marriages meant for only men to do?

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