CalienteMi:

I didn't do nothing this time!   I am innocent!  

REALITY101:




jejejejejejejeej Sra. Chima es este buhahahahaaha riendo en Muzanda lmao

rokiatu:

Wifey, what the heck happend to your username?

I hate this new one.

CalienteMi:

Why are you so mean to me?  Blanco mierda culo!  

rokiatu:

Seriously what happend to you guys Never knew you guys would think like this.

CalienteMi:

Reason: lying about sex

I guess you can't put a (M) next to a female name.

sexkillz:

Huh? I'm irredeemably lost here!

REALITY101:

 You refuse to Joder Jay Bee que prohibir le eh lol

rokiatu:

Are you kidding me?

What is wrong with these moderators?

CalienteMi:

Yeah.  He is mad because I refuses his advances. 

seun0622:

@ Poster

I would admit there is virtually nothing wrong in spending money on a woman you love. It is dignifying and shows you actually care about her.

Conversely, the major point that needed to be addressed is this:

It is the norm of the day( at least in Nigeria) for some ladies to see the guy they date as the quickest means out of the economic hardship (even the working class).

Some (just to be modest) ladies quantify the love their guy has for them by the size of the material things they can get from him.

In some other instances, the gateway to dating a guy is to size up what he is worth and make an upfront demand before kick starting the relationship.

Now Listen!

Some ladies are not just referred to as  gold diggers for asking for modest gifts. They try as much as possible transfer the responsibilities of their fathers to the BF and vice versa.
They also request for things the guy himself can never afford to get for himself.
They judge the viability of the relationship based on the money and material things they get from it.
Imagine hearing a lady say:  He is my boyfriend, he says he loves me,I need some money for my upkeep (N50K), I know he can afford it, but he has refused to give me, that means he doesn't love me and i don't think this relationship can continue"(uncoordinated and logically false premises).

I had to put this out straight to the point.

Just the truth!

sexkillz:

In your dimwitted mind maybe! You talk as if you are the only one in Nigeria and you have traveled far and wide to conclude your hypothesis as the truth! What do u understand by working class ladies? ladies that earn less than 50k monthly? If you earn less than 50k and a lady earns less than 50k, what the hell were you expecting? A miracle to boost your finances? or every lady jumps into a relationship on the premises of all you have stated above? Huh?
Date according to what you earn! And stop giving ladies the premises to believe that you worth more than you actually do, because of your showy display! Nuff said!

seun0622:

@ Poster

I would admit there is virtually nothing wrong in spending money on a woman you love. It is dignifying and shows you actually care about her.

Conversely, the major point that needed to be addressed is this:

It is the norm of the day( at least in Nigeria) for some ladies to see the guy they date as the quickest means out of the economic hardship (even the working class).

Some (just to be modest) ladies quantify the love their guy has for them by the size of the material things they can get from him.

In some other instances, the gateway to dating a guy is to size up what he is worth and make an upfront demand before kick starting the relationship.

Now Listen!

Some ladies are not just referred to as  gold diggers for asking for modest gifts. They try as much as possible transfer the responsibilities of their fathers to the BF and vice versa.
They also request for things the guy himself can never afford to get for himself.
They judge the viability of the relationship based on the money and material things they get from it.
Imagine hearing a lady say:  He is my boyfriend, he says he loves me,I need some money for my upkeep (N50K), I know he can afford it, but he has refused to give me, that means he doesn't love me and i don't think this relationship can continue"(uncoordinated and logically false premises).

I had to put this out straight to the point.

Just the truth!

I see your point but with everything concerned with relationships, there are no clear lines. Everybody has their own limits. If you are uncomfortable with her demands, let her know. Just don't become overly sensitive to your girl asking for something that before she opens her mouth, you are already being defensive and judging her in your mind as a "typical nigerian girl". whatever that means 

My bf originally was of the mentality that if you can afford it yourself, I do not need to pay for it. But now, I have to even turn his offers to buy me things. I think he started spending more when he sees how happy things like lingerie, shoes and surprise shopping trips make me. He loves to see me happy and if I ask for anything, I am almost sure he would give it to me. I do not see myself as a gold digger for asking because that is not why we are together, it is not a business contract. We both geniunely love each other and do things for each other and him spending on me is just one slice of the cake.

So at OP there is absolutely nothing wrong in a guy spending and a girl asking her bf as long as they are both comfortable with it. Infact, it is enocuraged! 

cito us:

Bruhs, what has what you just outlined above got to do with his 'truth'? His statement has nothing to do with his travels neither does it have anythn to do with working class ladies making 50k. He said 'some' ladies and not all. Can you re-read his statement before names calling.
What he outlined in his post is prevalent within our society but that doesn't mean all our ladies are involved , but to turn a blind eye to it is just plain wrong. I have experienced both sides of our ladies demands and non demands. So if i have 6 ladies and 5 demands for that, wount you say that is a prevalent issue? This issue is gonna be there for a long time , because it is almost a culture now. A bad culture that need eradicating.

pendo89:

50/50 rule.

I love taking care of my own needs. Eat/pay bills out of my own sweat cz am not incapacitated.
To me its not about independence as such but discipline I get in handling and budgeting my own money.
I love that.

pendo89:

50/50 rule.

I love taking care of my own needs. Eat/pay bills out of my own sweat cz am not incapacitated.
To me its not about independence as such but discipline I get in handling and budgeting my own money.
I love that.

coogar:


it's disrespectful in africa for a woman to pay a man's bill.

sexkillz:

Pendo! Spending on a Woman, Yes or No! Right or Wrong? That's the bone of contention here! I'm not in the category of BB, Weave, Chicken crooners! Go figure!

pendo89:

@ coogar let him find you here bashing him.  

Which Africa now? Does 'Africa' pay your salary or meet your bills? Narrow it down to your pocket coogar.

Am even lost now.are we talking about married woman or singles? cz the issue shouldnt be a big deal in marriage.i said even if i was a married woman capable of shouldering 3/4 of our bills then whts the fuss? its investing in us.

pendo89:



Problem with you guys is that at the mention of spending you bring in BB,Weaves,Chicken and all the other petty stuff.