Abi1985:
I remember when I was single, and no girl will even dear flirt with me. To get a lady to even flirt then was like winning nairabet. It was me doing the chasing and toasting to get girls to even go out with me., no one even took me seriously when I was single. It was all good then.
Now I have been married for some years. Now they are all interested. I noticed the same for my married friends because they told me too.
Where were you when I was single? Lol Is being married now a thing to be attracted or not. I promise to stay faithful.

Savedday2:
The bottom line is all 9ja girls are ashawo both the ones forming GF or church girl. They are all the same.

The fact that you have never caught your babe doing ashawo, doesn't mean she is not an ashawo

Savedday2:
The bottom line is all 9ja girls are ashawo both the ones forming GF or church girl. They are all the same.

The fact that you have never caught your babe doing ashawo, doesn't mean she is not an ashawo

Women love value, but they also love the path of least resistance. So instead of sitting down with a single man for months/years and figuring out if he’s valuable or not, it’s easier to wait for another woman to do the ground work for her. She can assume the man is a decent provider and probably “well trained” when it comes to taking care of his woman. For them it’s like getting a fully trained dog vs getting a puppy you have to train from scratch. It’s significantly easier and she can swoop in and enjoy the fruits of someone else’s labor.

Also, women are constantly in competition with each other. So if they see another woman who they’re jealous of or insecure about, taking her man (even just for the night) gives her an ego boost knowing that she “1 upped” that woman. So a lot of times it’s not about that man, but proving to herself that she’s “more valuable” than his wife.