My fellow landers, a very close friend of mine is in a very trickish n contravercial situation with his fiancee so lets help them out.

He newly got a job with one of the oil companies (shell) to be precise and deployed to porth (Rivers) while she is working in one of the Northern State.
All these took place b4 their engagement.

The question is non of them is ready to neither quit d relationship nor sacrifice d job, and transfer is somehow impossible.

pls lets hear your views n contributions.

@poster ;;;;;;;; Please tell him l said love that he should quit his job for love ok and make sure you tell him ok. if he loose his fiancy he will never get another girl again but he can easily get another job in another place were the wife live.

Nairalanders what do you think

It would appear both parties aren't willing to bedge, so a stalemate.

Neither of them should expect the other to give up their respective jobs. Such ultimatums are unreasonable, they either agree on some middle ground, or call it quits. No point being together, if one party has to give up their job, because the question will arise - who gets to keep their job? It'll lead to resentment later on.

Besides, it's not fun being unemployed, and being a kept man / woman.