yorke:

Just send the gal phone numba 2 my email. I can bust her self-confidence.
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lovelydoll:

lol i don't think she will go near a guy in awhile

Emeka 7.:

Dats how a true babe should react; just let d guy know u're not interested and don't disgrace him because boys don't like 2 b disgraced. U wil see dat He wil leave u alone because He's not mad.

freecocoa:

I feel sorry for the girl and that guy is a ra pist,well she just needs to work on her self esteem and make this an experience she should learn from.
But I must say going to an all girls school doesn't mean one won't know a thing about guys(believe me na them know pass),the girl is over naïve for this age and time,doesn't she read books?what has her mum been doing?I mean she must have at one point or another heard boys being discussed. what about movies?I don't believe any girl is totally clueless as to how guys reason.
I'm in no way blaming her but let her not be so in a rush to be someone's girlfriend,she needs to know there are a million guys out there who will love and appreciate her.

lovelydoll:

lol ofcourse she knew about guys she just never had any personal experience with them ,plus movies are superficial on love they often show a lost girls and all of a sudden prince charming appears out of nowhere they fight at first,then get married.

lovelydoll:

lol ofcourse she knew about guys she just never had any personal experience with them ,plus movies are superficial on love they often show a lost girls and all of a sudden prince charming appears out of nowhere they fight at first,then get married.

simplymary:

This is in no way okay. I feel so bad for her that she had this traumatising experience. However, I'm curious as to how long she knew this guy. I'm also curious to know how exactly she was "tricked" by this guy. Any lady should know that men that are not family members or family friends or the like should have no opportunity to be alone with her. It is imperative that ladies have this habit ingrained in them to avoid situations like this. I am aware that there are also rare cases in which family members and those legitimately worth trusting could take advantage as well. That's when it becomes the fault of the offender, not the lady in question.
But with that being said, could you tell me how long she knew this guy and if they were family or close enough to be family?

freecocoa
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I can see you both have only be watching movies like cinderella,prince charming,beauty and the beast,TItanic,romeo and juliet and the likes,you need to stop for a while and watch the ones with names like understanding a man,Beauty and the briefcase,pains of love,why some men are jerks,Heart break,Two can play that game,Waiting to exhale,He lied,I could go on forever,
Tell your friend to not be in a hurry to be in a relationship,she shouldn't let anyone take advantage of her cos she's naïve and don't think high of herself,I'm sure if she had said NO and stuck to it,maybe that guy would respect her more.
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agreed ,my friend said she has learned her lesson and its actually a blessing in disguise.

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my dear listen. I feel sorry for what happened but I always say nothing new ever happens in this world. This girl grew up in an all girls school you say,well many of us did but we were not very ignorant. I was a closed up person,I completely avoided boys cz I didnt know much about them apart from what I read/heard so I can understand the being naive part.But that doesn't mean you be ignorant.Even biology lessons tell us how boys body's react.
To be safe I never accompanied any guy to his place cz I knew anything could happen. I wasnt an angel.I had read about r-a-p-i-s-t-s and seen movies so I always had that in mind while dealing with boys.Playing safe was my tactic and it helped cz I avoided risky situations as much as possible.
Now I know there's an age where every girl wants to know what lies on the other side.you want to be juliet and him romeo.
I guess that's why she accompanied the dude home. risky.
I hate to imagine what would have happened if she found other men there with him.Nobody dragged her there. A good guy would have let her go but did she even know the guy too well to go into his house? what if he was a murderer?
Upbringing aside.We take risks and they come with consequences. Its unfortunate but let her rise up and move on.The guy is probably plotting for another girl. Responsibility lies with the girl.

iice:

Very sketchy story.
Sounds like something that happens to someone who has been living in a cave.

sexsinners:

Ice things like this happen all the time,maybe the guys she has been around were also innocent.Maybe she was kind and learned to not judge people to quickly.there are many times where people took advantage of my Godly kindness and left me stranded for giving them a chance.now am merciless to the devils.
cave or no cave i don't think every girl would believes us guys are assholes.HECK! maybe she wanted to be like the other girls who had guy friends and thought this was the process of how to get them.

you never know, that's why you can not make comments like that.

there are many girls in my fathers church who had worse happen to them,every girl has a first time with a guy and it doesn't always end up pretty.

Wetin be all this? I will make the comments i want to make because they are true.
You do know, there is a thing like reserving judgement right? Same as understanding the capacity of a person is not the same as judging someone.  Just because someone did something bad to someone doesn't mean all people of that gender should be painted with the same brush.  And your end sentence falls into that category.  People and their 'speak' claims.  Why won't confusion rain.  You say one thing but still do the same thing.  
We are in a age of where 5yrs olds know about sex.  To be innocent doesn't mean one should be without knowledge of some sort.  Humans have instincts but for some reason, they don't use it.  

iice:

Wetin be all this? I will make the comments i want to make because they are true.
You do know, there is a thing like reserving judgement right? Same as understanding the capacity of a person is not the same as judging someone.  Just because someone did something bad to someone doesn't mean all people of that gender should be painted with the same brush.  And your end sentence falls into that category.  People and their 'speak' claims.  Why won't confusion rain.  You say one thing but still do the same thing.  
We are in a age of where 5yrs olds know about sex.  To be innocent doesn't mean one should be without knowledge of some sort.  Humans have instincts but for some reason, they don't use it.  

freecocoa:

@Sex sinners,its not an insult more like,it just seems kinda mushy the way the op presented the story,I mean an all girls school is not an excuse for being clueless,the victim just seem like someone who is not in this present Age the way the story was told.

sexsinners:

but you just said only people in a cave can fall for something like that?

everyone makes mistakes, you shouldn't insult the victim.

Something must be in the water for ya'll cognitive development is something else.  
In layman's english. . .someone in a cave means someone isolated.

There is no somehow did this, somehow did that, and somehow that this.
People always use excuses for justification and sympathy to verify what they did or contributed to anything that went wrong in their lives.
Accept that you shouldn't have done so and so, learn to be careful next time.