pansophist:
Because many of you help under the guise of wanting to fork. Otherwise, it won't bother you if you're helping her selflessly.

Probably if you're gay, you'll say men don't deserved to be helped just because they refuse to enter bedroom with you.

Astrid4:


Nah this is wrong it’s not about the s**x I have never helped a woman under the guise of s**x few that graduated to s*x started with innocent intentions, it’s just the entitlement that’s just too crazy, you help once then before you know it’s more of a recurring thingy and the moment you stopped or didn’t do one, that’s when you become the villain, I mean it’s not just worth it

Afrobasic:


100 percent agree with you.

I stopped helping women a long time ago. I just give them "eyahh" or "Pele dear" and move on with my life.

Helping women is really a waste of time and resources.

pansophist:


Hence I said "many", not "all of you". Ungratefulness comes in all gender. If you've never experienced similar treatment from a man before, then you probably haven't lived long enough.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Since you have stopped helping them, did they die? Did they lose a limb? Did they stop existing? No? The joke is on you, my friend.

Astrid4:


Yea I understand you perfectly tho, though have seen men exhibit ungratefulness but I have seen more from women tho but men rarely exhibit this, cos personally for me once a niggar do something fr, I’ll just keep finding a way to repay his kind gesture in my little cos I believe I owe him, Normz guys around me are dude that do things for other niggars and always be grateful to large extent but personally I have not had that kind of luck with women, none of my good deeds goes unpunished
My opinion are purely subjective and based on my personal experience

Havesomesense:
Men should start emulating women, women don’t help men at all if it is not beneficial to them,
So this year I’m not going to help any girl if it’s not beneficial to me.
I’m not counting sex as benefit, men be wise in 2024.

Astrid4:


Since I stopped helping them did it affect me in any way no!!! So everyone’s good actually

Acidosis:


What do you count as benefit?

pansophist:


Hence I said "many", not "all of you". Ungratefulness comes in all gender. [/b]If you've never experienced similar treatment from a man before, then you probably haven't lived long enough[b].

Many of the people that have helped me in this life are women. Women do help, just be genuine and don't be sneaky, because they know.

pansophist:


Ok in this angle, I agree with you.

[/b]I've experienced more ungratefulness from women than men as well. Lots of women feels entitled to a man's sweat.[b] That a man exist to make life easy for her.

It's also the reason why the word "gold digger" Is a term given to women and not men.

Because lots of women do see men as ladder to climb up and dumped when above, instead of as another human deserving of love and compassion.

Hence I jokingly say that women are humans being, but men are "human doings"

pansophist:


Ok in this angle, I agree with you.

I've experienced more ungratefulness from women than men as well. Lots of women feels entitled to a man's sweat. That a man exist to make life easy for her.

It's also the reason why the word "gold digger" Is a term given to women and not men.

Because lots of women do see men as ladder to climb up and dumped when above, instead of as another human deserving of love and compassion.

Hence I jokingly say that women are humans being, but men are "human doings"

UyaiIncomparabl:


Let us ask you. What should he count as benefit?

UyaiIncomparabl:


Low quality indeed.

As soon as you have an expectation for an act of benevolence, it erodes the initial intent of being "humane". Why do people make "giving" news? Should women talk about the men they sponsor financially too? Or should I speak for myself and the things I have done? It is nothing really. Lol.

These dusty and emotional men will do anything on God's green earth to make other well meaning men look like bad people. If I had not met men who have been good to me in the course of my life and I came here on NL to read about these wicked agenda these "boymen" are striving hard to sell, I would have thought that men all over are despicable. It is well.

Acidosis:


It depends on the relationship. For strangers, a common "thank you" is more than enough.

To a friend, well no friendship should be one-sided. If someone sends me money or meet a particular need in my life, I will return the energy.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Since you have stopped helping them, did they die? Did they lose a limb? Did they stop existing? No? The joke is on you, my friend.

UyaiIncomparabl:


[s]Now, that is good. So, quit sounding like an empty barrel. People like you think you are some sort of umbilical cord that determines the existence of people's lives. Lol.

I just wish that the emancipation and financial independence of women fast becomes a thing. I hate to see women vulnerable especially, financially. All will be well[/s].

toujurs:
a woman sponsor a man? Stop playing. If a woman tries it's always for a selfish reason, with the expectation the man spoils her later, or probably the man marries her. And if it goes south, trust me, the man would vomit all what he got from her. Women are selfish being. A good man to you, is someone you can benefit from, someone who is successful, and had resources you can extract from. Because obviously you can't marry, with same financial capacity as yours.

Afrobasic:


I don't think you understand me. I really don't care for women, whether they live good lives, lose a limb or live terrible lives is none of my business. I sha know I'm never rending any form of assistance to your kind anymore. EoD.

UyaiIncomparabl:


I do not know if you are referring this to me or women in general. But, either ways, I would say you typed what you just did from the abundance of your experience or that of the people you know. You have not met selfless people (women) with zero motives and agenda and until you do, please, quit the generalization. Thanks.

toujurs:
I was referring to women generally, including you. There are no selfless women, it always ends up with a return on investment if a woman helps a man. And these women are like 3% . I don't even have an issue if a woman requests for, or expects a baby girl treatment, after she must have support her man financial, if there are more women like this, it's best. But a typical Nigerian woman would never bring out money from her purse to support a dash a man, without the man paying her back, even when it comes to the rent, they both live in. And women, about 80% would always be eager to settle down with men, financially above her. Because relationship to a Nigerian woman, is what can she benefit. Either the man, gets her a job, or he starts up a business for her. Very stingy and selfish gender.

UyaiIncomparabl:


There is nothing I will say to you to make you see things differently. You already have a preconceived mindset, so, have at it. Lol.

toujurs:
You know am saying the truth, women say men are scum, who are actually the men that are the scum. If not just a 30% of the men, about 80% of women are struggling for. Obviously the rich men.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Lol. Your problem. They will thrive still.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Dude, the broke men are the real scum if we are to go by your logic. I would rather a man who is in wealth be scum than a broke one who has not yet realized himself and true depth choose me and swear with his might that he is not scum. I do not trust the logic of a man who is not there yet. Not to say that a lot of them are like this but a large number of them are. Talking like the broke ones will treat you any better. Sit this one out. Lol.

The same goes to women.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Is that the benefit? Must the energy be financial? (Please, note that I am innocently asking a question). What if they cannot return the energy earnestly and as at when you want it? They turn leeches and ungrateful, I assume?

If that was so, why did he make it seem as though SEX is the legal tender although he claims it is not which is a lie. Give and expect nothing in return and you people will have peace. Na this expectation wey people dey get dey make them very acrimonious should things go south be this.

I used to be there and have done that, but when I think back now, I just cringe and ask myself why I had too much expectations from a mere mortal like me? What if they were not in the best place to reciprocate my energy?

My own grouse and problem with such person will be to want to try to play on my intelligence or use me. I do not have a problem with meeting one's need as long as I can provide it, have it and such person is grateful.

Proserpina:
Like their help was ever unconditional before.....

Na who dey ask una for help I blame

toujurs:
You see what am saying, about women always having an agenda. And always after benefits. Madam you are not an exception, it seem you are even the queen mother.

So you prefer a rich man who is a scum, than a broke scum. Kai. Men have suffered because of money. Am not surprised young boys now go into fraud just to make this money, so they can earn respect.

Any man who has money, would have women at their knees. This same like you initially said, never goes to women, it's always on men

Biglittlelois:
Still waiting for the list of benefits you want to get from women you help since sèx is not part of it.