Ishilove:

Is it normal for a guy, in connivance with the staff of one of the communication networks to synchronise his girlfriends message box to his number so that any text message she sends or receives goes to his own phone? Is it okay for the same guy to hack into her facebook account at will,chat with her male friends while pretending to be her to see if she's got anything "in common"? He even called her a LovePeddler because he discovered that she was flirting with someone online {though in her defence she did it out of boredom and idleness}. Is this kind of behaviour normal 'cos its happening to my cousin. I'm so pissed right now

That is a breach of privacy. A betrayal of trust by a telecom industry regardless if it was one staff that did it. She could seriously sue them! I bet they would gladly lay off the guy than lose their reputation. That so-called friend should be punished. He should have known the consequences before betraying the company he works for. And dont say ur coz is still with such a guy? That is extreme! Wat is happening these days? No ethics anymore?

I dont see any big deal in it,except one or both parties are hiding sumtin.

I don't and wul never cheat on my gf so dats why i chec her phones evri time i had acess 2 dem,
_imagin d day i wul see_ anytin da wul mek my hear boil (weda na text mesej ooo, email ooo or picture) na dat day i go show her the monster in me_:-' i some how trust d gal sha i no say da kind tin would neva hapun.
This our Naija gals sef, can u eva b trusted ?

Wislet:

That is a breach of privacy. A betrayal of trust by a telecom industry regardless if it was one staff that did it. She could seriously sue them! I bet they would gladly lay off the guy than lose their reputation. That so-called friend should be punished. He should have known the consequences before betraying the company he works for. And dont say your coz is still with such a guy? That is extreme! Wat is happening these days? No ethics anymore?

Beside,going through her phone will only help and increase my emotional tantrum.again,it shows no respect for each other

If not, why not?

Wislet:

That is a breach of privacy. A betrayal of trust by a telecom industry regardless if it was one staff that did it. She could seriously sue them! I bet they would gladly lay off the guy than lose their reputation. That so-called friend should be punished. He should have known the consequences before betraying the company he works for. And dont say your coz is still with such a guy? That is extreme! Wat is happening these days? No ethics anymore?

Too extreme. She's still with him o,even though she's on "probation" becos of the whole internet flirting brouhaha. He can her accounts,he  dose'nt hesitate to call her names wheneva he is angry and he is just generally distrustful of her

^^^Has your cousin done anything to him in the past that made him lose the trust?

High_Chief:

^^^Has your cousin done anything to him in the past that made him lose the trust?

Um, i should think so. His major problem with her is her "internet flirting". She loves teasing guys on the internet for the fun of it and her bf dosen't find it funny. But even at that does that give him the right to hack her phone?

It is very normal were dia is trust. I go 2ru ma angel's fone at wil n she has neva objected or get angry cuz she had notin 2hide.i dont go 2ru her fone cuz i want 2find out if she is cheatin on me,i go 2ru her fone 2c her latest toasters.i fil sum how hapi each time i discova she has new toasters: it means she is beautiful n attractive.4me i can even liv ma fone 4her 4 days cuz i hav notin 2hide as well

Act of insecurity and lack of confidence in your partner, what if you see somethin and not handle it well? Headache!!! I don't have to

It should be normal on a good day if he's not looking for 'evidence'. My ex neva allowed me touch her fone dat I even bought for her but she got tired of snooping thru mine. I wonder wen fone became very private and her honeypot was available for touching and gaming cos I later caught her pants down inadvertently in anoda town. I still dont know how to love since dat time.

A guy once checked his babes phone when he was suspiciousl about his gf . He did not only discover that she was cheating but  also found out that his name was saved as mugu 1

yes it is normal because being human, jealousy is a natural emotion and we've all felt it.
However it's not a wise thing to do. My bf did it to me once and he stopped talking to me because of
a text in which a male told me he loved me. When we talked it out he was embarrassed to find out that
"other man" was in fact my older brother who btw lives in another part of the country.

If it is based on TRUST, wat cld u possibly be hidg from each other!

I dont need to go thru a girls fone to know if she's clean or not cos 99% of Naija babes cheat, phone or no phone so what's the point?

Each time you do you wil always find something to break yur heart, nd moreova dis naija galz are so smart o. If she wants to be faithful she wil definitely be

TO MI, BROWSING TRU UR GIRLFRIEND FON REALLY DOSENT MATTER, EVEN D MARRIED WOMEN, U WILL SHOCKED AT SOME MESSAGES ON THEIR MESSAGE BOX,

i suspect you are trying to re-live my experience women "big mugu, big head", this is someone i dated for 8 years prior to that time, ladies girls naa wa for youna they are the most secretive set of things in the world you cant just beat them let me tell you what my ex used to store their names when i was suspicious of her and decide to play with her phone in those days BB, A12, 1, her firends name 3, the list goes on and on and that was when i started talking i never knew i was just killing myself for no reason because i developed the nagging syndrome in fact i one die because she was my all in all but her phone would follow her to the toilet and into the bathroom when she wants to go and bath.
at a certain point she deleted my number from her phone so i wasnt even in the picture

I sometimes go through my BF phone and he doesnt seem to mind. He however does not check my phone until recently- last sunday to be precise. I was so shocked to see he went through my facebook messages and of course he saw my discussions with my friend about him and a guy i was thinking of dating. We quarelled and eventually settled. But am going to be more careful now.

hmmmmmm, check pics and vids only dats what i would do,

I can allow him if he wishes. He knows I have admirers, etc. I hardly delete my messages inbox, it got to a time when he checks my phone and will be displeased about what he sees and that might cause him to go gaga. So later any message i get from guys either good or bad i started deleting, so he asked why do you delete your messages? I told him because you can't stand it and i can't stand your jealousy and anger. He said no, that i should not delete them again. I stopped deleting them. If he looks at it and get high blood pressure because guys appreciate me, its his business and headache. If check his phone and see something, i will just ask about it like 'who is this and why this message?', if he says my friend, a girl who wants to date me, and blablabla, i will just say ok and forget about it but if na him, ehn. *smh*, him blood dey boil. Trust na the main thing. I don't want to get headache nor high blood pressure because of some letters put together to form a message in a box. If phone no dey nko? Abeg if she wan cheat she go cheat no matter how much you follow am like body guard.

That should be done by married people,not the boy and girl friend of a thing.

Natasha,,:

Some people think its wrong others think not, For me I think there's absolutely nothing wrong me and my ex did it a lot to get a good laugh he would be like '' so who's the new guy disturbing my Nat'' lol sometimes we read the text messages ''from other guys and girls'' together and its really fun. Trusting your partner really makes things easier.

your ex? chineke, mbanu! Little child like you. .Jisos

Ishilove:

Too extreme. She's still with him o,even though she's on "probation" becos of the whole internet flirting brouhaha. He can her accounts,he dose'nt hesitate to call her names wheneva he is angry and he is just generally distrustful of her

I'm sorry but that relationship is already doomed. He could never trust her again, even if she stops it. Calling her names anytime they have a disagreement shows he now has zero respect for her. And he would continually stomp on her and always make her feel she is worth nothihg, even in front of his friends. The best thing for them is just to forget it. That's the blunt truth. She would regain her pride, and hopefully quit with the games before she meets her next boyfriend. Getting married to that type of man- I'm sure she doesn't need a soothsayer to know that a guy like that would do worse to a 'wife'. A relationship without trust is only headed for one thing- disaster.

Wislet:

I'm sorry but that relationship is already doomed. He could never trust her again, even if she stops it. Calling her names anytime they have a disagreement shows he now has zero respect for her. And he would continually stomp on her and always make her feel she is worth nothihg, even in front of his friends. The best thing for them is just to forget it. That's the blunt truth. She would regain her pride, and hopefully quit with the games before she meets her next boyfriend. Getting married to that type of man- I'm sure she doesn't need a soothsayer to know that a guy like that would do worse to a 'wife'. A relationship without trust is only headed for one thing- disaster.

I don't know why girls take shit from guys all in the name of relationship

Siena:

No, it's far from normal for a guy or dame to go through their partner's phone. People cheated way before mobile phones came along. A cheat will cheat, regardless of the method.

What next? You'll be running after your partner, ducking behind bushes, what kind of life is that? If you don't trust your partner, then get rid and move on. Rather than age yourself prematurely due to your insecurities.

Help me ask them oooo what next really

Natasha,,:

Some people think its wrong others think not, For me I think there's absolutely nothing wrong me and my ex did it a lot to get a good laugh he would be lik '' so who's the new guy disturbing my Nat'' lol sometimes we read the text messages ''from other guys and girls'' together and its really fun. Trusting your partner really makes things easier.

That na true talk!

Sarah a:

That should be done by married people,not the boy and girl friend of a thing.

See who dey talk! I sure say your partner lie down for bed dey wait for u.

it depends on d gal, sme pple lyk privacy

Otses:

I dont see any big deal in it,except one or both parties are hiding sumtin.

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Efizzi: I really dont understand what is going on anymore.
So you tell me its okay for a guy and a girl to play with each others private parts but it is not okay to go through each others phone?
We should stop deceiving ourselves joor If we can look through and touch private parts then I see no reason why we cant look through each others phone.
The only reason why some ppl are scared to check their partners phone is that they must see something that would hurt them and it is simple.
Imagine having unprotected sex with a girl and you dont want to check her phone based on trust my foot. You would only die of disease later.
Now days Everybody lies including you reading this.
No offence please

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