Marriage shouldn't be a do or die affair for anyone, but it is our culture as Nigerians that makes society turn a supposedly voluntary union of two parties into a compulsory indulgence. What enlightened people should understand is that there is no known positive correlation between marriage and true happiness i.e the mere fact that a person chooses to get married does not grant the person an automatic ticket to happiness, infact in most instances, the reverse is the case.

If I were you, on the specific issue of marriage, I will do the right thing at the right time, and with the right person. I would like to think that I am enlightened enough to make my own choices, rather than allow society dictate my choices to me.

Boy don't worry about your Mum she's not gonna die and should she then go bury her, that's a natural debt we all have to pay some day. You may marry and sigh away sundays and your darling Mum will not be there to rescue you. Again remind your Mum that the wifey she is compelling you to get could enter your family and turn absolutely the greatest or worst enemy she (your Mum) ever knew.

My opinion. Do it your time and only your time.

Cheers.

tlops:

to hold yourself means you must have self discipline,restrain from intimate activities including self-service. no fornication and lust, massturbation is a sin according to the bible!

Please where in the Bible is it written that mastoorbation is a sin? Can you give me the book, chapter and verse? I need to check it up.
Again, if one can't have sex and doesn't self-service, how can he control himself/herself?
Thank you.

Perhaps your Mum knows you're gay? In that case, you definitely shouldn't be getting married to a woman.

Whats up with you ppl and big gramma @op

freecocoa:

Ah oga coogar,na for my mouth you wan hear say sugar dey sweet? Anybody wey dey consistent for this section know who I dey talk.*walks out singing,if you ask me,na who I go ask?*

ask me.i know that brother.he don comment on top this thread sef.

I get pissed wen I hear people blaming ladies for not getting married. Will they marry themselves? The high rate of unmarried women in any country is a direct reflection of the irresponsibility and lack of commitment of the men in that country! Come to think of it, alot of men want to eat a free lunch in evry ladies resturant without any form of commitment. I knw guys in there late thirties who still see themselves as youngees.

When u are unfortunate to find urself in a country where the men do not want to commit, what do u do as a lady? The economy and other social factors play a role in this, but the most important is the mind set of the men. @ Poster, let ur mum understand that u are open to marraige if the right partner comes or was she the one that married herself to ur father?

^^^are u male or female.

@op,u r still a small boy,just take ur time o,dnt just embark on that journey if u ar nt yet prepared.
Bt wait o,what if ur mother dies what happens,afterall she has lived her own life

I so much appreciate this love and candid advices I gotten so far, I am now rest assured. I never see person wey i like na by force?

@OP, i feel and share your pain.

Now ma parents has seen the detriment of incarcerating a child. When other kids were practicing how they could do it marriage we were locked up in a high fence overwhelmed with timidity. Now even approaching a woman is a rigmarole

@poster, u dont have to marry if u re not ready, marrying cannot extend ur mother's life, some women can even make her life shorter.

marriage is not a must, take ur time and decide wat u really want.

slimyem:

ask me.i know that brother.he don comment on top this thread sef.

so you know the bros too?okay we dey ask,who him be?but make I help,him name start with O,oya complete am.

kayalla:



marriage is not a must, take your time and decide wat u really want.

And whatelse can he want aside from having a family

If what ur mum is asking for is a grand child, then u don't have a marriage issue at hand, They are two different things,

freecocoa:

so you know the bros too?okay we dey ask,who him be?but make I help,him name start with O,oya complete am.

no be me you go put for trouble.thank you!

who says men are not ready? the ladies we desire are simply not there it appears. As for the mothers and pressure - they all are the same, that is why dysfunctional families are on the increase.

marriage is ordained by God himself because God believes so much in family, why do you think he sent his son through mary and joseph, he would had just allowed him to spring out from no where but no, he made jesus to be born through a family, marriage is special and there is an added blessings attached to it, i am not saying you should force yourself into any marriage, be a good  woman, pray to God and that which is yours would come to you.


Marriage is a ministry unto God, a covenant, joined for the glory of God:
7 reasons why you should get married
Longer Life: countless researchers have shown dt men and women ling longer being married

LESS STRESS: Some who are married may disagree with this one but research has shown healthy and secure marriages foster environment of life.

FAMILY: although we all know people who have children out of wedlock , marriage is d nest and most secure environment to have children and start a family.

LEGAL BENEFITS: if you re not married, you are single, there are certain legal benefit dat comes from being married, so for those who act married but single, get married when the time is right.

SEX: now, dont take this as i am not suggesting it is ok to get married just for sex, because i am not but what i am trying to say is that,when you are married, you have sex without the guilt or various concerns people do have when having sex out of wedlock,  the guilt comes from  disappointing yourself, God and other values you associate with sexual nature.

FINANCE:marriage can improve your financial life because two heads is better than one and when two people can combine income into one family.

STABILITY:marriage gives men and women a stable balance. they have each other for support. yes, you can have this outside of marriage but i feel marriage brings stability in a way God intended for all of us to have.


Many of d reasons listed can b obtained without marriage, but they are better shared under the covenant  of God with that special someone
No man is an island of himself and if you must do all these, it is more honorable to get married, for live, friendship, family, procreation etc

get married to fulfill God's commandment which says be fruitful and multiply the earth
get married for love, friendship, companionship, procreation, family , more importantly nurture yourself to be prepared for marriage, you can attend some seminars on marriage to fill your mind about marriage and its blessings, i am sure your mum wants the best for you even thou her main concern may seem like she want a grandchild, just take it easy you will be alright, cheers and all the best

@Nkemika

Did Jesus get married?

otokx:

@Nkemika

Did Jesus get married?

lmao @ u guys, didnt know you were jesus brother,
if you dont want to get married, be a revered or a sister in a catholic church and serve God like a saint would, rather than give yourself to public temptation, just my thought sha

i only stated reasons why one should get married, aint comparing anyone with jesus, so its either you get the wisdom out of my word or be ignorant out of foolishness, again just saying

@nkemika

the building blocks of your reason aka premise is faulty and thus the conclusion is null and void.

nep2ra:

Please where in the Bible is it written that mastoorbation is a sin? Can you give me the book, chapter and verse? I need to check it up.
Again, if one can't have sex and doesn't self-service, how can he control himself/herself?
Thank you.

m.asturbate away, nobody is disturbing you, abi no be you get your bodi?