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|Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted: 3:00pm On Nov 18, 2011|
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by iyatrustee(f): 3:17pm On Nov 18, 2011|
sorry bro! she is as good as gone. what assurances did you give her before you left naija? what was the communication between you guys like in the first few months after you left? so you had a financial obligation towards her and you cut it off after you got to cyprus? how were you expecting her not to jump into the hands of the next financially supportive guy?
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by tutuwater(m): 3:20pm On Nov 18, 2011|
before i continue reading this piece do you say her birthday is
i have a NYSC girlfriend whose birthday is October 19 hope she wont be a hoe too.
damn i beleive in astrology.
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by omega25red(m): 3:24pm On Nov 18, 2011|
you need to face your studies and leave that girl alone. Aren't there any other girls you can hook up with what exactly is so special about this woman who you know cheats on you and lie constantly to you?
Anyway breaking the bonds of love and what you are used to is hard but you have to be a man and be strong and leave her alone. your family hates her her own family can't stand her and worst of all you are a laughing stock amongst your friends because they all know how she is and yet you are still holding on. Please find some courage even if it is a white chick in cyprus or some other chick somewhere else just forget that girl.
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by Nobody: 3:27pm On Nov 18, 2011|
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by 190_@(f): 3:33pm On Nov 18, 2011|
Eyah OP pele
All would be well
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by iyatrustee(f): 3:35pm On Nov 18, 2011|
^^^ hope you are not here to derail this thread?
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by Eiregirl(f): 3:37pm On Nov 18, 2011|
Leave her in the hands of her lover & just be thankful that you're not married to her or don't have children with her. You can make a clean break & meet someone who deserves the love you have to give. You sound like a genuine guy & there aren't too many of those around. Good luck x
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by iyatrustee(f): 3:41pm On Nov 18, 2011|
@ Eiregirl, i agree with you. his coming for formal intro in december would stop anything. a broken relationship is better than a troubled marriage.
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted: 3:42pm On Nov 18, 2011|
I dont know, I Just dont know what to do, I cant do this on my own, i just need her to push me. Shes the best thing ever happened to me emotionally - why cant she Just come out straight and maintain that shes in a relationship with this guy
why keeping me stranded in the wild - if shes happy with him, she should simply tell me and i'll quietly move on, I dont know why this ever happened to me - I feel so empty and lost over here - i should have never left nigeria
A close friend of mine said she has used black magic on me (who cares) I just want to face reality, I had an interview today and i messed it up cos i didnt even read last night all cos i couldnt focus on what i want now in life
I feel so empty and horrible, spoken to alot of female friends bt this and they've asked me to stop or dont call her which im currently doing, @Iyatrustee, the financial aspects of the relationship was broken as an advice from my mother who said - now u are aware would be the best time to stand the test of this girl and please cut off all financial spendings on this girl so as to see her true being, which i did and landed me in this catatrosphic mess
Money isnt my problem and she knows this, but why couldnt she just hang in there, she knows im so weak towards her and cant stand her - the day she apologized after getting arrested, i came running back into her hands cos that was all i needed -
I just need advice on how to get my girl back from this 400level dude
Just want her to confirm if shes really dating dat dude so i can move on with my life, why is she denying dating this dude, why cant she be straightforward its not like shes getting any money from me any longer
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by Eiregirl(f): 3:49pm On Nov 18, 2011|
Seriously, you deserve better than this. I have a similar personal experience but mine's a bit more complicated. Move on before it's too late & you end up regretting your decision. You can't take her from the dude if she doesn't want to be taken from him. You know what they say, if you truly love someone let them go. If she's really yours she'll come back to you, if she doesn't, she was never yours.
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by 190_@(f): 3:51pm On Nov 18, 2011|
^To be sincere, I dont know why your woman wont come out straight and tell you shes moved on
Neither do i know why shes keeping you around, you claim you are not longer spending money on her
so why exactly is she keeping you around when its so obvious she has moved on
9ja babes and their wahala
That day Mr.chucks today this one -hmm
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by iyatrustee(f): 3:52pm On Nov 18, 2011|
your cant win her back from the other guy. as harsh as that is, its the truth. cos you are not here. as for the financial aid cut off, i tink thats where you shot yourself. if you took up the responsibilty while you were in naija, why not when you left for greener pastures? that might have sent a wrong signal to her hence her change of attitude. You have to put yourself together cos no woman is worth you depressed enof for you not to read for an important interview.
P.S abeg your post dey too long jare! na typewriter you be?
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by 190_@(f): 3:54pm On Nov 18, 2011|
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by Kx: 3:57pm On Nov 18, 2011|
i made serious effort to read, but its a bit too long. sorry
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by Talking(m): 4:02pm On Nov 18, 2011|
Oga OP, U knw what to do, then do it. BTW, d post is a novel on its own, ish!
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by ng4am(f): 4:04pm On Nov 18, 2011|
Guy plssss try and move on., i know u can do that. Just concentrate more on e new girl u will see urself doing it. Gudlk
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by Nobody: 4:13pm On Nov 18, 2011|
Young Man! Take a Chill Pill!
As long as you want to save this relationship, take this serious, else discard all i'm about to say as and deem it as " Obscurant confabulations of a Mad man"
May i remind you that you are in a Long Distance Relationship. And EXTRA EXTRA effort is needed in keeping in touch! I was in this situation, so i as hell know what am about to tell you!
You guy's are not married. So she is not under duress, neither does she owe you anything. Ladies crave attention, and once you aren't giving it to them, they feel dejected, and vulnerable. Especially when they dont see your face, or hear your voice. She stays in a school hostel, an the pressure on her to date other guys could sometimes become unbearable. Most of her friends would be telling her to date someone else, erroneously leading her to believe that you are also dating someone else over there. It's normal pressure. Now, she has those thoughts in her head, and the next misunderstanding you have with her, pushes her further away. I know bro, it happened to me. Almost exactly. While you may be right, and she is obviously wrong, dont be too harsh on her, else her mind starts telling her, "He's not here, i'm lonely, and he still shouts on me, WTF"? Really if you want her back, you have to be a little more understanding! There is no sin that cannot be forgiven, as long as you love her.
Communication is key. You have to look for ways to communicate with her on a daily basis. Mind you, who go spoil, go spoil. But since you dont want to give up on her yet, you have to make serious effort. Prove to her why she should wait for you. Prove to her why she should pick you over the guys you are seeing! Someone might ask you to pick from the girls you are seeing around you over there, would it not be hypocritical, to pick one over there, and ask her not to pick one here too? There you go! Show her that you are really the one for her. Your words and tone of voice means a lot to her. Say sorry when you wrong her, apologize. Dont use your gender or your age to try to score a point above her. Once you enter a relationship with a lady, you both become mates on that level. The way you sound, if all works well, you could get married to her, right? Good. Send her gifts occasionally, surprise her. Send her romantic messages, flood her facebook, her BBM, every where floodable. Constantly remind her that you love her, despite the distance between you. Blame her not seeing you on the distance. Let distance carry the blame. Tell her things like "I'd love to be beside you right now, but this stu[b]p[/b]id distance between us". . .
Look here young man! The damage has been done. You want her back, and you could get her back if you work for it. In your mind ehn, forget that 5 years thing o! Call her up talk soothingly to her, and tell her you are ready to fight for her love back! Apologize for the past fights and misunderstandings. Tell her it was because you loved her, and you were too scared to lose her. And the st[i]u[/i]pid distance made it worse because you were not seeing her, and you were missing her like crazy! Hey! You wouldn't have had to go to these extremities had you not traveled out, right? So do whatever thing possible to get her back! She has to admit that there is still a percentage of love for you left. As long as there exists a percentage, it would definitely grow. Start by calling her and wishing her a happy graduation. Forget anger now o. DONT ever get angry while talking to her! Ok, get angry but dont show it! Let her see that despite the distance, you still care about her. . . I'd advise you postpone that introduction thing, until her love for you returns, and is clearly obvious to you!
Reply this one first, before i kolo. . .
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by Yorisb: 4:23pm On Nov 18, 2011|
she wants a bb torch by xmas and 25,000 naira to block all her final year school exams so she dont get an extension -
I give up!
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by Nobody: 4:24pm On Nov 18, 2011|
downcasted:It wont be easy to get her back, neither is it impossible. It depends on you, and how much you are ready to condescend! Leave male pride out of this, else another guy go finally carry am go. Remember, she is not committing any sin by not marrying you, and on the contrary, if you keep maltreating her, by your word or actions, you are only confirming to her that she could actually be making a mistake with you. . . Do you want her back or not?
Brother, she's dating the guy, but she doesn't love him as much as you think she does. She still loves you, very well. But with your actions, she's not seeing that love for her! Please send her money and everything, like you used to. You want her back or not? Be honest to yourself o. I was in a similar mess. I had to talk to 3 of my married friends, na them give me scope o. . .
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by iyatrustee(f): 4:24pm On Nov 18, 2011|
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by Nobody: 4:32pm On Nov 18, 2011|
I have not even finished the long post but all i can say is you cannot force someone to love you. And this goes out to every body, if someone says they are no longer in love with you, leave them be, else you deserve the heartbreak that follows.
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by Nobody: 4:37pm On Nov 18, 2011|
U sef see am? The thing tire me too.
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by Nobody: 4:38pm On Nov 18, 2011|
We cure craze with Craze. . . You sef know say na true. The worst that you can do to a lady that you have gone very deep with is to abandon her, knowingly or unknowingly. What makes it even worse is that she is in a school hostel. Op should be thankful that she has not finally gone sef! The pressure on girls living in hostels is nothing to write home about!. . .
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by tellwisdom(m): 4:51pm On Nov 18, 2011|
Look at this dude crying for expired milk . NIGERIAN GURL FOR THAT MATTER
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by ronkebp(f): 4:56pm On Nov 18, 2011|
@ Poster you cannot save a relationship that has died since forever!!!! Put your mind at rest and look for other girls that you would care for and cherish, not always you end up with your heart throb in life. You need someone that would respect you and give you peace of mind not a ''cheap everything goes lady''.
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by iyatrustee(f): 4:57pm On Nov 18, 2011|
you don carry your "oyinbo" girl syndrome reach here? i hope the duo of lefulefu and 190 dont follow suit.
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by tellwisdom(m): 5:07pm On Nov 18, 2011|
you don carry your "oyinbo" girl syndrome reach here? i hope the duo of lefulefu and 190 dont follow suit.
where u saby me from??
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by iyatrustee(f): 5:12pm On Nov 18, 2011|
from nairaland romance section!
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by tellwisdom(m): 5:56pm On Nov 18, 2011|
Do you realise im hot?? and im interested in romancing you
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by echo- bee(f): 6:20pm On Nov 18, 2011|
just forget abt her and move on with ur life.she is gone for good.
why is it that u guys cant be serious for once?
|Re: Help - Shes Killing Me by 190_@(f): 7:50pm On Nov 18, 2011|
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