texazzpete:

All these silly women on NL do not realize that it is far worse punishment for her if he goes ahead to marry her when he doesn't love her.

I can't understand this logic. You think the woman is the victim here yet you're keen on her being further trapped in a loveless marriage?

ifyalways:

She invested in you while you were busy investing in small girls outside.

She has sowed so therefore she must reap. . .from the same vineyard.

May Amadioha punish anyone who thinks otherwise.

texazzpete:

All these silly women on NL do not realize that it is far worse punishment for her if he goes ahead to marry her when he doesn't love her.

I can't understand this logic. You think the woman is the victim here yet you're keen on her being further trapped in a loveless marriage?

debosky:

Women just don't get it. . . .if the man is already seeking to back out before even marrying the woman, do you think he will change if he marries her?

Let's even assume he has 'chopped' her money - is losing some money not better than marrying someone who is clearly not interested in marrying you or is it better to bear 'Mrs' at all costs?

Elizadath:

We met in schl. She was lucky to get a very good job while i am looking for one. She invested all she had on me. This is the 6th yr of this relationship. I have tried all means to cut her off but she won't let go. My problem is that i can't say it to her face that i am no more in love with her. Cos i dnt wnt to hurt her. Now i have found my dear love. She is asking for marriage but i  can't  marry her; i want to get married too (but, ) pls help me what do i do now am so confuse

kalmebad:



May God punish you and all your generations cus now u make me angry, angry because that lady would have been your sister, cousin or anything other than a girlfriend. Some of you call God a fool,  wait and see how the rest of your years unfold,if at all you have many to live, cus people like you should not be amidst this generation.

My point is clear, for those of you who jump line in reading, 1yr or 2years could be acceptable but not 6years.

kalmebad:

Let me also state clearly here that no one is compelling the guy to marry this lady but not after 6years, get the point, you all that blab, let truth be told for once, 6years is not 6days nor months, but 6years, did he not realize this at least after the first year?? haba, can we ever throw sentiments away for once and stand for truth that it may set us free?

If a girl appeal to you,that you could go as far sleeping with her, then what are we talking here, cus i would only sleep with someone who i know i could marry if it gets to that. Does it work differently for people here and if it does, why waiting till after 6years

May God punish you and all your generations cus now u make me angry, angry because that lady would have been your sister, cousin or anything other than a girlfriend. Some of you call God a fool,  wait and see how the rest of your years unfold,if at all you have many to live, cus people like you should not be amidst this generation.

KenGali:

Hello Poster, I really feel annoyed with you for ending someone's six good years.
But alas it solution that you need.

My point if for six solid years you have been in love with this girl, then I bet you love her.
You need to step back and ask yourself questions, What are those things in her that held you in sway for six good years, Just remind yourself.

Some times when a girl becomes too close, and acts like she own's you, you begin to yearn for a change and distance yourself. But it really does not mean you no longer find her adorable.

If you can stop loving someone after five good years, I bet you will not love even you new girlfriend for more than 6 years either.

dayokanu:

Ok The bad guy is here.

First of all I blame you for taking money from her, I never encourage anyone to take money from their partner when they are not married if you have a feeling the partner is hoping the money spent is to secure the relationship.

Second I blame the girl for spending to keep a man. Its wrong to spend to keep a partner very wrong

SOLUTION: This is the Dayokanu 9-9-9 plan. Its two pronged.

Tell her you dont love her no more and you want out but if she still continue hollering, threatening and shouting  tell her would she agree to you marrying her while cheating blatantly, That in some cases you might even sleep out for days with your girlfriends. Tell her explicitly. YOU ARE NOT MARRYING HER FOR LOVE BUT FOR PITY. And you would explore your love options outside.

If she agrees then tell her to get a lawyer and her parents to sign the document so in future she wont accuse you of cheating.

SECOND PLAN is the ultimate guy-man plan.

Get a friend of your she doesnt know. Give him her phone number let him start calling her and try to toast her or maybe meet her somewhere.

if she is complying on the day of meeting go there and burst them and call the relationship off there and then. She would come begging but you wont concede and marry your new babe ASAp. (Always remember to watch your back though cos she might kill you)

If you perceive she is not playing along, Let the guy start sending love text to her, One day when you are together at night let him call or text her and snatch the phone, raise Hell and kick her out immediately

Thank me later

dayokanu:

SECOND PLAN is the ultimate guy-man plan.

Get a friend of your she doesnt know. Give him her phone number let him start calling her and try to toast her or maybe meet her somewhere.

if she is complying on the day of meeting go there and burst them and call the relationship off there and then. She would come begging but you wont concede and marry your new babe ASAp. (Always remember to watch your back though cos she might kill you)

If you perceive she is not playing along, Let the guy start sending love text to her, One day when you are together at night let him call or text her and snatch the phone, raise Hell and kick her out immediately

Thank me later