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Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by luvtoyota(m): 1:04pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
NEVER BE DESPERATE Any decision you make out of desperation , will almost always be wrong . Your feelings is normal and common in all girls your age and beyond Don't kid yourself that the perfect man you will find in a church Try making yourself the right woman , and look out for the right guy , non , non is perfect . Seek you first God's kingdom and it's rightousness . And see if God will not answer all your queries Leave Canada and come back to Abuja . |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by redcliff: 1:09pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
This youseless 190 thinks everything is a joke, man whereever u r, I don't think u have any serious thing doing otherwise u won't act this way. |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by Yorisb: 1:10pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
luvtoyota:Huh |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by Bliss4Lyfe(f): 1:13pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
It is normal wen of age or all ur mates are married. But never right to rush into marriage. |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by olyivy(f): 1:28pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
@OP, My elder bros is also igbo from anambra and he is also desperate to marry. He is 32, an engineer, self employed and has 2 cars He however is not planning on settling outside naija. Do you think you need to meet him? |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by otokx(m): 1:37pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
Please do not leave Canada and come to Nigeria; things are about to get real nasty here. |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by olyivy(f): 1:39pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
otokx:Hey oga wetin consaiyn you for this one, u no wan make my broda marry canada babe. |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by johncasey1(m): 1:42pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
Usual suspects , sexkills the thread prostitute . Yorisb:whispers " Boko er haram " |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by obowunmi(m): 1:43pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
@op: I'm desperate too. Can we collabo? |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by Sagamite(m): 2:12pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
@topic To most women it is. It is natural and biological to want to bare kids and social pressures state you are socially acceptable only if you have it in a stable and loving relationship. Marriage is used as a measure of that because it assumes it limits the possibility the man will leave you (i.e. stability and love). Most women feel this way due to biology, irrespective of society. To most men, it is not. In the few cases that men are desperate and it is normal, it is due to social pressures. So it depends on the society for men to "normally" feel desperate to want to be married. |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by IbroSaunks(m): 2:20pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
sexkillz:Omo, I feel like I just attended a workshop or guest lecture or something, see speech, |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by elampiro(m): 2:27pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
You will soon find him. |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by Belbest(m): 2:29pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
@sexkillz you don finish the work oh tanks for the advice because i don benefit too oh |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by IbroSaunks(m): 2:38pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
@op, it basically bores down to separating what u want from what u need, in a way, |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by Emperoh(m): 2:48pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
Sexkillz Your comments are just SPOT ON!!! Poster, Worry about the achievements within your power. let the almighty decide those beyond you, but do the right thing to achieve them Every other thing will be added unto you. Lest i forget, you are perfectly NORMAL |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by Nobody: 2:49pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
@OP 1. Yes you are very normal. 2. Don't be desperate, Wait on God's time; if not, follow the steps below. 3. If your really want to meet a good naija guy, come to PHC. Na oil company guys, dem go spoil you, even get you back to canada with twins in your stomach ./ dont go to Abuja o, na Papa's and politicians full dia. Dem no follow at all. or 4. Hammar those oyibo dem there for your small town, use woman naija woman strength hold dem down, dem go propose fast. or 5.turn to baby mama fast before age catch up with you. Start your own family if you no wan any of the above reasons. I don talk my own finish 4. |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by tlops(m): 2:57pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
nothing do you, but be careful of the social/societal pressure. |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by RuuDie(m): 3:15pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
sexkillz. . . . .on point in most parts - but do you have to frigging blame the 'white man / west' for every conceived anomaly!!!? |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by God2man(m): 3:26pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
It is normal to feel like this, but i will say when it comes to the issue of marriage, you have to be extra careful so that you will not rush in and rush out. This way, it becomes abnormal to be desperate. You will never know how lucky you are until you are married. It is an abnormal thing to enter into an ancient institution called marriage without contacting the creator of this institution. I mean the God of new beginning. The ancient of days. The i am that i am. The one who know the beginning and the ending. He is the one who can determine, how far you will go in life. You see, the heart of man is desperately wicked who can know it, so says the Bible. Do you know that you can marry your enemy? God forbid! God is the only one who can see what is hidden in the heart of men. Men may be smiling, but the intention is to kill. Men will pretend to be born again, but inwardly, that man, that is so caring today, will turn out to be ravenous wolf after marriage. Marriage is a serious affair. We have seen husband killing wife. Wife also run mad on the day of wedding. There are so many terrible cases of trouble marriage now in court. My sister, you need God's favour. Pray for what we call divine favour. Be nice to people. Show kindness. Humble yourself. Be a lover of the things that promote the kingdom of God. It shall be well with you. God bless you. God2man. |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by Princek12(m): 3:31pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
It is normal to desire to be married, but it is worrisome to be desperate to do so. Desperation often causes people to make unsound decisions, so I caution you not to be desperate but to be open and to prepare yourself to receive your future husband when you meet him. Overall, I commend your openly admitting that you are desperate to find a husband, as not many women are brazen enough to admit such. |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by MrsChima1(f): 3:33pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
Anything that is not HEALTHY isn't normal. Are you desperate because of: biological clock friends are getting married family pressure lonely societal pressure anti-singleness legal sex There is nothing wrong with YOU wanting a husband, but if you are DESPERATE that is something ENTIRELY different. Marriage isn't something you want to get into lightly and marriage requires DEDICATED WORK and FAITH. It is EASY TO GET MARRIED, but HARD FOR MANY TO STAY MARRIED. Interesting. |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by ndahbros1: 3:35pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
23 is not old.just a desirable age to get married.wen u hot 28-30 wahala don dey be that o!that stage is called the 6.30pm stage in a woman's life.at that point I u can't help not bin desperate.but for now,ur still within a spacious comfort zone.no worry urself. |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by MrsChima1(f): 3:36pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
Princek12: I know it would be hard for you to believe, but NOT ALL WOMEN ARE DESPERATE. The same thing for men who are desperate for wives and AREN'T WILLING to admit it. |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by Sike(m): 3:40pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
Omo na turn by turn. . . Wait for your turn, uhm? |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by Reggie2(m): 3:48pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
Problem in the west is "socializing". Parents are scared stiff when their over 20 babies either don't hang out at all or hang out with the wrong guys. It's not like in Nigeria where your search and contacts are wide. I doubt that any enlightened parent - and I suppose pple living in Canada are enlightened - will put pressure on a young lady of 23. Western 'gospel' is that marriage is no longer necessary and that girls can perfectly stay on their own or become single Mums. No matter how plausible this reasoning may sound, most African parents don't quite agree. Hence they tend to remind their girls who have come of age of the "true gospel", that of marriage! . This behaviour from parents will certainly add to budding agitation of a young woman who equally have her preoccupations. So it is normal and human to feel anxiety towards a union such as marriage, with all its expectations and problems including the right person with whom to do so. |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by pendo89(f): 4:04pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
All has been said op. Now go and be desperate no more |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by swtdarling(f): 4:09pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
sometimes d things u want desperately in life in comes after u take ur mind off it a little bit.concerntrate on other things.am sure u av dreams and aspirations cos after the joy n exitement of marriage,life must continue.use dis period to build urself to the kind of person u desire to be and trust me other things would fall in place.jst hide this feeling in a deep corner of ur heart.cos it might become obvious in ur body language and attract the wrong kind of pple who jst want to take u for a ride.and the most important thing to do is to PRAY cos u cant do it on ur own |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by ajadek(m): 4:19pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
Uptow girl 23yrs old. many many idols in u.a confortable man,a man that will meet ur criteria, hmmmm,any woman/man thats nt ready to sacrificies will never av a successful home, try to sound humble for enable ur heaven sent to come to u, anyway u av a gud feeling everybody feel the same,but marriage's nt for age is for maturity |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by Metalgoong(m): 4:20pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
@Poster The gospel truth is that most naija guys in US and Canada dey avoid you naija gals like fluke, guymen don tear eye like moooost naija girls, I mean you staunch feminists born or living around here . You really have to consider going back to naija to find husband , or expand your options by being ready to marry a non Nigerian that comes your way. Infact, I just dumped one of ur Sistas who have been disturbing me ( a 22 yr old Jolly Fellow ) with her marriage fantasies, whereas everything about her smells feminism feminism, equality in everything. Like you, she calls herself a christian woman, always try to use bible to manipulate a guyman like me , but ferociously down plays the part of bible that talks about women submitting to their husbands. She calls this part obsolete, that it doesn't apply to this 21st century. I never know why most Nigerians guys living in my area dont have Nigerian girl friends, until i entered the river and got the answer. |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by Sagamite(m): 4:36pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
Metalgoong: Obviously because these guys are mixing with women of other backgrounds. On average, these other women are better than Naija gals. Metalgoong: God punish her! Well done. These are the kinds of cretins you need to avoid. Just enjoy yourself and move on, mate! Metalgoong: 70% (or more) of my friends don't have Nigerian girlfriends. And explicitly will tell you they are not interested in Nigerian women. Majority of these guys are professional black men. I recently became friends with a guy that just finished uni and has a job offer to start in an Investment Bank, we were at an event and I made a comment about a nice looking black girl, he looked at me, shook his head and politely said "I no dey look black women side". It really exemplified 70% of my friends. |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by Yorisb: 5:00pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
Metalgoong: [size=18pt]*FAINTS*[/size]www.nairaland.com/attachments/378345_LMSAO_gifcc08743add65da1a3fab01ae874d7bfa |
Re: Desperate To Find A Husband,is It Normal To Feel This Way? by Abayomin70(m): 5:24pm On Dec 17, 2011 |
well my own case is different am d only child of my parent and they are realy disturbing to get married my mummy cries alot she y dont i want to make her happy my dad smae thing too he do tell me dat money is not d problem.but d problem is am still in 300level,am still very young 25years of age am ready but am just afraid to get my self into it cus marraige is not wat u can just jump into but my parent are gettin old and d hole family are beggin to just impregnate any girl and bring her home. |
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