Mr, Cork:

mRS cHIMA is quite intelligent. Am proud!

Mrs, Chima:

She would be jumping on top of cars trying to make it in on time.     With her wig cocked to the side and shirt stained with car oil. 

"I gotta get home to daddy, oh I gon be in trouble ooo". 

"No girl, I have to go, oh poo NEPA taking the light"  

"Oche, your shoe!"  

"bleep that shoe girl, I gotta go ooooh poo I have 5 five minutes to get home"  

"Oche, I will pray for you girl"

"You got an extra room in case daddy throw me out?"

"Oche, you know I do girl!"

(Oche left like thunder bolt)

pendo89:

Really?? So if I dont mind his coming late or dont trust him, it will it increases his chances of cheating? Don't you think the reverse is more likely to happen??

are u for real? He can go bad regardless of the time he arrives home!!! What makes a bad guy/lady has nothing to do with home arrival time or HAT!!

Have you ever heard of suffocating love? You may think you are practising love while in essence you are suffocating your partner.

So not tolerating nocturnal activities means i'm suffocating my wife? Not girlfriend o, wife? Yeah right!. . . Tell that to the birds!. . .

The reason I said you are full of theory.You believe Love is flawless and that you have the power to protect and save.

Who ever claimed of being superman in a relationship! Have you heard the word preventive measures before? My wife is responsible to me, true or false? Or would you claim "Mrs independent" under my own roof too? You are married dammit!

Well be be prepared for any eventualities.

Eventualities happen irregardless of whatever, but the dangers of the night tips the scale. . . Dont even argue!

People like u end up doing crazy things becz the believe nothing can and should go wrong since they put all necessary measures in place to safeguard their relationship only to be disappointed.

If i fail to plan, i have planned to fail! That is why i'll date before marrying, i should have sorted out those issues prior to getting married. If it doesnt suit me, i waka! but then, relationships, especially marriage is about sacrifices! So everyone that puts necessary measures in place to safeguard their relationships, get disappointed? Haha! I'd rather try. . .

People in love give each other freedom,they risk,they trust their partners enough and at the same time realise they are humans capable of falling.
They  do not try to Father or Mother each other,
Love doesnt make rush decisions.Its understanding and tolerant.
Marriage is not a dating game.

pendo89:

sexkillz needs to sit under some old married men to get tips on reality. Life is not a theory and not all theory works in marriage.
Things are dealt with as they come and at times the word love is never mentioned
I strongly believe if a bullet was aimed at your wife u will dive for cover and disappear in seconds.

Marry me first and confirm. . .

sexkillz:

Is this a movie scene? Cos i never made it mandatory for her to come home at a particular time! She knows her responsibilities as a wife, and therefore knows when she should be home! Anything further than that, and i wont tolerate it! Solution will now be to move house or fcck the job! Simple!
I dont have time for permissive marriage! The world has gone too advanced to leave any situation to chance! Do your best and leave the rest! Doesnt mean i dont trust her. . .

Mrs, Chima:

A good movie script huh?    

"Onche, your shoe!"  

Worst movie ever! The writer is discombobulated and needs some serious whooping!

sexkillz:

Worst movie ever! The writer is discombobulated and needs some serious whooping!

sexkillz:

Is cheating the only fallout of coming home late? Do you or do you not wonder about the kind of frienships he keeps at night? What do you really understand by marriage if i may ask? Cos the kind of responses and permissiveness makes it look as if you are in an open relationship! Yes! But that was not the question was it? I asked you, can a good man get bad or not? Cos you made it sound as if he aint prone to vices, simply because he is a good man!So not tolerating nocturnal activities means i'm suffocating my wife? Not girlfriend o, wife? Yeah right!. . . Tell that to the birds!. . . Who ever claimed of being superman in a relationship! Have you heard the word preventive measures before? My wife is responsible to me, true or false? Or would you claim "Mrs independent" under my own roof too? You are married dammit! Eventualities happen irregardless of whatever, but the dangers of the night tips the scale. . . Dont even argue!
If i fail to plan, i have planned to fail! That is why i'll date before marrying, i should have sorted out those issues prior to getting married. If it doesnt suit me, i waka! but then, relationships, especially marriage is about sacrifices! So everyone that puts necessary measures in place to safeguard their relationships, get disappointed? Haha! I'd rather try. . . In a dating game, come home when you like and see if i give a flying rat's arse! When you married, rules change! If you cant bend to some rules, DONT get married! If its her job, i've made myself clear! What else would or should keep a family woman out late at night? Bullshit! This aint father and mother stuff! You are aspiring parents for gawd's sake! Love doesnt make rush decisions.Its understanding and tolerant, and makes reasonable sacrifices that would be beneficial to the couple and the whole family in extension!

pendo89:
i thought i gave up on this gosh.

Why should I be bothered abt the friends he keeps at night?

I cannot control a man. If hes got friends I will know them during the day and if he insists on meeting them at night then its non of my biz. I dont think I married a stranger,so I should be confident or else lose sleep wondering who he s talking to.

There are other fall outs of coming home late. But your solution of quiting job I am not in favour of.

Who is a good man? >The one who puts the interest of his family first regardless of time.Its not the one who is home by 5 pm sharp!!
And both men can turn out bad.

A good positive nocturnal activity/job which puts bread on the table is highly welcomed. Stop making night workers look weird. Seems to me that you cannot marry a doc/nurse/lecturer/flight attendants/people that work in the travel industry plus many many more.

Nocturnal workers come home in the mornings, and not late at night!. . . Off Point!

Sexkillz just marry the lady at the village stall next to your house and ul live happily everafter.

Amen!

Your wife is responsible to u and vv. Responsibility is freedom not control/domination. You owe each other respect and understanding so dont force her to quit if she doesnt want to.  Bt shes your wife so whatever u do its your biz.

Yeah who in their right minds marries without dating? And how many couples that date end up splitting? Its not a safeguard you know.People hide inadequacies during courtship so saying you have planned well is not 100% true. The reason life is a risk.

What keeps a wife out late is her job. If you dont feel comfortable with that make sure you know your wife's career before marrying cz u can't keep asking her to quit all the time or  move houses.

But if you love her too much why not go pick her at her place of work? You can take a bullet for her rem so why worry about crime??

Mynd_44:

I have even given up on this issue. As long as one is an adult, that person is not responsible to no one but his/herself.

If my wife comes home late and has a good reason why should I fret?

I might get worried cos of the security condition of the country but that's where it ends.

Even if an individual come home early, that person might still be bad. Above all I believe communication is the most important thing

True! But the thread is discussing coming home late in the Night! Not just late!
What is communication, and how is it related to coming home late at Night? You mean phone calls? Lol!

Mrs, Chima:

Pendo Sis

You can lead the horse to water, but you can't make it swallow.     Rest your beautiful fingers and come see the babies on Nairaland's Cutest Baby Contest thread.  The babies are just lovely and we need to get you ready for one.   

Ranoscky:

Omo mehn, dis sexkilz of a guy ehn, for u to have the time in respondin to all the replies, omo u dey rili try gan oo! Double twaile for u! As for me, I cant tolerate my wife comin home late night err'day. We can settle for a change of house or a change of her job. I want ma kids to have proper 'mother guildiance' EVERY DAY [very important] and NOT just durin some freakin off duty days! Imagine the kids asleep [err'day] even before their mother is back, while she's the one that is supposed to prepare their dinner and put them to bed. WTF! No much time to play/be with the kids in the mornin cos they'll be preparin for school [would have loved the idea of goin to pick up my wife after work, but I'll definitely be the one to pick up ma kids from school when comin back from work, so NO fu€kin time to go and pick up my wife, afterwards]. And at night, before she's back, the kids have already gone to bed. NEVER!! That wont work under my roof! If she disregard my options and stil insist, then I'll jejely ask her to go back to her father's house to continue her 'late night comin' job over there. She can come visitin durin wkends and stay with the kids [ya, thaz COOL with me!] Or forget about the marraige entirely, and call it quit [then marry her job afterwards]!

What FOOLishness!

sexkillz:

It's either her Job or her Family! That one no hard to choose! It's the quintessentially st[i]u[/i]pid wife that will choose her Job over her family!

pendo89:

You got a loong long way to go killz.  No sane married woman with kids will sacrifice her family for her job!!

Thank you! You are getting it now! Any other excuse you give is a fallacy!

Next her coming home early is not a sign of her true devotion to family,neither is her coming late. Mrs sexkillz will come early cz she dreads the consequences.

Mrs sexkillz will come home early not because she dreads the consequences, but because she knows that it is wrong for a married woman with kids to come home late in th night everyday! Meanwhile, she expects a degree of reasonableness from mr sexkillz, just as he expects of her! She realizes Mr sexkillz is not suffocating her, but that their family well being is more important than the selfish inclinations of either her, or Mr sexkillz, her husband!

Do you know the number of  irresponsible/carefree women who come home early everyday?

Yes! But the number of irresponsible/carefree women who come home late everyday, is worse!

Sexkillz wake up from slumber! What makes you think that a wife who is supposedly the bread winner will quit her night job because the struggling or jobless hubby wants her home at 7 ?

And again, ladies who work night jobs do not come home late at night, but rather, early in the mornings!. . . Off Point!

And which sane jobless/struggling man will demand that his wife quit her job in order to be home by 7 because he loves her too much??

Off Point! We are talking coming home late at night! Most jobs close before 6 Pm! What is she doing after then? And what if the man is not jobless or struggling? Even if he was, so you'll justify your coming home late because you are the breadwinner? Bull what? Bullshit! Even if you dont love your husband, you hate your kids as well?

Sexkillz everybody is trying to make ends meet and 2 incomes are better than one. Love is also responsible and responsibility means being able to provide well for your household.

So because we want to provide well for our household, we should come home late at night? Ok! Fine! I'll come home by 1 am, and she'll come home by 1:05 am! I love such provisions! Fcck the kids and their needs, afterall they need all the income we can make for them. . . Really?

She's not prostituting 4 christ' sake but working to bring food home or supplement the family's income. And if you doubt her then you got trust issues and you are better of without her!.

If the hubby is rich that's a different game but rem what I said, some people derive satisfaction from working and keeping busy.Income is not the driving factor. Now pray that you dont land yourself such a wife cz ul never force her to quit.

So at the risk of your family's well being, you want to work, and come home late for the fun of it? Jeeeesus Christ!

The whole issue of insecurity I understand based on where one is located but some places have proper security and most companies who's staff work late into the night provide transport. And even if they dont I doubt any good company would send staff home late when they know that transport is an issue.
(We are just assuming that its work keepin her out late not friends.)

Sexkillz puppy love doesn't work in marriage. In marriage people practice dog/tough love.That means accomodating what we dislike as long as they don't go against the values we treasure.

Some of the things we may dislike include a wife working late but tolerating her and both of you agreeing to work around it till she gets a day job if you prefer.

What are u gonna do if she wears a hairstyle u dislike yet she believes its fashionable? Cut of her hair and burn her wigs??

Off point!

If your child is getting bullied by the neighbourhood kids will you move house?  What if he performs poorly will you change schools??

I will tell smthing. Many tough situations in life come to make us strong.They are platforms to greater challenges so quiters never make it.

Not late Night challenges. . . We dont want!

You can tolerate some bullshit cz it will teach you a good lesson and make u strong.I am not talking about compromise but tolerance.

That word you like using called 'quit' doesn't work that easy in marriage set up. Its easier said than done. Go talk to married peeps and let them tell u  how the world we live in sometimes puts pressure on marriage but instead of quiting all the time they devise ways of dealing with it.

Ways like what? What ways? And you keep hammering on Jobs Jobs Jobs! Is it a Job alone that would make a woman come home late? The thread is about coming home late at Night, and i wont tolerate that! Are you trying to do what exactly? prove to me that Coming home late for a woman is ok, and should be emulated? BULLSHIT!

I told you that some dating principles work only for a dating couple.You can quit while dating but u tolerate some(not life threatening poo) in marriage.

Your reasoning is somewhat skewed cz u believe love is the remedy to all things.

If I love her I can take a bullet for her,I can ask her to quit her job,I can ask her to give me 7 kids,I can ask her to wear only what I choose and cook what I want.

Love is great but love without wisdom makes men and women behave silly.

By tolerating bullshit!. . . I get you!

_{** I throw a bomb on thread**}

_{**Diffuses Bomb! **}

pendo89:

oops! too late. I am watching my two lovely boys grow now while still in my youth.
checking out 'Amya's baby pic. Pretty blue eyes.

pendo89:

@ sexkillz

This is my last post on this thread.

Likewise me! If you reply me again, monkey go born 12 for you!

Several things can make a partner come home late and job is one of them. You have not asked why we are sticking to job even though the op never specified it? Al tell u why. Its cz as far as am concerned its the only genuine reason a partner can give for coming late everyday.
Any other excuse is vain but note I said 'everyday'.

If a job is the only genuine reason for coming late, and it's a concern to your husband, you will do want you want, because you feel you are independent? And family life revolves around only you, and you feel your husband should understand that? If you pendo89 can categorically state to me, that you have not seen where a man or a woman makes the sacrifice of losing his/her job for a less paying one because of his/her family, then i'll say you've not seen it all! Pls come to Nigeria let me show you, and maybe, just maybe, you can witness "sacrifice", firsthand!

There's one department where I work called the declaration department.They are always the last to leave because of deadlines plus the work is just too much.
The co pays for their taxi and they leave office even at 9 pm when work is too much. The industry I work for operates 24/7 cz planes operate on scheduled time,clients may be late in getting docs ready,lack of space in planes and goods must go cz you assured the flower farmer his roses will be in Amsterdam for auction by 10 am the following day!!  plus day staff cannot leave work undone till the night staff arrive to pick up.
You cannot rule out delays cz we drive on roads and anything can happen.
That staff must make sure everything is in order before she/he calls it a day!! Time becomes irrelevant in such instances.

Now these declaration guys some female married and with kids are dropped at their doorsteps if they work late into the night.They get paid extra allowance for that.
You know what? I have never heard any complain and none has quit job over that. And they still manage stable families.

When I talk about late I am not talking of night shift workers who go home at 6 am.I am talking about that Flight attendant whose plane lands at 10 pm in his own countryand he/she must go home. The airline provides transport 24/7 for such staff.

And what about the lecturer and his evening classes? There are married people studying after work no? and they need a lecturer no?? If the classes begin at 7 pm to end at 9 pm where do they go?? No according to killz they must quit.

Some shopping malls close at 9 pm.They are full of lady cashiers and attendants.What happens to them? sexkillz insists they must quit!

How many shopping mall attendants are married? What about malls that maintain a "No married lady" policy?
Wait a minute! In order to prove your point, mrs sexkillz is becoming everything to you?

Think worldwide plus many other careers too. Some partners work 2/3 jobs to make ends meet. After the normal day job they go work an extra 2 hours to boost income. Get rid of hacienda mentality

Does it apply to "all" married people? Does it apply to Mrs sexkillz? And again, what is the distance from place of work? Like i said earlier, we either move house else, fcck the job!

Yeah I know extra income is bullshiotology to you cz you only need love to survive!!!

My other examples (those u say are offpoint) were in ref to your 'quitology theory'. Life doenst work like that is my 2 cent advise to u.
I would however wish to point this one out.I don't support both partners coming in home late esp where kids are involved.
In such a case on must sacrifice and there's has been a thread on that before.

No you should? Why are you rescinding? You said you will allow your husband come home late cos you dont care, and you have been trying to prove to me why i should not care if my wife comes home late! Now imagine Mr & Mrs Pendo Sexkillz!. . . What a happy family!

My final advise to you. Make sure you sexkillz can tolerate your wife's career before you say I do. Make sure her career will never land her a night job or make her work late.

I have been saying this since, it's like you no dey read my reply sha! During dating, if it doesnt favor me, i waka! I said so earlier, didnt I?
Late night will NEVER be tolerable to me!