Please could fellow nairalanders advice me on what to do. 'cos i had a drunken one night stand with my best friend's girlfriend and 2 months later she told me she was pregnant, i dont know what to do. she is here in london on holidays and has visited me 'cos her boyfriend who resides in Nigeria has asked her to visit me while she is in uk. she has refused to terminate the pregnancy and is due to go back to Nigeria in 2 weeks time.

Bros which kain yawa be this now

my brother, it was a big mistake that should never had happened but as i said ealier we had a few drinks and one thing led to another.

if u love her, then marry her. maybe she has found love in u, thats why she refused to terminate the pregnancy. thats what i can say. And wether u marry her or not, u will still have probs with your friend. but if u don't love her, my dear tell her u will not marry her but if she decides to keep the baby, u will takia of the baby(i think u are strong enough to do that). and quickly ask your friend 4 4giveness.

(women na trouble, make una try dey leave us to rest) see what u've put yourself into. and i believe u must have a serious relationship oh.

anyway sorry.

the irony is that her boyfriend is still in the dark as to what has happened to his girlfriend and the girl has assured me that she can convince her boyfriend that he is the father of the baby, but i don't know if i can live with the guilt.

@ poster,

you try well well.na your obioma do the whole work to score goal.i bow for you ohhhhhhhh.

^{why do other boys get all this kain luck sef?}

joyblinks:

if u love her, then marry her. maybe she has found love in u, thats why she refused to terminate the pregnancy. thats what i can say. And wether u marry her or not, u will still have probs with your friend. but if u don't love her, my dear tell her u will not marry her but if she decides to keep the baby, u will takia of the baby(i think u are strong enough to do that). and quickly ask your friend 4 4giveness.

(women na trouble, make una try dey leave us to rest) see what u've put yourself into. and i believe u must have a serious relationship oh.

anyway sorry.

. . . i concur, Drunk then have SEX, and now you re complaning,you have to face it man,don't give up.

hmmmm . . . .  

Poster.  


Dont even try to leave with that. u knwoin quit well that the baby is yours and u are not married, why leave your baby to be fathered by another man. its not the right thing bro. Tell her, if she knws she want to keep it, she should tell her boyfriend {and u should be ready to face the trouble} and if she knws she wount tell him, she better abort it. except if u want to cause confusion in the future or give ur own baby to another man.

She has bluntly refused to terminate the pregnancy and i aint got the time nor the means right now to start bringing up a baby as i am still in the university studying for my masters and now it seems like all my future plans are going down the drains.

go tell oprah! bulls*%t.

It has come to a stage where u have to start putting tht baby as a part of u oh. because there is nothing u can do now, if u say u want to leave this baby for her to give to her boyfriend, someday my dear, u go remember say u get pikin there and that one, go cause confusion.

that girl self, something dey worry her?

2dye4:

go tell oprah! bulls*%t.

o'boy if you no get any advise to give me then pxxs_ off my thread

see wetin di ck dey cause eh una guys sef na wah!!

hope you enjoyed the drunken saga. now face real life and get the lady and baby into the picture. DONT ever encourage her to terminate it, b t w, thank God she refused!!! now, time for enjoy bang don finish. face real issue and do the right thing.

coming here to talk abt your masters   well, in that level you could have a wife and kids. there are pple with children doing their Masters so you won't be the only one.

your future plan is not going down the drain but taking a U turn a wee bit. get a job with your degree and move on with you being a DADDY. invite us to the naming  

joyblinks:

It has come to a stage where u have to start putting that baby as a part of u oh. because there is nothing u can do now, if u say u want to leave this baby for her to give to her boyfriend, someday my dear, u go remember say u get pikin there and that one, go cause confusion.

that girl self, something dey worry her?

my sister na so women dey put man for wahala, and now my relationship with my best friend is ruined 4 life.

i think you should allow her to come back to Naija to take care of the baby but let your friend know the evil you have committed against him and God. Beg for forgiveness and talk with the girl. If you wanna marry her, no prob but if not - - - - - - - -

don't worry about your lost friend too much. friends come and go. you gained a bouncing baby which is allllll good, cheers. be happy eat and drink and be merry nwannem.

it will be better u call him, and talk to him sriously oh. as na ur pally, him fit understand.

iam seriously thinking moving to a different address and cutting all tie between myself and the child as the cycle will be too much for me to bear.

chiboyz:

i am seriously thinking moving to a different address and cutting all tie between myself and the child as the cycle will be too much for me to bear.

Hmm,if the child doesnt ask for his/her father now. He/she will definitely ask later on lin life. Think twice before taking any drastic step. This child could be a blessing for u. Claim the paternity of this child and be glad u did.

nana:

Hmm,if the child doesnt ask for his/her father now. He/she will definitely ask later on lin life. Think twice before taking any drastic step. This child could be a blessing for u. Claim the paternity of this child and be glad u did.

yes dont deny the paternity but explain your predicament to the girl.and hope she unnerstands!!

I think you are right but the fact is that i dont love the girl and she told me she still love her boyfriend and want to be with him.

ha!!! and you are in the UK yet complaining. you could even get a cleaning job to raise a child/claim welfare for the time being. it's how you make it to be. think twice before doing what you are thinking. like nana said, the child could be a blessing to you both.
well, do good and i wish you well my brother.

omoge:

see wetin di ck dey cause eh una guys sef na wah!!

hope you enjoyed the drunken saga. now face real life and get the lady and baby into the picture. DONT ever encourage her to terminate it, b t w, thank God she refused!!! now, time for enjoy bang don finish. face real issue and do the right thing.

coming here to talk about your masters   well, in that level you could have a wife and kids. there are people with children doing their Masters so you won't be the only one.

your future plan is not going down the drain but taking a You turn a wee bit. get a job with your degree and move on with you being a DADDY. invite us to the naming  

correct na, na your obioma put you for wahala. my advise is CUT THE DAMN THING OFF

see the diff between men adn women, is that women are emotional fcukers.

clearly that girl is a slut, because it seems that u were drunk adn she might have been sober, plus she is just looking for a ticket to the UK. nothing more nothing less.  i advice u to tell ur freind, he will be upset but at least he will hear it from u than from her.   tell the chick sorry no marriage, maybe a check from now or then and let her carry her ass back to nigeria.  clearly u dont love her so the people on this post telling u to marry her if u love her, are being extremely silly.  regardless its not going to go over so well, but dont worry, it seems there are more singley mothers having children out of wedlock in naija now so she will not be lonely in that category, and guess what the reason y u see more of these women, is because the men were smart enough not to marry them.

goodluck and remember, drinking and sex (BAD COMBINATION)

chiboyz:


my sister na so women dey put man for wahala, and now my relationship with my best friend is ruined 4 life.

My brother I think you should have seriously considered this before having one too many and laying your best friend's girlfriend.

This is a real dilemma and all I can say is that you are going to face a lot of flak for it. You will just have to live with it and accept that it was a big mistake. Your friendship with your friend will never be the same if it survives, because you betrayed him. I will not advise marriage if you are not that keen on the girl. Take it one day at a time. Things will not sort themselves out overnight but you will learn to live with yourself and this mistake you made. Take it like a man. There is nothing new under the sun. And you cannot shirk your responsibilities to the child if she insists on having it.

omoge:

ha!!! and you are in the UK yet complaining. you could even get a cleaning job to raise a child/claim welfare for the time being. it's how you make it to be. think twice before doing what you are thinking. like nana said, the child could be a blessing to you both.
well, do good and i wish you well my brother.

thanks babes but if i have to take the responsibility as the father, all the plans i have to establish myself after my uni could not be realised, And my friend will resent me for the rest of his life and there is no way of running away from him as long as he is still with the girl and i am the girls baby dada.

@poster Women Women Women , why watin dey worry una self l dey fear women na ooo she even tell the guy say she can convince her boyfriend hmmm ALL WOMEN THIS DAYS ARE JUST THE SAME
My guy put in more water into that her unclose pussy rubbish.  like you said she is still in london in the next two weeks f**ck her ass death. , why women

see the diff between men adn women, is that women are emotional fcukers.

clearly that girl is a slut, because it seems that u were drunk adn she might have been sober, plus she is just looking for a ticket to the UK. nothing more nothing less. i advice u to tell your freind, he will be upset but at least he will hear it from u than from her. tell the chick sorry no marriage, maybe a check from now or then and let her carry her ass back to nigeria. clearly u don't love her so the people on this post telling u to marry her if u love her, are being extremely silly. regardless its not going to go over so well, but don't worry, it seems there are more singley mothers having children out of wedlock in naija now so she will not be lonely in that category, and guess what the reason y u see more of these women, is because the men were smart enough not to marry them.

goodluck and remember, drinking and sex (BAD COMBINATION

Agree with u.

Why would you want to kill a human being, i don't see why men suggest abortion because they are not ready to be a father, its not like u did not have ur brain when you decided to do it without a condom, or you are not old enough to know that fucking leads to pregnancy, don't blame it on the drinks, you knew what you were doing, even stupid people have brains,
please grow up and be a man, you never know that might be the only kid you will have in this world, i doubt you would want ur child's blood on your hands, stop pawning ur kid on another man, and just destroying the kid's life.
don't blame this shit on women, men too are responsible, afterall its ur sperm that mends the deal, take responsibility for ur shit, and please suggesting abortion could destroy ur friends life, are you that selfish, you just care about urself and no one else, everything is not all about you, cuz all i hear is i can't be a father, i am studying for my master's, so how about this, stop fucking if ur not old enough to be a fucking man,

please grow up.

You got her pregnant abi? wetin be our own?

want my advice? tell your friend. I'm not trying to be unfair but you have the advantage of the distance btw you guys. call d girl, sit her down and tell her the facts;
* you don't love her. clearly it was a 1 night stand
* you ain't marrying her. good since she doesn't want to.
* you are not handing the paternity of your child to someone else like Esau sold his birthright to Jacob. you will tell your friend.
*you are not advising her to abort because the guilt will be with you forever.
i can promise you that the wahala you will face now will be nothing compared to what you will face later, if you decide to keep this secret and then one day it rears its ugly hydra head. remember nothing is hidden under the sun. one more thing, i wont be getting into any drinking orgies anymore if i were you, since in that state you clearly loose the use of your mental faculty. it might be anyone the next time, maybe your own sister, cousin (since your friends girlfriend is supposed to be a no-[color=#990000][/color]go area too, even if she flirts with you! , as they say shayo na bastard. wish you luck.