I open doors for ladies, hold it open for guys, give up my seat on the bus for women, and stay nice to old people. No big deal, all part of personal values. Besides, Lagos was a better place when that culture was in place. I think simple courtesy and etiquette is essential.
. . . And yes, it gets me laid sometimes. . . ;-)

I don't wait for anyone to open the door of a car for me,before he's even done with his own door I don dey outside the car dey wait. ,but whenever I'm entering a building with a guy,I expect him to open the door for me,if he doesn't kwanu,I jejely open the door myself(my hand no break),I don't classify a guy as a "gentleman" because he opens the door for a lady.

Ok. In Nigeria u r better off opening your wallet (rather than doors) to get laid.

freecocoa:
I don't classify a guy as a "gentleman" because he opens the door for a lady.

What do classify such a guy as then?

That's very unafrican
except your wife is
disabled.

you guys can't stop 2 amaze me

^^^
@ ***cocoa,
better,
u just reminded me of a training i attended on etiquette from de office,they said we shoul open door for ladies,slide de chair for de lady wen in de restaurant or de likes, wen we got back to de hotel, see ladies dey wait make guy practice, trust nigerian men, dey chop leave de ladies for de restaurant.

but i love naija babe, dey know how to adjust to naija men ways.

eastOFwest:

What do classify such a guy as then?

I don't classify him as anything either,what I'm saying is opening doors for ladies doesn't make someone a gentleman in my own dictionary,I know people who are far from gentlemen who open doors for ladies,anybody can open doors,gentleman or not.


@konnektions,I'm imagining the scenario,I trust my naija brothers,we are already used to una pattern so no be new thing.

lol
happy weekend babe, hw re yu?

Males are supposed to learn certain things in their teen years - Open the door for ladies, hold the door for them, give them precedence, treat them right and be gentle with/to them. 
These days, we just have too many males that grew up without parental guidance, hence their misconduct.
The few ones that were trained do these things, and I'm lucky to know and have met some.

@konnektions, I'm good dear,how you doing too sweets?

nne nne, a na m eme ofuma,
enwere m wedding to attend, bia k'iburo odozi aku m

Konnektions146:

lol
happy weekend babe, hw re yu?

I'm watching you man, stick to topic!

Lol

Konnektions146:

nne nne, a na m eme ofuma,
enwere m wedding to attend, bia k'iburo odozi aku m

Hahaha,I wish na m'ga esonwu gi ga the wedding but flash no go gree.

One thing I don't like is routine, I can do it anytime I feel like

freecocoa:

Hahaha,I wish na m'ga esonwu gi ga the wedding but flash no go gree.

simples! See you later man

Afam u ve never had a girlfrnd?

Flashaldrin:

simples! See you later man

Flashaldrin:

simples! See you later man

flash my man, i see yu watch out for yur lady, makin me jealous huhh,
enjoy man yu got it right, enjoy yur weekend man

Missy_B:

Males are supposed to learn certain things in their teen years - Open the door for ladies, hold the door for them, give them precedence, treat them right and be gentle with/to them. 
These days, we just have too many males that grew up without parental guidance, hence their misconduct.
The few ones that were trained, do these things, and I'm lucky to know and have met some.

Sorry to burst your bubble miss but we aint in England where the so called rules of etiquette might mean something. Where I grew up and where I live you must not try it. Men grow up learning their own culture not some borrowed nonsense. And btw going by that culture you're so enamored by ladies are supposed to have some quite confidence and speak ever so lady-likely but not so around these here parts. Moral of my story? when in Naija do as Naijans do. Damn.

it is over ambitious for a lady to still bank on semantics like
gentleman etc. the modern woman has pursued independence,
liberation,equality and emancipation with impunity such that in her
world a man is totally emasculated.
it is only a f00lish man that retains his chivalry while the modern
woman pursue equality, since we are socially equal, i can as well
muscle you out of a cue or sit while u stand in a train.
chivalry is only for the elderly and disabled the modern woman
can take care of herself

@jp phillips: Spot on man!

fresh_dude:

Sorry to burst your bubble miss but we aint in England where the so called rules of etiquette might mean something. Where I grew up and where I live you must not try it. Men grow up learning their own  culture not some borrowed nonsense. And btw going by that culture you're so enamored by ladies are supposed to have some quite confidence and speak ever so lady-likely but not so around these here parts. Moral of my story? when in Naija do as Naijans do. Damn.

Being a Nigerian is not reason enough to be discourteous. . . Very flimsy excuse.
If you were not taught to be civil and gentle as a kid, you can learn now . . .It's never too late. 

Konnektions146:

flash my man, i see yu watch out for yur lady, makin me jealous huhh,
enjoy man yu got it right, enjoy yur weekend man

yes o, i watch out for her, incase of people like you
have a nice weekend too, i hope your team won today

jp philips:

it is over ambitious for a lady to still bank on semantics like gentleman etc. the modern woman has pursued independence, liberation,equality and emancipation with impunity such that in her world a man is totally emasculated.
it is only a f00lish man that retains his chivalry while the modern woman pursue equality, since we are socially equal, i can as well muscle you out of a cue or sit while u stand in a train.
chivalry is only for the elderly and disabled the modern woman can take care of herself

plucking the thoughts right from the sino-atrial node of my heart! Man. . . Can i get you atleast a cup of warm zobo??

It's a gentlemanly behaviour but some communities regard it as being a mugu and acting suspicious. I guess- when in Rome do as the Romans do. SIMPLES

TroyJay:

If i'm dating a so called "Independent" woman, should she be "dependent" on me to open a car door? Talk about hypocrisy!

haha! True.

jp philips:

since we are socially equal, i can as well muscle you out of a cue

dude, don't do it. It's called BAD MANNERS!

jp philips:

chivalry is only for the elderly and disabled the modern woman can take care of herself

THANK YOU! This should sum up this discussion!

Ladies, if God gave you hands that work, be grateful and open the damn door yourself!

yuzedo:

I open doors for ladies, hold it open for guys, give up my seat on the bus for women, and stay nice to old people. No big deal, all part of personal values. Besides, Lagos was a better place when that culture was in place. I think simple courtesy and etiquette is essential.
. . . And yes, it gets me laid sometimes. . . ;-)

Nice!( but the getting laid part? )
I love to see etiquette from men And women. It really does reflect personal values. There are the rude people who dont appreciate this but that their problem! Dont let the rude people affect who you are ( 2buff )
Just today, I was going into a store. There was a woman in front of me and 2 behind me. A man, who was entering first, opened the door and told us all to go in quickly from the cold.He went in after us. We ALL thanked him and it was a very sweet gesture. I dont ever hesitate to hold a door and if someone doesnt say thank you then it simply reflects on themself,not me.

talina:

Nice!( but the getting laid part?  )
I love to see etiquette from men And women. It really does reflect personal values. There are the rude people who dont appreciate this but that their problem! Dont let the rude people affect who you are ( 2buff )
Just today, I was going into a store. There was a woman in front of me and 2 behind me. A man, who was entering first, opened the door and told us all to go in quickly from the cold.He went in after us. We ALL thanked him and it was a very sweet gesture. I dont ever hesitate to hold a door and if someone doesnt say thank you then it simply reflects on themself,not me.

Peach!
I get like treatment often, not to mention the countless times I was not allowed to lift a seat because a civilized man insisted on helping me out - including black dudes. And I'm usually like - this one can't be a Nigerian . . .You can't be this gentlemanly and cute, and at the same time, be a Nigerian. Na winch? 

It's a shame that Naija men are making a mountain outta this very molehill. . . Even in public. Shame! 
Nigerian women are women and should be treated thusly.
The excuse of 'it's not our culture' is plain phockery. . .Do not make it seem like whoever brought you up did a lousy job.

Having said that, no one is dependent on you or asking you to do this stuff, it's simply what you ought to do. . . .Lack of it speaks volumes about your person.

Opening a door for a lady, naija gals in particular?? . . . . That can only happen if I'm her Aide-De-Camp

^^^ try it sometime