tpacalipse:

The fact that u have a steady income today does not mean u can't lose it after marriage! And for the fact that a man does not have steady income today does not mean He can't have it after mrriage! And who the fffffk or where the fffkkk did you get the idea that a man must provide verything in marriage? or relationships? Read the BIBLE very well to confirm (Proverbs 31 from Verse 1-the end), u will understand.

A lot of our fathers got married to our mothers when they had no ffking dime, worked together and today some of them are very rich. Is money really the problem in marriage and relationships? So, are u saying that those who had steady source or sources of income before they married, should divorce if they happen to lose this or these sources of steady income? In short, the ways people come around to analyse humans is very funny! Humans can not be analyse this way or these ways.

To me, if 99.9% of Nigerian women will not stay or marry you for lack of steady income, there is 0.1% who can stay irrespective of whether u have steady income or not and this 0.1 percent to me, matters a lot. I will strongly advice any man to please start dating when you are still broke, if you wait untill you are ok, u might end up with one of these gold digging daughters of mad men. Your chance or chances of meeting a thief when you are already comfortable is greater than when you are not. I strongly recommend this to all men in the house: date when you are broke, date when you are broke; ignore this rule at your own PERIL. I warn you again, IGNORE @ UR OWN PERIL.
Oga, God wil bless u and ure family 4 givin broke ass guys like us. I am sheddin tears already, i know say one day e go beta. Igbo kweenu.

Nayah:

Killz actually what I wanted to point out is that I prefer building my wealth with my husband or fiance rather than counting on a tutor, hope I made it clearer now

I don't get the tutor part. . .

~Killz~:

Ok, if una collabo, make una dey chop sand. . . Igbo kwezuo nu!
[/ehn. Make i chop, if it wil give mi a shot at being wit my babe, U, if u like wait 4 donkey years to buy land and build house b4 u enter rlatship not 2 talk of marriage, Ichidodo bu onye igbo,

Nayah:

Means I don't want a second father, I can also help and I would definetely not putting money on top before love and respect

Good. I hope everyone has this mindset. But since it's not possible for all ladies to have this mindset, guy's should be on a safer side by making sure they can cater for her. It's just commonsense!

ehn. Make i chop, if it wil give mi a shot at being wit my babe, U, if u like wait 4 donkey years to buy land and build house b4 u enter rlatship not 2 talk of marriage, Ichidodo bu onye igbo,

You don't go to a farm with a blunt cutlass. You can be with your babe, just make sure you can provide for her needs. . . Killz bu kwa onye igbo.

~Killz~:

Good. I hope everyone has this mindset. But since it's not possible for all ladies to have this mindset, guy's should be on a safer side by making sure they can cater for her. It's just commonsense!

~Killz~:

You don't go to a farm with a blunt cutlass. You can be with your babe, just make sure you can provide for her needs. . . Killz bu kwa onye igbo.

Nayah:

Lol but Killz you know brother, I've always tried not jugding easily people because we don't know their background: Look, if a lady comes from a very poor background we can't blame us to want a better life and think to have a fiance who has a better background, but yes better loving him too of course
Just to say life it's quite difficult and we need to balance our point of view, cases are different

But I agree using someone just because of money, this is not what I call love

You understand.

ichidodo:

NGWA, bia. Let us dance mgbokpo nike dance,

Nna relax o!

Mrs, Chima:

IZUKWU:

Kills, i wouldn't say i do not follow your line of arguement. But how do i keep in line the desires of my heart. What would you advice in this situation. For me ,its three years after youth service ,have been working and saving for my m.sc . So am on a very tight rope financially. But body no be wood,there is this girlfriend of mine. We have been on and off because according her ,am stingy why i refuse to spend more than 3k on her for a month. Once it has passed that ,she know she wouldn't get anything from me again. Since last month she has talking ,she want to enter school . Money to runs her o'level but i refuse to bulge. I know she has been talking with her ex  and he has promised to give her but for me. She is not my responsibility since her parents and brothers are there . And i have my own sister ,four of them at the present in the university with their demands. This girl keep telling me that she is am adult, that her parents take care of the younger ones and she should be the responsibility of her boyfriend,which i have vehemently refused to bear. These days i choose my expenses, i measure them,with an iron ruler.   

Adaeze003:

So i guess no love, relationship or marriage for the poor? In my opinion, there's no formula to this aspect of life. I know this because I've seen couples who started with little but with time things changed and now they can comfortably provide for their kids. On the other hand, the fact that you have a steady income now does not mean you'll have that for life so what if something happens and you lose your job? Will you expect her to stay with you?
Everyone deserves love as long as you are not expecting manner from above (lazy) things can change.

When you say poor, what do you mean by poor? There should be no marriage for the Jobless. Does being poor mean Jobless? Couples that started little, did they start on nothing at all? If you have arranged your self and you feel you can start on a meager income fine. But don't you go into it without anything, hoping only on luck. When you have a steady income, you should realize that things can change since there's no condition that's permanent. How about saving for the rainy day? Would you blame me if you refuse to plan, and then you fail as a result of not planning? Everyone deserves love yes, but will love alone sustain you both? How about next time you are hungry, look down at you stomach and say "I love you". Lemme see if that hunger would abate. . . All i'm saying is, DON'T go into a relationship when not prepared. . . Preparation = Money!

How are you?

fresh_dude:

@IZUKWU, I say drop the skank you don't need a partner that does possess reasoning capabilities. Abi have you not heard what happened to Zenith Bank Manager Bankole(how he lost his wife to Car Salesman Lanre Shittu?). I don't know why guys are playing ostrich, if you're not enough for a girl now you will MOST LIKELY never be enough for her till you die. For me the rule is simple ''if you can't be with me when I'm broke, you don't deserve to be with me when I'm better off.'' Simples!

~Killz~:

When you say poor, what do you mean by poor? There should be no marriage for the Jobless. Does being poor mean Jobless? Couples that started little, did they start on nothing at all? If you have arranged your self and you feel you can start on a meager income fine. But don't you go into it without anything, hoping only on luck. When you have a steady income, you should realize that things can change since there's no condition that's permanent. How about saving for the rainy day? Would you blame me if you refuse to plan, and then you fail as a result of not planning? Everyone deserves love yes, but will love alone sustain you both? How about next time you are hungry, look down at you stomach and say "I love you". Lemme see if that hunger would abate. . . All i'm saying is, DON'T go into a relationship when not prepared. . . Preparation = Money!

How are you?