queensmith:
i don't remember seeing cohabitation in the bible sha- people are going to make it a bigger sin than premarital sex? Or are the women just afraid of what will happen to their social reputations with people knowing theyve shacked up with thier lovers? lol

You cannot separate cohabitation and premarital sex. Both compliment each other. When was the last time you read the bible??

queensmith:
there's no difference btn shackin up with your boyfriend and with your husband.

There is a difference, a very big difference. It is about how you value your body "why would you buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"
Do you want to be woman who the man milks for free or would you rather be "purchased".

jmoore:
You cannot separate cohabitation and premarital sex. Both compliment each other. When was the last time you read the bible??

That is exactly what I meant, so cohabitation simply implies premarital sex to the world. And that is most females problems! If your having premarital sex it's no bigger sin to live with your partner. Both will lead you to hell!

jmoore:
There is a difference, a very big difference. It is about how you value your body "why would you buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"
Do you want to be woman who the man milks for free or would you rather be "purchased".

again, if your having sex already what difference does it make? I'm not a piece of clothing so I don't want to be purchased and I don't believe marriage is a mans way of 'purchasing' a woman. Lawd almighty we need to get rid of these backwards ideologies.
Marriage is a couples responsibility, if they feel it's the step they need to take they will take it. Co habitation will not change that. Unless like I said they become content. And there's nothing wrong with that. I've seen couples live together longer than most marriages last nowadays. Besides the decision to marry is normally cultural and it doesn't determine anything but the money you spend on the ceremony. It doesnt validate the relationship rather peoples perception of it.

"purchased" it was in quote, do not interpret it the way it is.

Inked_Nerd:

Yes, you can. Just because two people live together doesn't mean that they're having sëx. It's because you choose to see them as one in the same that makes you say that they are not separate.

Hello!!!!!! a man cannot be living with a woman he is not married to and still not engage in sex. They will do it.

queensmith:
Besides the decision to marry is normally cultural and it doesn't determine anything but the money you spend on the ceremony. It doesnt validate the relationship rather peoples perception of it.

The decision to marry has nothing to do with culture, you were talking about the bible,I wonder where all your views come from, You seem to be mixing everything. Marriage is not a just ceremony, marriage validates a relationship, it means your bodies belong to each other. If Obi who is not married to Ada is sleeping with Ada and later she founds out that he is sleeping with Oge, that is not cheating because at no point did both of you made it known to yourselves and the world that your bodies belong to each other. Cheating is when Obi is married to Ada and goes ahead to sleep with Oge

queensmith:
I've seen couples live together longer than most marriages last nowadays.

It is easy for me to point out married couples that are celebrating 10 years,25 years,50 years, 60 years marriage anniversary. How many unmarried couples have cohabited for the 10 years,25 years,50 years, 60 years, etc?

If Obi who is not married to Ada is sleeping with Ada and later she founds out that he is sleeping with Oge, that is not cheating because at no point did both of you made it known to yourselves and the world that your bodies belong to each other. Cheating is when Obi is married to Ada and goes ahead to sleep with Oge

One hard TRUTH that many will not want to see or read.
It provide answer to all the arguments.

Jmoore- your obviously clueless, what does marriage have to do with the church when people get married in the courthouse? Non christians get married, are their relationships invalid?
You also know nothing of common law cohabitation. There are plenty of couples even in nigeria that arent officially married!

Inked_Nerd:

How the motha flippin' hell would you know? Do you speak for ALL men?!?!? No, you obviously don't! I suggest you take your 'hello' elsewhere since you cannot speak for all men on this matter.

Whats up babe? Hows ya job and the kids?

^^^

Okay'lets make 'some then

Okay, what if I pay you for it?

Inked_Nerd:

Sorry, my womb isn't for sale/rent.

I agree. But everything has a price, your womb included. No one has to know. You come in the middle of the night and i drop you home the following morning. You can take the ferry if you want, your choice.

queensmith: Jmoore- your obviously clueless, what does marriage have to do with the church when people get married in the courthouse? Non christians get married, are their relationships invalid?
You also know nothing of common law cohabitation. There are plenty of couples even in nigeria that arent officially married!

Me, clueless? It is you that need a little bit of education. At no point did I say that church wedding is the only form of marriage. Please read between lines before jumping into conclusions. There is nothing like unofficially married, when you are married, you are married. Obi can go to Ada's parents and tell them that he wants to marry their daughter. Ada's father gives his consent and depending on the culture he will fulfill what Ada's father says and then Ada is now his wife.

queensmith:
You also know nothing of common law cohabitation

which one is common law cohabitation? You learnt that in school?

jmoore: Hello!!!!!! a man cannot be living with a woman he is not married to and still not engage in sex. They will do it.

Inked_Nerd:

How the motha flippin' hell would you know? Do you speak for ALL men?!?!? No, you obviously don't! I suggest you take your 'hello' elsewhere since you cannot speak for all men on this matter.[/font][/size]

I do not need to speak for all men, a man cannot be cohabiting with a woman,sleeping in the same room and still not have sex. Tell your story to someone else

God please save our generation

Hardunnii: God please save our generation

My sister it is beyond redemption, the entire batch is hellbound.