I have been dating this guy for 9 years now, but he is so slow about the issue of marriag, we started dating when he was still in the university, and he is already working now, i have ask him to come and see my parent , am not seein any moves. And am not gettin younger. What should i do. Esther

ask him if he's serious and wants to go on and if he gives you a shady reply dump him. if he gives you a solid reply tell his what you just posted here about you not getting any younger just dont pressure him

9yrs?
Geez!
brb!

slimyem: 9yrs?
Geez!
brb!

wetin hapen wit 9yrs? U wan criticise abi? @op. Seriously, Hw many times did he sleep wit u during dat 9yrs?

kemda_esther@yahoo.com:
I have been dating this guy for 9 years now, but he is so slow about the issue of marriag, we started dating when he was still in the university, and he is already working now, i have ask him to come and see my parent , am not seein any moves. And am not gettin younger. What should i do. Esther

lol @ the bolded

9 years no marriage? and you came to Nairaland to ask what you should do? Don't you have friends and family? dont your parents ask you when you are going to give em grand kids? So you are letting this nugga bang you for 9 years and you couldn't decide to either stay or leave? come on men!

Like 123456789 yrs? U gat me speechless babes. One tin I kno is, If e wants it, e'l b d one makin d move not u.

bennyraz:
@op. Seriously, Hw many times did he sleep wit u during dat 9yrs?

or maybe he's actin dis way cos she refused him sex durin dat 9 yrs, hmm.

kemda_esther@yahoo.com:
I have been dating this guy for 9 years now, but he is so slow about the issue of marriag, we started dating when he was still in the university, and he is already working now, i have ask him to come and see my parent
, am not seein any moves. And am not gettin younger. What should i do. Esther

You just proposed to him, indirectly. And 9yrs? OMG. I know how hard you're gonna find it to move on after 9yrs "depending on your age" but girl that's what you need to do. You cant mandate a man to marry you, he will always use that against you in future

Goldieluks: 9 years?? As in you stayed with a guy for this long, who is not yet married to you??
9 years of fornication. Am not being judgmental just stating the obvious.
I don't think any advise from NL would work the magic. You know what you are into and only you can tell if it is going to lead to marriage or not. Oh dear, some girls out there creates and nurture heartbreak and disaster for/by themselves.

chineke! this is sense raise to power two. But goldie i no no say u get sense reach like this?? D poster might be a mumu raise to power 4 for starting up another thread with d same topic and lyrics

cowgurl: or maybe he's actin dis way cos she refused him sex durin dat 9 yrs, hmm.

which man go even date woman 4 two weeks and hin no go wan see her pant?

kemda_esther@yahoo.com:
I have been dating this guy for 9 years now, but he is so slow about the issue of marriag, we started dating when he was still in the university, and he is already working now, i have ask him to come and see my parent , am not seein any moves. And am not gettin younger. What should i do. Esther

you started dating when he was still in the university? OP, have you gone to your OWN university during this 9yrs.

If not, he is NOT gonna propose to you. You have to make yourself worthy of his proposal.

SEcond, if you have gone to your OWN University, didnt you meet the ones that are not so slow in the issue of marriage?

bennyraz:
wetin hapen wit 9yrs? U wan criticise abi?

you no see as i no fit talk anything?
O boy,this one give me shut up straight!

slimyem: you no see as i no fit talk anything?
O boy,this one give me shut up straight!

maybe if i give u fish chop, u go get inspiration.

My dear,i dont knw what to advice u,but i will say,why not tell him its ova.to see if he will come lookin 4 u... 9yrs is quite much.

Thanks @ Tasandra.

@op:9years? hmm..
Why dont u just talk to him about it? Try and find out where the relationship is heading, that time is no longer on ur side and you want to know whats up. Pls do not keep quiet o.. Ask. Talk to him, so uld know ur stands.

9yrs?
Mehn dis dude s tired, he s found anoda gal, don't b surprised in few mnths tym

O boy ehhhh!! OP, I feel sorry for you. And this issue must have been annoying you for most of the 9 years. You are very patient or

@op, did i hear u ryt? Did u say 9yrs?! ......wow. Babe, get d hell outta dat relationship, it's goin no where, get a lyf, b4 he dumps u lyk a hot plate!

OP, 9 years is more than enough for him to study character, he can write a book on you sef and win Ph.D. Tell him you're leaving, if he cannot give you a concrete reason for no marriage, bounce. See, you don't need a lot of cash to settle down, if you're honest. It's kids, not marriage that is expensive.
And for the rest of you, na only 9 years. My mum's meeting women, 2 have their kids dating each other for 17 bleeding years! The guy still has not proposed, see the shame his mum uses to attend the meeting, while the girl's mum has given him ultimatum of August this year or get lost permanently.

kemda_esther@yahoo.com:
I have been dating this guy for 9 years now, but he is so slow about the issue of marriag, we started dating when he was still in the university, and he is already working now, i have ask him to come and see my parent , am not seein any moves. And am not gettin younger. What should i do. Esther