ronkebp:

It is a big lie!!!!!!! having a job is not a reason not to visit your hubby in the office, i will continue to say it "THERE IS NOTHING WRONG, IN A WIFE PAYING HER HUBBY A LUNCH, PERSONAL OR EMERGENCY VISIT" in his office. MY mum never used to go to my dad's office for anything, whatever they had to discuss about would be done at home, and my dad will never stop complaining that his wife never comes to his office to say hi. Some men are just full of themselves, if my hubby was the president of a Nation, i would go and pay him a visit in his office...whether he likes it or not. He has no say in that.....if he embarasses me this much in his office, he will hate the day he said "I DO " to me.....

First, whats the Big lie?

Second going to visit your spouse in the office is highly unprofessional, Unless its a mechanic workshop, bakery or Carpenters shed.


Why would any engaged woman go to her husbands place of work when she has her own job. What would she tell her employers she is going to do for 2hours? And what reason would you give to want to see a man you saw 5hours ago and told you he was going to work

Do they have visiting day in office?

What the woman did was absolutely wrong. If you must go visit your husband at work, wait at the parking lot or at the reception, How can she demand to come into the office, Next thing she would ask for his work computer password to ensure he isnt on dating sites.

NONSENSE

dayokanu:

First, whats the Big lie?

Second going to visit your spouse in the office is highly unprofessional, Unless its a mechanic workshop, bakery or Carpenters shed.


Why would any engaged woman go to her husbands place of work when she has her own job. What would she tell her employers she is going to do for 2hours? And what reason would you give to want to see a man you saw 5hours ago and told you he was going to work

Do they have visiting day in office?

What the woman did was absolutely wrong. If you must go visit your husband at work, wait at the parking lot or at the reception, How can she demand to come into the office, Next thing she would ask for his work computer password to ensure he isnt on dating sites.

NONSENSE

Whatever....whenever you get married [that is if you will], confine your wife to the walls of your kitchen and bedroom...infact do not let her step out of the house....because you do not want any woman "spying" on you or visiting you in your office....Abegiiii....better go to your village and pick a wife that you can order around and who does not have a mind of her own, who has to take permission before she does anything. Lobaatan!!!

ronkebp:

Whatever....whenever you get married [that is if you will], confine your wife to the walls of your kitchen and bedroom...infact do not let her step out of the house....because you do not want any woman "spying" on you or visiting you in your office....Abegiiii....better go to your village and pick a wife that you can order around and who does not have a mind of her own, who has to take permission before she does anything. Lobaatan!!!

When I get married, I would marry a secure woman, Who has a job and is busy not the lazy housewives who have nothing else to think about aside gossips and random thoughts of whom husband is cheating with, who doesnt need to tiptoe to my office neither do i have to do the same cos I 100% would trust whom I marry.

If I have any reason not to trust her it must be based on factual stuff not because she is in her office with her colleague or boss, not because she sat next to a man in church, Not because she came home at 7:35pm instead of 7:30. Lobaatan

dayokanu:

When I get married, I would marry a secure woman, Who has a job and is busy not the lazy housewives who have nothing else to think about aside gossips and random thoughts of whom husband is cheating with, who doesnt need to tiptoe to my office neither do i have to do the same cos I 100% would trust whom I marry.

If I have any reason not to trust her it must be based on factual stuff not because she is in her office with her colleague or boss, not because she sat next to a man in church, Not because she came home at 7:35pm instead of 7:30. Lobaatan

Good for you!!!!! i wish you well.

ronkebp:

Good for you!!!!! i wish you well.

I also wish you well on yor visit to your husbands office

dayokanu:

I also wish you well on yor visit to your husbands office

Thank you oooo jare, my hubby does not care for trivial things like this, we would just enter the bathroom and do one round....lobaa kpari!!!

ronkebp:

Thank you oooo jare, my hubby does not care for trivial things like this, we would just enter the bathroom and do one round....lobaa kpari!!!

the ronkus ronkus!!! I hail thee ooo. Ur head dey dia gidigba....

maybe if they sack the husband for bringing drama to the office ronkebp will be happy. she will have him at home where she can watch him 24/7

As hard as I tried to listen to Bidemi, I couldn’t help but sneak peeks at my watch. I felt for my friend, but her situation was a no brainer. The thing is, she’d recently found out her husband had been having an affair. As expected, Bidemi was completely hurt and embarrassed to find out he’d been cheating on her for the past 3years. She knew they’d been having problems, but she didn’t think things were that bad!

You see, 4 years ago her husband had been transferred to Abuja. Their marriage survived the distance for almost a year before cracks began to appear. Everything had come to a head a few days ago when she’d received a call from a hospital in Lagos asking her to come there as her husband had just been admitted. She’d thought it was a mistake because her husband was in Abuja. However, when she’d tried to contact him with no luck, she decided to go to the hospital and was shocked to find it was indeed her husband who was on admission. She held off asking for explanations until he'd recovered.

2days ago she’d left the office early to attend her daughter’s ‘Parent Teacher’ day and decided to stop by the hospital on her way to the school, but was unable to reach her husband on the phone- he’d requested she call him before she made her way to the hospital. She’d thought that was strange- but then again he was strange like that. However, nothing could have prepared her for what she saw when she walked into her husband’s hospital room - a slender light skinned girl bent over him, planting kisses all over his face. The girl quickly introduced herself to my friend as ‘the girlfriend’ who thought Bidemi was ‘the younger sister’ who had been taking care of him. Bidemi stood speechless as ‘The girlfriend’ proceeded to thank her for taking care of him, explaining that she’d been away on an extended all inclusive holiday which ‘he’ had paid for . This was how my friend found out her husband had been transferred back to Lagos 3 years ago and had been playing house with ‘the girlfriend’.

Me: Bidemi believe me, I know how you feel- but............

Read the rest here http://ezer-meet..com/2012/06/physician-heal-thyself.html

@Ronke,u're totally on point,no sane man should treat his wife like that forget those unnecessary excuses DAYOKANU is making,they're just uncalled for,simple!Call a spade a spade

all d stuffs Dayomaku n Coogar re saying is just pure talk! d man DOESN'T respect his wife n marriage! no sane spouse would leave his/her better half outside for 30mins wit d opp sex in d office! i'm sure if d story was reversed, almost every1 would say d woman is cheatin! i c nothing absolutely wrong in visiting each other in d office! i wonder d kind of marriage that ends @ d entrance of d office n resumes @ d exit!

ronkebp, i de gbadun ur style! lol @ catching a lil fun in d bathroom of d office! e go relief d guy from stress n make im head clear wella!

Dayokanu and coogar are just being unreasonably obtuse. It was clearly stated that the man's office was called and he did not respond. His door was knocked and the handle rattled to no response and they are there talking about due process.

bukatyne: all d stuffs Dayomaku n Coogar re saying is just pure talk! d man DOESN'T respect his wife n marriage! no sane spouse would leave his/her better half outside for 30mins wit d opp sex in d office! i'm sure if d story was reversed, almost every1 would say d woman is cheatin! i c nothing absolutely wrong in visiting each other in d office! i wonder d kind of marriage that ends @ d entrance of d office n resumes @ d exit!

Ask them my sister!!!

Lord_Reed: Dayokanu and coogar are just being unreasonably obtuse. It was clearly stated that the man's office was called and he did not respond.[b] His door was knocked and the handle rattled to no response [/b]and they are there talking about due process.

Where did you get the bolded info from?

I dont understand, i for one would be very happy to have my wife drop by my office for lunch visits. She's supposed to be your helpmeet so why is your office a no-go area for her?

bukatyne: all d stuffs Dayomaku n Coogar re saying is just pure talk! d man DOESN'T respect his wife n marriage! no sane spouse would leave his/her better half outside for 30mins wit d opp sex in d office! i'm sure if d story was reversed, almost every1 would say d woman is cheatin! i c nothing absolutely wrong in visiting each other in d office! i wonder d kind of marriage that ends @ d entrance of d office n resumes @ d exit!

the issue is not about respect. the real mccoy is if the husband has
cheated on his wife like the wife has accused him on this thread....

Lord_Reed: Dayokanu and coogar are just being unreasonably obtuse. It was clearly stated that the man's office was called and he did not respond. His door was knocked and the handle rattled to no response and they are there talking about due process.

you're a tool!
so because the man did not open his door for 30 mins must mean
he was cheating? that proof would stand in court as infidelity?

davidylan: I dont understand, i for one would be very happy to have my wife drop by my office for lunch visits. She's supposed to be your helpmeet so why is your office a no-go area for her?

In your current office can anyone else come to visit you and go past the car park?

Otosdd: I went to my husband's office to see him only for[b] me to find out that the door leading to his office was locked.[/b] The security had to call him that the wife is around [/b]that he should open the office door for me to come in. [b]It took him 30 minutes for him to open the door only for me to enter the office I met a girl in the office. He has been telling me the girl is just a friend he has nothing to do with her, and that any time he is in the office he likes locking the door. But it's not my firs time of going to the office - the door is always open.

Dayokanu I hope you took note of the bolded statements.

@coogar
Keep playing devil's advocate I guess it suits you.

Lord_Reed:

Dayokanu I hope you took note of the bolded statements.

So where did you get handle was rattled from? Did the OP tell you that personally?

Otosdd: U could see guilt on my husband face even dat of d girls face both of them were uncomfortable wen they saw me. Even right now my husband is not taking with me its as if nothing happen business as usual. I am really unhappy about everytin dat happen, u know wen u have this trust about ur husband dat he cannot cheat on u but only for u 2 find out dat he is not wat u think. Its realy painful. I dont know wat 2 do i am stil crying uptil now d painful tin is dat i am pregnat. Its just 2 much for me 2 handle.

Some men are goats! You better pack of that house sharp sharp otherwise you will be infected with HIV. If you are christian, the bible supports divorce on ground of fornication. Considering your pregnancy, i know it might not be easy but be strong, God will see you through. I advise you rent an apartment but allow him to come over to see his child on appointment. Please pray well and be sure before you marry again.

dayokanu:

Its called an office, and family members are not allowed to barge into any office anytime they want.

Which office do you know where your wife, mother, children can just walk in anytime they want?

In many offices I know they wife wont even be allowed to get past the security guard

Crap!

dayokanu:

So where did you get handle was rattled from? Did the OP tell you that personally?

Gosh you are so obtuse its amazing. How does someone find out a door is locked? Is it not by trying the handle?

davidylan: I dont understand, i for one would be very happy to have my wife drop by my office for lunch visits. She's supposed to be your helpmeet so why is your office a no-go area for her?

dave hi! ow ll u understand when u don't know d current trend? d wedding ends @ d entrance of d gate n after work, u pick it up @ gate on ur way home! lol! officially u re single every working hours! any marriage contracted then is valid! i really fear for our generation o! take care!

Lord_Reed:
@coogar
Keep playing devil's advocate I guess it suits you.

this is not about playing devil's advocate....it's what it is.
there's no ample evidence that the man was cheating or engaged
in any sexual congress. the op is simply
insecure and there are holes in her story.

dayokanu:

In your current office can anyone else come to visit you and go past the car park?

Absolutely. When my former gf came to town i simply placed a request for a free pass for her and it was granted under 1 hr by virtue of her being my significant other. My office was not a problem and everyone accorded her the respect of being "oga's" woman.
The only family members not allowed (except for one day a yr) are kids under 12 and that is because we work in a huge industrial chemical complex for safety reasons.

coogar:

this is not about playing devil's advocate....it's what it is.
there's no ample evidence that the man was cheating or engaged
in any sexual congress. the op is simply
insecure and there are holes in her story.

huh? He refused to acknowledge the presence of his wife for 30 whole minutes and it turns out a woman was in his office all that time? Seriously and the problem is all in the OPs head?
If you came to see your wife and she ignored you outside her office for 30 mins to attend to another man you would merely shrug it off?

No matter your job, your spouse's needs MUST always come first.

davidylan:

huh? He refused to acknowledge the presence of his wife for 30 whole minutes and it turns out a woman was in his office all that time? Seriously and the problem is all in the OPs head?
If you came to see your wife and she ignored you outside her office for 30 mins to attend to another man you would merely shrug it off?

No matter your job, your spouse's needs MUST always come first.

i wouldn't even turn myself into an august visitor in my wife's office...i always
let my host know i'm on my way so i am always expected...a fact you guys are ignoring.
even if i show up cos of emergency and i am stood up for 30 whole minutes, infidelity
would not be on my mind....

how easy it is for any individual to feel comfortable cheating for 30 mins knowing the
spouse is outside waiting. i would be more suspicious if the wait was 2-5 mins than
a wait of 30 whole minutes. it's either the op exaggerated the waiting time or the
whole story is a fiction taken from papa ajasco tv episodes.

I installed spy software for android and catch him red handed.

confrnt d girl giv her serious warning tel dat nest time u wll see her close ur husband acid wll be her marycare dat day.

chioma.t:
confrnt d girl giv her serious warning tel dat nest time u wll see her close ur husband acid wll be her marycare dat day.

You need help, dont go around bathing people with acid oh, you will end up in jail and your husband will marry one of those girls, Sort your issues with your husband and stop harrasing girls all over. Bath her with acid ke? I fear your mind oh

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