true and too bad nigerian technology is too far behind. just a little pin tugged somewhere in the office or a little button pinned inside his boxer could
safe a soul. now she just got to shine her eyes...put her tech eyes on.

e-herbal:
What's actually killing you is wishing that you actually caught them pants down,than the insinuations and maybe's goin on in your heart right now.let it slide. even if he did it,there's no telling,cause you can't prove it!I'm very sorry bout The situation you find yourself,once again,let it slide,i'm sure that kind of Nonsense won't occur again..best of luck.

e-herbal:
What's actually killing you is wishing that you actually caught them pants down,than the insinuations and maybe's goin on in your heart right now.let it slide. even if he did it,there's no telling,cause you can't prove it!I'm very sorry bout The situation you find yourself,once again,let it slide,i'm sure that kind of Nonsense won't occur again..best of luck.

eggy: doubt if cheating has anyfin to do with the rate @which you oblige his sexual needs... as a married man my self I find it quite boring for my wife to wanna make love simply cus i want to on the other hand it a lot more sexy and exhilarating wen she wants me cus shes Hot and all
Before i digress, a man will stray cus he strays not necessary bcus he was denied sex by his spouse.
have considered how much passion you guys share(note sexual intercourse aint passion oh).
I will suggest you consider the encounter a blip and move on to making your home a haven of passion..
wish you all the best.

This is how we know them.If you caught ur wife in Op's situation,will u jus call it a blip and move on??MOTHERFUCKING HYPOCRITE.People like you disgust me.

My apologies for the insult,but would you give this kind of advice if it were a guy?People should learn to be sincere.

OP,I say bring down the roof if it will make u better.That way,ur hubby will realise u are hurt and ask him,if he would be finding it funny if he caught you in same scenario. If you take it lying low,then he'll think u don't mind so he'll continue in his sin more comfortably.Next tym might be ur matrimonial bed..

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how these roaches keep finding their way into serious issues,beats me. will you leave this place before you're squashed,Imbec.ile!

@lexoria, thats d way it is, a man can love his wife n still cheat, cos we reason with our d1ckk, but for women, its heart

What could make poster happy?
1.The hubby admits his 'stray'-CONFESSION
2.The hubby genuinely apologises and seek to make her happy-REPENTANCE...even if he's to carry the game faaaaaaaaaaar away.
3.She be willing to let go of the memory-FORGIVENESS.
afterall,He is your man,even when his eyes and mind strays,He is still your property which no other woman can own.
Try that and see.

[quote author=MRbrownJAY]@OP
can you pls share with us what you said when he finally opened the door after 30mins. dint you ask questions? didnt he give you any replies. tell us exactly what is reason for waiting 30mins before opening the door was.

They ve said it all, dont react in anger so dat u will not regret ur actions. Just try to calm urself down and act as if notin is wrong, i know it hurts but it hurts more wen u hear gossip outside courtsey of u trying to share it wit friends. Just quit thinkin about the incident and think about dose gud times to make u happy cos even if what re thinkin dat happends, it has happened u cant change it. Sorry o o o dont let people know dat u re worried by ur look. Put ur self togeda.

lurkee:

Yes because if I came out in 5 mins smelling of someone else he would know immediately. Also I would need to put on my bra, arrange my hair make sure nothing looks suspicious. If I was in a meeting and my husband came to my place of work, I will not let him wait 30 mins without an explanation. From the sounds of it, he was in a meeting with one person so why could he not excuse himself to tell his wife to wait if he was not doing something suspicious in the meeting so serious that it required a locked door.

Even when you wake up in the morning, brush, take a shower, iron your clothes and dress up does it take up to 30mins

So fixing bra and arranging hair is what takes 30mins.

Why should you rush out of a meeting to go see your husband if you are not suffering from Guilty conscience?

dayokanu: Try and be logical here

I am not in the room with them

But when your husband was told you were at the door, it took him 30mins to open the door, Do you think if he was sleeping with the girl, He would wait for that long to open the door?

Do you have any evidence like ruffled clothes or any hard evidence, A "Look of guilt" is too subjective to be depended on.

Imagine is someone says "Otosdd, from your looks I suspect you have been cheating"

How smart does that sound

You are really funny. How can you even reason like this? 30mins and you say nothing was going on?

It was obvious both of them were in a panic and didn't know what to do.

DO NOT DO Å THING. Go on as usual. Never ever cry. Do not grin, just smile often as if you are amused. Serve him food and smile. You will see results very soon. But sha if your husband comes to NL he might see dis. It works 1000%. The man go fear he will not want to eat your food or sleep near ǚ if he does he does not have Å guilty conscience. Don't shout ask look sad ever and always look nice with perfume and leave your house to see friends and find Å job. Most men cheat even if they don't mean to.FACT

@origin that method is outdated, every sharp guy now knows d silence treatment, and am sure op's bobo is a sharp guy too

bookface:
No man who's indeed cheating on his wife would wait 30 minutes before opening the door if his wife shows up. what would he be doing in 30 minutes? wearing his trousers? going for a round two? waiting for the girl to dress up and make up?

If you showed up to my office unannounced and i happen to be busy at that hour, then you must be prepared to wait. would you have assumed you husband was gay if you met a guy in the office in the place of a lady?

i suppose you are probably just hyperventilating unnecessarily and this is further worsened by many nairalanders some of whom already foolishly advised you leave your marriage. . .over what? cos your Husband locked his office door? or cos he locked his door with a lady inside?

Should it even take much common sense to reason that anyone who plans to cheat on you will probably not touch you with his "stick" especially while you are pregnant? why can't people just completely trust their partners, even if dumbly?

dis is de most sensible advice here,
i am not sayin he is cheatin or not but if i am at work and u show up, yu will have to wait, whats de layout of yur hussy office is it at night dat de security had to talk to him directly??
dont yu have a mobile phone to talk to yur man rather allowin an outsider get to know whats up?

i am so sorry de way u feel right now as i cant imagine how yu re right now even wit yur present conditon... so sorry dear but u have to calm down so u dont make mistake and drag yourself and family to de mud,
yu are bound to make some regretable mistakes wen u act in a rush.

if yu can, calm down and den wen u re relatively ok, yu talk with yur husband.

moreso, u have to know that if yur husband cheats, its not just abt how many time yu do it . . . thats men for yu but be sure yu re not yu dont raise false allegation and yu can only do dis wen u act calmly and sensible.

look at my signature below

bookface:
No man who's indeed cheating on his wife would wait 30 minutes before opening the door if his wife shows up. what would he be doing in 30 minutes? wearing his trousers? going for a round two? waiting for the girl to dress up and make up?

If you showed up to my office unannounced and i happen to be busy at that hour, then you must be prepared to wait. would you have assumed you husband was gay if you met a guy in the office in the place of a lady?

i suppose you are probably just hyperventilating unnecessarily and this is further worsened by many nairalanders some of whom already foolishly advised you leave your marriage. . .over what? cos your Husband locked his office door? or cos he locked his door with a lady inside?

Should it even take much common sense to reason that anyone who plans to cheat on you will probably not touch you with his "stick" especially while you are pregnant? why can't people just completely trust their partners, even if dumbly?

I pray ur wife does same thing Op husband has done and I hope you trust her that nothing was happening,it was just a meeting.Any man would be doing his wife and his cocubines so don't even go there.

Op, get your hands on a copy of Paulicap and Perpetual to see how the Queen Nwokoye character
handled the situation.

@op

There is no sufficient evidence to show that your husband was/is/will cheat on you since you didnt catch him in the act.Case thrown out and your husby is hereby discharged and acquitted.

It is indeed a difficult situation.
I can understand the OP point of view.
Despite the fact that nothing may have happen,i would really be hurt if i were in her shoes.
I just hope, she finds a way of solving it amicably.

if you want to enjoy happiness in ur home, pls believe ALL d silly excuses from your hubby concerning what happened even if you know very well that he is lying to you.
try to love and respect him more because two wrongs can neva make a ryt. I WISH YOU WELL!

I found it for you Op

Paulicap And Perpetual -- Part 1

http://www.bunitv.com/viewvideo/252/drama-pt-1/paulicap-and-perpetual-part-1



Paulicap And Perpetual -- Part 2

http://www.bunitv.com/index.php/videos/viewvideo/1663/drama-pt-1/components/com_hwdphotoshare/xml/albums/autoviewer/index.php?option=com_hwdvideoshare&task=viewvideo&Itemid=79&video_id=253

Lexoria:



This is how we know them.If you caught ur wife in Op's situation,will u jus call it a blip and move on??MOTHERFUCKING HYPOCRITE.People like you disgust me.

My apologies for the insult,but would you give this kind of advice if it were a guy?People should learn to be sincere.

OP,I say bring down the roof if it will make u better.That way,ur hubby will realise u are hurt and ask him,if he would be finding it funny if he caught you in same scenario. If you take it lying low,then he'll think u don't mind so he'll continue in his sin more comfortably.Next tym might be ur matrimonial bed..

y apologise for comments you had the chance of editing or even deleting.
bringing down the roof as u suggested will only succeed in sending him out further...like i said earlier a man will stray cus he strays so all the roof bringing down et all will not change a fin. everyman responds to peace in his home..... mind you the OP comment isnt even a direct indication that the guy was even cheating.

~Bluetooth:

@op
There is no sufficient evidence to show that your husband was/is/will cheat on you since you didnt catch him in the act.Case thrown out and your husby is hereby discharged and acquitted.

lol, i beg to differ, there are substantial evidences that points towards the fact that something fishy happened in that room, unless the husband can provide evidence of what EXACTLY they were doing locked inside for 30mins. so if husband was to be questioned under oath, then his wife would certainly find the truth once and for all about her husband's infidelity.
so the accused SHOULD stand trial.

many people are found guilty of murder, even though a body or murder weapon havent been found....... so i doubt this wife needs to catch her husband on top of this lady before confirming that there is/was foul play.

There are different reasons for wanting to lock the door use to have a boss. Who like locking his doors cos he doesn't want people barging into his office especially since he drinks during office hours and there his this other one likes locking his door each time he receives large sum of money guy like money die in my own opinion anything could have been going on aside sex n that office so my two cent if he says he likes locking his door then so be it until you can prove otherwise and pls don't forget ur condition its not worth jeopardizing so pls do exercise caution and restraint

jennykadry: What was the girl's body language like when you walked in?

Starting point!

phadat: There are different reasons for wanting to lock the door use to have a boss. Who like locking his doors cos he doesn't want people barging into his office especially since he drinks during office hours and there his this other one likes locking his door each time he receives large sum of money guy like money die in my own opinion anything could have been going on aside sex n that office so my two cent if he says he likes locking his door then so be it until you can prove otherwise and pls don't forget ur condition its not worth jeopardizing so pls do exercise caution and restraint

did you miss the part where the guard phoned the husband to tell him that his wife was at the door and that he should come and open it?
this was not arm robbers, it was his wife knocking.

pls care to tell us what could be happening inside when a man needs 30mns to open the door to his office, while he knows fully well that his wife is knocking outside?

i just have a question: if d OP's hubby met d OP in d same situation, would everyone esp d guys give him d same ad? i wonder to wat happened to 'do unto others (including ur wife/husby) as u want dem to do unto u'! @OP: pray n ask God for wisdom on how to handle d situation. it is well wit u. @al d guys in d house: ow many re christians? is this wat d Bible teaches u if a sister in ur church comes to u for advice on such an issue, is this wat u ll tell her? it is well o! i fear for our generation's marriages!

Bookface

God bless you with that your comment

Those who engages in premarital sex are more likely to lead adulterous life.were u married a virgin?do u have sex with ur husband before wedding?does ur husband trust you?ur sincere answers to those questions will help u to handle the situation.

^^^ marrying as a virgin has absolutely no barring on a man's fidelity, grow up!

bukatyne: i just have a question: if d OP's hubby met d OP in d same situation, would everyone esp d guys give him d same ad? i wonder to wat happened to 'do unto others (including ur wife/husby) as u want dem to do unto u'! @OP: pray n ask God for wisdom on how to handle d situation. it is well wit u. @al d guys in d house: ow many re christians? is this wat d Bible teaches u if a sister in ur church comes to u for advice on such an issue, is this wat u ll tell her? it is well o! i fear for our generation's marriages!

sista, dont underestimate the hypocrisy of our NL brothas. if the wifey was found in that same position, they will be quick to cry foul and call for DIVORCE! lol.

@op in case you happen to read this, know that your marriage just got to a critical juncture where you can make or mar it. irrespective of the diverse opinions you have received from this thread your husband remains human and he's bound to "cross the line", its now up to decide what to do, but make sure you don't end up as the laughing stock.

OP,

Does your husband have a phone, Did you call him before going? Or why were you sneaking on him?

In those 30mins you were waiting did you call him?

Assuming it was a man that was locked with him in the office would you also assume he is GAY?

So anytime your husband is together with another woman, He is definitely phocking her. If thats how much you distrust your husband why did you marry him?

Maybe you should just tell him to quit working and sit at home, dont go to church, dont go anywhere he stands a chance of meeting women cos he might most likely cheat

Final question: Do you have a job? I mean to have time to go sneaking up on ppl.

I know pregnancy involves a lot of hormonal pressure thats why ppl are advising you to clm down and reason logically

MRbrownJAY: ^^^ marrying as a virgin as absolutely no barring on a man's fidelity, grow up!



sista, dont underestimate the hypocrisy of our NL brothas. if the wifey was found in that same position, they will be quick to cry foul and call for DIVORCE! lol.

First of all, Only an insecure man and a wussy would be sneaking up to his wives place of work to do Inspector gadget.

Second The wife has a phone where he can call.

3rd the security tell you your wife is busy, Why would my mind start thinking "Ok, My wife is phocking her boss?" Unless you knowingly married a LovePeddler.

4th You would still need evidence and not just throw accusations out there. One thing is if you accuse someone and get it wrong, the person would feel you might not even catch them when they do wrong

Laalamed: Those who engages in premarital sex are more likely to lead adulterous life.were u married a virgin?do u have sex with ur husband before wedding?does ur husband trust you?ur sincere answers to those questions will help u to handle the situation.

Ode! In your mind now you have made sense? MU MU

30mins to open the door, is he casting the evil out of her? hes fucking it ..reality bites girl, i repeat hes fucking her .

nefertitiram:

Ode! In your mind now you have made sense? MU MU

Free the guy, hes entitled to his opinion, or you feelin guilty