There's only one answer to this multiple-choice question of wondering whether your husband is cheating on you or not.

Your post seems to be asking "Is he really cheating on me?"

Answers
A. Yes
B. No

The probability of the answer being "Yes" here is greater than that of "No" but you haven't enough evidence to conclude so more facts are needed.

An office in which security man had to go let him know that you are around.
Girl I ain't painting the truth for you. If you find out that he is not cheating on you, you will feel happy and if you find out that he is cheating on you you still have the power to not allow it bring you down. The question should be how do you handle this without hurting your self in your pregnant state? I am not going to kill my self over a cheating man because a good number of men just can't handle their testosterone.If I were you I will first condition my mind in such a way that it will not hurt me.
"You choose to be happy or unhappy"
If you allow it to have you wailing and crying as you are doing now, it can only bring you down and may affect your Baby (God forbid). If you condition your mind positively and decide to be strong about this, you will conquer it smiling. Why kill yourself over a man having his good time and good feelings

The next thing to do should be to keep your eyes open and get enough facts that will determine your next move towards saving your marriage from your husband's roving d*ck (that is if he is being unfaithful for sure)and the straying chick. Girl quit crying like a baby, wipe your tears and do your homework.

If you find out the truth, you have the power to not let some fun seekers bring you down as well as save your marriage. If you work on it and can't seem to salvadge it, you also have the power to do what you finally make up your mind to do. The choice is yours to leave, the choice is yours to stay. Hilary Clinton took back her straying man and is happy with him today. Strauss Kahn's wife is still with her husband [i]who confessed to having a mutual thing with another woman/woman herself accused him of s-e-xual assault(only both of them know the truth.
[/i]If Hilary had gone crying out her eyes like you are doing and left Bill Clinton to Lewinsky, they will not be having a good marriage today. If you can't handle it right now, don't work on your marriage. Pack your bags tomorrow and leave him for the lady friend. I am sure that she will thank you for that. If it's redeemable, work on it and save it, if you can't redeem it----leave it, I will be happy to see you happy in another marriage.

Vicoloni

be very careful about the advices people will throw at you. Dont forget that nairaland plays host to varied personalities. The divorcees, the happily married, seriously searching, hurting and all manner and such category of folks will naturally offer advice that will ensure you join their rank.

Real talk par excellence

madam,just accept fate.its quite unfortunate.But do this find time to discuss it with him,avice him with bible and pray for him.telling him the implication.meanwhile be very careful not to overeact else u spoil the whole thing.

dayokanu:

Several reasons for a boss to lock the door when with a colleague male or female.

They might be discussing some business sensitive issue,
He might be scolding her and would let others to hear his voice or what the subject matter is,
He might be discussing some people at the place of work,
He might be discussing promotion of other colleagues- Who to promote and who to sack

There are a million and one things that can be discussed and needs to be discussed behind closed doors.

Do you work in an office environment? Has there been a time your boss or colleague told you to come into his/her office and shut the door?

The fishy part is a man thats phocking his colleague, If they told him his wife is around, Most times he would panic and not take up to 30mins before attending to you, But if his hands are clean he would see no reasons to hurry with the colleague

you forgot to add, sharing deal money or falsifying audit figures, always behind close doors.
i think the poster is just paranoid, ive not seen anything to suspect cheating, are you 3?
forget the expression on their faces because they may think you will think wot ur thinking hence the ''it is not what you think expression''
moreso i expect you to be old enough to pick up little signs of phocking. or ur were just intimidated by the ebullient beauty he was with and the jealousy inside you drew the conclusion of cheating.
next time ignore Nollywood but apply common sense.
what time was the incident? working hours? highly unlikely if he is not the owner of the firm.

My dear, u just av to take em easy, advise him to always play safe and most importantly, dnt 4get to always put that as ur prayer piont... Come to tink of it.... How many sincere men can one truly point out in dis modern world, where even the so called babes won't get their eyes of this married men... They kip temptin them, putin on mini skirts to their offices in the name of they need to be helped by this men.... Yea... That is the *help they get* some babes ar out there to destroy peoples home..... So beta be kiaful... That's ma piece..... Shallom

Or better still, email me: ninathespiritualist@gmail.com, I bet u u'll get over dis, u'll see with ur own eyes how ur husband will start detesting that girl and finally becomes urs

How many men did you sleep with before marrying him?
This is his turn.
Besides you might just be an over weight lousy nag of a housewife whose hobby is sneaking. You didnt tell us why you went to his office unannounced. Did the security man call you and told you about them being inside? Did you bribe him to do that? Women can be paranoid. Dont act based on assumptions.

At poster, I'm at a loss for words of advice. At least seeing all the others have said.
But like some said, there is not much evidence that your husband was cheating (he could equally be cheating). somehow i believe you are having issues with insecurity. Why?
As a "loving and trusting wife" why didn't you call to let him know you where coming? why didn't call when you found the door locked (and the security)?
why haven't you asked him for an explanation before coming to NL (at least your post does not indicate that you have talked to him)?

Now this is what I think; you have been suspecting hubby of cheating and you wanted to catch him in the act. Now you that you have "caught" him, what will you do? Like always tell my sister, "why give yourself High BP, if catch him what will you do other than shouting and ranting. If you walk away from the marriage, he will simply bring in the next available woman"

I'm not condoning cheating, neither am i here to encourage any lady/man to go around looking for evidence that there spouse is cheating.

If I were your husband and I know you are sneaking up on me, walahi I will make you wait for more than two hours even with my lady friend. Cos even if I rush out to meet you with a lady in tow, you will still accuse me of cheating. So let it really seem as if am CHEATING. fact/fiction, you have your mind to make up.

leave NL alone and go work on your marriage, yourself, and the baby in your womb.

The Die is already cast. Your husband is a cheat & needs to be dealt with.

Am finding it hard to believe that she waited upto 30mins cos how can someone wait for that long without calling her own husband on phone? its not plausible to me. There is a possibility that the timing was exagerated. If the Oga could answer a securityman's call how about his own wife's? How can a wife who forgot to call before coming still forget to call when d husband failed to open his door for that long? How I wish we can hear d otherside of d story cos I believe that it's not all men that are cheats. The husband may hv looked funny cos he knew what she maybe thinking. Mind you, am nt making excuses for cheats but the evidence seems doctored to me.

dayokanu: Try and be logical here

I am not in the room with them

But when your husband was told you were at the door, it took him 30mins to open the door, Do you think if he was sleeping with the girl, He would wait for that long to open the door?

Do you have any evidence like ruffled clothes or any hard evidence, A "Look of guilt" is too subjective to be depended on.

Imagine is someone says "Otosdd, from your looks I suspect you have been cheating"

How smart does that sound

Yes dear. I dont think it would have taken your husband 30mins to open the door if he was really banging ang yanking the girl. He would have used that time to hide the girl na. Just calm down and reason with your husband. You only saw what u wanted to see. Just discus it maturedly with your hubby dear. All might not be as it seems.

@OP how did you know the door was lockd? Did you try opening the door? Did you knock? Why didnt you call your husband yourself?
There is something wrong with the post

pretend as if nothing happened if you can and dont talk about it to him if you have not.stil play along and watch him and be nice to him ,oneday he will open up 'if' he has a conscience

Op, it tuk him 30mins cos he had already started, and he had to cum to avoid trouser snake, u just av to live with it...

Sike: The Die is already cast. Your husband is a cheat & needs to be dealt with.

How do u suggest she goes abt it

Madam obviously there ws somthn fishy. I can safely conclude dt he has been smart abt it all along. Just be ur self dnt ruminate much abt it so dt it doesnt depress u. See it as one of thos things; i do knw it cud b painful but it is manageable. Talk it over and move on. Do v it in mind dt human being cud be unpredictable.

The hubby may be an accountant and he need to lock the door to confirm the money the woman brought to him, or the hubby is using the office hour to do another business and he needs to lock the door so that nobody cateches him.
The wife should just forget the issue and constrate on prayers to God if she suspect anything that God should win his hubby for God.
Moreso,i wish to tell you the wife to stop going to your hubbys office always and stop monitoring him and pls hav something more important doing with your time.A word is enough for the wise.
I will rest my pen here.

Ojo gbogbo ni tole, ojo kan ni tolohun!
My sister your husband is your husband. Kindly improve on how u handle him. let him tell you how he like it best for u to keep him. Try and coooooool off. Pls.
Oko won lode.

Ivynwa, thanks a lot. Is like u are a trained marriage counselor.
e se pupo(Thank you very much)

Hmmmmm, and do you think he will ever accept he was cheating on you? i will tow the line of others that have adviced you to be calm for now and you know what? continue being nice to him, be happy and look your best and wait for him to bring up the topic. Apply diplomacy before you finally drive him into the awaiting arms of the other woman and pray for great grace, to enable you forgive him completely. It is well with you & ur unborn child.

Madam why did you disturb office fellowship?.I am very sure your husband was counseling the lady or he was casting out familiar spirit from the lady.May i advise that next time you dont try that because you could be possesed by the straying evil spirit.Praise the rod.

my dear! No divorce, querrel or the like. Such type of people need deliverance.

smile and go back to ur home...

akpanbaba: Madam why did you disturb office fellowship?.I am very sure your husband was counseling the lady or he was casting out familiar spirit from the lady.May i advise that next time you dont try that because you could be possesed by the straying evil spirit.Praise the rod.

Lol lol

@OP, but what if ur husband and the girl were counting millions of naira from a bizness deal?

first of all, wat were u doing in your husband's office without his invitation? and assuming you had to go there, why didnt you call him first to tell him you were on the way? what the eye doesnt see, the heart doesnt grieve about. na you find trouble.

That said though, I do atimes lock my door and catch a short nap on the couch in the office. it often happens when i partied or clubbed the night before. so wen, i want to catch a nap, if i hav a close female friend inside and she feels like sitting down der, I let her. I simply tell her to lock the door and watch TV, play with her BB or the computer.If you happened to be my wife and came at such a time, wouldn't you say i was phucking her?

next time, call you husband ahead when you want to visit his office

Not what you think @OP just some business meeting that require total concentration!!!

Richvkunt:


@OP,
Have a serious discussion with your hubby as to why he is cheating on you.
Locking his office door on a woman sounds fishy and looks suspicious.

exactly wat i wanted 2say

Otosdd: I went to my husband's office to see him only for me to find out that the door leading to his office was locked. The security had to call him that the wife is around that he should open the office door for me to come in. It took him 30 minutes for him to open the door only for me to enter the office I met a girl in the office. He has been telling me the girl is just a friend he has nothing to do with her, and that any time he is in the office he likes locking the door. But it's not my firs time of going to the office - the door is always open.

Please somebody should advice me on what to do because right now I am going mad. I need mature advice no insult please.

to be honest with you, you have no case. No concrete evidence, you may have suspicion but we can't say for sure that he's done anything.

if he is cheating, then it won't take long for him to slip up.

queensmith:

to be honest with you, you have no case. No concrete evidence, you may have suspicion but we can't say for sure that he's done anything.

if he is cheating, then it won't take long for him to slip up.

OMG. I am too loving this new queensmith.

Are you sure you aint saying all these to seduce me?

But dont blame the OP too much, Pregnancy throws up a lot of hormones that makes ppl act very emotional

queensmith:

to be honest with you, you have no case. No concrete evidence, you may have suspicion but we can't say for sure that he's done anything.

if he is cheating, then it won't take long for him to slip up.

An elephant is hidden under a handkerchief and you are still asking what is that?

30mins? With a female "friend"?

Plu-ease!

Did he know u were comin??

Ivynwa: There's only one answer to this multiple-choice question of wondering whether your husband is cheating on you or not.

Your post seems to be asking "Is he really cheating on me?"

Answers
A. Yes
B. No

The probability of the answer being "Yes" here is greater than that of "No" but you haven't enough evidence to conclude so more facts are needed.

An office in which security man had to go let him know that you are around.
Girl I ain't painting the truth for you. If you find out that he is not cheating on you, you will feel happy and if you find out that he is cheating on you you still have the power to not allow it bring you down. The question should be how do you handle this without hurting your self in your pregnant state? I am not going to kill my self over a cheating man because a good number of men just can't handle their testosterone.If I were you I will first condition my mind in such a way that it will not hurt me.
"You choose to be happy or unhappy"
If you allow it to have you wailing and crying as you are doing now, it can only bring you down and may affect your Baby (God forbid). If you condition your mind positively and decide to be strong about this, you will conquer it smiling. Why kill yourself over a man having his good time and good feelings

The next thing to do should be to keep your eyes open and get enough facts that will determine your next move towards saving your marriage from your husband's roving d*ck (that is if he is being unfaithful for sure)and the straying chick. Girl quit crying like a baby, wipe your tears and do your homework.

If you find out the truth, you have the power to not let some fun seekers bring you down as well as save your marriage. If you work on it and can't seem to salvadge it, you also have the power to do what you finally make up your mind to do. The choice is yours to leave, the choice is yours to stay. Hilary Clinton took back her straying man and is happy with him today. Strauss Kahn's wife is still with her husband [i]who confessed to having a mutual thing with another woman/woman herself accused him of s-e-xual assault(only both of them know the truth.
[/i]If Hilary had gone crying out her eyes like you are doing and left Bill Clinton to Lewinsky, they will not be having a good marriage today. If you can't handle it right now, don't work on your marriage. Pack your bags tomorrow and leave him for the lady friend. I am sure that she will thank you for that. If it's redeemable, work on it and save it, if you can't redeem it----leave it, I will be happy to see you happy in another marriage.

Easier said dan done!