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I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by Otosdd: 1:41pm On Apr 04, 2012
I went to my husband's office to see him only for me to find out that the door leading to his office was locked. The security had to call him that the wife is around that he should open the office door for me to come in. It took him 30 minutes for him to open the door only for me to enter the office I met a girl in the office. He has been telling me the girl is just a friend he has nothing to do with her, and that any time he is in the office he likes locking the door. But it's not my firs time of going to the office - the door is always open.

Please somebody should advice me on what to do because right now I am going mad. I need mature advice no insult please.
Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by jennykadry(f): 1:45pm On Apr 04, 2012
What was the girl's body language like when you walked in?

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Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by Osama10(m): 1:49pm On Apr 04, 2012
Dont take any action with anger because it always turns out to be regretful.

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Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by ronkebp(f): 2:10pm On Apr 04, 2012
Don't say anything, your husbands knows that you will bring down hell with what happened, if i were you, i will disappoint him by not bringing down hell, go and cool off first and then come back.

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Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by Miss_Ife(f): 2:18pm On Apr 04, 2012
ronkebp: Don't say anything, your husbands knows that you will bring down hell with what happened, if i were you, i will disappoint him by not bringing down hell, go and cool off first and then come back.

Exactly, cool down first, don't pretend that you are happy and all but just don't do anything yet. No reaction for now, at least, nothing he can notice. Then take some time to seriously think about it.

I think knowing that you know and seeing no reaction from you, you might get something out of him, at least, that would help you clear your judgement.
Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by ayolinger(m): 2:30pm On Apr 04, 2012
Did you catch them in the Act!...

What was there body Language?

Did you ask Him why it took Him so long to open the door?

and if he confess to what you assumed, Like someone said, take some time to cool off, then you can then question His action..

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Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by tasandra: 2:58pm On Apr 04, 2012
gurl,calm ur self.....do as if nothin ever happen,try and see if u can av more proof.ok?men nawa undecided undecided
Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by Nobody: 3:36pm On Apr 04, 2012
jennykadry: What was the girl's body language like when you walked in?


Are you back commenting on posts like this?
Very soon you will start complaining that they are driving you insane.

@OP,
Have a serious discussion with your hubby as to why he is cheating on you.
Locking his office door on a woman sounds fishy and looks suspicious.

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Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by Otosdd: 3:47pm On Apr 04, 2012
U could see guilt on my husband face even dat of d girls face both of them were uncomfortable wen they saw me. Even right now my husband is not taking with me its as if nothing happen business as usual. I am really unhappy about everytin dat happen, u know wen u have this trust about ur husband dat he cannot cheat on u but only for u 2 find out dat he is not wat u think. Its realy painful. I dont know wat 2 do i am stil crying uptil now d painful tin is dat i am pregnat. Its just 2 much for me 2 handle.

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Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by Otosdd: 3:54pm On Apr 04, 2012
I have never for once deniel him of sex even with my pregnancy if he say he want sex 3times a day i stil do it. I dont know where i have gone wrong, or wat i have done wrong 2 make him stoop so low as 2 do wat he did. I am just praying for God 2 give me strenght. I am really hurt.
Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by rose~75(f): 4:01pm On Apr 04, 2012
Madam, pls for your sake and that of your unborn baby, calm yourself. You don't need all these worries now, it'll do you no good.
Don't get your BP up please. Nobody is worth dying for.
Play cool, if possible, take sometime away from him to calm your raging nerves.
But I advise, don't take any decision when you're hurting, hold your tongue else you end up being the one to beg.
Quite a pity.

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Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by coogar: 4:06pm On Apr 04, 2012
Otosdd: I went 2 my husband office 2 see him only for me to find out that the door leading to his office was locked. The security had 2 cal him dat d wife is around dat he should open d office door for me 2 come in, he took him 30mins 4 him 2 open d door only 4 me 2 enter d office i met a girl in d office. He has been telling me d girl is just a friend he has nothing 2 do with her, nd dat anytime he is in d office he likes locking d door. But its not my firs time of going 2 d office d door is always open.pls somebody should advice me on wat 2 do because right now i am going mad.i need mature advice no insult pls.

maybe your husband is a gynaecologist - he's checking something very private
and the door needs to be locked.

you didn't catch him pants down with the woman.
if i were you, i wouldn't talk about it again.

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Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by Otosdd: 4:08pm On Apr 04, 2012
@ rose 75 i wil try nd do dat he is not my tears i know i wil overcome. Thanks for ur advice.
Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by eggy(m): 4:09pm On Apr 04, 2012
doubt if cheating has anyfin to do with the rate @which you oblige his intimate needs... as a married man my self I find it quite boring for my wife to wanna make love simply cus i want to on the other hand it a lot more sexy and exhilarating wen she wants me cus shes Hot and all
Before i digress, a man will stray cus he strays not necessary bcus he was denied sex by his spouse.
have considered how much passion you guys share(note intimate intercourse aint passion oh).
I will suggest you consider the encounter a blip and move on to making your home a haven of passion..
wish you all the best.

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Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by rose~75(f): 4:17pm On Apr 04, 2012
coogar:

maybe your husband is a gynaecologist - he's checking something very private
and the door needs to be locked.

you didn't catch him pants down with the woman.
if i were you, i wouldn't talk about it again.

Mr coogar, I find it hard to believe that you're serious. What silly check was that?. A gynae overnight?
(hisses)
Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by ronkebp(f): 4:30pm On Apr 04, 2012
Otosdd: U could see guilt on my husband face even dat of d girls face both of them were uncomfortable wen they saw me. Even right now my husband is not taking with me its as if nothing happen business as usual. I am really unhappy about everytin dat happen, u know wen u have this trust about ur husband dat he cannot cheat on u but only for u 2 find out dat he is not wat u think. Its realy painful. I dont know wat 2 do i am stil crying uptil now d painful tin is dat i am pregnat. Its just 2 much for me 2 handle.

My dear, calm yourself down ( i know it is easier said than done) but really calm your nerves, you need not worry yourself like this in your condition.
Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by coogar: 4:36pm On Apr 04, 2012
rose~75:


Mr coogar, I find it hard to believe that you're serious. What silly check was that?. A gynae overnight?
(hisses)

why are you asking me? ask the husband, not me.
Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by dayokanu(m): 4:37pm On Apr 04, 2012
Try and be logical here

I am not in the room with them

But when your husband was told you were at the door, it took him 30mins to open the door, Do you think if he was sleeping with the girl, He would wait for that long to open the door?

Do you have any evidence like ruffled clothes or any hard evidence, A "Look of guilt" is too subjective to be depended on.

Imagine is someone says "Otosdd, from your looks I suspect you have been cheating"

How smart does that sound

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Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by Laila Ikeji: 4:58pm On Apr 04, 2012
Otosdd: U could see guilt on my husband face even dat of d girls face both of them were uncomfortable wen they saw me. Even right now my husband is not taking with me its as if nothing happen business as usual. I am really unhappy about everytin dat happen, u know wen u have this trust about ur husband dat he cannot cheat on u but only for u 2 find out dat he is not wat u think. Its realy painful. I dont know wat 2 do i am stil crying uptil now d painful tin is dat i am pregnat. Its just 2 much for me 2 handle.

Awwww, this isss sooo terrible. i can imagine. sooo heartbreaking.

Otosdd dear, be strong swty. poo happens but you have to be strong n alive evn if nt for anything else, for your unborn baby.

gv ur husband sm tym. talk wt him if you can.

dnt jump to conclusions yet. ur fears could be true bt u cant do anything abt it ryt nw.

its nt ur fault, u didnt do anything so dnt judge urself.

a man will always do wat he wants to do.

bt above all, remember u need to be strong n okay for your unborn baby. pray too. God will settle it out DEFINITELY.
Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by niinii: 5:05pm On Apr 04, 2012
try and calm urself, u dont need to loss him to any , i dont need to talk much email me let me teach what to do , its practical and u see him detesting the other woman and he will finally be urs 4ever, fill out a request for marital counseling at www.stelizzworld.com
Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by Otosdd: 5:13pm On Apr 04, 2012
@dayokanu. Must he lock d door wen he is inside with a lady. This is not my first time of going 2 d office nd they ve not for once lock dat door tel me wat can explain dat.
Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by dayokanu(m): 5:19pm On Apr 04, 2012
Otosdd: @dayokanu. Must he lock d door wen he is inside with a lady. This is not my first time of going 2 d office nd they ve not for once lock dat door tel me wat can explain dat.

Several reasons for a boss to lock the door when with a colleague male or female.

They might be discussing some business sensitive issue,
He might be scolding her and would let others to hear his voice or what the subject matter is,
He might be discussing some people at the place of work,
He might be discussing promotion of other colleagues- Who to promote and who to sack

There are a million and one things that can be discussed and needs to be discussed behind closed doors.

Do you work in an office environment? Has there been a time your boss or colleague told you to come into his/her office and shut the door?

The fishy part is a man thats phocking his colleague, If they told him his wife is around, Most times he would panic and not take up to 30mins before attending to you, But if his hands are clean he would see no reasons to hurry with the colleague

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Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by jas0n(m): 5:38pm On Apr 04, 2012
Otosdd: U could see guilt on my husband face even dat of d girls face both of them were uncomfortable wen they saw me. Even right now my husband is not taking with me its as if nothing happen business as usual. I am really unhappy about everytin dat happen, u know wen u have this trust about ur husband dat he cannot cheat on u but only for u 2 find out dat he is not wat u think. Its realy painful. I dont know wat 2 do i am stil crying uptil now d painful tin is dat i am pregnat. Its just 2 much for me 2 handle.
honestly,you need someone u can talk to face to face...reach out to a friend and cry ur heart so the person can console u...dont bottle your emotions abeg
Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by Otosdd: 5:40pm On Apr 04, 2012
First nd foremost d lady in guestion is not his collegue. Ur boss can only asked u 2 close d door nd not 2 lock it if he want 2 discuss an important issue with u.

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Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by dayokanu(m): 5:56pm On Apr 04, 2012
Otosdd: I went 2 my husband office 2 see him only for me to find out that the door leading to his office was locked. The security had 2 cal him dat d wife is around dat he should open d office door for me 2 come in, he took him 30mins 4 him 2 open d door only 4 me 2 enter d office i met a girl in d office. He has been telling me d girl is just a friend he has nothing 2 do with her, nd dat anytime he is in d office he likes locking d door. But its not my firs time of going 2 d office d door is always open.pls somebody should advice me on wat 2 do because right now i am going mad.i need mature advice no insult pls.

Given the background you gave here, you still think its unusual
Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by Outstrip(f): 6:00pm On Apr 04, 2012
dayokanu:

Several reasons for a boss to lock the door when with a colleague male or female.

They might be discussing some business sensitive issue,
He might be scolding her and would let others to hear his voice or what the subject matter is,
He might be discussing some people at the place of work,
He might be discussing promotion of other colleagues- Who to promote and who to sack

There are a million and one things that can be discussed and needs to be discussed behind closed doors.

Do you work in an office environment? Has there been a time your boss or colleague told you to come into his/her office and shut the door?

The fishy part is a man thats phocking his colleague, If they told him his wife is around, Most times he would panic and not take up to 30mins before attending to you, But if his hands are clean he would see no reasons to hurry with the colleague

None of those requires the door to be locked. He could have just shut the door if it was such a serious issue

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Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by Otosdd: 6:24pm On Apr 04, 2012
@dayokanu. I find it very unusual. It has not happen before so why now all of a sudden it change overnight. Why lock d door if sometin is not fishing.
Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by dayokanu(m): 6:27pm On Apr 04, 2012
Outstrip:

None of those requires the door to be locked. He could have just shut the door if it was such a serious issue

If it was an office where ppl barge in time and again then locking the door is necesary.
Accusation of cheating is grave and not something you should throw around.

If you are not certain of your accusation, dont start it cos it might trigger something way bigger than you bargained for.

I am sure most women would flip when they are wrongly accused of sleeping with someone else

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Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by Coldfeet(f): 6:35pm On Apr 04, 2012
jas0n:
honestly,you need someone u can talk to face to face...reach out to a friend and cry ur heart so the person can console u...dont bottle your emotions abeg
excuse me!! So she can expose her marital problem? Madam for your sanity and health (yours and baby)confront him once more calmly to get it off ur chest! And accept whatever excuse he gives you, move on with ur life! There's no doubt something sinister happened in that room don't let anyone tell you otherwise. If you push the matter you'll only be sending him further into that ladies waiting arms! Most men find their pregnant wife unattractive and use that as an excuse to philander! But let me ask o! Is it a one man office? How come its the security man that came to inform him you are around? Please clarify.
Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by neyostica: 6:45pm On Apr 04, 2012
@op like debrief will say, divorce his Bottom, and find smtin that makes u hapi, maybe a second husband

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Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by MRbrownJAY(m): 6:48pm On Apr 04, 2012
@OP
can you pls share with us what you said when he finally opened the door after 30mins. dint you ask questions? didnt he give you any replies. tell us exactly what is reason for waiting 30mins before opening the door was.

as for the below statement you made, you better change your stand on the reason WHY men cheat. the fact that you've never denied him of sex is irrelevant. some men would simply cheat because they are tired of mounting the same old toto, or that he wants to mount a "tear rubber" toto not some heavily used tokunbo (no offense).
the earlier you understand men, the faster you will live a happier life.

Otosdd: I have never for once deniel him of sex even with my pregnancy if he say he want sex 3times a day i stil do it. I dont know where i have gone wrong, or wat i have done wrong 2 make him stoop so low as 2 do wat he did. I am just praying for God 2 give me strenght. I am really hurt.
Re: I Caught My Husband Cheating On Me by gururguy: 6:51pm On Apr 04, 2012
did u catch them

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