pendo89:
I love this.

Those who hate the truth are trapped in what we see in these silly latino movies.Family pride. good girl from good family must marry good boy from good family.
Is that what life is about? family pride?

A man or woman is not a background.Backgrounds shape our attitude towards life.It can build or break you. So ask yourself 'what kind of man or woman am I marrying from whichever background? The broken one or the strong one?
We marry people but manage their background and if you cant accept/deal with somebody's background then you are not ready to marry!

pendo89:

Ahaa.run a quick scan through some families you know. My question now.
Are you telling us that every young man/woman brought up in a great home ends up becoming a responsible adult??
My answer? Yes We expect that to be the case,BUT it doesn't always happen like that.So what does that tell you?
Never downplay the external influence/environment cz they may throw ur great girl/boy off balance and turn them into something shocking.

I have seen kids brought up in God knows what families rise up to become very responsible adults. I guess the rough environment makes them view life differently??
Now don't misunderstand me.I treasure family values, but when I see kids raised up in stable and good homes end up dead due to drugs and crime I know that at times it takes more than a background to keep one sober.

Please Background is not Behaviour.I repeat,it may build/break/shape us only.
Haven't you seen a home where one brother ends up being a black sheep yet they were raised under the same roof?

Johnsinia:
its u dat hate truth,its like agreein 2 drink poison in d absence of liguid all bc u r tasty.
Family background is d foundatn of a hapi marriage n dat needs 2 b protectd.u r nt just marryn 4 marryn sake bt 2 continue d gud name ur mama n papa n ancesstors live behind,dats y r u called "d son of ur father".

Hehehe. . .See vexing

I'd rather marry a girl form a bad home that exhibits some characters of her background which i'm comfortable with, than a self acclaimed good girl, who says she doesn't behave like her parents. Abegi. I'm yet to see a leopard without spots and claims to be a leopard o jare. . .

Show me your real characters and let me decide if to go on or not. Good girl from bad home? Are we in Venus?

Johnsinia:
its u dat hate truth,its like agreein 2 drink poison in d absence of liguid all bc u r tasty.
Family background is d foundatn of a hapi marriage [/b]n dat needs 2 b protectd[b].u r nt just marryn 4 marryn sake bt 2 continue d gud name ur mama n papa n ancesstors live behind,dats y r u called "d son of ur father".

Killz.:
Story Story. . . A good girl from a bad home on which planet? Mars?

bemtos: I don't believe dis. Do U think bad will produce good? Neva. A good gal can neva come out of bad home. And if it's possible, I can neva marry such.

This I have posted to encourage those from struggling or broken homes.Don't ever allow ANYBODY to make you feel inferior.
Your parents may be pathetic but are you pathetic?? they could be immoral but are you? has it rubbed on youFocus on that and rise above.Its your life you are building,that which people are focusing on is your parents life, so don't let it stop you from achieving your goal. When you succeed you will see the very people who despised your background come begging to be your lovers.
If anybody rejects you because of your background? please allow them to.Don't fight for acceptance.Never
I d rather marry a sober man from a poor struggling background than a silly man from a stable home

pendo89:
no guy you dont have to really.Just find a good girl from a good home.

10.John D. Rockefeller> one of six children. His father was a traveling salesman and was a foe of conventional morality. Throughout much of his life, Rockefeller’s father tried to find tricks and schemes he could use in order to avoid hard work, or any work at all. John’s mom struggled a lot in order to keep stability in the home,

9.Liz Murray> From homeless to harvard.Murray’s life started off on a bad note. She was born to HIV-infected, drug-addicted, poor parents that were not able to provide for her. At nine years old, Murray found herself and her family living in an extremely dirty apartment. At the young age of 16, Murray was left alone once her mother died of AIDS. Her father also abandoned her, moving to a homeless shelter. She went to high school, but often found herself sleeping in subways, park benches, or at a friend’s home. Without a great education, Murray was able to graduate in only two years and was able to attend Harvard. Today, Liz is an inspirational speaker who speaks out about determination and how no matter how hard life is, you have to move on and continue to work your way through the battles

8.Richard Branson>was born to a decent family in Blackheath, London. He had two parents and a grandfather that was the Judge of the High Court of Justice. He received a good education, but he didn’t do well in school. Instead of focusing on school, Branson decided to put a lot of his time into growing Christmas trees and raising budgerigars. However, both of these projects failed.

7.Chris Gardner>Chris grew up without knowing his real father. His mother married a man who completely ruined his and his mother’s life. He was chased out of his home and had nowhere to go, so he enlisted in the Navy. He soon became a medical supplies salesman, got married, and had a child. However, the medical supplies industry was changing, and Chris needed to find a new source of income. He was able to find interest in stock broking, after seeing a stock broker with a Ferrari. At this time, Chris had no money and his wife was gone. His son proved to be his motivation, even though the two slept in subway station bathrooms. Chris was able to pass a licensing exam and received a job at Bear Sterns

6.H. Wayne Huizenga>In his early teens, Wayne and his family moved to Florida, but he soon realized that his father was not the male figure he should look up to. He abused his wife, but the move to Florida was made in hopes to keep the marriage from divorce. However, Wayne’s dad did not change, and he continuously abused his family. Wayne went to high school and afterward moved back to Chicago to go to college, but he soon dropped out. He then signed up to be part of the Army reserves and trained. After training he went back to Florida, bought a truck, and began taking garbage out of his county. Eventually, the one garbage truck he had purchased grew into a highly successful business.

5.Jim Carrey>His father worked as an accountant, but as Jim got older, his family’s situation deteriorated. His family had to move to Scarborough and they all worked at the Titan Wheels Factory. Jim had to work eight hours a day and attend school. Still, it was very hard to keep the family stable. After moving out of the factory to new jobs, the family found themselves living in a camper van. Eventually, Jim had the courage to stand up and decide to act on his dream of being a comedian.

4.Andrew Carnegie>he was once a poor boy from Scotland. His father was a hand loom weaver, but once the industrialization of society reached Scotland, his father’s work was no longer needed. For years, his family had tough times to make ends meet, so they decided to start anew and move to America. At thirteen, Andrew and his family moved to America and he got a job at a cotton mill. He was working twelve hour days, six days a week. Eventually Andrew got a job as a telegraph messenger. Because of his great work ethic, someone from the Pennsylvania Railroad Company offered him a job, which allowed him to earn more money and make his way up the corporate ladder. He soon started investing in railroad companies, and then hit the jackpot by investing in the steel industry. His investments would allow him to have his own steel company, which was able to bring 120 billion to his wallet.

3.Oprah Winfrey>Oprah was born to unwed teenage patents in Mississippi. Once she was born, the two teenagers ended their relationship. Oprah was raised by her grandmother who was poor and wasn’t able to give her much, but she did teach Oprah how to read before age three. When Oprah turned six she relocated to the city of Milwaukee to live with her mother. During this time she still didn’t have much, but she was doing great academically. Oprah became rebellious and ran away from home, so her mother sent her to live with her father in Tennessee. She continued to be a great student and was able to impress many.

2.Obama>Of his early childhood, Obama writes: "That my father looked nothing like the people around me—that he was black as pitch, my mother white as milk—barely registered in my mind."[9] The book describes his struggles as a young adult to reconcile social perceptions of his multiracial heritage.[34] He wrote that he used alcohol, marijuana, and cocaine during his teenage years to "push questions of who I was out of my mind".[35] Obama has said that it was a seriously misguided mistake. At the Saddleback Civil Presidential Forum Barack Obama identified his high-school drug use as his greatest moral failure.[36] Obama has stated he has not used any illegal drugs since he was a teenager

Poor struggling or weak background is not equal to failure in life.That girl or woman you reject no wcz of her pathetic background could end up like one of these great people.

Story story. Just 10, out of over 7 billion people in the world? Is it worth the risk? Park well madam. . .

pendo89:
no guy you dont have to really.Just find a good girl from a good home.

10.John D. Rockefeller> one of six children. His father was a traveling salesman and was a foe of conventional morality. Throughout much of his life, Rockefeller’s father tried to find tricks and schemes he could use in order to avoid hard work, or any work at all. John’s mom struggled a lot in order to keep stability in the home,

9.Liz Murray> From homeless to harvard.Murray’s life started off on a bad note. She was born to HIV-infected, drug-addicted, poor parents that were not able to provide for her. At nine years old, Murray found herself and her family living in an extremely dirty apartment. At the young age of 16, Murray was left alone once her mother died of AIDS. Her father also abandoned her, moving to a homeless shelter. She went to high school, but often found herself sleeping in subways, park benches, or at a friend’s home. Without a great education, Murray was able to graduate in only two years and was able to attend Harvard. Today, Liz is an inspirational speaker who speaks out about determination and how no matter how hard life is, you have to move on and continue to work your way through the battles

8.Richard Branson>was born to a decent family in Blackheath, London. He had two parents and a grandfather that was the Judge of the High Court of Justice. He received a good education, but he didn’t do well in school. Instead of focusing on school, Branson decided to put a lot of his time into growing Christmas trees and raising budgerigars. However, both of these projects failed.

7.Chris Gardner>Chris grew up without knowing his real father. His mother married a man who completely ruined his and his mother’s life. He was chased out of his home and had nowhere to go, so he enlisted in the Navy. He soon became a medical supplies salesman, got married, and had a child. However, the medical supplies industry was changing, and Chris needed to find a new source of income. He was able to find interest in stock broking, after seeing a stock broker with a Ferrari. At this time, Chris had no money and his wife was gone. His son proved to be his motivation, even though the two slept in subway station bathrooms. Chris was able to pass a licensing exam and received a job at Bear Sterns

6.H. Wayne Huizenga>In his early teens, Wayne and his family moved to Florida, but he soon realized that his father was not the male figure he should look up to. He abused his wife, but the move to Florida was made in hopes to keep the marriage from divorce. However, Wayne’s dad did not change, and he continuously abused his family. Wayne went to high school and afterward moved back to Chicago to go to college, but he soon dropped out. He then signed up to be part of the Army reserves and trained. After training he went back to Florida, bought a truck, and began taking garbage out of his county. Eventually, the one garbage truck he had purchased grew into a highly successful business.

5.Jim Carrey>His father worked as an accountant, but as Jim got older, his family’s situation deteriorated. His family had to move to Scarborough and they all worked at the Titan Wheels Factory. Jim had to work eight hours a day and attend school. Still, it was very hard to keep the family stable. After moving out of the factory to new jobs, the family found themselves living in a camper van. Eventually, Jim had the courage to stand up and decide to act on his dream of being a comedian.

4.Andrew Carnegie>he was once a poor boy from Scotland. His father was a hand loom weaver, but once the industrialization of society reached Scotland, his father’s work was no longer needed. For years, his family had tough times to make ends meet, so they decided to start anew and move to America. At thirteen, Andrew and his family moved to America and he got a job at a cotton mill. He was working twelve hour days, six days a week. Eventually Andrew got a job as a telegraph messenger. Because of his great work ethic, someone from the Pennsylvania Railroad Company offered him a job, which allowed him to earn more money and make his way up the corporate ladder. He soon started investing in railroad companies, and then hit the jackpot by investing in the steel industry. His investments would allow him to have his own steel company, which was able to bring 120 billion to his wallet.

3.Oprah Winfrey>Oprah was born to unwed teenage patents in Mississippi. Once she was born, the two teenagers ended their relationship. Oprah was raised by her grandmother who was poor and wasn’t able to give her much, but she did teach Oprah how to read before age three. When Oprah turned six she relocated to the city of Milwaukee to live with her mother. During this time she still didn’t have much, but she was doing great academically. Oprah became rebellious and ran away from home, so her mother sent her to live with her father in Tennessee. She continued to be a great student and was able to impress many.

2.Obama>Of his early childhood, Obama writes: "That my father looked nothing like the people around me—that he was black as pitch, my mother white as milk—barely registered in my mind."[9] The book describes his struggles as a young adult to reconcile social perceptions of his multiracial heritage.[34] He wrote that he used alcohol, marijuana, and cocaine during his teenage years to "push questions of who I was out of my mind".[35] Obama has said that it was a seriously misguided mistake. At the Saddleback Civil Presidential Forum Barack Obama identified his high-school drug use as his greatest moral failure.[36] Obama has stated he has not used any illegal drugs since he was a teenager

This I have posted to encourage those from struggling or broken homes.Don't ever allow ANYBODY to make you feel inferior.
Your parents may be pathetic but are you pathetic?? Focus on that and rise above.Its your life you are building,that which people are focusing on is your parents life so don't stop you from achieving your goal. When you succeed you will see the very people who despised you come running and begging to be your lovers.
If anybody rejects you because of your background? let them walk!
I d rather marry a sober man from a poor struggling background than a silly man from a stable home

Killz.:
Story story. Just 10, out of over 7 billion people in the world? Is it worth the risk? Park well madam. . .

luckgames:

Obama background was not from his parents but grandparents
In America people do drug and grow up to lead Fortune 500 companies
Obama is not a good example

tochimas: And pray tell who will mary them if nobody is allowed to marry them.should they remain unmarried?

pendo89:

Yes.One person's success can help encourage a million others.That is what learning and life expe are all about.
The world dint require 7 billion Jesus' to die for their sins.One was enough
That is the power of positive influence and I choose to emulate successes not failures.

By the way its not an argument at all.Its a matter of what you believe in.That is your life.
If you allow your background to determine your destiny,that is your life.Stay in your misery and mourn,in the meantime others are changing lives,getting married and becoming rich.

choices.

2kurupt: Let's give the girl a break!


OP, if the girl is determined to make herself good & sincere about it, then your friend should follow his heart coz being good or bad is by choice.

we have seen kids from purportedly good families turn wife beaters & prostitutes

Guapo: Is it wise to marry a responsible girl who happens to come from a bad home? A friend is in a dilemma on this issue. The girl has trained herself in contrast to what obtains in her family. The parents often fight, tales of unfaithfulness between both parents. Can you marry a good girl from such a home?

Guapo: Is it wise to marry a responsible girl who happens to come from a bad home? A friend is in a dilemma on this issue. The girl has trained herself in contrast to what obtains in her family. The parents often fight, tales of unfaithfulness between both parents. Can you marry a good girl from such a home?

bukatyne: @0P: it doesn't matter wat a person's background is, as far as d person is in Christ, He/She becomes a new being. So many people raise above their backgrounds to become d best they can be in life!