omosexy1: FYI I am not a girl. I expressed my opinion. If you take it wrongly, that's your problem. If you want to scatter your keyboard this night (shey na your keyboard). I don't have that time. No b wan person respond you go try to revert.

ileobatojo:

No, many people were questioning his nonchalant, disrespectful attitude to the issue and the deeper implications for their relationship. May we have been wrong? Possibly, but that is what the majority of the women responded negatively to. I did not see a single woman agree that he should borrow to pay for her wedding. Most of the women even agreed that she should contribute to the wedding. Why should anyone tell her to break up her relationship? One can only advice her to look deeper and settle in her mind that she wants to really wants to spend the rest of her life with him and many people have said it in many different ways. So yeah I disagree with your post.

KaimaTee: I don't even understand why these guys are killing themselves here, They should get help from his brothers and cousin at this time and not his wife to be,It is not only the man that marries wife but the entire kindred. In my family, the guys pool funds together whenever one of them is getting married, it is the duty of the guys family to pay everything,they help each other out.

omosexy1: Busy_Body I can see you just graduated and you are enjoying yourself playing with phrases. Your choice of words is masculine in nature, or a lady high on testosterone. Just like your I.D, go get busy on something else, and stop hijacking threads. It was really boring reading your 18th century English communicative style. Oh gosh, where is this headache from, oh I was reading Busy_body english comprehension.

ileobatojo:

No. The point is your hypocrisy. The majority of your posts on this thread have consisted of insults including your response to my post to Dayo and yet you insist on taking my post personally and continue to respond with all manners of rude digs and insults while simultaneously preaching to me about the insult you noticed in my post. How you continually fail to see the irony is beyond me.

What if everyone had responded so personally to YOUR insults the way you have to a post directed to someone else? This place would be a war zone by now.

Busy_body:


Stop rubbing it in that I did not make the Cabal list joo Me sef I am still in wonderment as to what the cabal is ni oh, and everytime I ask Sir Richvkunt, he sends me off to sit on the fence like a naughty child because he does not want my innocence corrupted Anyway I have given him the passcode to Jenny's heart so you guys should soon watch out for plenty plenty love in the air and possibly an August wedding too, like the OP and then maybe[b] Richvkunt[/b] would tell us the mission and vision of the cabals

You see what I mean with this our Nigeran culture, the man will only eat the already aesthetically pleasant looking yam and beans only if the woman sweats on it in the mortar and pestle Ayanma I wonder how people eat something that gross bound together with sweat and saliva and I bet some human skins were shed during those vigorous pounding sessions too, not to talk of the many insects and their eggs hiding in the crevices of the mortar, eurghhh


Back to the most important discussion today on planet earth, what happened to the human rights of those lactating goats, what if they like their belly being rubbed a certain way, what if they didn't wanna breastfeed so they can avoid having slippers boobies, what if they prefer strolling by the beach instead of watching Outstrip watching them fall off those mountains, what if they only prefer 500-count Eqyptian cotton, what if they don't feel comfortable enough answering the call of nature in public, what if they prefer rap music to classical music she forces them to listen to ehn. . . Someone please get me the phone number of the animal welfare unit in Nigeria please






NB:

By the way I saw the-product-of-a-thrice-failed-GMAT-remedial-class-Sagamite and the-product-of-a-closed-down-community-college-Moremi-Ajasoro, on the same thread earlier today blowing kisses at each other. Surely the World is about to end today



Yeparipa, my hands is paining me oh, no wonder the caring Jenny was asking me earlier if I use a PA or write things all by myself, phew

BIG BUMPER,
Always trying to stir up things.
Sorry I am not at home and I am not inclined to play your games.
If you do not know what the cabal on the family section is,or you do not know the members and the leadership of this cabal and their agenda,then I am sorry that I can not help you.

jennykadry:

You sound too pathetic to be a man.


@busybody

I will reply you whenever I get hold of my laptop, until then goodnight

Richvkunt:

BIG BUMPER,
Always trying to stir up things.
Sorry I am not at home and I am not inclined to play your games.
If you do not know what the cabal on the family section is,or you do not know the members and the leadership of this cabal and their agenda,then I am sorry that I can not help you.

Busy_body:


Are you done frothing at the mouth so I can get you a bib to clean up your dribble

Busy_body:




The joke is still on you, hopefully it would sink in someday once you get your head out of that cloud and come down your high horse. I can see how you slunked away with your tail tucked firmly between your legs whimpering after Blacklion put you on the spot, ditto Dayokanu, HENCE REASON YOU MADE THAT "YOU ARE APOLOGISING TO THEM ONLY COMMENT. Does that not mean you telling myself and Tgirl that you have drawn the battle line :-/

We could see you holding my hands and preaching the Gospel of Peace whilst I was the only one insulting you abi :-/ Keep acting slick with eggs pancaked all over your face

dayokanu:

KaimaTee: I don't even understand why these guys are killing themselves here, They should get help from his brothers and cousin at this time and not his wife to be,It is not only the man that marries wife but the entire kindred. In my family, the guys pool funds together whenever one of them is getting married, it is the duty of the guys family to pay everything,they help each other out.

omosexy1: ... a wedding is a family thing and not only for the groom to bear the expense alone, each member of the family contributes something to ensure that the wedding is successful. That is how it is been done in Igbo land oh. Anyways for peace and for love, contribute.

ileobatojo:

You are right, I went back and read your posts and there is a consistency to them. I see now that your post that I quoted was tongue in cheek; so to you, I apologize.

Busy_body:


Moving onto your second paragraph, you have totally lost me here! When have you ever seen me support any cheater or wife beater! Did the "misguided and warped" that I used in that's statement not indicate that women need to stop barking up the wrong tree and get their priorities right and empower themselves and command the respect they deserve And if you can find time to remove the log from your eyes, when you and Debrief start ridiculing women who put up with crap that they have low self-esteem, have I not been part of the crew appealing to your good side that it is not them, but culture that is holding them back. How ironic

And jeez, look at the wishy-washy excuses my fellow women keeps on coming with. . .I used to get so flipping mad at the thousands of naseuous threads belittling Nigerian women that has been springing up in that cesspit called the romance section recently and one day nearly almost barged in, until someone told me to stop loosing sleep over it that those guys were spitting nothing but the truth. . .words failed me that day. . .wharrashame.

Who said anything about Agiboma investing in her Husband or bribing her Hubby

Lastly I don't give a flying fig about "any" Nigerian culture and I retain the right to my freedom of speech as I deem fit .

Ileke-IdI:
PS: In the Yoruba household, or atleast in the Ekiti household, both family pitches in.

@Iyalode
Hey beautiful

Busy_body:


Abi oh, that is even why nowadays both the Bride and Groom's family wear the same outfit signifying the two families becoming one. And this also helps stop those nasty -"see what the Husband's family is wearing" comments, ha Nigirians, may God forgive all of us. Thank God I am from Bakassi Island and we are no longer in Nigeria

Besides when did insults begin to matter to you!

What happened to our sticks and stones mantra huh

Busy_body:


I have always bandied the same phrases around since time immemorial, and I have never rated any nigerian culture because like I always say, inspite of all our sanctimonuos cultures, we are always in the top 3 spots worldwide for every atrocities committed under the sun.

Was reading the thread about the 8 years old child subjected to daily beatings by his Father, and that Teachers know, but are powerless to intervene, and that the Police would not intervene too because his Dadthe culprit is rich. . .It is a shame that despite the headcount, it would be easier finding the needle in a 100,000 tonne haystack, than getting help for that poor child.

If my son goes to school with a mark on his body, I have to write pages of report explaining why, compared to this boy with no one to rescue him. . .Now how can you expect me to have respect for that Country with no safety net for children and women :-/

jennykadry:

And who said you supported? can you please read with your contact lens and stop making mountain out of a mole hill.

jennykadry:
Did you not post this? The typical Nigerian woman has a long throat, infact the OP shouldn't come here to complain that her husband treats her like trash because she has belittled herself? isn't that like saying, no wonder women get beating and abused by their husbands cos the men "bought them" with their own money? now how does that equate to you supporting abuse?

jennykadry:
When me and Debrief ridicule? like really ridicule?

jennykadry:
you know what, sometimes having a misunderstanding helps a lot as that is the only way someone like you can finally lift the burden off your chest by saying things you have been wanting to say but just haven't had the opportunity to say them.

jennykadry:
I did remember? Agiboma financially empowered her husband, infact one of the reasons she could not walk away is because she invested a lot, if not all she has financially in their marriage and cannot see herself starting all over again. she contributed a lot of money before and after marriage and how well has he treated her? did it stop him from cheating on her on her matrimonial bed whilst she was in the hospital having a baby? I mean, she had the finances, contributed a lot Still got treated like a slave and non entity in her husbands house. . .
Now you see why I mentioned AGI in my post? a woman who more like sponsored her own wedding but still got teated like a slave in her husbands house.

jennykadry:
Ofcourse you don't give a flying fvck about "any naija culture", yet you supported Ileke Idi's post on how yoruba's plan and sponsor their own weddings. Yea, the way it is done in the yoruba culture you supported.

jennykadry:
I said it earlier, do you support culture only when it suits you

jennykadry:
I refuse to talk about my kids on this forum and I am sure you have noticed that. Say whatever you want to say to me but never mention my kids same as my parents. You have no Idea how many times I have wanted to post on all those mother hood threads but just can't cos I am not exposing them to anybody.

jennykadry:
So when you mentioned nigerian mothers, I was like that is so not true cos some of us have mothers who have never failed us, my mum is a typical me, bad mouthed woman, very blunt and outspoken but submissive to her husband, so when someone comes here and says things about Nigerian mothers failing their daughters, it immediately sets the alarm ringing but then I read your explanation to Tgirl, I still don't fully get it but maybe I will.

jennykadry:

Like the Germans will say "Ich habe keine idea" (I have no idea)

Listen to yourself "speak" sometimes! How did you arrive at the ridiculous notion that Agiboma's Husband who owns his own petrol station is being financially empowered by Wifey Agiboma who used her own finance to set up an Hospital this year, huh. None of this statement indicates she is feeding her Husband. Quit getting ahead of yourself and jumping into the wrong conclusion. Her decision to stay has nothing to do with any financial reason, her posts is still there for crying out loud

agiboma: @EVERYONE i know you are all trying to help and if my family knew about this they would demand i return home with my son. I am gonna give it more time as i have money invested with him also,honestly if not for the money and my business i dont think i would be here, its sad but true. So dont feel so sorry for me im not feeling sorry for myself. if things dont change i will look outside this relationship for satisfaction and love i just have not crossed this bridge yet. I have told him we need to open our relationship but he is selfish and cant stand the idea of me sleeping with another, I told him we should stop having sex and have a complete open relationship he says no. Ultimately this relationship is not what i wanted but its what i find myself in currently.

jennykadry:

Take it easy on your keyboard and I am going to be very frank with you. I did not read all that you typed up there.

jennykadry:
Scrolled through and found agiboma's and you saying I CONCLUDED you are a sexist.

jennykadry:
When you are done typing in latin, playing the victim and jumping into conclusions, you let me know, until then I have better things to do.

3 advises for you though: stop playing the victim when people single out your half baked posts.

Second off: stop posting shait you ain't sure about

jennykadry:
Third off: you fvcking talk too much.

Tgirl4real: Could you ladies please stop dragging other people's family/private matters into arguments. I really can't speak for Aigboma but if I were in her shoes, I wouldn't like it.

ileobatojo:

Did I just hear you accuse someone else of frothing at the mouth? Lmao


What joke?

Tgirl4real: Could you ladies please stop dragging other people's family/private matters into arguments. I really can't speak for Aigboma but if I were in her shoes, I wouldn't like it.

bournvita: When you moderators are done hiding my posts and banning my ID you let me know. Bloody hypocrites

Busy_body:
Jenny has said she is done too and has vowed she is no longer reading my posts. Hence it would be a futile attempt for me to keep responding. So there is no need hiding people's post. It can only achieve two things: either make people feel victimised or feel too important

chinwe11: Thanks for your advices/insults sha. I have read them through, and i have decided to help out. I guess the reason why i had to bring this to NL is because most of my frieds kept warning me before wedding that 'DO NOT PAY FOR ANYTHING DURING THE WEDDING. IT IS THE HUSBANDS RESPONSIBILITY'. Even my relatives said the same thing, that in Ibo land its the man's duty. You get lots of advise from other women, this morning, a friend was telling me that after marriage, you keep your money and spend his, and they say that is what happens in thier homes. When the issue of bringing the 80% came up, i got worried,, cos i felt it would be like i was marrying my self. I have enough money to foot our wedding and even double of that. But was just worried it would be like i was marrying myself, or the man might take me for granted. Also i forgot to add that when i said he should borrow, [b]i planned that we would pay back from my money, so it wont just look like i GAVE him the wedding money. [/b]Anyway sha i would bring my 80%.

Thanks for all your advises oh! I would post the wedding pictures here maybe! Thanks

OMO IBO: LOL

Is the Family section now what the Romance section used to be a couple of years ago?

Damn. . . . . i used to love the Romance section!