JK,

WOuld you have called a man who was a bank manager or a Chevron worker a lazy person and denied him to marry your daughter?

As per your point, Some people dont just have the flair for business, their only way they know it is to save their money but when you lose your job like that the savings vanish sharply.

The man in my second example earlier was so rich his wife advised him to buy Kingway stores in Ikeja in the early 80's but he was like he didnt have any flair for business and ppl would just swindle him (Which I cant blame him for) His own idea of financial planning was to save and that couldnt last for more than 3yrs.

This man was so rich at that time that he had a mast in his house for phone calls and lived in the best area of Lagos whose neighbours were the AFRC generals during IBB's regime

CC & Ruth = women with good hearts,i am falling in luv already..how i wish these ladies are still single,i would have just tendered my application right away,meanwhile if either of you have a twin/junior sister who is loaded with the same program (runs on similar software package) please consider me a worthy brother in-law

kazman7: CC & Ruth = women with good hearts,i am falling in luv already..how i wish these ladies are still single,i would have just tendered my application right away,meanwhile if either of you have a twin/junior sister who is loaded with the same program (runs on similar software package) please consider me a worthy brother in-law

This is not a love story,mind u. There are reasonable women every where but u have to be reasonable to attract them.

It is about how to free herself and her family from the economic slavery most africans suffers in oyinbo land. In other words,how to develop our own world,make the best of it and have enough to go round. Because as it is now,it is like having water everywhere and water to drink.

The western world has reached its peak economically,they are going anywhere further,unless of course they decide to raid undeveloped worlds like africa that we freely have at our disposal right now without knowing what to do with it,commandeered it and start all over again.

brabus: Thanks to everyone who has contributed to this wonderful thread.

@OP, this is the time your husband needs you most. Be there for him and God will see you through.

@all, In life we often make plans for future and we foolishly assume that it is we who can decide and control our future but one thing I do know is that God upsets our plans so that we can put him first.

I have a story to support this. My sister only worked 1 year after her youth service in Nigeria as a Lab Technician and was able to genuinely (she's a born-again christian) save money to finance her husband relocation to UK and put up a house and roof it. Her husband came to relocate the family shortly after to the UK in search of greener pasture. It is 8 years after they'd relocated to UK (even with higher qualifications and better job in UK), the house hasn't been completed. And the story is not different from what I read above. They can barely survive. It was another story of 'had I known'

The moral of this story is that God laughs when we make plans. Proverbs 16:9

I'm sorry but the above is nonsense. So God purposely made sure your sister and her husband are living hand to mouth as a testimony to His name? Your sister's case has nothing to do with God but everything to do with poor planning. So many people think that living in the white man's land is an automatic ticket to a good life... i was once one of those. My uncle had a chance to move his family to Scotland thru his wife's job... bobo was working as a small time manager at the Stock exchange then and he flatly refused despite the tearful pleas of his wife and members of the family. His argument - i am already established in a great job here, why go to Scotland where my degree is not recognised to sweep the floor all in the name of living "abroad"? Today? He had the last laugh! He is a big time manager in the stock exchange today... wifey is a top manager at Addax... has a home fully paid for in the US (comes here more times than we can count for vacation sef) and is living LARGE in naija.
What he had was foresight! Your sister and her husband lack it in spades which is why they are suffering today... quit blaming God.

Why shld your sister quit such a plum job for nothing in the UK?

jennykadry: Dayo, good examples but that is one reason why we Nigerians make make mistakes financially. How can a man who earns millions every month not have an investment on the side? When you get laid off work you cry foul. I know of many Nigerians who work in top oil companies like chevron who are landlords and estate owners. If their job disappoints them They have something to fall back on.

Let me use CC for example, she has a shop in Nigeria that is growin strong, she also works part time in the Uk. God forbid something happens to her job in the UK, she has a successful shop to fall back on.

The problem we Nigerians have is putting all our eggs in one basket and praying to and hopin on God that, that basket does not disappoint us.

Financial Planning is were a lot of us fail as Nigerians. Heaven helps those that help themselves. Don't rely on your bible to give you manna, gt your hands busy with a lot of things and let God take it up from there.

Excuse my errors. I am mobile

But we still can't ignore the fact that Life Happens! There are many people who invested heavily in the Nigerian stock market as an alternative source of income pre 07 and 08. If many of those people had retired or lost their jobs, it's very likely that their alternative source of income may now be unsustainable.


Many times we all just have to wait and see where the night takes us. I don't think people intentionally choose to struggle financially,... but when life throws Lemon, some make Lemonade, others end up with a swollen face!

@OP, just hang in right there. if you are a practicing christian, you will also have the assurance of christ Jesus. Hold on to him and his promises.
Also try your best to manange and plan your spending ahead. With a masters degree, I don't see why you cannot get a more comfortable job (what country are you in?) That is where God comes in cos it could actually be spiritual! put in more efforts in your job search.
All things work together for God to they that believe.

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I can see where David is coming from. Even I will not give my daughter out to a man without any solid source of income Abeg or plans for the future. I am married to a man who is a serious born again Christian Infact one that preaches sef for minutes during morning devotion but once morning devotion is over, the dude picks his keys and zooms off to go provide for his family. I took Leave without pay from work for a few weeks just to spend time with my family. If I was married to a man who carries his bible everyday instead of going out to look for work, You think i could afford such luxury of sitting at home and doing nothing?

@Ruth

Obviously you Did not see the meaning in sisi kills post re johndoe. If I were you I'd stay clear from that boy.

Serious? Does he knw abt ur side job?


@OP
Your husband should be the one looking for solutions. I agree with all David said. Hw can a man be so relaxed and content to be living frm hand to mouth. U guys are better off relocating to ur village let oga roll up his sleves and take to farming. I respect u madam, i see the fire in u, the drive to be successful. Too bad you married a woman.
My advice to u is dat u should stop making excuses for the man. He is old, he has only a B.sc bla bla bla. Society doesn't take excuses. Pple work even 3 jobs just to make sure their families are comfortable. Tell hubby to wake his ass up and go slug it out.

dayokanu: JK,

WOuld you have called a man who was a bank manager or a Chevron worker a lazy person and denied him to marry your daughter?

As per your point, Some people dont just have the flair for business, their only way they know it is to save their money but when you lose your job like that the savings vanish sharply.

The man in my second example earlier was so rich his wife advised him to buy Kingway stores in Ikeja in the early 80's but he was like he didnt have any flair for business and ppl would just swindle him (Which I cant blame him for) His own idea of financial planning was to save and that couldnt last for more than 3yrs.

This man was so rich at that time that he had a mast in his house for phone calls and lived in the best area of Lagos whose neighbours were the AFRC generals during IBB's regime

violent:

But we still can't ignore the fact that Life Happens! There are many people who invested heavily in the Nigerian stock market as an alternative source of income pre 07 and 08. If many of those people had retired or lost their jobs, it's very likely that their alternative source of income may now be unsustainable.


Many times we all just have to wait and see where the night takes us. I don't think people intentionally choose to struggle financially,... but when life throws Lemon, some make Lemonade, others end up with a swollen face!

Reminds me of the Customs officer who was to retire during the stock market crisis. two months to his retirement,he lost 45million naira in the NSE and the next week El-Rufai razed his block of flats. He retired broke and deflated.

Dayo, not me her father would be the best person to answer that question. I don't think so, when I said solid source of income I am not talking about someone who earns 50 million per annum but someone who might earn much less but have got a back up plan for the future. People get sacked everyday in Nigeria, so you cannot rely on yor white collar job al the time. Contrary to popular belief, some of those Alaba boys are educated, one I know works in zenith bank @abule ado( the last time I checked) but has also got his thriving electronics shop at Alaba.

That man that refused To invest when his wife asked him to must have said "had I known". I repeat, the reason why some rich people in Nigeria cannot hold on to their wealth is lack of planning. Which kain yeye he has no flair for business, it's not about having a passion for something but doing something that will cover your azz later. If I was earning 2000 dollars a month as a doctor and was offered an opportunity to work in schlumberger as an engineer(training provided) and monthly income. 10000 dollars,, wilI I turn it down because I am not good at Maths and physics or because I'd rather continue practicing medicine because I was top notch in chemistry and biology back in the day? Would I take that engineering job to help my husband out who God forbid is struggling with two jobs when we can live with my income alone?

You don't have to have the passion For something before you do what's right. My fathers friend who used to work in Mobil VI was sacked from his work, this is a man that was making millions back in the day per month and was advised to invest on properties or anythin back then because he had the resources to, he completely refused giving the same excuse of I cannot do it because it is not my thing. He lost the company's house and had to move from the estate to isolo area.

My husband and I are working for our kids cos no child deserves To come into this world And pay for his parents sins borne out of stoopidity. We both don't rely on our jobs alone, we have casted out nets far into the sea cos none of us is willing to relocate back to the village or rely on our parents because we refused to shine our eyes.

davidylan:

I'm sorry but the above is nonsense. So God purposely made sure your sister and her husband are living hand to mouth as a testimony to His name? Your sister's case has nothing to do with God but everything to do with poor planning. So many people think that living in the white man's land is an automatic ticket to a good life... i was once one of those. My uncle had a chance to move his family to Scotland thru his wife's job... bobo was working as a small time manager at the Stock exchange then and he flatly refused despite the tearful pleas of his wife and members of the family. His argument - i am already established in a great job here, why go to Scotland where my degree is not recognised to sweep the floor all in the name of living "abroad"? Today? He had the last laugh! He is a big time manager in the stock exchange today... wifey is a top manager at Addax... has a home fully paid for in the US (comes here more times than we can count for vacation sef) and is living LARGE in naija.
What he had was foresight! Your sister and her husband lack it in spades which is why they are suffering today... quit blaming God.

Why shld your sister quit such a plum job for nothing in the UK?

That's your view and congratulations to your Uncle. But if I could ask what else could a man with Phd blame if not fate? I've seen people without education making it big in life and some educated professors struggling to make ends meet.

The race is not to the swift. Beside, the story is inconclusive cos Abraham was 100 before he got a son. No be say Abraham no sabi b*ng Sarah. Na God!

OP.. Don't worri, u won't even know wen it'd get betta. U'll just hit it!
Wish u luck.

Ur ppl in naija go even dey xpect pounds.

chaircover: Hmmmmm lIfe is not like that ooooo!

What haven’t I seen in this life? He can have a killer job today and all that will be gone tomorrow and that is why I will always stand on Gods will for my life and not lean on my own understanding. I have also seen people pulled from behind into top positions. So as for me I believe.

Do you know how many Nigerian Bank managers who left lucrative jobs with good income and are now roaming round the streets of London? I personally know of 3. One I saw working as a loader in one of these African shops in London.

I know of a number of IT contractors who have been out of work for months? Many sold off their Beamers and Mercs a long time ago and are now relying on hand outs from friends. Didn’t they have good sources of income or good degrees when they married? No one knows what the future holds

In this case the man has a job and all he needs is to try and find ways to increase the income that he brings in. Ruth has been given a lot of ideas here and I am sure that she will take these back home and “encourage” her husband to look into these. From what she says about him, he is a good man and I believe that a good man will only want the best for his family. My gut feeling is that they will both make it.

#Classic

brabus:

That's your view and congratulations to your Uncle. But if I could ask what else could a man with Phd blame if not fate? I've seen people without education making it big in life and some educated professors struggling to make ends meet.

The race is not to the swift. Beside, the story is inconclusive cos Abraham was 100 before he got a son. No be say Abraham no sabi b*ng Sarah. Na God!

true talk my brother. Na God ordained b*nging that matters.

Hi Ruth
having read through your thread, you have got loads of very good advice here. I felt i should add these few money saving tips. Based on information you said that you spend much of your income on transport. I know of a very close friend who had to travel into zone 1 for many years and then she discovered the overground and this cut her travel expensess by half as the main route of the overground doesn't pass through zone 1(most expensive zone). Even though she worked in zone one she came off at one of the overground stops and hopped on the bus for about 2 stops, sometimes she even walked it. About ten mins. The only disadvantage to her was that it added 15mins to her journey. The advantage is that she was able to save about £60 every month and the trains are not as packed as the underground.This may work for you depending on where you start your journey and also where you have got to get off in zone one and if you are not pressed for time at the end of your working day. You may give it a try for a week and see if its worth also. If you want you can let us know your entry and exit stations and i can let you know which are the most cos effective routes.

My second money saving tip and i am going to get lynched for this, but i will take the risk. This has got to do with your credit cards and based on my personal
experience. Only try this if you are able to pay off your balance every month. If this is not the case then do not try it. I have got only 2 credit cards one i got because i get discount for when i buy my petrol and points for my shopping, i make sure that any household expenses and some bills like the CT are put on this card the only time i dont use my credit card for purchases is when there is a charge as i dont believe in paying bank charges wnen you can avoid it. I have never paid a penny interest on any of my cards reason being i pay my outstanding balance in full and on time at the end of each month. At the end od the year depending on my expenses i get about £100 cash vouchers on each card which may seem little but i see it as money for doing nothing. Like i said this is not for everybody if you are struggling to pay your balance every month then this is not for you.

I hope this helps and i wish you and your family goodluck for the future and remember a little savings here and there adds up to make a big difference somewhere else.
Goodluck and God bless you.

Why not try offering a delivery service to Nigeria?

Offering Travel advice or Schools and Visa advice to people in Nigeria?

You know our people like the "Overseas" pasture.

Many don't know how to go about it.

You can help people who want to school over there, find out the best and cheapest schools. Cheapest accomodations.

Get accommodations, very cheap, or accommodate people coming from nigeria for a while.

Have everything documented though.

You know our people like parties, you could organise and bring artistes from Naija over there...

If your hubby can stay with the kids, then you can work weekends, just explain to them.

Life is in phases dear, trust me, it'll get better.

Hope you have given your life and attend church.

It will help you have the peace of mind you require.

God Bless You

Great thread! Whatever you or your husband decide to do, make sure you do not lose the happiness in your home. Continue to have a positive outlook towards life.

dayokanu: David, Jenny.


I think i disagree with you. Several times lifr throws curve balls and you cant predict where you would be the following day

I know several people with plum jobs that lost it and never recovered for life.

I know a friends brother who was a Manager at Oceanic always flying his family for vacation to UK etc that got laid off and cant just get back on his feet he now teaches at primary schools making less than 40K naira a month

Would you now say he wasnt educated, smart or was he lazy?

I know a person who had a BS and MS in Engineering from the best Universities in the UK way back in the 1970's lost his top management job in Nigeria in 1994 and never got anything till date after pushing buttons and going everywhere

Those two examples are ppl properly educated and hardworking but life just happened. Would you be wrong to have given your daughter in marriage to either of them?

The husband might have been a top exec in Nigeria when they were getting married.

Imagine a couple a Top Banker marries a Nursing school graduate in Nigeria, The man would be earning like time 5 of whatever the woman earns now both of them migrate to the West US, UK etc chances are that due to the demands of the new society the woman might be the one earning more money

So the champions of yesterday has become the Sluggard of today and vice versa, Thats life

Spot on bro for the scenerios u gave. It appears David and jenny were so well bred that they dont know how life can come with ups and down. I have been reading all the post here and i must appreciate the likes of CC and co that have been so encouraging to Ruths plight. All she needs at this point is loads of encouragement and not how mistaken she found herself in such a condition.

@op i must confess that u are a one a million kind of wife. I must commend ur supportive attitude to ur husbands plight and please pay very little attention to what the likes of David and others with him are saying as regards ur husband's condition . To me they are just being so unnecesarily judgemental because finding a good man and husband is not easy and besides money is not everything. What u are going through is not uncommon to what happens in marriages these days. There must be rough times so that u can appreciate the sweet times when it comes.

In life we fight through the tough times and try to plan better in the good times . No condition is permanent ! So be hopeful and stay very positive as there will always be a ray of bright light at the other end of the tunnel. Cheers!

JK,

The point is that regardless of the plan you make things can still happen. The Zenith banker with a Shop in Alaba can lose his job and within 6months, The Govt seize his container he borrowed to ship. Would you call that laziness or lack of planning?

The people who invested in properties, You know some ppl invested in Properties and El Rufai or AbdulKarim Adisa just sent bulldozers there one day and destroyed everything, Would you say they lacked planning?

What of people who invested heavily in the stock market and the recession swept away their money?

No one in the world is secured from shocks It can happen in Nigeria, It can happen in America

dayokanu: JK,

The point is that regardless of the plan you make things can still happen. The Zenith banker with a Shop in Alaba can lose his job and within 6months, The Govt seize his container he borrowed to ship. Would you call that laziness or lack of planning?

The people who invested in properties, You know some ppl invested in Properties and El Rufai or AbdulKarim Adisa just sent bulldozers there one day and destroyed everything, Would you say they lacked planning?

What of people who invested heavily in the stock market and the recession swept away their money?

No one in the world is secured from shocks It can happen in Nigeria, It can happen in America

Nice one bro! Nobody knows what the future holds but we can trust who holds the future. It now depends on who or what holds our future (God or Man).

@OP, kindly look toward the future with hope regardless of life's disappointment and circumstances.

@ DK

I understand what you're saying but that kind of arbitrary El Rufai or Adisa shocks can only happen in places like Nigeria.

At this point I think everyone agrees that shocks can occur - the key now is to provide useful advice to the OP on how to overcome the current struggles.

debosky: @ DK

I understand what you're saying but that kind of arbitrary El Rufai or Adisa shocks can only happen in places like Nigeria.

At this point I think everyone agrees that shocks can occur - the key now is to provide useful advice to the OP on how to overcome the current struggles.

Yeah El Rufai and Adisa can only happen in Nigeria but some other things happen elsewhere like the stock market crash,

People who invested in Enron, Lehmann Brothers, Maddoff some of them are professors, investment analysts etc.

Millions of Americans have seen their 401k and retirement go down in an twinkle of an eye, This probably forced some 70yr old retiree to go pick up jobs in walmart since their means of livelihood suddenly evaporated

Would you say they dont plan or were lazy.

The point I am making is for those chastising the woman for marrying such a lazy man who lacked intelligence and planning.

i was chatting with one of my colleagues yesterday

dude had like 5k in his account

said he didn't belive in allowing his money to lie fallow - had it in stocks etal

but get this - his money was he lost like 19 m in the stock market crash

i had invested only measly amounts, but in the end we are both on the same level

yeah its great to have a plan, but as has been said, you just do not know what can happen next

lehman etal i'm sure were full of peeps with 10 year plans

ditto for all those people who got screwed over when the values of their houses went into the toilet

another colleague says the same thing about how her husband lost lots of money in the stock market crash - it still burns the guy.

all one needs is bit of bad luck - lose your job and everything can go to shheeet so fast

a colleague was laid of some years back - they gave hi his gratuity, he had some land some businesses etal - a few years later he was dead broke and had sold everything. it was terrible.

@op I live in the UK. I came in my early twenties so I guess I dont have the same experience as your husband but my dear I think your husband has been
taking it too easy. I know a woman who only did cleaning for like 10 years, bought two houses in UK and 1 in Naija, with nearly 10 years of the mortgage now paid. Even if your husband is doing early morning cleaning self he will make far more than £400 net a week. I wont call him lazy but id say he is too laid back. He is 40+, so what I know 50+ that are changing careers, cant he do PGCE for one year and go and teach.
I earn £350 a day but I still have a minicab licence and I have PGCE so I am also licenced to teach because I know you never know in life.
He should get off his ass madam, learn plumbing or hairdressing. I pay my barber £10 for less than 30 minutes job and the guy is always blasting music, chatting and enjoying himself while working which is like fun self, sometimes even me that is IT guy I envy him. if your man is that good with his hands, even minicabbing will give him more than £400-£500 a week and free up more money you are using for childcare and transportation cost. that is easily an extra £500 or more a month as it is very flexible or even he can drive London bus. My dear your husband im afraid is lazy. Even when I was a student I earned more than £200 a week so he is making excuses.
haba! cant he do minicab by night and estate agent etc by day? incredible!
To say that he is proud is laughable. what is more humiliating than being broke? abeg owo igbe kii run. People will respect you in UK or Naija if you drive a brand new car(meant to say if you have your money) regardless how you made it. Naijas with fake pride, let him not ruin your children's future jare. if he even becomes a full west end taxi driver he is guaranteed £50000 a year which government cannot monitor. o ga o.
He should be too proud for £200 a week and besides stores jobs are for students/newcomers, they can never sustain a family

haba! cant he do minicab by night and estate agent etc by day? incredible!

O'boy! I salute!

Ruthabokoku: Thanks

We dont really have any debts apart from credit cards (1 each) with little outstanding balances.
We are not extravagant, we pay our bills and take care of our kids whilst spending money prudently.
The problem is the income, my job is just OK and my hubby's quite bad so I am worried about living like this forever. You know that feeling of being stuck. I understand a lot of people in UK live like this but this is not our dream.
We don't need advisers actually because we manage our little money really well.
We look for a new job for him everyday but to be honest he doesnt have much skills so can't really get a high paying job. We have plans to relocate to Nigeria so he can do business which he is good at and I can get a job but how do we save the amount of money needed? We have discussed it and know/think that we would be better off in Nigeria.
That's why I thought to come on here to hear other people's stories and how they survived this kind of problems.

Ruth...let me quickly let you know that your childhood expectation is a "presently" a mismatch for the prevailing economic situation in the Uk.

I am happy you have helped to let us know that both of you manage your finances very well. So thats a big problem solved in terms of discipline which many pple lack.

I am having a feeling,you will be going in cycles and get sucked into the Uk system which is not working for a lot of Nigerian people..

The biological clock ticks and your hubby might be getting tired with time.

I wish I could speak with you...something tells me both of you "would" do far better in Nigeria if you dont mind the initial shock of problem of nepa and what have you.

Many of my friends have found one thing or the other to do in Nigeria.
If you dont get a job,you can a little business or both and your man too.

It is your goal that matters and not the feeling that you have come back home.

The opportunities are more here now cos of huge population and the increase in foreign taste of the emerging middle class.
Of course...you must shine your eyes in business and purge yourself of the oyinbo mentality.
Just think like the indians in Nigeria,,, just joking.

And please do your research of what nigerians need and what opportunities available to you and hubby in Uk that you can bring to Nigeria to make a difference especially in the areas of service business whiuch you can do from your flat before you add product business much late or both.

Get relevant skills blue collar both of you.
Of course, you may get a paid employment in addition.

And of course work had to get a honest friend to give rough estimate money to spend for 1yr excluding rent as you take off gradually.
Am not coherent typing this...

Lastly, the subtle "spiritual issue" might be waved aside here in NL but it may be for real. And if not. Thank God.
Pray to ascertain all.very important otherwise it could be like pouring water into a basket with large sieves.
Test all things...there or here before you embark on any action.
I enjoy NL and the pranks and serious issues.
Am in my 50's
Please pray for direction...may not be mine though

pauloman:
Spot on bro for the scenerios u gave. It appears David and jenny were so well bred that they dont know how life can come with ups and down. I have been reading all the post here and i must appreciate the likes of CC and co that have been so encouraging to Ruths plight. All she needs at this point is loads of encouragement and not how mistaken she found herself in such a condition.

My father quit his job midway with no plan B. It marked 9 yrs of sometimes having no food to eat to not being able to pay school fees. My mother had to go back to school to move up the ladder in her career and bring more money into the family pot. Been down in the valley before so i know what it means to live hand to mouth... it was HELL with a capital H. "loads of encouragement" was not what got us through the hard times but the steely determination in my mother's eyes that even if she had to starve, her kids will not suffer the consequences of poorly made choices.

My dear, life offers you 2 choices - sink or swim. Make your choice.

temi777: @op I live in the UK. I came in my early twenties so I guess I dont have the same experience as your husband but my dear I think your husband has been
taking it too easy. I know a woman who only did cleaning for like 10 years, bought two houses in UK and 1 in Naija, with nearly 10 years of the mortgage now paid. Even if your husband is doing early morning cleaning self he will make far more than £400 net a week. I wont call him lazy but id say he is too laid back. He is 40+, so what I know 50+ that are changing careers, cant he do PGCE for one year and go and teach.
I earn £350 a day but I still have a minicab licence and I have PGCE so I am also licenced to teach because I know you never know in life.
He should get off his ass madam, learn plumbing or hairdressing. I pay my barber £10 for less than 30 minutes job and the guy is always blasting music, chatting and enjoying himself while working which is like fun self, sometimes even me that is IT guy I envy him. if your man is that good with his hands, even minicabbing will give him more than £400-£500 a week and free up more money you are using for childcare and transportation cost. that is easily an extra £500 or more a month as it is very flexible or even he can drive London bus. My dear your husband im afraid is lazy. Even when I was a student I earned more than £200 a week so he is making excuses.
haba! cant he do minicab by night and estate agent etc by day? incredible!
To say that he is proud is laughable. what is more humiliating than being broke? abeg owo igbe kii run. People will respect you in UK or Naija if you drive a brand new car(meant to say if you have your money) regardless how you made it. Naijas with fake pride, let him not ruin your children's future jare. if he even becomes a full west end taxi driver he is guaranteed £50000 a year which government cannot monitor. o ga o.
He should be too proud for £200 a week and besides stores jobs are for students/newcomers, they can never sustain a family

My bros na you biko. My people here are busy quoting bible. Make i quote my own bible for them - 2 Thessalonians 3:10 For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat.

dayokanu: JK,

The point is that regardless of the plan you make things can still happen. The Zenith banker with a Shop in Alaba can lose his job and within 6months, The Govt seize his container he borrowed to ship. Would you call that laziness or lack of planning?

The people who invested in properties, You know some ppl invested in Properties and El Rufai or AbdulKarim Adisa just sent bulldozers there one day and destroyed everything, Would you say they lacked planning?

What of people who invested heavily in the stock market and the recession swept away their money?

No one in the world is secured from shocks It can happen in Nigeria, It can happen in America

What is the probability of someone losing both shop(s) and White collar job at the same time in Nigeria? what is the probability of someone losing his white collar job in Nigeria? and if they do, how many of them have so much money in their accounts saved up to start them back on their feet again? or are you going to give an example of how a bank stole the money of someone you know?

It is only In Nigeria that people lack fine managing skills. I repeat cast your net into the sea and let one try catch millions of fishes that your boat cannot contain.

pauloman:
It appears David and jenny were so well bred that they dont know how life can come with ups and down.

It appears nothing. I have seen men who refuse to go into care work because they think they are too big to clean white people's bum bum. Meanwhile these men are still jobless, some have jobs of 4 hours a week, leaving their wifve to fend for the whole family. Life has ups and downs alright but good planning will make your way easy. Someone said here that his brother or so lost his job because God wanted it so. . . . Which God? how do we know that was God's plans? The same God that sent his only son into this earth, made him poor that we will be rich, he was homeless so that we all will have a roof over our heads. Is it this same God that will not want the best for his children?

Last year or the year before, a NLDER in the travel section gave up his high paying Job because he wanted to travel to canada or so, it later did not work out and I just could not believe how daft some Nigerians are. You had a good job and you decided to leave it behind for obodo oyibo?how silly.

You know what? Nigeria will be a better place the minute we Nigerians start taking responsibility for our actions/mistakes/stpidty e.t.c. Reminds me of our neighbor in Nigeria, He used to say "It's the devils work- na devil cause am-devil plans no go work for my life-" Make una leave devil alone and stop blaming him for wetin him do and wetin him no do, no be when you invite am him go carry that him k-leg enter ya house? Most of the time na you be the architect of your own problem stop blaming others". . .

davidylan:

My bros na you biko. My people here are busy quoting bible. Make i quote my own bible for them - 2 Thessalonians 3:10 For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat.

@Masterplanner, Peter is a great fisherman, yet Luke 5:5 had it in record and I quote "Master, we've toiled all the night, and we have taken nothing..."

We have graduates roaming the streets without a job, haven't they worked. Bros go sitdown and be more realistic with life jare.

For those discrediting God, my sister now had a house in Manchester, UK and still kept her family. The same God that asked Abraham to leave his father's land to the land he'll show him.
I knew if the story had been that my sister had the best qualification and worked as top manager in UK, you would have claimed she had a better plan for her life. Na God dey do am! Its not my sister.

I've never asked the OP to sit down and keep expecting manna from heaven but my point is that she shouldn't lean on her own understanding.

With God, all things are possible.