inene: One simple question. Who paid for the wedding, was it your family or didnt the guy contribute towards his own wedding. You will have to help out but as you know there is no guarantee that you will get your money back. Take it as an investment into the life of your cousin. It may even be that the guy hasnt got a degree so when yuor cousin graduates from her present Masters course, she will get a job to start feeding the twart. I dont want to be judgemental but the guy appears to be a gold digger. I am not sure love is involved here. Its important to find out if your cousin fell in love with the guy or the oil company job so that she would have a comfortable life. YOu need to find out all this before you start investing in a crook. I am sorry if my language is a bit strong.

iykak47: All these criticism towards the guy, is it because he lied or because 'he has not made it'(jobless]?.
Kai Poverty it no go better for you, see as everybody de hit the guy front and back, I can now agree that a married man without money is not far from hail fire.
Se wetin ego oyel de cause, long throat.

denitro: Good for the girl.
That is the result you get when you are too materialistic.
I have dated girls like that...

N.B: If a girl is simple and down to earth and not too concerned about
her boyfriends educational background, job, money etc, guys will
open up about their lies.
He knew that the girl will dump him the moment she knows he is jobless.
MORAL OF THIS STORY: DON'T BE TOO CHOOSY, YOU MIGHT JUST END UP CHOOSING A JOBLESS GUY

XtremeBase:

Inene, i didnt even see this when i made my own post. These are my points exactly? The guy is a gold digger and had this all planned out. I am pretty sure it would have been a small wedding or even court, and the guy knowing he has no money except the one his oil company working friend gives him would tell the cousin that he doesnt like anything loud, he wants a small wedding with just family and few friends etc. SMH!

DailyNews:
Lolz...honestly the girl should take all the blame for her misery now...since the ladies in Nigeria have continually refused to listen to the so many testimonies, cries & call made by guys towards helping them reform to more wiser & virtuous ladies. Recently since April, I had been assigned a car where I work, and I had been using the car, also taking it to church, which happens to be the most place I visit aside my work. You cannot believe the surprises I had been encountering, thank God I am disciplined & reserved when it comes to such issues. I am not just going to say everything here shaa, but at least we all understand what I am trying to say- our nation has lost it entirely when it comes to good moral, we now attach so much value to immaterial things than true identity & personality/potential in a person, especially our today ladies. Becos of the pressure, couple with the issue of hold up & bad road in where I stay, I decided not to be taking the car home anymore, so I now use it for office assignments & park it in the office so I don't end up attracting some gold-digging folks who may end up putting me in a tight corner. Honestly, when guys tell you people that our ladies of today are too materialistic, believe them & if ur a lady, just take it as a lesson to change ur lifestyle- I know its hard, but through prayers & self-control u can achieve it. Stop fighting people that advice u on how to be a virtuous lady, just take the wise ones & discard the unwanted ones instead of arguing. But then, I am not saying girls should date or marry broke guys like some may interpret now, NOPE pls...but don't just allow ur heart & self to be inclined towards material gains, favor & gifts from the opposite gender; instead look for personality, ability, potential, character, attitude, aspiration, ambition, dream, goals, vision, etc...instead of the instant gains u would get. When making ur choice of partner, whether he is rich, poor, average or whatever, consider his dreams, his potential, his personality, he person & other reasonable things that define a man instead of just what u see around him at the moment- be it money, job, post, etc. If all Nigerian ladies married & single are to come here to testify, u ladies reading this will be shocked; becos most ladies have been deceived by what they saw, wealth, jobs, cars, etc, & even some that did fell for a man cos those stuffs & luckily married the person that has all that will still tell u sth to learn from. Finally as I always tell people here, with the advent of social network sites & forums like this, no girl or guy ought to make mistakes in choosing either a lover or a life partner becos so many informative & educating true life stories have been shared to teach people one or two things. Guys pls desist from scams, if ur not capable of handling a relationship or marriage y go into one? must u date? must u marry? must u have a girlfriend in life? NOPE!