Mynd_44: Before you tell her, just consider one thing. If she tells the NBA, you are an Arsenal fan

plantation:
now u're talking. U see where my career could be could be at risk here? U never can predict the limit of her vexations.

Mynd_44:
So why tell her? Everything seems to be going well why spoil it?

gree-die:


everytin isnt goin well... Ow can a castle of sand withstand d wind?

op, if u ope to settle down wit her, u must come clean, d earlier d better. U knew d dangers to ur career nd her emotion but it didnt deter u from lyin all des years... D alternative is to break up wit ha, can u do dat?

gree-die:


everytin isnt goin well... Ow can a castle of sand withstand d wind?

op, if u ope to settle down wit her, u must come clean, d earlier d better. U knew d dangers to ur career nd her emotion but it didnt deter u from lyin all des years... D alternative is to break up wit ha, can u do dat?

plantation:
i've tot about it for a very long while. Stil cant see it's possibility due to som reasons.

nat138: @ OP, it is really difficult to understand how you can date a girl for 10 years, and she has never come across a situation where you've been addressed by your ral name. Hasn't she ever been to where you work? Or you have also told the people at work to address you by the other name she knows? Or hasn't she come acroSs any receipts of stuFf you've paid for like rent, water bills etc? It is really hard to believe.

And I mean what is all this talk about reporting you to the NBA?? Did you use the fake result for admission? You said NO, and also wasn't this security job thingy long before you got into uni to study for your law degree??

Bottomline, she deserves to know the truth, and whatever she does, you should accept it in good faith as the consequence for your actions.

Cheers

doctokwus: Some things just don't add up in this story,sorry to say.Like d person u impersonated,where is he in dis tale& for ten yrs ur g/f hasn't fd anything dat wi mke her ask questions,ten gud yrs wt dat kind of lie,find it very hard to blv,dats me sha

plantation:
she's never been to my working place. I dread her coming there for obvious reasons. My only account number which she has is the former salary account the security company opened for us in those days. And i've made her believe that's the only account i use till date. She pays into it atimes. The receipts i wud always want her to com across are basically the not so useful ones where i wud always use that pseudo name. U see, everything looks so real to her. And as for the NBA, This can pass for fraudulent past record which means i wasn't even fit and proper in the 1st place to be called to the bar. Break up seems the only viable option here. But hey, on wat grounds. Not after all she's committed into dis relationship (financially and otherwise). Apart frm making me a sadist to her. It'll stil unsettle my own emotions. My mom would even scold me to the brim. She's hypertensive and has been going for a regular medical check up at their hospital free of charge since january last year. All these is courtesy of my woman. So u see why break up isn't jst going to be as easy as it sounds.

Skii:

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Did you tell her your parents are (if they are still alive) divorcees? Or what name is your mom using?

durobraham: marry her first and then tell her. Evidence of spouses is protected by the Evidence Act if i remember correctly so she cant easily use your confession against u. Dont confess any criminal act to sum1 who doesnt have evidentiary priviledge. which kind lawyer uu be sef?

(nb- this is legal advice which in no way reflects how i personally feel about the matter. Before this Nlanders would turn on me)

omega25red: poster

as a practising lawyer you should know that you can go to a court to legally change your name so that the story will forever match the name.


Which kind of a guy are you anyway? you kept up a lie for 10 years? and she never met your family or friend or you never ran into someone who knows you by your real name or you never slipped up?

cindyrella: @op
She deserves to know the truth, better late than never.. I hope she finds a place in her heart to forgive u.

Choi But u sef u try oh 10 years

cindyrella: @op
She deserves to know the truth, better late than never.. I hope she finds a place in her heart to forgive u.

Choi But u sef u try oh 10 years

cindyrella: @op
She deserves to know the truth, better late than never.. I hope she finds a place in her heart to forgive u.

Choi But u sef u try oh 10 years

plantation:
if it were u, wud u forgive? Dat's the question

life_style:


If na u, u go forgive am ?

cindyrella:


Yes I will forgive u.
But I will find it very hard to trust u again.



Yes now y not?

life_style:

easier said than done...

enuelly: You could shocked to see that if you tell her she will just laugh it off and it will be a joke afterall. Just tell her op there is no strategy to it.. Just tell her.

Duke_Nija: @OP
I'm sorry to start this way, but you are a F.O.O.L. I sincerely understand the initial fake identity which led to your securing a Job. What i choose not to understand, despite your justifications, is how you failed to tell someone you claimed to love,(who could be the closest person in the world to you) your real name. Any explanation would have been understood since she was 'in Love' with you.
I have no advice for you. I hope she finds out herself.

durobraham: marry her first and then tell her. Evidence of spouses is protected by the Evidence Act if i remember correctly so she cant easily use your confession against u. Dont confess any criminal act to sum1 who doesnt have evidentiary priviledge. which kind lawyer uu be sef?

(nb- this is legal advice which in no way reflects how i personally feel about the matter. Before this Nlanders would turn on me)

gree-die:
^^^ like a woman scorned...
really? Ur legal advice is dt he continues d deceit? Nd ow wuld he marry a woman wit a fake name, pray tell? Or u tink his kin ll applaud him 4 his errors past nd support him?...pls wts ur non- legal advice?