if u ask a naija guy out,he will be using u to leverage his pride,and will tell other girls who turn him down,that there is a girl who is even asking him out.

I No longer use Google........... I have memorised all the webpages

kayusfit:



YOU ARE A LOW LIFE FOR STARTING SUCH A DUMB AND BASELESS THREAD. FOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

Ouch!
that was harsh!

There is no big deal in it. just as someone said many girls have lost great opportunities in becoming friends with guys they really like just because of the mentality they possess, some girls believe in this mentality to the extent that they will even refuse to say 'hi' first just because they believe the guy is suppose to.

And the guy in person must be nature enough to appreciate the lady's courage, he shouldn't start braggin about she askin him out, else she'll feel really down and wouldn't wanna give it a try ever again.
i really appreciate gals who don't mind making the first move, cuz for me it eases a lot of tension and makes me more free with her.

[b]ebamma [/b]if u ask a naija guy out,he will be using u to leverage his pride,and will tell other girls who turn him down,that there is a girl who is even asking him out.

On point.

It is classless for a girl to ask a guy out, it only shows how cheap she is. If a guy truly loves a girl, he will do anything within his power to be with her. What happened to the pride of a woman?

My Ex told me through her kid brother that she "love" me and we dated for more than 6 years.

I have been asked out by girls in the past. There's nothing wrong with it...the main thing to be considered is the perception of the guy. As for me, am totally cool with it.

kayusfit: AND THIS BULL Poo MADE THE FRONTPAGE when most of my post are deleted. Smh for all the eediots on nairaland including the OP

Ogbeni go die jare, u no see plethora of boko haram news , wat solutions have u proffered.? If u wan serious, go psychiatry home. Ass-wipe

Hmmmm.... Civilizatn don spoil d whole thing. Its very wrong 4a lady 2ask a guy out o. A man shud ask a girl out, dat is d ideal way. Al ladies ar given natural attractn by God, no mata hw ugly she may luk, Her man must cum 4her. Woman ar creatd 4rm man. So a man wil alwaz luk 4her missing rib. Cheers.

There is notin wrong but it shd b done indirectly tru body language,emotions,gifts or txt msg

janyj:

On point.

It is classless for a girl to ask a guy out, it only shows how cheap she is. If a guy truly loves a girl, he will do anything within his power to be with her. What happened to the pride of a woman?

That's total bullsh*t! Pride of a woman my foot!!! *Nigerians and their stone age mentality* mtchewwww...if you want something, go get em!

God created Man first, so therefore a Man must alwys make d move first! Nd again wt if d guy isnt interestd? Dt wud b shameful!!!

There is nothing wrong in a girl asking a guy out. Why bottle up your feelings becos of stereotype judgement. C'mon, we are in the 21 century. Last I checked, women were still believed to do even better what a man can do well. It does not matter to me who makes the first move. Some people actually believe that a man will under-appreciate the worth of a lady if the lady call the shot. Who says? I don't subscribe to conventional thoughts and the usual group mentality. A man who loves you will love you irrespective of who makes the first move in the relationship. Once you lost him, you lost him for life. So go on girls. . .

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for d first time, a girl asked me out, though it was on fone, and funny enof, after dat day, d babe number no go again (dont know if na d same shyness make her throway her phone)

I doubt if any nigerian girl can but i dont see the big deal in a girl asking a guy out if she like a guy.

no big deal ...but be careful of immature guys

Koolking: There is nothing wrong in a girl asking a guy out. Why bottle up your feelings becos of stereotype judgement. C'mon, we are in the 21 century. Last I checked, women were still believed to do even better what a man can do well. It does not matter to me who makes the first move. Some people actually believe that a man will under-appreciate the worth of a lady if the lady call the shot. Who says? I don't subscribe to conventional thoughts and the usual group mentality. A man who loves you will love you irrespective of who makes the first move in the relationship. Once you lost him, you lost him for life. So go on girls. . .

On point!

my dear,it dependz o...cos i askd a guy i loved bt al he cld say was i was puttin pressure on him,i had 2 let him b n i waitd 4 smoda guy 2 ask me out.

I personally don't see a big deal about it.the first girlfriend I had was in secondary school,I was 2 classes ahead and thot of her as a school daughter..until the day she told me she loved me that is!!omo,see as I shock.sadly,I was about leaving school then,so it was easy for us to date(late 90's,no gsm).it lasted 2yrs and we broke up.she's married with a kid now and to date,she's still the standard I hold others to.
My point is,if u like someone,let him know.if he thinks of u as a slut/cheap,my dear,it's his loss..believe me,life's too short to have "what if's".I know that for a fact.

I'm surprised this is making the front page as it has been dealt with several times and I remember writing a piece on it in one of my previous posts. This is the 21st century. It's only bush ladies who still possess this silly attitude that they have to wait for men to approach them. Like I wrote in an article sometimes ago, when a lady lacks self-confidence, she tries to hide under the toga of the famous saying "He will think I am cheap" . If you are not cheap, nobody can make you feel that way and if you know who you are, it won't matter what others think. If you like a man, you don't even have to tell him by words of your mouth. You can tell him through actions and if he is wise, he will get the message

platinumricky That's total bullsh*t! Pride of a woman my foot!!! *Nigerians and their stone age mentality* mtchewwww...if you want something, go get em!

Nigeria would be a better place to live in without cowards like you . You know better, when a guy asks a guy out, its not the same as when the guy asks a girl out, some how there will be problems in the relationship if the guy doesnt really like her

*wasn't easy*

ebamma: if u ask a naija guy out,he will be using u to leverage his pride,and will tell other girls who turn him down,that there is a girl who is even asking him out.

stereotypically baseless

It depends on the lady... My current babe wooed me and it being more than a year now, the relationship is waxing stronger everyday. I av never disrespected her and she respects me too

cindyrella:


Well I kinda agree with you, there really is nothing wrong in being blunt and telling a guy u like him and wants to be friends with him...
but I can't do it..
I am just too shy to walk up to a guy and say I wanna be friends with him... Where will I even start from??

You can start from the beginning, by saying, guy I like you, can we be friends. Some lady has done that to me and I was surprised. She say me at a traditional wedding when I was taking some pics of the celebrats. She asked someone to call me.

glimpse: my dear,it dependz o...cos i askd a guy i loved bt al he cld say was i was puttin pressure on him,i had 2 let him b n i waitd 4 smoda guy 2 ask me out.

that means he wasn't meant for you. When one says no the guys don't some asking out. So you should compose yourself and try again. When you fall, don't stay down, get up.

janyj:

Nigeria would be a better place to live in without cowards like you . You know better, when a guy asks a guy out, its not the same as when the guy asks a girl out, some how there will be problems in the relationship if the guy doesnt really like her

Primitive sub-moronic entity..U̶̲̥̅̊ wud probably get married on ur 48th birthday! 1ce i want something, i go for it...its as simple as dat. Everything in life is a risk, U̶̲̥̅̊ win some, U̶̲̥̅̊ lose some.

This site is filled with some ppl wey dey smoke weed before them type......Wen der is a topic dey either tribalize it or insult posters....If you no like something U no need insult any one na...For me it all depend on the lady and also the type of guy.If the lady is bold enough and knows what she wants..why not??
As for the guy there is a tendency for him not to take the relationship seriouse...so it depends on the guy and the babe

Becacia_Barbie: God created Man first, so therefore a Man must alwys make d move first! Nd again wt if d guy isnt interestd? Dt wud b shameful!!!

but there is this saying, Ladies first.