sweetcheecks:

please foward thread url. Would like to check it out. Thanks

Use the search option. Stop being lazy

Mynd_44:
Use the search option. Stop being lazy

I have checked but did not get something quite close to this

sexkillz: @ topic
Depending on the loan amount involved, i may deserve to waive it. . . But returning every cent i gave her? That's an insult!

If thats the case, then most women should consider doing this more often so guys can stop complaining about women being gold diggers, beggers and after their money. I think this might improve the quality of relationships.

esere826:


Definitely return the loan

As for 'paying back' every other money!! Was the relationship a transaction?

I feel really irrated when ladies scream about equal rights, and how their guys must zip their pants, but yet make 'collecting of money' from men a strong feature of their relationships as this case shows.

Don't you understand that this leads to a power differential in relationships fuelling male behaviour, and the degenerate way men perceive women generally.


I mean if we are talking of the lady returning money (apart from the loan) here, how come the guy is not also returning something tangible like money, shirts etc ?

Obviuosly she wasnt giviving any thing tangible, .. probably just se.x and cooking. ....shame, shame

But dont you think this is how she is showing him that, she was not the taker in the relationship but a partaker. Meaning she was not selling but gave and took the intangable part of the relationship freely.

Mynd_44:
That might be the reason why she wants to return everything. To insult the guy.

From this I guess he will feel be insulted but then that should be an attitude altering experiance. So if he thinks he can get any woman by waving dollar, then he needs to up his game for real.

I think she is decent and proud and doing what she reckons will be a redeeming act.

Ladies maybe we can all learn from this, when he masses you up, hit him where it hurts. Guys may feel its okay bring the money back but deep down they know this is taking power from the playa!
EMASCULATING. !!!

I think this might just change the game!

sweetcheecks: My thoughts were that maybe she still likes him so needs a way of redeeming her pride becouse of the way they parted. Which she is very disappointed with. And if she still likes him and does pay everything back she might alianate him further becouse he might feel insulted and would never consider recinciliation. But she say no she is over him?
I am not convinced she is.

She needs to do what makes her feel better,and not worry about his reaction. They are not together any more and what is important is her moving on and getting closure.IMO

190: was the loan given to her after a s[i]e[/i]x marathon

if yes then she should return the money and the guy should return the marathon

everyone's happy

Okay, isn't sex a two way thing? Dont you think she also enjoyed the sex? Why bring the immaterial part of the relationship into this? This is where I do not understand guys. This was not a lovepeddler nothing was for sale. If you give someone a gift and they decide to return it, rather take it back or return hers, gifts that is. Does this mean guys really use money to play the upper hand? What else?

sweetcheecks:

From this I guess he will feel be insulted but then that should be an attitude altering experiance. So if he thinks he can get any woman by waving dollar, then he needs to up his game for real.

I think she is decent and proud and doing what she reckons will be a redeeming act.

Decency has noting to do with this. She just wants to spite the guy and make him feel like his gifts were not needed in the first place.
Personally, I think she still likes the guy as this is just an attempt ar seeking the guy's attention.

Mynd_44:
Decency has noting to do with this. She just wants to spite the guy and make him feel like his gifts were not needed in the first place.
Personally, I think she still likes the guy as this is just an attempt ar seeking the guy's attention.

When guys decide not to tell women that it is over they just dont call and expect women to read between the lines, ar they not being spiteful? So maybe she is spitting him back to express her disapproval of how he treated her. Tit for tett!

O.D.B.:


No. I bounced with half her stuff in the middle of the nite

Are the no police where you stay? Where I am you would been counted in jail that same night!

sweetcheecks: Ladies maybe we can all learn from this, when he masses you up, hit him where it hurts. Guys may feel its okay bring the money back but deep down they know this is taking power from the playa!
EMASCULATING. !!!

I think this might just change the game!

sadly, many of your sistas out there aint got a penny to their names, and therefore most of these hungry broka [b]a[/b]ss begging lot would need to keep these gifts (in order to sell them off for cash........ and SURVIVE)

Do you even know what honor is? Of course you should pay back the loan with...what sort of person even asks a question like this.

this is why I keep finances out of relationships till it's sealed in one way or another.
I know it will give her an emotional breakthrough and make her 'feel free'. But what is the guy giving back considering relationships involve input from both sides.
Can her emotions be quantified and paid back? Why is she blind to the fact that she also gave in her time and emotions?

Loan is loan tht she can pay. the rest is vain.

sdefrhn

MRbrownJAY:

sadly, many of your sistas out there aint got a penny to their names, and therefore most of these hungry broka [b]a[/b]ss begging lot would need to keep these gifts (in order to sell them off for cash........ and SURVIVE)

I think that this would make the sisters work harder and redeem themselves!

MRbrownJAY:

sadly, many of your sistas out there aint got a penny to their names, and therefore most of these hungry broka [b]a[/b]ss begging lot would need to keep these gifts (in order to sell them off for cash........ and SURVIVE)

Lol

pendo89: this is why I keep finances out of relationships till it's sealed in one way or another.
I know it will give her an emotional breakthrough and make her 'feel free'. But what is the guy giving back considering relationships involve input from both sides.
Can her emotions be quantified and paid back? Why is she blind to the fact that she also gave in her time and emotions?

Loan is loan tht she can pay. the rest is vain.

I'm sure the other party gave 'time and emotions' also, Is hers more valuable than his? Where did u get the idea that people have to pay for your attention that is just dumb.

However, money is money.

sweetcheecks:

I think that this would make the sisters work harder and redeem themselves!

bwaaah!!!! when these same women are dying to get their hand on their first BB or Gucci bag, you are here talking about working harder and redeeming themselves.

they DO work harder by having 3 or 4 sugar daddy to service weekly, instead of 1........because sadly, there is NO WAy you can make these lazy good for nothing women change. they want what they dont deserve, and they know that this is the only way they will ever get their hands on these items, so ashewoism is the key to their future.

it is sad but we have to face the facts: having a BB or some Louboutin shoes is the new social status for the broke [b]a[/b]ss begging ones who want to pretend that they are not who they are.