val_dee: You are still not tired of testing different joysticks abi?
Ok na, continue. When the guy leaves, your eyes go open.

Onegai: Hmm, you guys don't like you're walking in-step with each other. Honestly, there's nothing wrong with wanting some time, yes you need money ( and not for sharing souvenirs at your wedding, how shallow are you?) but for you to know how to handle and earn a living and manage yourself. And if you really see him as a good husband and father (though he's 35 and lives in Abuja while his gf is 22 is telling me a lot about him), then make the best of the situation. What you should be looking for is emotional readiness in marriage, because cooking soup and having babies is REALLY EASY compared to supporting and loving and building up someone for the next 40 years while nurturing his kids to grow up well and providing a home free of screaming, nagging, fighting endlessly with your in-laws, and trying not to make too many big mistakes.

Do you want independence because he kind of feels like your dad, you wanna have some fun and party a little or is it because you want to at least know what it's like to have bills to pay for a year? Nothing wrong with all of those, as long as you are making a choice. Some of our parents did go from Daddy to hubby.

A-ZeD:
At what age does one become an aristo?
#Just asking

ebera: see dis person ooo,dis has notn 2 do wif joysticks,after all,I dnt even know any oda joystick apart frm his. I jst want 2 feel what it means being independent.[/b]I jst pray dt mayb b4 nxt year ends,I shld b reasoning wif him on dis issue,if nt.....[b]well am jst confused shaaa

ebera: see dis person ooo,dis has notn 2 do wif joysticks,after all,I dnt even know any oda joystick apart frm his.I jst want 2 feel what it means being independent.I jst pray dt mayb b4 nxt year ends,I shld b reasoning wif him on dis issue,if nt.....well am jst confused shaaa

Rocktation: Ok, so he snatched you from your cradle and now you want an open relationship that will last for 2 years, so you can have your own money to buy souvenirs for your friends at your wedding...or what are you even saying sef?

deal_ordea: @op: if I got your drift very well, you wanted to explore more after school which is possibly two years and your bf to be husband wanted you to be is home quick wifey which I clearly see him been insecure of loosen you due to qualities you possess in other to warn other men that she is taken!!

Gbam!!! First, I will call you a donkey girl for not yielding in to what your bf wanted, though you don't feel cool with what he wanted to bargain with you right now but do you know some ladies are out there seriously seeking a man who could just engaged them for a day(smile)...common, I know you are trying to be logical with your current financial status but your bf is not complain, he only want a guarantee status that you aint going no where. Also, your bf is getting older day by day and don't you feel he was been accused by is friend that his a child abuser?? I know a lot of members on here will probably say age is just a number but your bf is probably considering is age and he is afraid of regretting later in life that, if only had I know, I would have tie the knot with her which makes your man feel insecure presently.

Did u say you guys dated for 5 good years and you said you love him but don't want to settle down now, common, he doesn't want to tie you down lady, he just need a guarantee that you aint going to end up with another man.. My advice to you lady, hit the ball while not in motion cos once its kicked out, you've lost it!!! You can engaged him and talk on mutual understanding that you got to finish your blah blah blah before finally settling down with him...

Peace out

malaria: Poster u are seriously chasing water falls when u have rivers& lakes around u.pls if u arnt ready 4 marriage free the poor dude and give single ladies out there a chance.pls o! Take make decisions u'll regret later

ebera: mmmmmmmmm, ooooooooo.come and ave him then

ebera: My dears,I have bn dating my boy friend for 5 yrs,since my ss3 and I am currently in my 400 level.he is working now,bt we are in different states because of his work.since early dis year dt he gt work in abuja,he hasn'† bn comfortable leaving me down here.he opted 2 meet my parents @ the end of dis year,bt I tld him ealier dan now,infact right frm time dt I don'† want any marriage issue til I'm out of sch.I ave got 1 year of my final,my internship and service,dts 3 yrs.bt since he went to abuja,he has given me just 1 year 2 finish my schooling,dt my internship and service wil b done after wedlock,bt I dnt wnt dt.I feel soo tied down.I love my bf sooooooo much dt I can't choose anoda,bt all I wnt is a little indepence,mayb 2 yrs.we even had a big fight over the phone cos he felt I wz no longer interested.I dnt knw whether 2 agree because I dnt wnt him doubtn my love cos I lv him,bt in d̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ other sense,I wanna do my internship b4 wedlock.my elder sis got married in her 500 level,and I saw how she depended on d̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ husband during d̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ weding preparation,souvenirs and the rest.she hadn'† even enough money to make souvenirs 4 her cosmates.dt I dnt want,bt he does nt want 2 understand.this is really causing Trouble.I dnt know whether he is also considering his age,bt am nt complaining.I am 22 and he is 35.should I keep quiet til he returns in august or keep saying my stand on it.pls useful advice pls.

ebera: see dis person ooo,dis has notn 2 do wif joysticks,after all,I dnt even know any oda joystick apart frm his.I jst want 2 feel what it means being independent.I jst pray dt mayb b4 nxt year ends,I shld b reasoning wif him on dis issue,if nt.....well am jst confused shaaa

ebera: Aint sleepn wif d̶̲̥̅̊ 3,A̶̲̥̅♏' jst sleepn wif. M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ student bf whom I prefer most.kn it rily work out if I neglect d̶̲̥̅̊ 2 workn class guys who wnt a permernent gf 4 M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ love whom aint sure it wil lead 2 marriage cos he's just a class ahead of me.