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Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Bundle002(m): 12:30pm On Nov 08, 2021
Omoh is it true that weed causes mental issues ? I just don’t believe yet
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Bundle002(m): 12:32pm On Nov 08, 2021
Omoh is it true that weed really cause mental issues . I just don’t believe
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Dude397(m): 12:38pm On Nov 08, 2021
Mercychen:



Oh.. I see.

So, how's the weaning been going? Have you had any forms of reaction in the first stage of weaning? Or it's been smooth sailing?.
Very smooth honestly and no form of relapse in anyway. God be praised

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Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Zumzum(m): 1:02pm On Nov 08, 2021
Dude397:
Good evening everyone. To cut the long story short my mental health issues started in 2012 when I tried weed in the university. It's not genetic. I've also been in and out of psychiatric hospitals a good number of times. However I'm currently on medication and I've been able to manage the condition. I was also able to graduate and I've also done my nysc and my family is planning on opening a small business for me since job has not been forthcoming.

However my health condition has been kept secret by me and family and I'm currently dating a nice girl. Please should I tell her my secret. What caused most of my episodes was refusal to take my medication and all that but right now I'm very okay and for some few years now I've been going about my daily affairs without any issue. If I let the cat out of the bag I don't think she may stay cos the stigma of mental health issues is not a joke. Please I need your advice on how to handle this delicate issue. Thanks

Dude get a grip, the truth will set you free ALWAYS!!!If she loves you, she'll be there(in wacko jackos voice)
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by OnyeObodo: 1:21pm On Nov 08, 2021
Dude397:
Good evening everyone. To cut the long story short my mental health issues started in 2012 when I tried weed in the university. It's not genetic. I've also been in and out of psychiatric hospitals a good number of times. However I'm currently on medication and I've been able to manage the condition. I was also able to graduate and I've also done my nysc and my family is planning on opening a small business for me since job has not been forthcoming.

However my health condition has been kept secret by me and family and I'm currently dating a nice girl. Please should I tell her my secret. What caused most of my episodes was refusal to take my medication and all that but right now I'm very okay and for some few years now I've been going about my daily affairs without any issue. If I let the cat out of the bag I don't think she may stay cos the stigma of mental health issues is not a joke. Please I need your advice on how to handle this delicate issue. Thanks

Guy, Don't ever tell her. Dont listen to Nairalanders. If you love the girl, that's all that matters.

If you ever tell her, it will become a stigma to you. You have been warned.

Shw will use it against you tomorrow and anything you do will make her see you in the light of a mentally unbalanced man.

The worst is that she will fear that her children with you may become mad!!!

Guy... Think well oo.
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Madas1986(m): 1:33pm On Nov 08, 2021
Dude397:
Risperidone and athane at night only. Was taking it twice daily but not anymore
thank you so much
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by BeardedMeat(m): 1:40pm On Nov 08, 2021
XOGBADO:
You can't keep it hidden forever. You should open up to her if you see a future with her
Yes! Dude397, only if you see a future with her.

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Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by BeardedMeat(m): 1:43pm On Nov 08, 2021
Noshitboi:
Wetin be that Faze song sef...
Dude397, no be weed cause am, talk true. Na something bigger you take.
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Horkanla80: 1:49pm On Nov 08, 2021
Tell her the truth if she's for you she will definitely stand by you
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by dontrulee: 1:51pm On Nov 08, 2021
mysticwarrior:
pls how does she behaves when the kolo don start? I have never seen a female with mental issues apart from the mad women we see on the street everyday.

Her's wasn't the violent type though. Just series of extreme mood swings, crying for no reason, long irrational chats on Whatsapp, bleeped up mindset, uncontrollable urge, very abusive and very respectful. She claims I'm the only one that understands her, guys run away from her. Unfortunately if she doesn't take care of her mental health, it may grow to violence one day. She doesn't drink or smoke though.
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by baby124: 2:24pm On Nov 08, 2021
Viking07:
Some things are better left unsaid. It is not genetic, it was just a mistake on your part, which has no way of affecting your offspring plus you are on medication and you’re certain you won’t relapse then keep it to yourself. All those edging you to talk also have their own skeletons nobody knows about.

Good luck.
It’s most likely genetic of weed caused it. It was there lying low till weed triggered it. Any stressful situation would have triggered it. For 99% of people weed is harmless. This one percent that say they had mental issues have underlying mental issues.
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Nobody: 2:29pm On Nov 08, 2021
Dude397:
Very smooth honestly and no form of relapse in anyway. God be praised

O great! Thank God.

Now, in this order you've explained and been able to convince me, ( as regards the weaning stages) about your improvement so far after the gradual withdrawal from the medication, that everything is now under control, can you explain it to her exactly this way, instead of presenting it straight up to her as a mental case? At least this way it will sound milder and easier to accept.

Let her know you're in the final stage of weaning and assure her there won't be any relapses again.

God will perfect your healing in Jesus name.
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by ManspaceBarber(m): 2:40pm On Nov 08, 2021
Dude397:
Good evening everyone. To cut the long story short my mental health issues started in 2012 when I tried weed in the university. It's not genetic. I've also been in and out of psychiatric hospitals a good number of times. However I'm currently on medication and I've been able to manage the condition. I was also able to graduate and I've also done my nysc and my family is planning on opening a small business for me since job has not been forthcoming.

However my health condition has been kept secret by me and family and I'm currently dating a nice girl. Please should I tell her my secret. What caused most of my episodes was refusal to take my medication and all that but right now I'm very okay and for some few years now I've been going about my daily affairs without any issue. If I let the cat out of the bag I don't think she may stay cos the stigma of mental health issues is not a joke. Please I need your advice on how to handle this delicate issue. Thanks

My brother, the most important thing is that you talk it out and there are ready to listen to you.
Please take your medication seriously and refrain from being isolated, idle or lonely.

Tell her if she has developed a strong interest in you. If she is genuinely interested in you, you would be amazed how her support can an additional tool for you to fight the battle you are already winning.

If she's not meant for you, she may go, but your family would be there till someone meant for you comes.

All in all, you can't hide your story from her if you want to build a serious relationship with her.

My brother, this month I grow moustache to raise awareness for the boys close to me, who lost their battles to mental illness and testicular cancer.

I would like to see you more around. I want to let you you know that no matter how you are feeling, someone else can relate. You're not alone. I care.


In case you need someone to talk to, I'm all ears.

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Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Kreme(m): 2:40pm On Nov 08, 2021
Kolomental
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Drella(m): 2:49pm On Nov 08, 2021
You no go see Slawormir for this thread grin
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by treziMcCarthy: 3:01pm On Nov 08, 2021
For me, it depends on the intensity of the health issues, the kind of reaction or act that comes up when it starts, if its something that's not intense, you can keppe it to yourself, but if it's something that is intense,there are two things involve.

You telling her will change a lot about this relationship, she could leave you and you will end up in depression, I will suggest you keep it to yourself and if she's thr one for you... Whenever she find out she will stay.


Just an opinion.

You can still learn from other people opinion.
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by goldmatrix(m): 3:09pm On Nov 08, 2021
Now or later she will will still hear it ..so you decide
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Babatunde7109(m): 3:10pm On Nov 08, 2021
Dude397:
Good evening everyone. To cut the long story short my mental health issues started in 2012 when I tried weed in the university. It's not genetic. I've also been in and out of psychiatric hospitals a good number of times. However I'm currently on medication and I've been able to manage the condition. I was also able to graduate and I've also done my nysc and my family is planning on opening a small business for me since job has not been forthcoming.

However my health condition has been kept secret by me and family and I'm currently dating a nice girl. Please should I tell her my secret. What caused most of my episodes was refusal to take my medication and all that but right now I'm very okay and for some few years now I've been going about my daily affairs without any issue. If I let the cat out of the bag I don't think she may stay cos the stigma of mental health issues is not a joke. Please I need your advice on how to handle this delicate issue. Thanks


See, my friend, whether you tell her or not, in the long run, the results will end up the same. Here is why:

Since you’re already having this affection for her, if you tell her now, the existing little love she has for you will disappear into the thing air. No matter how good she may be, her human nature won’t leave her, except she doesn’t have any other choice but you.

On the other hand, if you decide not to tell her now, believing that you can always avoid the attack in her presence, then she will get to know eventually that ur mental health isn’t perfect. Even if we assume that she would think it is a fresh occurrence, the chances of her continuing the relationship with you is very, very slim.

However, telling her now seems to be the best. This is because, when u tell her about ur condition, you have given her the liberty to make her choice — whether to stay and manage you or leave. And this is far better than when she discovered the whole thing herself.
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by WoundedLamb: 3:17pm On Nov 08, 2021
King2305:


No mental issue is curable, you can only manage it..

This area is bit grey. Yes, you're right. However, while there's no definite cure for mental health issues, some have fully recovered from mental illnesses that others suffered for a lifetime. Nevertheless, this is not enough to change the prevalent medical literature because saying a particular mental illness is curable would imply there are tested medications that actually make them dissappear after a known period of time, and that is not the case cause many live with them for life no matter the medication. But then again, that is not to say there aren't some people who never experienced relapses again after the initial withdrawal from medication (be it by chance or otherwise).

Whether it's permanent or temporary could depend on many things like what caused it, the individual, how severe it had become, the environment, etc. The issue here is that, unlike physical illnesses, there's hardly anything definite about mental illnesses. So while curable might not be word, people have fully recovered from less severe mental issues like depression and the likes.

When I asked a psychologist (not a psychiatrist) this question, she asked me "do you think cough, fever and headache can be cured?" When I didn't reply, she said "there lies your answer". You can interpret this conversation your own way. Lol

I also learned people who have never experienced any relapse so many years after withdrawal from medication find it a bit saddening if not offensive to be told they're permanently inflicted.
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by uche393: 3:23pm On Nov 08, 2021
Tell her indirectly like" babe, you see Igbo? na bad thing o... While I was in school I took it and it really affected me mentally and physically. I was taken to the hospital and if not for God's mercy I could have been a mad man, I'm still taking medications occasionally"...

There is a way you will Tell someone something whiteout causing negative reaction even in future....as long as you don't exhibit an form of psychological imbalance she not leave you

God bless!
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Nobody: 3:42pm On Nov 08, 2021
baby124:

It’s most likely genetic of weed caused it. It was there lying low till weed triggered it. Any stressful situation would have triggered it. For 99% of people weed is harmless. This one percent that say they had mental issues have underlying mental issues.
If this is the case, then he needs to say the truth now.
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Originalsly: 3:45pm On Nov 08, 2021
From the write up..... I don't think you should label yourself as a mental case. It is more that you had mental problems due to drugs. That was over with the weed and whatever they spiked it with. The medication may be the bigger problem... psychotic drugs that can really rearrange your mind. You have not been taking it and are doing fine... what does that tell you? My advice... stay clear of your medications... in fact.. dump them. I think you should tell your gf your history ... how you tried out weed... it was spiked... messed you up mentally ... even had to seek psychiatric help.... but managed to get over it.... graduate. .etc etc and will never ever want to go that route again... ever. This is different that basically telling her you're a certified madman.
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by DavidHarry(m): 4:39pm On Nov 08, 2021
Don't tell her anything
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Ugandatales: 5:23pm On Nov 08, 2021
Prechgold1180:

Did you read the cause of the said mental illness
And did you check when last the illness went outta control

As long as he is able to control it he is not mad

With time everything would come back normal

This nairaland is the worst place to sick for advice
You would be running from depression
Nairaland would gladly mk u commit sucide
And still insult u when ur sucide news get to fP the next day

So true.
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Ugandatales: 5:27pm On Nov 08, 2021
Dude397:
I'm not bound to it forever ma'am. According to my doctors, with timely usage of the medication I'll be gradually weaned off it till I stop taking it altogether. Right now it's just once a day at night. After my next appointment it'll be once in three days till I'm off it completely probably in the next one or two years. Thanks

When you used to have episodes back in the day, how were there? I mean, how bad did the mental episodes get, and what do you normally do during those times?
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by millionboi(m): 5:36pm On Nov 08, 2021
folake4u:
Possible date questions:

Have you been mad before?
Do you have a mental health illness?

God abeg!
Really

Mental health issues are just like any other health issues: they can be diagnosed, treated or managed.

Its not a death sentence: no need stigmatizing them. Its unfortunate that people who say things like this are actually educated.

Madam, if you go for diagnosis, you probably may come out positive for one mental health issue or the other: BPD, PD, ASAD, MADD, BD, PDD, PTSD, MDD etc
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by millionboi(m): 5:46pm On Nov 08, 2021
LordVarys1:
Just make money, even with the mental issues she will stay grin

I just hope you are not dating my sister Sha?
lol
Mental health could be loss of memory,the person starts acting funny and so on
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Boomboost(m): 5:52pm On Nov 08, 2021
Dude397:
Good evening everyone. To cut the long story short my mental health issues started in 2012 when I tried weed in the university. It's not genetic. I've also been in and out of psychiatric hospitals a good number of times. However I'm currently on medication and I've been able to manage the condition. I was also able to graduate and I've also done my nysc and my family is planning on opening a small business for me since job has not been forthcoming.

However my health condition has been kept secret by me and family and I'm currently dating a nice girl. Please should I tell her my secret. What caused most of my episodes was refusal to take my medication and all that but right now I'm very okay and for some few years now I've been going about my daily affairs without any issue. If I let the cat out of the bag I don't think she may stay cos the stigma of mental health issues is not a joke. Please I need your advice on how to handle this delicate issue. Thanks

It's not everything you tell someone, let them discover it themselves.
Love is like politics, you don't out your strategy.

This talk of "tell her, if she's yours, she'll stay" is rubbish. No woman wants to be with a man she imagines can go crazy on the streets so, medicate and let your secret be yours. Heartbreak no good especially if she's seemingly perfect.

Women aren't loyal!!!
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by millionboi(m): 5:56pm On Nov 08, 2021
King2305:


No mental issue is curable, you can only manage it..
hahahaha

If diagnosed and treated, it's
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by millionboi(m): 6:22pm On Nov 08, 2021
cedricksly:
who Don first craze no dey well, Na only manage them dey manage madness..... Better tell her the truth because this is pure undiluted Wickedness
Really?

So what about people with cancer, HBP, diabetes...should they also look for their dating app?

Mental health issues are just like any other health issues: they can be diagnosed, treated or managed.

Its not a death sentence: no need stigmatizing them. Its unfortunate that people who say things like this are actually educated.

Madam, if you go for diagnosis, you probably may come out positive for one mental health issue or the other: BPD, PD, ASAD, MADD, BD, PDD, PTSD, MDD etc
Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Kiasa: 7:12pm On Nov 08, 2021
Newboss:
Don't be a mad man and a simp. Don't tell her nothing.

I'm so sick of people like you throwing around the word SIMP out of context, what does simp have to do with this situation?

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Re: My Girlfriend Doesn't Know I Have Mental Issues by Kiasa: 7:19pm On Nov 08, 2021
Biggers82:
Impregnate her frist
And don't tell her since you are taking your drugs because you carry your hand make yourself mad so that you can join Big boys level you don see am now as God take bless you now.

Just do as I tell you then try to avoid misbehaving sha

Dude 397, please do not listen to foolish advice. Op, you can't solve a problem by creating another.

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