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Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by Moborlarh(f): 12:45pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
God bless you. You've said it all. Cantonese: |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by ABANGWABOI(m): 12:51pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Witlee1 Continue training her in the University.. She would dump you and marry a SIMPle medical graduate after her Nysc.. It would end in premium larger tears .. |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by Digmygold: 12:51pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
lexy2014: Ask your papa. |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by Digmygold: 12:53pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
lexy2014: Lol hurt ko, hot ni. Sicko deadbeat. You no go see your pikin again. You are not fit to be called a father |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by Digmygold: 12:58pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Zeel007: He doesn't want her, he only wants to keep bleeping her kitty until he finds a financially buoyant woman who will shoulder.his responsibilities.. Dont be deceived. He also wants to be a dad to a child he cannot carer for when in reality he is nothing but a self centered deadbeat not fit to be a father. |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by lexy2014: 12:59pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Digmygold: Your hurt has so blinded u that u actually thought am d OP. Meanwhile, 1. Can u explain how he is irresponsible? 2. Is he d first man on earth to have sex with a lady before marrying her? 3. Are u telling me that all d sex u have had in your life u paid bride price first before having sex? 4. How did u no about condom? What is it used for? |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by lexy2014: 12:59pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Digmygold: Have u used a condom before? What did u use it to do and on what occasion did u use it? Kindly share your use of condom experience |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by Digmygold: 1:00pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
lexy2014: Ask your future hoe daughter. |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by davillian(m): 1:00pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
FlipModeSquade:The best thing he could do was to allow his gf keep the baby and he dint abandoned them with the intent of starting a family with them once his financially capable.... Abi u want make he tell the girl to do abortion ? What if she died were do you think he would be by now ?? Be smart.... |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by lexy2014: 1:02pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Digmygold: Still doesn't answer d questions: 1. Can u explain how he is irresponsible? 2. Is he d first man on earth to have sex with a lady before marrying her? 3. Are u telling me that all d sex u have had in your life u paid bride price first before having sex? 4. How did u no about condom? What is it used for? |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by MummyD2020(f): 1:15pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
See everybody formingz Jackie Chan and abstinence. Abeg if u dont have something tangle to tell op, swerve. Blaming up and down like u are a virgin. He is even responsible sef una still dey form angel Micheal. The mistake has been made and he needs solution. Op continue to fight for the welfare of that baby. And if they insist that they do not want, there are witnesses that will attest to the kid that u did your best, shikena |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by Nyanabo(m): 1:23pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
From where I'm from, since you did not marry the child's mother, the children isn't your, won't even bare your name no matter how much you spend on here monthly. The child will bare her grandfather's name. But to claim the child things need to be done appropriately. But you Sha loose guard, why didn't you send the child to your mother in the first place. And all this you are explaining have you gone to the lady's mother to explain you your gf is your only link to her mother. Things are not done that way. Involve elders of both family. Don't go about threatening her. |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by Alcatel17: 1:44pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Witlee1: Guy ur matter too simple....just use maximum #50k...go army barrack n explain ur situation to Dem....Dem go give u only 4 soldiers....enta dat girl house n pick ur daughter n give to ur mom or family...never ever marry or have anything wit dat bitch anymore henceforth 1 Like |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by Rosement(f): 2:16pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Awesomeking:You would have been right if you said it is hard for single mothers to even get advances if it is written on their head. When a lady goes to outings without her kids, how does a guy want to know she is a single mother or does she have to take her kids everywhere? I have seen several single mothers marry well. Life is a game, you just have to know how to play it. People are fond of giving their selves a reason for failure. When love enters life is sweeter. Life is not hard, if a single mother believes that her child is her only (but), she should simply date without her child and allow love to enter before bringing the baby into picture. If some guys see a woman with kids they might get discourage half way without getting to know the woman personally but if a guy gets to know a lady well before he discovers she has got kids, it will be very hard for him to walk out on her, if he has falling in love with her. A lot of single mothers have used this technique and it tends to be very effective. Modified It is better for her to simply be his babyma. If she marries the guy because of her baby, she will end up suffering it, if love does not exist in their relationship because she will end up being a figurehead wife, the guy will still go out to have sex with the kind of ladies he loves. Some relationships are suffering today because there is no love in it. |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by SavageResponse(m): 2:50pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Witlee1: Her mother does not want you to distract her from her studies in school. Move on man if you don't want to marry the lady! |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by nedekid: 2:57pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Go 1and pay her dowry, make a commitment or rather show her your seriousness to marry her. That will put her mind at rest. Besides, must you do a big ceremony? Take her to registry, marry her and have a small ceremony. Dont you have family that will support you? On a lighter note, That is why these pretty small ladies that are from humble backgrounds should be servicing matured men (date 1 at once) that will take care of them, not impregnate them. Small boys will nack them as if it is fight, then give them belle. Meanwhile no money! All the smallie around, na so so belle, once one boy gets Okada, korope or Marwa on hire, they feel he has arrived next thing belle. That is now where their suffering starts. That is when the start looking for better person to be servicing but they have turned tokumbo |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by Rosement(f): 3:05pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
SavageResponse:Understanding is the key. The lady's mother doesn't have to worry, her daughter can even decide to marry someone else and the guy and the lady doesn't have to be sexual involved any more so that it doesn't affect her studies but according to what he said he was always their for his baby They cannot stop him from playing the role of the baby's father now, they should have stopped him from the beginning. He can fight for his right legally. |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by hahn(m): 3:22pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Witlee1: How are you even sure the child is yours? The girl has probably told her mom the truth and that is why they are acting that way. Just let them be. When they decide to come back then you can impose the DNA fees on them. If not then move on with your life 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by HRMK: 4:24pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
the old woman is simply mother to ur babymama.she owes u no favour.settle ur dowry and u will be free with ur child.if u delay,another man will take the child!period!! |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by frozen70(f): 4:46pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
lexy2014: At this his present situation, he has to forget about what is written in a vehicle and just enter the vehicle, so far he will get to his destination |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by BABANGBALI: 4:51pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Juanmike:when it is time the child will bring out cutlass and ask her of the father, na dat time she go dey beg |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by Onyiiobi7735(m): 5:28pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Witlee1:Do everything possible to contact your gf and be close to your child always.Never give up. Her mother must have poisoned her mind against you, but keep trying. Most important of all,put your case into prayers, and things would definitely fall in line. |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by abobote: 5:33pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Favfables1:Don't take this advise, just try to when your girl back 1 Like |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by sharone21(f): 6:17pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Why cohabiting with someone's daughter when u know the economy is harsh and u ain't ready yet? All those telling u to take her to court, I laugh in Spanish even contracted, fully wedded couple, don't drag for child when child is still young... You can ask fiery lawyer, K.E.Y.A.M.( lol). You don't want a contract business due to oversense and u didn't see any future in it, profit miraculously come out, u now remember you needed to share in it( lol). If u haven't paid bride price, since most of u believe this is even more marriage than church/court wedding, don't think u can claim that child...In fact, the girl can choose to name her child her family's name. People dishing u foolish advice and even yourself, u won't take rubbish from her irresponsible boyfriend if your daughter brings this kind of shame home. And those advocating condom all the time, know that it can 1) burst 2) Slip into a woman which will reqjire surgery to remove |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by Classickj(m): 6:36pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
FlipModeSquade:Ogbeni what part of English """ Though I dont want to marry the girl now due to the harsh economy of Nigeria but I have plans to marry her later on plus I can't just jump into marriage when I'm not yet able to cater for a family yet so I told her to keep the child with her mother till I can be able to stand on my feet and foster for us all """" don't you understand here |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by Rosement(f): 6:40pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
sharone21:He will be giving visitation right by the court if it is proven that he is the biological father of the child and he did not abadon the child. He might have to do a DNA test to prove to the court that he is the father of the child. |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by BluntCrazeMan: 6:42pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Witlee1: .. .. From the way you're painting this story,, if I tell you to cut her off and forget about them, you won't even see my comment sef. |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by sharone21(f): 7:01pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Rosement: If he only wants the child under the deceitful guise of wanting to marry the child's mum, the girl's family ought to totally severe ties with him so that their daughter can focus on her education and marry a more suitable man later in future instead of throwing her pearls to dogs which the Bible advised us against. His meddling in any form in her life even her getting money from him ( bait) will not allow her to fully concentrate on her new man when the time comes and his asking for co- parenting( wen no be say he marry her) will be a distraction to the girl and her husband.... It should be the other way round...The family can also sue him to take care of the baby( to force him to do it), that is if they are ready for all that after he had succeeded in inflicting PAIN on their hearts. Let him allow the Child to grow and decide if he is still needed in his/her life...Though if the woman is not a long throat collecting from him, her family and husband to train the child, she will not need his dime, would have long changed child's name to any name she prefers( her dad's or new husband) and would train a child as he ought to be trained and the child may most likely not need a distraction who saw him/her as a burden when he/she (child) was younger. I thought DAD used to mean SACRIFICE... he can't eat his cake and have it using court to console himself...Even fiery lawyers when they had issues with theid wives didn't take their legally married wives to court dragging for custody... I hope u are not a lawyer trying to deceive him that he will win this case. Which competent court of law go say make person wen no fit feed himself( probably without a comfortable home) to take care of baby when the mother ( unmarried)and her family her alive and well....Anyway, lawyer( Charge & Bail) wan chop money( lol) |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by Ussycool: 7:08pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
West1side:Mr. Man, respect yourself. We are all entitle to our opinion, must I speak your mind? At least i said there must be another part of the story that is untold. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by Rosement(f): 7:12pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
sharone21:According to what he said, it seems what he wants his visitation right not the child's custody. Being some else babyma will not affect a woman's marriage, I have seen situations like this in Nigeria and abroad. All they have to do is come to an agreement with each other. It is either, they discuss it on their own or in court. |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by sharone21(f): 7:29pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
Rosement: It DEFINITINITELY will and can even tear a marriage apart. Marriage that he refused to give the girl. It is marriage or forget about visitation...So, he wants to permanently be a distraction to that family. If it is some wicked family, wen time reach, the child will be in boarding house. He should learn to tame his urge in cohabiting with woman when he is not financially ready. Will he accept this nonsense he wants to dish out to someone else? |
Re: My Mother In Law To Be Doesn't Want Me To See My Child by Rosement(f): 7:51pm On Dec 01, 2021 |
sharone21:Marriage is not by force, he should only marry her if he loves her and he is ready for marriage. If they are not able to come to an agreement on their own, the court will handle it better. Nobody is above the order of the court, whatever order the court makes, the both of them will have to follow it. There is no need for us to agrue, it is better for him to go to court, let's leave the decision to the court. There will be specific visitation time, the guy will not be allowed to visit the house of the lady regularly because she is not his wife. The mother of the child might even decide to drop the child in the house of the man on the visitation days, if she doesn't want him to visit her house. |
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