Ladyhippolyta88:
I have realised what led to it and I cannot comprehend how assaulting and raping your wife is the solution or reaction to such, the op is not completely honest the wife will not deny him sex without valid reasons and even if she does it is her bodily autonomy and she can decide for herself you don't force anyone to sleep with you without their consent I don't understand abeg where is denying someone sex a crime even if the person is your husband is it not her body to do what she whats with it,rape and assault are both crimes sex denial is not so his reaction was distasteful and overboard,even men deny their wives sex do their wives assault and rape them?

I thought you're one reasonable being but after reading this from you, I don't think there is anything reasonable about you.

Since you didn't see any wrong in what she did, I think the OP is in his right by handling his property the way he likes.
After all, he is free to do whatever he likes with whatever he buys with his money.
The OP is even mild and humane, shey she want to leave abi, it wouldn't even take time before another replace her and the man will send his people to go get back his money(bride price).
Had it been she is with some men, all these won't happen because her brain won't allow her take the silly action that gave room to this.
Shebi you want to be silly ni?

I don't need to reply other trash you typed because they are irrelevant to me.

After all these gragra, ladies like you end up being dummies in their various homes.

Just pray you don't come across man wey go beat you finish, light him blunt, after that tells you to open sey he wan do or the one that will tell you to open few weeks after childbirth and he won't handle it with care even if it hurts/pains.

All I know be say... If you continue begging like a simp(that you are), it will eventually end in a massive depression, loss of job, or maybe suicide.

And if you kill yourself, that woman you can't do without won't hesitate to accept other men's proposals as soon as you're gone. So better borrow yourself sense if you don't have one.

SmellingAnus:
If you had stopped begging her and focused on your life and daughter... She hardly would have moved out from your house... Now that she is out of your house.... Stop begging her... You have lost your dignity and self esteem in trying to make up with her but to no avail...

Maybe you need a slap to reset your mind but something tells me even if Nigerian Army beats you , you will always remain the way you are...

I agree with most of you saying he should stop begging her.

He did bad but he's apologised.

Men have ego and if they can stoop to beg.... Who are we? Even God forgives.

I had a scuffle with hubby yesterday afternoon and he said things to me. In the evening, he came begging. He took back his words. It was a moment of anger, which I am responsible for. He then made promises of things he'd do just to appease me. The way he was reeling out promises, I felt pity, I had to let go. This morning alone, he's delivered three out of his promises. What else?

My problem here is why would she zip up for 2 months?

What has the man done that she found so unforgivable that'll make her to just recline into her shell?

Mr. Man, stop begging really. I believe in communication. She should talk to you before this issue degenerated to this level of having to leave the house.

Later, when the dust is a bit settled, seek to talk things through with your father-in-law. You might get lucky. Good luck to you man.

Walkee:
lol rest about bachelor matter. I'm not married but I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost 8 years now we have been living together since 2018. How many marriages don last reach 8 years?
All these you're not married blablabla is rubbish. Most single guys are far more experienced in women matters than married men. Most married men were never in any long-term relationship with women some of them never even had girlfriends sef the first girl that showed them interest they quickly paid bride price. There's absolutely nothing wrong with a bachelor advising a married man

I hear you. Which is why after listening to the so called advice from the singles, they go to apply it and scatter their marriages in the process. Una doh. Adviser Nowamagbe

placeofallure:


I agree with most of you saying he should stop begging her.

He did bad but he's apologised.

Men have ego and if they can stoop to beg.... Who are we? Even God forgives.

I had a scuffle with hubby yesterday afternoon and he said things to me. In the evening, he came begging. He took back his words. It was a moment of anger, which I am responsible for. He then made promises of things he'd do just to appease me. The way he was reeling out promises, I felt pity, I had to let go. This morning alone, he's delivered three out of his promises. What else?

My problem here is why would she zip up for 2 months?

What has the man done that she found so unforgivable that'll make her to just recline into her shell?

Mr. Man, stop begging really. I believe in communication. She should talk to you before this issue degenerated to this level of having to leave the house.

Later, when the dust is a bit settled, seek to talk things through with your father-in-law. You might get lucky. Good luck to you man.

Which is why I want to believe the OP is not telling us the full story.

Ladyhippolyta88:


You should be the one to go and sleep since you are trying to make light of assault and rape common get out.

Starve your boyfriend of sex I understand not your husband all of you are crazy, you will monetize sex for your husband too for two months and you expect him to be normal.
Na why una no dey last for husband house. Tell me how you won't bang your husband for over a month for no meaningful reason if you are not a selfish lesbobo. Selfish things when you are Hot you will force yourself on your man and it's ok. Rubbish

BabaIbo:

I thought you're one reasonable being but after reading this from you, I don't think there is anything reasonable about you.

Since you didn't see any wrong in what she did, I think the OP is in his right by handling his property the way he likes.
After all, he is free to do whatever he likes with whatever he buys with his money.
The OP is even mild and humane, shey she want to leave abi, it wouldn't even take time before another replace her and the man will send his people to go get back his money(bride price).
Had it been she is with some men, all these won't happen because her brain won't allow her take the silly action that gave room to this.
Shebi you want to be silly ni?

I don't need to reply other trash you typed because they are irrelevant to me.

After all these gragra, ladies like you end up being dummies in their various homes.

Just pray you don't come across man wey go beat you finish, light him blunt, after that tells you to open sey he wan do or the one that will tell you to open few weeks after childbirth and he won't handle it with care even if it hurts/pains.

Preach on
These type dem no dey last for husband house
I don talk my own finish

Hello @Noah9

While acknowledging your error, and what you've tried to correct it, I feel your pain.

Question, since her family is aware now, what about your family, are they aware of the incident? I think it's important you let them know so that they don't get the info from 2nd hand sources.

As others have said, while she's away, try to focus on other areas of your life, this is easier said than done, I know. You may consider sending her text messages every few days as well, just to keep in touch and check in on your daughter.

At the end though, you have to consider how long you can afford her to be in this state without reconciliation. I would consider giving her 6 months to have a change of heart, after which I'd consider options of divorce and moving on

Stereotypes:



You are the sick person here and obviously a waste of space.

Please put links to the studies and peer reviewed journals that say lack of sex means the person will rape.

This is why people like you travel abroad and within a few months get locked up because you don't understand the simple concept around consent.

There are many ways to resolve lack of sex in a relationship / marriage that doesn't involve a beat down with forceful intercourse. He is not the first and will not be the last. Many couples go through periods where sexual intercourse may be an issue and many of them have not beaten or raped their partners.

Sensible men would NEVER EVER force themselves on anyone and would rather lay their cards on the table than allow themselves to be used as tools of destruction, but you wouldn't know because you're a fo.ol anyways.

Stay well sah!

Below is an excerpt from the Nigerian Criminal Code on the subject of discourse. Like I asserted before now, a man cannot rape his lawfully wedded wife;

Section 6 of the Criminal Code defines unlawful carnal knowledge as that which takes place otherwise than between husband and wife; and the offence is complete upon penetration. In other words, marital rape is not an offence in Nigeria. A husband cannot rape his wife. It is assumed that the wife gives implied general consent to sexual intercourse with her husband upon entering the marriage contract. This implied consent is revocable either by an order of a court or a separation agreement. In his book, History of the Pleas of the Crown (1736), Sir Matthew Hale wrote, “But the husband cannot be guilty of a rape committed by himself upon his lawful wife, for by their mutual matrimonial consent and contract the wife hath given herself up in this kind unto her husband which she cannot retract.”


Secondly, on the correlation between sexual starvation and rape. I'll refer you to the link below for more enlightment.

https://www.news18.com/news/buzz/survey-we-asked-people-why-do-men-rape-women-the-answers-are-fascinating-664567.html

Although I do have a few other stuff about that as well, but I'm at work hence I don't have the luxury of time.

PS- One by one, we will cure most of you dimwi.ts of your congenital & generational ignorance.

BabaIbo:

I thought you're one reasonable being but after reading this from you, I don't think there is anything reasonable about you

Point out the lie, do you force anyone to have sex with you without their consent have you not heard of bodily autonomy?it is the truth and you are the one not being reasonable.

Since you didn't see any wrong in what she did, I think the OP is in his right by handling his property the way he likes

Indeed, anyway she is not his property that his why he will keep suffering for his misdeeds, property my foot she did nothing wrong it is her body and you don't force the person to have sex with you when men do this to their wives their wives don't rape them

After all, he is free to do whatever he likes with whatever he buys with his money

He didn'buy her and even if women were for sale you shameless men will not be able to afford them.

The OP is even mild and humane, shey she want to leave abi, it wouldn't even take time before another replace her and the man will send his people to go get back his money(bride price)

Your reasoning is so low the wife's family should throw his small money back at him no amount is too big for them to watch a beast kill their daughter because she did not have sex with him.It only a foolish woman that will settle for such a man like the OP and she will leave as the other one left too.

Had it been she is with some men, all these won't happen because her brain won't allow her take the silly action that gave room to this.
Shebi you want to be silly no

Abeg keep quiet will the some men foolishly rape her the worst they can do is carry another woman and not be all women dey dey affected or moved by that so it is nothing new.

I don't need to reply other trash you typed because they are irrelevant to me.

After all these gragra, ladies like you end up being dummies in their various homes.

Just pray you don't come across man wey go beat you finish, light him blunt, after that tells you to open sey he wan do or the one that will tell you to open few weeks after childbirth and he won't handle it with care even if it hurts/pains.

You are the one talking trash that is why I am taking my time to correct you because you are just embarrassing yourself get raped and violated by your wife first and see if you will talking like this being dummies to whom?lol you think I will settle for low class men like you and the OP? I am too enlightened and educated to be a dummy in my own home.

I don't need to pray for anything because I didn't end up with a bush rat and beast in form of a man who can be stupid enough to force me into sex, tueh I don't sleep with beast lowlife in the form of men any woman going through that should deal with such a man before leaving the animal and run for her dear life you men think women of today are idiots.

At the Op, Bros there is nothing like marital rape in Nigeria constitution for now u didn't not rape any body no matter, a husband cannot rape his wife if anyone have other view he should bring it forward back with the Nigeria constitution. As long you both are legally married there is no rape case here. For hitting her it totally wrong that's the only case anyone can hold you for so get it.

I want to be honest with you please stop begging your wife you have tried already, it now you start planning to save your marriage. She has bear her cards already it time for you to play yours. Your head is needed here now. Since she has involve her parents it time you involve yours too, let them tug it out while you stand your ground for your actions that you have every right to your woman body and if they bring the slap up apologize for that.

Tell them that they can't enroll your daughter in a new school reason being it will affect her academics. Coping with new faces ain't easy for a child. Since you guys ain't divorce they can't make such move for you except they have to file for a divorce. Bro stand your ground.

If anyone come with pschological trauma tell them same as well that you were psychological imbalance when you hit her cos she denied you pussy. Be strong bro. No be only she get psychological effect you too did, now she has made you to become a beast out of no where

DonBenny77:

Starve your boyfriend of sex I understand not your husband all of you are crazy, you will monetize sex for your husband too for two months and you expect him to be normal.
Na why una no dey last for husband house. Tell me how you won't bang your husband for over a month for no meaningful reason if you are not a selfish lesbobo. Selfish things when you are Hot you will force yourself on your man and it's ok. Rubbish

I will not starve anybody of sex, but I very well know that you don't force someone into sex and they are at liberty to starve you of it if they want to because it is their body and not yours.

Tell the OP to tell you the reason why his wife locked up for two months because she will not do it without reason.
I have never forced myself on a man and no man can force himself on me learn to respect women's bodies.

Ishilove:

Which is why I want to believe the OP is not telling us the full story.

Yes o! That's the bit of the story that's missing. I strongly believe there must be something.

A male friend once told me things about his wife, how they've become mere flatmates. The wife too zipped up for about a year running into two. Then I asked him if he did anything, I particularly asked if he cheated, he said no. She denied him sex over the issue of a third party (wife's sister) staying with them, he deemed her a bad influence. Now the man keeps side chicks and is considering remarrying. I pray op's case doesn't get to that.

KingAzari:
@OP
Your marriage has already crashed. Move on.

You created the problem for yourself. That woman was out to destroy you and you played to her gallery. I would rather carry a prostitute to my house and fvck her on my matrimonial bed than put myself in a situation where I'd have to deal with, for the rest of my life, the stigma of being called a rapist and woman beater. God forbid.

Forget the matrimonial title, if you could rape your wife, you can rape any woman. No woman is safe around you in terms of sex. You violently raped your wife, which woman would you not rape given the same or similar circumstances? How do you explain to your daughter that her mom left you because you raped her? You don't deserve to have custody of your daughter because she's not even safe with you.

I don't care whether she denied you sex for a decade, there're many ways you could have navigated through it without violently violating her. Such a despicable act.

Quit the pity party and move on with your life as you bear the consequences of your action. Whether she was your wife or another woman, rape is rape.

The bolded is what a lot of people just don't understand.

I may not understand why these days women dey starved their husbands sex especially when the woman knows she married a Simp or him no sabi or he can't have it outside...

Mentally e dey affect man well well ooo


Guy.... if ur wife loves you she will come back to you.... but if no eheee.... just go arrange your life oooo...

Kai... kongi really na bastard ooo... D sad part is the bleeding aspect... it is well ooo..

I dont even know what to say!!.

Most Nigerian men tend to see nobody else but themselves and what they want.
I think folks on this forum should also look at this situation as if his wife is someone's sister (your sister), how would you handle the situation and if you don't kick this dude's @ss, what kind of advise would you give him?

That raping part of the scenario doesn't sit well with me... Can you categorize raping someone as a mistake?

It is well.

DonBenny77:

Preach on
These type dem no dey last for husband house
I don talk my own finish

It is funny how they see no wrong in their fellow woman's action but see wrong in the man's action and wants the man that acted upon that root action crucified.

That is one problem with some of them, they don't handle issues from the root/source, they focus on that part that pays them.
Her type is very manipulative and cunning.

PS: Shebi na when their type see men put them for house them go get the choice/option of choosing either to last in husband's house or not.

At the bolden, let he who has ears hear.

This kind thing happen to my sister but not raped. she was beating by a drunkard called a husband. She has been with my parents in our family house for the past 3 yrs with her 2 kids. The guy planned taking the children and it didnt work out for him.The guy with his family have come and begged but no avail. Such is life. At Op, is under probability that your wife may come back to you or not .That's a fact. You messed up.

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

Remove every iota of macho from yourself, you might have been a lion before, now you are a kitten.

You need to work on yourself, if someone (God forbid) raped your daughter will you welcome them warmly into your home? it is only natural to be cold. Why brag about providing for your family? It is your responsibility you are supposed to do so, that is what it a man does.

Dude sorry doesn't fix this problem. you need to understand that she doesn't trust you anymore, a lot of questions will be running through her mind like how many women have you raped? Is my daughter safe with him? what other bad habit has he been hiding? The thought of sex with you will be horrifying to her. So many thoughts.

The problem is fixable but as a wound takes time to heal, so will this situation take time to heal. However, sometimes wounds don't heal and get infected, other times an amputation will be required to salvage things it all depends on how you handle the matter.

First of all, I will suggest you go for anger/emotional management counseling to fix where rape came from.

Secondly, go report yourself to the person your wife and yourself differ in authority to, it might be an older couple, a mentor, a spiritual leader, a senior uncle/aunty to prevail on the parents. Her closest friends must have heard of the situation already, they won't want to talk to you, talk to their husbands and ask for help, let them know you have done the first step, which is getting help.

Thirdly, do not abandon your responsibility to her and your daughter, make sure their needs are met.

Fourthly, have the perception that you are single at the moment so also is your wife, you are basically trying to woo her. So all the things you will do to catch a babe you have to start doing it again, send her flowers, compose poems, tell her how much she means to you, buy her random gifts, tell her how you are undeserving of her. What you are trying to do is re-establish a line of communication, once you can get her talking to you 30% of your problems are solved.

Fifthly, once the line of communication is established, you now have to work on building trust, she is going to snap at you many times, be cold to sex many times, even disrespect you, it is all a price that you will have to pay. But when she begins to trust you, she is going to adore you.


Get to work on this process asap, the process is a lengthy one and could take more than a year to fix the basic components. If you require further help try and contact Praise Fowowe on Facebook, he is a professional in dealing with issues like these. I wish you the best.

Noah9:
If she needed space, that's not a problem. I don't mind buying food outside and I promise not to ask her for sex But let her just come home. Let's talk things. She haven't said a word to me.

mr. man, you are the problem and you are the cause of all your problem. it is like you are pussy whipped. you have gone to apologise. you have done your part. let them be. leave them alone an focus on yourself. be a man. you want your wife to come back! come back to do what? to continue with her character? this is the time to settle this issue once and for all. she only comes back when both of you understands what it takes to be husband and wife.

Richy4:
Just thinking aloud...All these people throwing insults left, right and centre, calling OP names and making derogatory remarks to question his manhood,

Do they handle insults as calmly as the way OP was doing?...If they don't why do they do it?.. Can't people pass their messages across without insults? Does insulting people make one's post more remarkable on this forum? ...

This is one of the most hypocritical thread I have ever seen for a long time...
Everyone is now forming marriage adviser.. Holy Michael... even those that cannot talk to a woman offline are suddenly alpha male who takes charge in their relationships...I guess this is one of the beauty of a faceless forum ...

Solid points, if he likes he should listen to advises of those who know nothing else to do but shout simp simp up and down and wannabe repillars.

There's some good advise there, but I know he won't go with that, he needs some boys to validate his actions or inactions.

Your in laws are not even try to solve the issue. My advice is that since you know your fault. Give her space for like 6months, change your house lock keys, focus on your life. After six months, you can decide on what next. Pray too. Besides, Have you informed your family about the situation?

Simran94:

I’m this particular situation? The child will be lawfully given to the wife if that happens because I’m sure she will press charges on the grounds of Rape

Yes she could press charges on the domestic abuse part. The courts will have a lot to consider on the custody issue including the age of the child and what’s in her best interest considering her education, safety, extent of involvement of each parent in the child’s life, physical and mental health status of either parent, extended family support, community etc.

correctyourself:
I read through your post where the issues started, I think your wife laid a foundation for this problem, why would a woman deny her husband sex, is she not aware that sex is involved in marriage before she accepted to marry you? What is the difference between her attitude and a fraudulent somebody, Infact she has been maltreating you emetionall which lead you to what you did.

When you decide to punish somebody with hunger at the same time kept a delicious food close to the same person, what do you expect.

I blame her parents for not given her proper education on sex demand from husband.

Let look at it the other way round, if you where the one who refused given the 85% financial support, would she take that from you?

I HOPE WHAT YOU SAID HERE IS ACTUALLY THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER.

I don't Think This is New!

Sexual Starvation Happens in 9 of every 10 Marriages.....

especially to the Man....

(Most Times the Man just Keeps the Suffering Quiet out of Shame.....
of Complaining about NOT Having Sex
)

Sex is Used as a Tool of Punishment and Manipulation....

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:

Iyaebe, if you see how I just fell in love with you for the bolded ehn, hmmm! Many women profess hatred for the redpill when deep in their hearts, they hate and torture Simps! Op, swallow the redpill moderately, don't hide under it's umbrella to perpetrate wickedness to women because many redpillers are just wicked idiots. Noah9 back home and keep your job. You think you have a big problem now but when you lose that job, that is when you will know the definition of problem.
Finally, whether you are a man or a woman, please and please, even if you want to marry a foolish man or woman, don't marry from a foolish family. I cannot imagine my sister coming back home with this kind of case, her husband followed to beg her and my father and mother will be looking at them with nothing to say. That is a very foolish family. If your spouse has no sense, let it be that he or she is the only black sheep of the family. Only marry from a family that can look at their child and tell him or her "you are wrong"!

I agree with the foolish family statement, imagine nobody in her family is scolding her for denying her husband his conjugal rights and keeping him in the dark for her silly behaviour. This weak man went further to start kneeling up and down in her in-laws family, such an overcooked vegetable man.When I get married and my husband dare acts weak or show any sign of weakness before my family, I will do the unthinkable and teach him a lesson on how to carry himself well and command respect before people, that's how my own dad is.No be me like this husband go take go do yeye with his knees before my family,outsiders or anybody as the case may be. He did not only disrespected himself but his wife as well but in this case his wife is a foolish woman.Very silly and weak op,I can never get wet for this kind of man lol.

Pls be patient and give your wife more time, I believe she will return to her senses and come back. Just try and hold on for the next 3-6months and she will return.

Stereotypes:
The way people gloss over rape on NL is shocking.So many sick men or boys here.

The Op said he slapped his wife till blood was pouring from her face.Does that sound like one slap to you? Is his hand  made of iron? This man probably punched her face till she bled.

His wife must've been screaming and struggling with him,but what did he do?

He had an erec tion which he proceeded to put into a terrified woman who's vag ina was dry.

What happens when a vagina is dry? It gets bruises and tears,Op continued to fu ck till he ejac ulated.
Who gets turned on till ejaculation with a partner who is bleeding,struggling and dry down there? Does this sound normal to you sickos?

Next day,his wife must've had a bruised face ,traumatised psyche and a battered bleeding  vag ina,and Op expects her to be fine  just because he said sorry.

Then you sick fu cks expect her to have recovered instantly and accepted it as punishment for not having secks for 2 months.

No one is taking into account the sort of trauma he has caused her.This will be with her forever.The woman is so traumatised that she hasn't said a word to him since that day and you people are here talking rubbish.

So, if he asks her something and she says no,what next? Beat out another blood and shove it in again? You people have no concept of trauma ,the effect of seeing someone that loves you become a monster ,beat out blood and then proceed to be aroused from it Disgusting!

There are a lot of ways to deal with lack of sex for 2 months.Forceful intercourse garnished with iron fisted slaps is not the way.

Imagine saying her parents are not welcoming you? No atom of self awareness in your bones.
They have said she needs time,leave her alone and let her have that time.Its not in your place to dictate how she should deal with what has happened.

A lot of you have daughters or will have daughters abi? No problem.

Wickedness begets wickedness. You are writing this because the poster brought it to the internet and is all acting like an imbe?cile.

Some men will not only beat that daughter of a jezebel but will throw her out to her parent's house.

It is the parents that should even be begging op now to take back his wife and warn her not to deny her husband sex.

Why would she deny him sex without telling him what the problem was? If she was tired of the marriage, a divorce would have been appropriate. It seems she was just waiting for a reason to separate and because op is a simpleton, he allowed time long enough to give her that reason.

Inwardly, she's happy with the whole event and the way it played out. Op, your wife's parents were looking at you with disgust for being such a pussy nigga that they gave their daughter out for marriage.

Keep begging until you lose your job, enter depression and commit suicide. Then, you will know that a jezebel came into your life to destroy you completely.

If your wife were to be my sister or daughter, I will fault her for denying you your conjugal right. I don't take sides in issues like this.

She is the root cause of the problem.

Why are you stressing yourself? Do u want to develop HBP on this matter? Now it is taking toll on your means of livelihood. I bet you if you develop heart attack and die I will not pity you.

It's a matter of time another man will be banging your wife like tomorrow no dey. Your daughter will be fine and so who looses?

Which marriage does not have issue. Couple fight , settle and move on . You admitted your side of wrong and decide to mend your way but her family is frustrating you. Man up and save the little dignity remaining before you turn nuisance to your wife's family and society at large.



Guy, MOVE ON.. u no dey hear word?

Iyaebe:
Only a foolish woman denies her husband sex for no conc and genuine reasons, you should have ignored her and also refuse her when she starts showing interest, I so much hate it when a woman messes up a good man for no reasons especially if he takes care of her needs. Why are you even begging? Stop those nonsense apologies and act like a man,sometimes I like some of the teachings of the redpill, I hate weak men and they can never attract me.You've already apologized to her,stop going to her parents house to act like a simplyton,please read some of the redpill nuggets and apply it but don't add bitterness to it,it will help you act and reason like a real man.Moderator lalasticlala move to front page let nairalanders see my comment and know that I'm not biased and I have wisdom and very sensible too,let them also know that I'm just entertaining them with most of my comments.

This is probably the dumbest comment I've read from you ever! I'm shocked at your logic and disappointed with your analysis. Did you say this for likes? What's wrong with you? What's wrong with you guys on Nairaland?

This is not a redpill / blue pill issue... this is a much more serious issue : spousal (physical) abuse that quickly escalated into RAPE!

No means no! Married or not...rape is rape! It's reached epidemic proportions in Nigeria. So many girlfriends/wives have been raped and traumatized by their boyfriends/husbands.

In the average uninformed Nigerian guy's mind, if a lady comes to visit it means she's interested in sex, no amount of dissuasion will make him not RAPE her on the day. It's so bad a lady that gets raped is even led (erroneously to believe she's the cause of the rape).Sad.

I'm a doctor (male) and I've had to treat rape victims during the course of my practice. It's a TRAUMATIC experience that scars the majority of sufferers all through their life...It's real and its unpleasant. The majority of you will not last a month outside the shores of this lawless country. You lot are a bunch of rapists and enablers.

You reffered to him as a good man, you met him before? How do you know? He raped you before too?
Not everyone is a masochist you know?

What if she stopped loving him for whatever reason??
So many 'what ifs' to consider in this story.
We haven't heard her side of the story...
People fall in and out of love all the time! You can't force someone to love you can you? Last time I checked it's not a crime to stop loving someone?

What's your definition of a weak man? A man that acknowledges his wrong and apologises for his wrong?
When did apologizing for one's wrongdoing become a sign of weakness?
Insecure, insignificant and inconsequential minds everywhere trying desperately to form redpill o!

What is your definition of a redpill man/strong man? A man that beats you repeatedly until you bleed, gets aroused and proceeds to rape you?
Remember again not everyone is a masochist like you! So don't crucify the poor girl for not having your desires.

I'm not for shameless begging and grovelling...If its not productive then its not productive. What's the point in continuing to grovel if the lady has moved on?

My points are :
1. He should be AWARE he effed up big time beating and raping his wife.

2. He should be sincerely sorry about this and apologise to his wife ...it's not all about him. Get respected members of both families involved if possible. Seek to understand and then be understood.

3. If he loves his wife, he should give her time to heal she just might come around, just might.

4. If she doesn't come around, he can't force her to...not amount of begging will change anything!

P.S This is NOT a redpill/ bluepill matter abeg.

placeofallure:


Yes o! That's the bit of the story that's missing. I strongly believe there must be something.

A male friend once told me things about his wife, how they've become mere flatmates. The wife too zipped up for about a year running into two. Then I asked him if he did anything, I particularly asked if he cheated, he said no. She denied him sex over the issue of a third party (wife's sister) staying with them, he deemed her a bad influence. Now the man keeps side chicks and is considering remarrying. I pray op's case doesn't get to that.

Some women sef

emmeyen:



What we really have here on nairaland are rape apologetics. Including the Op. The Op is a kind of person that will rape a woman and justify it with foolish reasons like "she seduced me".

@Op Baba your wife was behaving funny for 2 months because it is not just the sex that she denied you, she wasn't talking to you or being herself and your only problem was that she denied you sex. Then you raise up your hand and beat that woman till she bleeds, force her legs open and have sex with her. How do you have sex with a woman that is crying and prolly begging you to stop and you continued. Guy, you are heartless o. Then you are still justifying your nonsense. If you stay without sex for 3 months will you die? Why do some of you men reason with your joysticks? You claim you love someone and she has not been herself and doesn't want to tell you, why not snoop around, talk to her friends or people she knows to know what's up. That's if you're not the reason behind the change anyway. Stop thinking about her coming back home. Go back and learn how to control your sexual urges. If you like follow all these yeye advice people are writing here. Some of them sef are prolly suffering from sexually transmitted diseases from their whoredom yet they are here giving nonsense advice. You are lucky she didn't wound you before leaving. Who knows if she has been raped before and you just brought back memories?

Get your acts together and reflect on the harm you have done already. Stop justifying your foolishness. Next time you won't dare raise your hand on woman because of Konji. Life is not all about sex.

Lesser men like you will be masturbating regularly after spending millions to get a wife.

BigBashiru:


"for your woman to stop giving you sex" puts the woman in control

Has how? what type of control?