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Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by Phreedaouz(f): 6:43am On Oct 17, 2022 |
Na them sabi o, I think they are just scared of commitment but they are really enjoying themselves sex wise. They are scared of committing to a man or woman and to a family. |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by Wuppdex: 7:37am On Oct 17, 2022 |
And how do you know if all are Ex don't consider her a wife material and kept dumping her, she's talking like a lady who has been served breakfast severally. Don't believe her one sided bullshit yearning. blingxx: |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by bukatyne(f): 8:30am On Oct 17, 2022 |
10mobile: I wonder how he read the shortest article ever and still got it all twisted up. From the article, the men even be easier to convince than the women. With better jobs, some of the 25% unwillingly to marry would become willing. 1 Like |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by bukatyne(f): 8:32am On Oct 17, 2022 |
Botking: Did we read the same article? Or did you miss the part that says some men have not found a girl they like enough to marry because they have never dated before? If extramarital sex is very common, there would be increased birthrate due to increased unwed mothers. 1 Like |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by bukatyne(f): 8:33am On Oct 17, 2022 |
GeneralPula: Or a special family like convents, cults, monastery etc. |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by bukatyne(f): 8:35am On Oct 17, 2022 |
Praktikals: More like the women's realization in the OP. |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by bukatyne(f): 8:38am On Oct 17, 2022 |
dfrost: And what kind of opportunities do you think would exist for majority of the non-nationalities? |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by bukatyne(f): 8:44am On Oct 17, 2022 |
planetx: As in. Such a sad mentality. 1 Like |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by Emperor88(m): 8:48am On Oct 17, 2022 |
Eniitankorede:Who is talking about co-habiting here and who is going against marriage? You must be very dumb. The issue here is why is a marriage a must, why is having kids a must? Is it for everyone? I guess Buhari was out of wedlock that's the reason why he has been the most usel*ss president we have ever had cuz your mumu is very obvious. |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by bukatyne(f): 8:48am On Oct 17, 2022 |
Emperor88: Japan also has one of the highest suicide rates in the world. And only very few people are so poor in Nigeria that they can't support one child. Rather than demonize marriage and child bearing, teach people to choose better and have the no of kids they can support. 1 Like |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by Emperor88(m): 8:55am On Oct 17, 2022 |
MufasaLion:bless you bro ..you nailed it |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by Emperor88(m): 9:00am On Oct 17, 2022 |
saipn:And those who will not find solemate should just marry for the sake of it? When children are badly raised both gender the probability of finding a solemate is very slim. Let's assume the solemate dies at midage, what will happen? Find another solemate? If marriage is the solution to happy life we shouldn't be having all this numerous problems we are having. According to your assumption the solution is not marriage but finding a solemate which I partially agree. |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by aimmoney9: 9:10am On Oct 17, 2022 |
Eniitankorede: The igbenidions in Edo had their mother killed by a maid, she had children and grandchildren, inlaws, etc you name it but all of them had their own lives, in the end the maid they gave to take care of her killed her..... One may marry with excess children and relatives and in the end no one will be there at the person's old age.... |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by Emperor88(m): 9:10am On Oct 17, 2022 |
bukatyne: I will not agree or disagree with your first point but that second point you made enh! You be kidding. And lastly no one is demonizing marriage or child bearing. The point is don't go to it for the sake of it. Mentality and financially are you fit for it? It is not a guaranteed source of happiness. Over 30million out of school children, over 40million of jobless people, overpopulated by over 100miillion people, over 90million lives in extreme poverty....do you even listen to your self? |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by MufasaLion: 9:13am On Oct 17, 2022 |
bukatyne: Stop being ignorant. Do you know the meaning of "only very few?" |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by CUMIN: 10:01am On Oct 17, 2022 |
mastermaestro: They're not facing labour shortages. |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by MrHeff(m): 10:23am On Oct 17, 2022 |
Menclothing:like Bimbo does? |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by baajetu(m): 10:50am On Oct 17, 2022 |
Weirdcamila:I disagree. Go to western countries and see how early they get married and give birth compare to Africa where you still have to struggle to balance financially |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by COOL10(m): 12:38pm On Oct 17, 2022 |
TolaniLuv: I'm just glad that the men over there are beginning to see reason to avoid that slave plantation called marriage. |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by ResearchGateNg: 12:48pm On Oct 17, 2022 |
10mobile: Good research. |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by mastermaestro(m): 1:13pm On Oct 17, 2022 |
CUMIN: Swallow your pride and read up. |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by CUMIN: 1:37pm On Oct 17, 2022 |
mastermaestro: It was a projection of their population dropping. Not labor drop |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by gforce5: 4:29pm On Oct 17, 2022 |
Bros, it seems that you don't understand Japanese society and culture. What you just stated is typical for white western countries. I've lived there for many years so I should know. The Japanese, like most asians, are family oriented like Africans. They don't joke with their elders. The issue is that their society is very capitalistic and modernized. They and south koreans have some of the longest working hours in the developed world. There's very little time for socializing as they are always working. It's one of the many reasons why the suicide rate there is very high. It has nothing to do with companionship. Africa with its high moral codes is where? Living in the west ought to have taught you that rich or "advanced" societies tend to be very introverted because of their environment. It's the same way that rich neighbourhoods anywhere in the world (including Nigeria) are more introverted than poor neighborhoods. Lastly, marriage is not a do or die affair. We live in an era where there's high infidelity, domestic abuse and other problems in marriages. The only reason why people get married in Nigeria is not because of companionship but societal pressure. Thousands of people are living in miserable relationships but cannot leave because of what society would say. Eniitankorede: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by peacefull(f): 4:59am On Oct 18, 2022 |
COOL10: Really?! Are you a Japanese man? Japanese women always extremely rude to you? |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by peacefull(f): 5:26am On Oct 18, 2022 |
TolaniLuv: Please where did you get this kind of information about Japanese women? Is this your experience with your Japanese wife? |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by TolaniLuv: 5:50am On Oct 18, 2022 |
peacefull: It’s a fact! 99% accurate. It’s their culture |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by KunGioKehRah: 6:50am On Oct 18, 2022 |
ecolime: Child marriage is still very common in the north And many other tribes, like Benue, idoma, kogi, middle belt don't use contraceptives( I mean condom) up till now some of them don't even believe that there is HIV/aids . They just dive in raw and ejacula.te. so that is one of the reasons why our population is still increasing. And also unlike the oyinbo man, average Nigerian is a poor man, we hardly can afford expensive entertainment like cinema, concert, travel tours etc the only entertainment for the African man is his wife to.to. so that is also another factor. I know a man in Kano that has fifty children. In my own opinion many are still not enlightened about effects of overpopulation, and that's why many are still giving birth to plenty kids in Africa. Unlike in the west, Europe or america, some have even declared that they won't give birth, some will just adopt or remain celibate. But African mentality is "my papa born me" me too must born" #itiswell! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by peacefull(f): 7:31am On Oct 18, 2022 |
TolaniLuv: Please forgive me to explain to you. There is nothing like husband's salary automatically goes to wife's bank account. But if husband requested about it to his work place, his company will pay it in wife's account. So, husband's salary automatically goes to wife's account is not true. Husband use his bank account to receive their salary and he gave that ATM card to his wife. But something you wrote about how wife use husband's salary is common in Japan. I said use, I mean manage. Not wife spending or wasting husband's salary any how. They are managing his salary. They are even saving that money, but not for her. And very common about wife keep household account (household expenses). So, husband can know how wife used that salary like how much she paid bills, what she bought, how much remain etc. And yes, husband get allowance from wife. But that allowance is from his salary. This is very common in Japan. I know this is very strange! But what I want you to know is not every family having same marriage life. You said Japanese women don't wanna work after married and denying sex with husband. I can't deny everythings. Because some women are like that. But not all Japanese women are like that. Old days and these days are different. Many married Japanese women are working these days. This is very common now. But not everybody working like a parmanent staff. Many married women working like part time worker including me. Not because they don't wanna work like parmanent worker, but peoples have different reasons like their kids are still small, they are taking care of their old age parents, they have health issues etc. And working wife also using their salary for family. But some husbands never mind about their wife don't use her salary for family. They don't even ask or demand for them, but they told wife to use it by herself. Not all Japanese women are denying sex with their husband. Some peoples wanna have sex with husband, but their husband denied, sleeping early, having ED, cheating on wife etc. So, That's not always wife's fault. Japanese women are humans like you. So, when they got to know about if their husband slept with another women, they got hurt and many peoples divorce with their cheating husband. There is nothing like they don't care about it. But maybe some women are don't care about it especially if they already don't love their husband and if they only think about husband is their ATM. I don't know why some peoples wanna blame other gender Not always or everythings are only men's fault or only women's fault. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by Helel(m): 9:46am On Oct 18, 2022 |
sulaak: What about companionship, can one also be his own companion? |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by maasoap(m): 11:38am On Oct 18, 2022 |
MufasaLion: Living better than us is not the point here. The point in my response is that their average age shooting high is not an achievement either. Rather, it is a national headache for them. You don't have to bring Nigeria issue into the discussion about Japan before you can make a point. Nigeria population is not the problem, corruption is |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by MufasaLion: 11:42am On Oct 18, 2022 |
maasoap: Focus on your country and leave Japan with their issue. Even if they need labor force, your countrymen won't be needed! |
Re: In Japan, 1 In 4 Singles In Their 30s Doesn't Want To Get Married: See Why by maasoap(m): 11:48am On Oct 18, 2022 |
MufasaLion: I thought Japan is the thread here We shouldn't discuss Japan on a thread about Japan, shocking! 1 Like |
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