Naijatask:
Thank you for opening my eyes on how serious this situation needs to be taken.

I'm honestly more disappointed in myself more than my parents right now

I will be honest with you. I find this story hard to believe particularly in the year 2022.

Please walk to the police station, without informing your mother and father, take at least one of your sisters with you so there can be one person's story recorded. If they refuse to go with you, it is OK too given their own parents don't seem incensed by the sexual assault. File a report at the police station and let them begin investigations before you leave so it does not seem as though you filed it and fled like a coward or something. That way your family is forced to face the situation by an outsider with support from at least one in the family.

Kobojunkie:
I will be honest with you. I find this story hard to believe particularly in the year 2022.

Please walk to the police station, without informing your mother and father, take at least one of your sisters with you so there can be one person's story recorded. If they refuse to go with you, it is OK too given their own parents don't seem incensed by the sexual assault. File a report at the police station and let them begin investigations before you leave so it does not seem as though you filed it and fled like a coward or something. That way your family is forced to face the situation by an outsider with support from at least one in the family.

After reading the comments, I had to woke up my mom from sleep, and told her about the my displeasure on how she handled the situation.

She said her marriage will crash if she were to take an action, and she's also concerned about the future of my sisters if a word were to be led out concerning the issue.

Right now, I'm just confused to be honest, and I also believe that taking the matter to the police station will cause the same issue my mom has been trying to avoid.

Overall, I've definitely decided and know how to deal with the situation. Thank you all for your advices

Foodie1:
[Courier] Your religion permits cousin's to get married to one another na, I think that's the reason why your dad is not really bothered about it, maybe sef he will give out one of your sisters for him to marry
If I were you I go din comot that boy teeth since[f/ont]

Sorry but this was done long time ago, it's no longer practiced.

I've decided on how to handle the situation.

Naijatask:
1. She said her marriage will crash if she were to take an action, and she's also concerned about the future of my sisters if a word were to be led out concerning the issue.

Right now, I'm just confused to be honest, and I also believe that taking the matter to the police station will cause the same issue my mom has been trying to avoid.

Overall, I've definitely decided and know how to deal with the situation. Thank you all for your advices

First of all, your mother's response reveals her selfishness. She is willing to trade the emotional wellbeing of her daughters in order to maintain her Mrs status in marriage. That is cruel, no matter how you choose to cut it.

As for her concern about the future of your sisters, ask them. Women who are abused as children are likely to be abused in marriage. Is that really the future your mother wants for her children? If you found out that one of your sisters turned out like your mother, allowing her daughter to endure sexual abuse while doing nothing about it, how would you feel at that point?

Please don't let this abuse continue. Take it to the police and let them handle this situation since your parents refuse to.

Bro if this guy keeps doing this shit to your sister he will make them loose I swear because they are too young for this shit. He want to destroy your sister life and spoil your home .
I know how people live in the north United family lives together as one .
Now what you will do is simple try to monitor if he still continue he you caught him late hour drag him outside naked him shout let everyone come outside disgrace him . And tel them what happen and go straight to the point be bold when talking . let them Know he is doing shit with your sisters . Go to he’s mum house warn her tell her if she does take her son from your house he will end up in jail that you have been recording he’s act since he came that you give her one week if she say know report the case to her new husband who is a police officer .
But bro give the boy a heavy disgrace is the 17 years old boy stronger than you . Drag him out cut of he’s cloth give buy cane beat him well we’ll .If this boy mistakenly disvirgin your sisters at early age it will affect them because they will want to keep trying that shit . Be strong and be bold if you are not sharp they will take advantage of you bro

Op... The only advice I have for you is to go to the nearest police station and rent a pistol from on of the corporal, then come back to finish the bastard. Case closed!

You can file a Police Case against him, since your parents are too weak not to so anything. A police case will awaken them.

Tzar91:
You said that you are about to go for youth service and you are behaving like a kid. Break that sexual predator's head with bottle, if ur father yarn rubbish you give am better chanceing wea go shock am, enter the house park all the boy belongs come outside pour am kerosene burn them, if any of ur siblings talk shit tear am better slap, call the boy mama for phone immediately and talk to her like she is a nobody, behave like a mad man and watch yourself take ur place as the first born, even ur father will start to give u some respect.

Oyel d head.

Upon all this write up,you never break him hand abi,am disappointed in you seriously.i trust myself.

Kobojunkie:
First of all, your mother's response reveals her selfishness. She is willing to trade the emotional wellbeing of her daughters in order to maintain her Mrs status in marriage. That is cruel, no matter how you choose to cut it.

As for her concern about the future of your sisters, ask them. Women who are abused as children are likely to be abused in marriage. Is that really the future your mother wants for her children? If you found out that one of your sisters turned out like your mother, allowing her daughter to endure sexual abuse while doing nothing about it, how would you feel at that point?

Please don't let this abuse continue. Take it to the police and let them handle this situation since your parents refuse to.

I know it maybe selfish of me, but I will respect her decisions. I will be resuming to school, as such, I have penned down a lengthy message which I intend to send to my dad once I live home.

Hopefully, this will make him have a change of mind

flyingdutchman:
You can file a Police Case against him, since your parents are too weak not to so anything. A police case will awaken them.

Filing a police case might cause a rift between my parents. For now, I intend to voice out my displeasure to my dad when I leave for school.

Sammy101111:
Bro if this guy keeps doing this shit to your sister he will make them loose I swear because they are too young for this shit. He want to destroy your sister life and spoil your home .
I know how people live in the north United family lives together as one .
Now what you will do is simple try to monitor if he still continue he you caught him late hour drag him outside naked him shout let everyone come outside disgrace him . And tel them what happen and go straight to the point be bold when talking . let them Know he is doing shit with your sisters . Go to he’s mum house warn her tell her if she does take her son from your house he will end up in jail that you have been recording he’s act since he came that you give her one week if she say know report the case to her new husband who is a police officer .
But bro give the boy a heavy disgrace is the 17 years old boy stronger than you . Drag him out cut of he’s cloth give buy cane beat him well we’ll .If this boy mistakenly disvirgin your sisters at early age it will affect them because they will want to keep trying that shit . Be strong and be bold if you are not sharp they will take advantage of you bro

I'll definitely take action, but police station is out of the question

Comradepreneur:
So, in 2019, my dad decided to take him in.

One night, I woke up from sleep and decided to go to the kitchen and get drinking water (my room is just outside the sitting room, and you'll have to pass the sitting room before reaching the kitchen).

I observed that my cousin wasn't on the bed when I woke up. I decided to take a peek into my sister's room and there he was standing, jerking off to my sister's face! She was barely 15!

The lights was on, and his grandmother (my dad's mom) who came visiting was also on the bed together with my sisters! Such audacity!

I couldn't even believe what I saw, and tiptoed back into my room and woke up my maternal uncle who was staying with us in order to be my witness.

After witnessing the act, the only response he gave me was [b]Why is she (my sister) feigning to sleep, while he was touching her and jerking off to her face[b].

I was shocked and couldn't even believe his utterance. Like bro! You was supposed to help me bounce on the stupid slowpoke harassing my sister, (your niece).

He just said that and left. With the little energy left with me, I opened the door, dragged my cousin brother out and warned him never to try such act again (I initially wanted to teach him a lesson he ought to never forget in his lifetime, but I was hugely disappointed with what my uncle did).

Even though I still reported him to my parents, there wasn't any punishment meted out to him.

After that incident, I completely lost the respect I had for my uncle. Agreed he had some issues with my mom (her elder sister) back then, but why extend the hatred to her children?.

After that incident, I still occasionally catch my cousin brother in the night in the sitting room, claiming to iron out his clothes. But I still maintain my anger since it's not as if I caught him going into my sister's room.

What broke the camels back, was an incident which happened last 3 weeks ago.

One of my younger sisters (she's 13) reported to my dad in the middle of the night that he caught my cousin brother in her room, jerking off at her face while trying to remove her underwear.

All my dad did was to woke me up from sleep (saying that he wants me to be the witness), and he was preaching to the boy on how his mom, is his younger sister and that he should talk if marriage should be done for him since he can't hold his sexual desires (like man, you was supposed to call me and we smack the shit out of him together!!!).

I got angry and just left them there.

The next morning, I told my mom about the incident, and she told me that my baby sister (an 8 year old) do complain to her sometimes about sharp pains in her private part.

And this happens whenever, my cousin brother is sent to take her to the room whenever she's asleep on the sitting room couch. And also, how one of my sisters told her that he once caught him trying to lift up her skirt while she was fast asleep on the couch in the middle of the night.

Right now, I'm Justin mad at myself and angry at the same time! I feel like a loser, a pussy who can't even protect his sisters.

The bastard is still living with us, in my room, and every day, my hatred for him grows stronger.

Even when my mom told his mom, her only reply was that he's still a kid, and she should forgive him. Someone who's 17!!!! For goodness sake!.

She didn't even called him out to kneel down in front of my mom and rebuke him. Nothing was done!!!! She didn't even spoke to him about the incident.

And whenever my mom makes her displeasure known to my dad, he always says that she hates his family, bla bla bla.

How can I reduce my hatred for my cousin? Or is my hatred justified?

Right now, he has been restricted into coming into the sitting room, anything past 8pm.

But still, I'm still sure things might just go back to being the same!.

My fear right now is, I'll be going for my youth service in a few months time, which means this bastard will be with my sisters unsecured!!!!

I would have advice you to record him when next you see such thing. And then go report to human right organization or any gende base organization in your state. The only problem i have is your family coming for you if you end up repoting your cousin. But if you love your sisters so much. Just get enough evidence and then report the basterd.

I sunset why you have not slapped the living daylight out of his face already... It seems you are the only sane man in that house. Unfortunately you are weakI sunset why you have not slapped the living daylight out of his face already... It seems you are the only sane man in that house. Unfortunately you are weak...

person wey you go kick him prick as the thing still strong,the kind shout wey he go shout,neighbour's go come out...kasala don burst

Baba I take God beg you, hating is not enough for a criminal, don't let that boy subject your sisters to extreme poverty coz of pleasure.

Throw him out yourself, yes you can don't wait any authority to do this coz they've failed you. If you no careful na you go begin raise children for that stupid boy while Gnashing teeth

obinna58:
Baba I take God beg you, hating is not enough for a criminal, don't let that boy subject your sisters to extreme poverty coz of pleasure.

Throw him out yourself, yes you can don't wait any authority to do this coz they've failed you. If you no careful na you go begin raise children for that stupid boy while Gnashing teeth

I pray it wouldn't get to the stage of me raising a bastard child.

And I can't throw him out, since my dad brought him in

Comradepreneur:

bruh, f*ck him up! Like wtf! Those are your f*cking sisters and your parents ain't making things easy obviously because of Religion and The Northern Culture. Here's what you are gonna do sleep with one eye open make it your purpose to catch the bastard doing any nefarious activities, make sure you record him doing what he is doing then stop the record and beat the hell out of him! Heck without record you should beat him like how the Bleep is he still living in your house? See the one that pains me more is the little girl saying she feels pain like what the fùck? Guy where are you staying? Guy your uncle is also a stùpid idiot why is he in your house? I'm very very very angry RN walai. Kamburo ubannan


Bruh you saw Him fùcking jerking off over your fùcking sister, I'm angry at you RN

Naijatask:


I know it maybe selfish of me, but I will respect her decisions. I will be resuming to school, as such, I have penned down a lengthy message which I intend to send to my dad once I live home.

Hopefully, this will make him have a change of mind

Don't send note to your Dad, talk to him & if he doesn't take action, patiently wait for an opportunity, if you catch m again, slap m twice, like better slap oh, then insist he leaves or you leave, dama you go soon go nysc, before you leave just like suggested, educate your sisters & admonish the eldest ones amongst them to always be on the lookout and protect the younger ones,if not you go get problem with them.

Jesus! I’m boiling right now…. Like he doesn’t even need a second chance… is it until he forcefully rapes all your sisters? Like your mother is not an at all, she’s too slow for my liking… that boy can no longer live in your house he is going to ruin all your sisters…. Like it’s really paining me that you are too slow as well…

dawnomike:
I just wonder why you have not slapped the living daylight out of his face already... It seems you are the only sane man in that house. Unfortunately you are weak

or punched him on his nose

Naijatask:


Filing a police case might cause a rift between my parents. For now, I intend to voice out my displeasure to my dad when I leave for school.

Bro, I feel you. Look, as a fellow First born, I can tell you: your duty is to protect your family where your parents fail (and that happens often). Your sisters are the priority here, not your parents. They have lived their life. Do the right thing. Report to the authorities, then withdraw your Case after they've all begged you and seen that you are serious. That idiot must learn, otherwise, you might be tempted to take laws into your hands, and that can land you in jail.

Naijatask:


Thank you for your advice.

I just realized I've been a coward and sissy my whole life.

You are 23 and not a kid, before you take any action, act like an undercover but it must be very fast, find reasons your uncle, your dad and to some extent your mum are sympathetic towards that potential rapist, after your answers you can decide what action to take because as it is now, if you go overboard with the guy, don't be surprised your parents might rebuke you or disown you.

something strange is happening or has happened in your family, uncover it first for your own good and sisters wellfare......it is somehow strange for parents to know about a potential rapist lurking in their house filled with succulent daughters and still treat the rapist with kid's glove.

WantsandMore:

Don't send note to your Dad, talk to him & if he doesn't take action, patiently wait for an opportunity, if you catch m again, slap m twice, like better slap oh, then insist he leaves or you leave, dama you go soon go nysc, before you leave just like suggested, educate your sisters & admonish the eldest ones amongst them to always be on the lookout and protect the younger ones,if not you go get problem with them.

Thank you for your advice, but I'm not the type to stand up to my dad and talk to him face to face, reason why I'm sending him a text message instead.

realestate99:

You are 23 and not a kid, before you take any action, act like an undercover but it must be very fast, find reasons your uncle, your dad and to some extent your mum are sympathetic towards that potential rapist, after your answers you can decide what action to take because as it is now, if you go overboard with the guy, don't be surprised your parents might rebuke you or disown you.

something strange is happening or has happened in your family, uncover it first for your own good and sisters wellfare......it is somehow strange for parents to know about a potential rapist lurking in their house filled with succulent daughters and still treat the rapist with kid's glove.

Thank you for your kind advise. I'll take this matter more seriously from now on and start investigations.

As for why my dad is acting sympathetic towards him, it may be because his mom is his favorite younger sister.

Lamanii22:
Jesus! I’m boiling right now…. Like he doesn’t even need a second chance… is it until he forcefully rapes all your sisters? Like your mother is not an at all, she’s too slow for my liking… that boy can no longer live in your house he is going to ruin all your sisters…. Like it’s really paining me that you are too slow as well…

I've been bolting in my angers all these while, reason why I needed to sought for advice on how to go about the issue.

You're a fool, instead to use machete to cut him chase him out of the house, you're there whining.

until him give your sisters anal before you go kill the idiot.. mumu

Naijatask:


Thank you for your advice, but I'm not the type to stand up to my dad and talk to him face to face, reason why I'm sending him a text message instead.

You are not standing up to your Dad, heck I wouldn't advise you to disrespect the old man irrespective of what gives, however, this is where wisdom is required, before leaving the house, kindly tell your Dad, you want to talk as there’s something that's been disturbing you, you have to understand your kid sisters aren't only your responsibility, they are his kids too, subtly, tell him how you feel, don't tell him he's not handling it well oh, just say you worry, when he's too busy and since you wouldn't be around much there wouldn't be anyone around to protect them. These r your concerns. That's all. You will feel relieved cos by now you would've done your best to protect the dignity of your kid sisters. Just from time to time make sure you call home, request to talk to your dad, sisters, and even the so called cousin causing you heartache. All the best buddy.

Comradepreneur:
Good evening everyone.

Even though I had vowed to myself never to bring family issues to this forum, I just have to vent this out.

I am 23, a male from the North. I come from a family of 6, in which I'm the eldest of my siblings (all my younger siblings are girls).

In 2019, my cousin brother, who is way younger than me (he was 14) came to start living with us just a year after his dad died.

Prior to his dad's death, we never spoke to each other whenever I visited his mom (my paternal aunt).

His dad was someone who was quite doing well for himself before death took him away from us (he was working with NNPC).

After his death, his family were divided (he had three wives in which 2 had died earlier. My aunt was the second wife).

His children from his first wife lay claims that my aunt killed Thier mom (who had died way before 2004), and even the third wife (who died in 2018).

Even though his wealth was shared according to Islamic rites, they were still not contented even though they had the lion share.

Well, just months after my uncle's death, my aunt decided to get married! (Just imagine someone being accused of killing her husband and her co-wives fa).

Even though my dad (her elder brother) was against the decision, she even went as far as went to her mom in the village and was crying when her mom rebuked her for her intending action.

At the end, she got her way, and remarried to a police officer.

The worst part is, she is still living in her former husband's house, while she visits her new husband in his house (they are very close to each other. Much like she got married to her neighbor! Since his house is just a stone throw from hers).

Well, to cut the story short, she has 3 kids (all male) for her deceased husband, the eldest being 14. The eldest son was sent to come live with us since their rooms have been given out to their elder brothers as part of their own inheritance (her kids only inherited money and the man had over 4 properties in strategic locations).

Replace the hatred with the hatred of corrupt politicians. Simple.

Pray for him regularly