Very simple stuff, from the language employedemployed, Ifeoma is for you, REMEMBER, Kingsley Okonkwo says love the person you marry, at times, love grows, that Judith, forget, she will cheat on U, mark my words if u eventually go for her... Nigeria of today needs both hands to be hustling not one hand working and the other one is after beauty contest here and there.... Marry someone that will promote U! In every sense of it! You are seeing the signs already from Ifeoma... However, I hope Ifeomaz family will not turn you to MMM...Money making machine... Just hoping! Because.......

For anyone who has been observing my comments on nairaland, I didn't just wake up and started hating women, this women are leeches and bitches that shouldn't be trusted, only thing they are useful for is children, fvck equality and feminism it's all a scheme to make black men powerless like the fvcking Caucasian pricks, a woman I dated in the past when I was still somewhat a blue piller,claimed to be a virgin but was sending nudes and fvcking niggas in the state she was in while I was forming decency and using the idiot picture as screensaver
. LMAO

Don't marry beauty. Marry someone you think can give u rest of mind.

Seems you prefer the one with beauty. But remember beauty would eventually fade away. Don't marry a liability.

Britishcoins:

Buying and selling goods

buying and selling of what congratulations on your building projects bro

My own is that as you're still in confusion state, never promise any of them marriage, even your body language should not indicate such..this one you're carrying uncle to Judith house, what's the meaning actually..no go start wetin you no fit finish,, because when love turns to hate you go see my darling Tonto look alike

Go back and pray to God..e fit no be the two women sef, that's if you have no serious commitment btw the two. Confusion is a bad thingy

Date both of them as if you are interested in marrying them both. One of them will definitely win your heart more… Forget business or none business sense here. Na God dey bless person. The mindset of joint effort makes no sense in the sight of God. You can hav either as a full time house wife and be owning properties, flying to destinations without feeling the cost. But the summary is that na your money dey shark you. Go dead broke, bros. Nobody go advise you the real woman. Get some sense & don’t show off your little begotten. To some other persons, Na money to shine shoe be your net worth! Salam

Life in marriage is not all about beauty , there are different types of humans in life , some are good to be with and some are the other way round , if you really want to marry you should look beyond physical , this is my advise for every prospective married man or woman, you need to pray very well before choosing , if you know you know that issue of marriage is a black Market , you will not know what you buy until a certain stage in the marriage therefore it is important for you to pray very well for God to guide you, we have seen good wives die early thereby turning the husband in to a young widower , we have seen the woman that caused early demise of the Husband, we have seen the ones that turned their husbands to prisoners, a word is enough for the wise let me live you to your own discretion

Lol..
Understand her ke?
Abi you you bleep her viginity comot

MadarasBlade:


But women looking for wealthy partners don't know that money is vain?

Men go for beauty and youthfulness, women go for money.

Well then, if men go for beauty and youthfulness they should stick to it with out any other qualities attached. You cant have it both ways, if that is what you believe.

Britishcoins:


This is exactly what the first one told me too... Even my uncle. May God help me

I beg to differ. One of the mistakes people make in choosing a partner is thinking they can mould that person into who they want. Whoever you marry right now is who they are and will always be. Now I know why people say "Men marry thinking a woman will not change while women marty thinking a man will change".

Nome of the women is the right one for you. Thankfully you have a long list of women at your disposal look into those ones.

I would have advised you to go for the 25 years old virgin lady but you already said she is not beautiful and you don't have feelings for her.
So I will never advise anyone be it a man or woman to marry someone they don't love.
One thing I noticed with most men is beauty is always atop their list when it comes to making decisions. Fine, you need to marry someone you are sexually attracted to but it is sad when you let beauty override other important qualities.

Now the second lady is just not the right person for you. Age-wise the gap is too much she is just starting school and in the next two years she won't be ready for you, even in the next four years, I doubt and considering you feel age is not on your side I think you should let her go and spread your net wider. That aside you talk about wanting someone who will help your business she is a nurse and that will be her focus, unlike the 25 years old lady who is already into business.
You still need to look further. Don't rush marriage plans it is a lifetime decision, you can still get married in your late 30s. Don't let people pressure you. Try to get to know other ladies and be rational.

Britishcoins:


Hmm,thanks... Exactly what is disturbing me here.. The sukkah girl seems so hard-working, each time she visits my shop she is always willing to help. Though the other girl has never visited and she does not look like someone who can work. Her major commodity to offer is beauty. I am not even interested in it..

You are deceiving yourself. The 22years old girl's beauty attracts you. Else I don't even see any reason why you would even feel she deserves to be mentioned or compared to the other lady. Beauty beauty beauty was the only thing you mentioned. No personality trait, no positive quality just looks. You don't care yet you have decided to invite to spend a week with you

Britishcoins:

In terms of financial background... She is from average background too... Both of us are not born with silver spoon...
MY major concern is a woman who can stay with me weather rich or poor... Her education and beauty competition should never make her to disrespect me.. I am just confused the more.. The nsuka girl is totally unexposed...
Imagine a girl who has never been in shop rite

The question is not whether her education and beauty will make her disrespect you, the question is hope her beauty and education will not make you feel insecure and inferior.
Someone who is into beauty pageants and schooling will also have her own ambition and future plans so you trying to morph her lifetime's achievements, desired projects, goals and plans into your own might not work.
Simply because you like business does not mean she would want the same. She may decide she wants to study more, get more certificates and travel and I wonder how your personal ambition and hers would match at that point.

Ardar:
What happened to the women in their 30's who are well established and understand how life is?
Why is it that you men always go for barely adult ladies who are still finding their feet and yet expect so much from them.

They want small girls they can control Nah

Britishcoins:
All I need is someone I can build my business with.. Or a woman who has her own vision that I will support... Should I marry hard working woman I don't love or marry a beautiful woman that is not too good in businesses?

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THE WAY I SEE IT, WHAT YOU REALLY NEED IS WHAT IS EMBOLDEN UP THERE.
THE WAY YOU DESCRIBED BOTH OF THEM, JUDITH IS A CINDERELLA KIND OF LADY THAT LIVES IN A FANTASY WORLD.
WHILE IFEOMA UNDERSTANDS THAT LIFE COMES IN 2 PHASES.

YOU ARE MORE CONCERNED ABOUT JUDITH'S BEAUTY AND NOT HER SENSE OF ENTERPRISE.
I WONDER WHAT WOULD HAPPEN BETWEEN BOTH OF YOU IF/SHOULD LIFE SHOW YOU BOTH ANOTHER PHASE THAT SHE IS NOT FAMILIAR WITH.

THE GREATEST GIFT A MAN CAN GIVE HIMSELF AND HIS CHILDREN IS TO MARRY SOMEONE WHO WOULD BE A GOOD MOTHER TO HIS KIDS ...NOT JUST A GOOD WIFE TO HIM. A GOOD MOTHER WOULD SURELY MAKE A GOOD WIFE. EXCEPT THE MAN FAILS TO BE A GOOD HUSBAND

YOU TEND TO MAKE A VERY BAD MISTAKE WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT YOURSELF ALONE IN THE CASE AND NOT PUT YOUR KIDS INTO CONSIDERATION. YOUR KIDS ARE YOUR FUTURE.
YOU TEND TO MAKE A WISE DECISION IF/WHEN YOU TRY TO LOOK AT THE PICTURE OF THE WHOLE SCENARIO FROM AN OUTSIDER POINT OF VIEW AND NOT FROM YOUR OWN POINT OF VIEW.

WHEN YOU WATCH A FOOTBALL MATCH, IT IS HE WHO WATCHES FROM THE STANDS THAT HAVE A CLEARER VIEW OF WHAT IS GOING ON ON THE PITCH....AND NOT THE PLAYERS ON THE FIELD OF PLAY.
APPLY THIS TO YOUR EVERYDAY LIFE AND WATCH THINGS GET CLEARER TO YOU.

I WISH YOU WELL IN YOUR ENDEAVOURS.

Britishcoins:

I am AS and both girls are AA. that has always been my first question to them

EVERYBODY IS AA NOWADAYS, ITS BEST YOU GO AND CONFIRM YOURSELVES..NOT ONLY BY HEARSAY..

Autobot05:


@ the bolded ... clap for yourself sir
😂😂😂

Abeg rest is it impossible for a 22 yrs old girl to be a virgin?

Danisaint112:


Abeg rest is it impossible for a 22 yrs old girl to be a virgin?

That's your business
My point is he said "HE'S VERY SURE OF IT "
How can he be so sure of another person

Autobot05:


That's your business
My point is he said "HE'S VERY SURE OF IT "
How can he be so sure of another person

He must have a a reason to add very to the sure. I don't want to give suggestions but use your head.

Danisaint112:


He must have a a reason to add very to the sure. I don't want to give suggestions but use your head.

Ok sir .

I am sticking with the ugly hard working one any day any time.

Stay Away From Nsukka Girls. I Repeat!!!!!. So that u won't regret it. From ur explanations. None of them is ur Wife. Keep Searching...... u will see

Brother, I'm not an expert in marriage stuffs, buh i would advice you to go for that IFEOMA.

I think she will understand when things goes up or down and also, pls make sure u marry someone that loves you not the one u love.

The campus girl will most likely have people sleeping with her.

More importantly, beauty peagantry is just a fancy word for prostitution. Ask anyone who has ever done it.

You will be able to grow your wealth with the other lady as you launch her in business. She can equally be very beautiful too when you start spending on her. Spend more time with her; you will get to discover her character and develop feelings for her.

Most importantly, seek the face of God.

U wan marry girl wey dey school.wey u go dey get double mind anytime she doesn't pick ur calls .
After four years wey her taste of what she wants might change and at d end u get disappointed..
Am interested in.ur bizness oo
Follow who knw road

Please the best for u is ifeoma,Judith will cause u problem in ur marital home,I didn't see ifeoma but am just OK with her base on ur explanation

SeeItSayIt:
Then stay single, is not by force

May naira scarcity be far from you...

pansophist:
Go for Ijeoma.

I read your post over and over again, and can't seems to find anything wrong about her, just that she is not so beautiful. And she is a virgin, what else are you waiting for? Reward good women with marriage, and Ijeoma deserves it.

Beauty is attractive, but you will hate it when it gives you problems. Also, there is a strong correlation between beauty and drama. The attention, expectations, and ego a beautiful woman may develop, you don't really want to deal with that.

Start dating Ijeoma immediately. If she gives you peace, respects you, and is feminine in behavior, then please marry her, don't waste time. Go to my profile and search for a thread I wrote two years ago, about qualities a man should look for in a woman he wants to marry. if Ijeoma scores high on those points, I repeat, marry her.

I wanted to advise him to go for Ifeoma but I did a U turn at the last minute cause of how he described the two women.

He doesn't love her, or at the very least, is not attracted to her. Someone like Ifeoma needs a man who would appreciate her and her feminity. Someone with an inner eye that can see beyond the physical attributes. Op is not that man. This lady will just be a waste in his arms.

Britishcoins:
Pls my fellow Nairalanders, I am in confused state of mind right now... I am in my early 30. I am not super rich but I am financially comfortable, at least living in my own apartment and having a business that give me atleast 600k monthly.
I am equally the first son and my parents are late, so I am like the head of the family to my younger ones...
Age is no longer at my side and I have no reason why I am still single.. But there is a problem.
I have plenty female admires.. Even some which was suggested for me through families and friends.. But only 2 of them I will talk abt now

Let me call one of them Judith and the other one IFEOMA.
Judith is from from the same local government with me.. I knew her when she was still in secondary school and I was apprentice then... I don't even know what was called love then.. We only greet like brother and sisters because we are in far away north then.
I have relocated to another state and she too is now undergraduate, studying nursing at uni zik Awka. I normally call her because I was in good term with her mother.. She feel in love with me. But my own fear is that I am not sure if she will understand the language of hardship. She was only Dauther and last born, the family is average comfortable.
The only thing she always rely most is her beauty... She is so beautiful no wonder she just won a beauty queen competition, the sun newspaper even carry the news.. But her beauty is not what attracted me..
Last December I visited her parent with just one of my uncle and they welcomed us very well..
Another issue is that she still have abt 4 years to finish her education.. And I don't want to waste more than 2 years ahead.


Now let me talk abt IFEOMA. She is from Nsukka, very far from my local government.
She is living with her sister here in the same state I am staying...
She is 25 and years and Judith is 22 years.
She is NCE holder.. Based on my findings so far she is good in business and came from a poor family too.. She is equally a virgin, I am very sure of it..
She not too beautiful but have showed her love to me... The problem is that I have no feelings for her.. But I love her hard working..
I am planning to invite Judith to spend some weeks with me to understand her characters.

Pls I don't know how to write more..
Which one should I marry?

None of what you said about either individual is a criteria for marriage.
But don’t marry for looks...marry who fit dey for you as you dey for am...especially when road no too smooth. Nuff said.

Bottom line is, guy, u don't like any of them.
I will advice u just mk new female friends and don't flaunt money.

AzzaMan:



Do fraud bro.

Bomb slovakia, Bomb Slovenia...

If I fit do am without soap, abeg con show me way.

DM?