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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by Lorayne(m): 2:06pm On Apr 16, 2023
So, there you go, don't make a wife out of a hoe.
Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by jimmychang: 2:08pm On Apr 16, 2023
Your wife is begging another man money under your own roof.She will open a brothel under your own roof.

They Bleep her under your own roof.You guys just got married ,baba move ooh.

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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by eazzzy1(m): 2:12pm On Apr 16, 2023
Fiscus105:




Some foolish ladies would say, they are cheat, .....yet emotional chest is even killing than real cheat, 75% of ladies involved in such non sense, most especially from bestie angle.

I guess they had a distance relationship, when she was in Awka she could talk to the guy for 4hrs a day and nobody would care. He would have found out if they really dated. It’s his cross to carry.

At the end of the day, single guys deserve to have sex too and it’s easier to get it from someone in a committed relationship. So one man’s loss is another man’s gain.

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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by IIdamuAdugbo(f): 2:25pm On Apr 16, 2023
you are right
Reminderz:

I'm beginning to think that you're a man... of course you can deny... it's very rare for a woman to post this... another strategy huhn??
Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by BigYash: 2:30pm On Apr 16, 2023
Another weak man in da building..

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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by Holywizard: 3:23pm On Apr 16, 2023
Cancel that wedding. There's nothing like love but personal interests
Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by VinnyBaba: 3:39pm On Apr 16, 2023
Reminderz:

all these talk ain't new... defending your gender? what gender? this is an anonymoyus forum, anyone can claim any gender? so should I believe you're a woman just because you have an (f) and you put on a display picture?? NO!

Ogbeni, Rokiat is a Woman.🙁

If a Lady is typing, you should know nah. sad

For OP,
Sit her down and Tell her Everything you saw in the chats.
Open Bible and read the Book of Proverbs, to her the Actions of a Virtuous Wife. 😎🙂

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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by donaldchidi: 3:47pm On Apr 16, 2023
Red flag...
She have eyes on guys and can cheat anytime...
That pregnancy needs DNA after birth...
Ur life is in danger...

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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by imagrg(m): 3:49pm On Apr 16, 2023
The love of money is the beginning of Oloshoism.

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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by NoToPile: 4:28pm On Apr 16, 2023
Where do you guys meet these kind of women?

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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by SUFFERInSMILIIN(m): 4:36pm On Apr 16, 2023
Bekeey:
Good morning my people, please pardon my grammatical errors and long writeups. I'm curiously in need of your help to help me decide if I should confront her or not. This is the problem, traditionally I got married to my wife this January 2023 and by grace of God our wedding is coming this July 2023, our IV is already out, we have got 45% of the Wedding needs already, like Asobi clothes, her own clothes and my clothes too, we have also booked for Decorations, DJ, MC etc.

So, here is the issue that I need to confront her or probably council the Wedding because since I got noticed what has been going in my absent, I wasn't myself for past 3days, I am emotionally exhausted. Here is the problem, there is thus guy that always call her late in the night from 10pm, whenever I asked her who was that, she always tell me is just a friend that they have known right from secondary school, that she knows her girlfriend that nothing is between them. I asked her,did he know that you are married, she said of cause, he is aware. I said OK, that day passed, so the call kept coming same time 10pm but not everyday. Later I began to notice that the guy doesn't call in the night again maybe because she have asked her not to call her by that time again. So 3days ago, I had access with her phone, my brothers and sisters, I was shocked, behold the person that told me she has nothing to do with him that is just a friend. All there conversation in that chat was sweetie, sweetie, that's what they call each other. Though, I found out my wife doesn't give him that chance that she's only interested to eat his money because I saw a receipt of 20k he sent to my wife. The guy was seriously asking for her nude videos which she didn't send to her but she instead sent him stickers. The guy will send her some videos showing her how he will sock her breast, and one hot round of sex, my wife will just replied him OK. Last chat my wife chatted him was where she is begging him for 50 to 100k to pay back by June. She don't have anything doing, I wonder where she will get the money to pay him back. Till now the guy have not replied him. I can say she has not started cheating on me because, she just relocated from Awka to Abuja where I leave and she doesn't know anywhere yet. She is always at home. So where I'm confused now is, is she sending him her nude and delete it at instant or she is just playing ▶️the guy? Even at that, as a married woman 👩did she suppose to engage in such conversation with a man? And she is already pregnant, 16weeks pregnant precisely.

Please house, what should I do in this situation, should I confront her or to keep monitoring her but the fact is, it still disturbs me why my wife a married woman should be having such discussions with a man.


Let me inform you something most Nigerian women are prostitutes 90% of them actually a prostitute do not waste your time with them any woman which is begging another man for money is a prostitute this is how most Nigerian women even abroad go to America 95% of Nigerian women are prostitute. Do not waste your time with them at all they will just wait to Korea and drag you down into their poverty level.


You are totally different she is already cheating on you with what she is doing and this is the beginning of the marriage thing about five years later she will be fucking all the men on the road this is how Nigerian woman is all over the world

Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by Nobody: 4:55pm On Apr 16, 2023
One of the things I find very appalling in some women is lack of principles. A sane and mature woman should know when and how to cut ties with guys who will be distractions in her marriage. She should know how to set value too. Why beg a guy for money? Why beg a guy interested in you for money? Why beg a guy you are not engaged to while being engaged to another for money?

To any principled woman, a request for nude from a guy will be outrightly annoying and can lead to cutting ties. But it's sad these days women will withstand anything for a morsel. It's very crazy.

It's a shame Op is engaged to one with no principles , the chances of her cheating is very high (if she's not doing that already) . Confront her with evidence, talk to her if she doesn't know what her actions mean. If your relationship is salvageable, good. Although I won't bet on a lady like her.

I really don't wish to be in your shoes .

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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by imustsaymymindo: 4:59pm On Apr 16, 2023
Why you go give am belle sharp sharp na? angry

It's a long road ahead. I pray you'd be able to fix it. Please think and act logically from now on and stop giving excuses for bad behaviour like "just wants to chop the guy's money".

Correct bad behavior as fast as possible and only reward her seldomly with any form of commitment on instances of extremely good behavior.

Btw, learn from Hakimi.
Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by humilitypays(m): 5:02pm On Apr 16, 2023
Queendera:
I go chop this guy money.

I go chop that guy money.

Naso precious take start dey do ashawo.
cheesy cheesy
Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by Drone17: 5:05pm On Apr 16, 2023
Your suspicion that she is playing the guy is just your mind hoping.

The fact is she was engaging in something extra marital and doing it secretly.

1. Ask her to hand over all the money she made from the guy and see her reaction.

2. Tell her you are suspending the wedding indefinitely until you receive a clear sign.

3. Ask her to go back to her parents while you work on your next move.

Note:
Things haven't completely damaged yet. But all the three steps above will help you make a decision.

Good luck.

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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by SonofGod231: 5:08pm On Apr 16, 2023
Don't go and collect back your pride price ohh. Is this the kind of woman you want as a wife?!A woman telling you a guy that often calls her is just a friend wants you to give her the leverage to flirt even in your nose coz you won't know when she will be sneaking and offing her pants for that dude.
Bro, don't tolerate that nonsense ohh.Na license for she to call you mugu,dey frolick ohh.
Like she's not ready for you.

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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by Vicdgreat556(m): 5:36pm On Apr 16, 2023
Heathrow44:



Oga if u av a laptop scan her WhatsApp page, so u can be seeing her messages real time on ur phone or laptop, it Will clear ur doubts weda she deletes d videos or not, and u get t see everything in real time, join the war games


Please how can this be done
Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by sweerychick(f): 5:49pm On Apr 16, 2023
it still baffles me that you call such a person your wife after all these damming things oga as a woman i would advise you to reconsider your decision in marrying her because she has shown the signs of a potential cheater and your marriage with her is going to be a one way ticket to misery
Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by Sweetvie: 6:01pm On Apr 16, 2023
Queendera:
I go chop this guy money.

I go chop that guy money.

Naso precious take start dey do ashawo.
Aswear grin
Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by intruder15(m): 6:58pm On Apr 16, 2023
Bekeey:
Good morning my people, please pardon my grammatical errors and long writeups. I'm curiously in need of your help to help me decide if I should confront her or not. This is the problem, traditionally I got married to my wife this January 2023 and by grace of God our wedding is coming this July 2023, our IV is already out, we have got 45% of the Wedding needs already, like Asobi clothes, her own clothes and my clothes too, we have also booked for Decorations, DJ, MC etc.

So, here is the issue that I need to confront her or probably council the Wedding because since I got noticed what has been going in my absent, I wasn't myself for past 3days, I am emotionally exhausted. Here is the problem, there is thus guy that always call her late in the night from 10pm, whenever I asked her who was that, she always tell me is just a friend that they have known right from secondary school, that she knows her girlfriend that nothing is between them. I asked her,did he know that you are married, she said of cause, he is aware. I said OK, that day passed, so the call kept coming same time 10pm but not everyday. Later I began to notice that the guy doesn't call in the night again maybe because she have asked her not to call her by that time again. So 3days ago, I had access with her phone, my brothers and sisters, I was shocked, behold the person that told me she has nothing to do with him that is just a friend. All there conversation in that chat was sweetie, sweetie, that's what they call each other. Though, I found out my wife doesn't give him that chance that she's only interested to eat his money because I saw a receipt of 20k he sent to my wife. The guy was seriously asking for her nude videos which she didn't send to her but she instead sent him stickers. The guy will send her some videos showing her how he will sock her breast, and one hot round of sex, my wife will just replied him OK. Last chat my wife chatted him was where she is begging him for 50 to 100k to pay back by June. She don't have anything doing, I wonder where she will get the money to pay him back. Till now the guy have not replied him. I can say she has not started cheating on me because, she just relocated from Awka to Abuja where I leave and she doesn't know anywhere yet. She is always at home. So where I'm confused now is, is she sending him her nude and delete it at instant or she is just playing ▶️the guy? Even at that, as a married woman 👩did she suppose to engage in such conversation with a man? And she is already pregnant, 16weeks pregnant precisely.

Please house, what should I do in this situation, should I confront her or to keep monitoring her but the fact is, it still disturbs me why my wife a married woman should be having such discussions with a man.

Remove the notion that she is married to you even though you have done trad. Most ladies don't see themselves married until they have done their white wedding.

There is really nothing to talk about as you didn't see anything incriminating from her. When your girl is chatting with a guy, ignore what the guy says to her and read only her responses. That should guide if you should be worried or not.

There is nothing you had stated earlier that warrants you to be scared or confront her. When you are done with your white wedding, you can then change it for her if such conversation exist afterwards.
Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by advanceDNA: 7:06pm On Apr 16, 2023
VinnyBaba:


Ogbeni, Rokiat is a Woman.🙁

If a Lady is typing, you should know nah. sad

For OP,
Sit her down and Tell her Everything you saw in the chats.
Open Bible and read the Book of Proverbs, to her the Actions of a Virtuous Wife. 😎🙂

U wan open bible for olosho.....?? grin

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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by Mentholated: 7:08pm On Apr 16, 2023
intruder15:


Remove the notion that she is married to you even though you have done trad. Most ladies don't see themselves married until they have done their white wedding.

There is really nothing to talk about as you didn't see anything incriminating from her. When your girl is chatting with a guy, ignore what the guy says to her and read only her responses. That should guide if you should be worried or not.

There is nothing you had stated earlier that warrants you to be scared or confront her. When you are done with your white wedding, you can then change it for her if such conversation exist afterwards.

grin grin grin
Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by okunwaye(m): 7:43pm On Apr 16, 2023
Mentholated:
grin grin grin
E SHOCK U ABI?
Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by Teeneyo(m): 7:43pm On Apr 16, 2023
Fiscus105:



Oga stand like a man and take full control of ur household sir.

LET ME TELL YOU BITTER TRUTH, IF YOU REALLY WANT TO HAVE PEACE IN UR MARRIAGE,.......YOU MUST BE CONTROLLING YOUR WIFE BY PUTTING UR FEAR IN HER. (Most especially from very beginning now)
Any attempt that you want to give her "yeye" equality in marriage. Another man who knows how to control woman, will start controlling her from outside, just like what's happening to you now.

Nothing stops you to have access to all passwords of her social media and phone, if truly she is a woman you want to marry in this July in which she is in ur house already.

My advise, show her the evidents and take bold steps ,you should go a step forward to call the guy and threatening him in present of ur wife, for her to know stuff you are made of,ur comming to faceless forum to vent ur anger won't give u solution, but ur action and inaction.
Best reply
Put the fear of God and u in her
Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by ghettochild(m): 7:51pm On Apr 16, 2023
Must u people marry??
Dem use marriage swear for nigerians

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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by BlackMan6969(m): 8:01pm On Apr 16, 2023
By the time she's used to Abuja, she's going to meet men that have more money & are better looking. Don't blame a hoe for doing what hoes do.
If ur having doubts already, I'll advise u cancel the wedding

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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by peedeeasobie(m): 8:03pm On Apr 16, 2023
Bekeey:
Good morning my people, please pardon my grammatical errors and long writeups. I'm curiously in need of your help to help me decide if I should confront her or not. This is the problem, traditionally I got married to my wife this January 2023 and by grace of God our wedding is coming this July 2023, our IV is already out, we have got 45% of the Wedding needs already, like Asobi clothes, her own clothes and my clothes too, we have also booked for Decorations, DJ, MC etc.

So, here is the issue that I need to confront her or probably council the Wedding because since I got noticed what has been going in my absent, I wasn't myself for past 3days, I am emotionally exhausted. Here is the problem, there is thus guy that always call her late in the night from 10pm, whenever I asked her who was that, she always tell me is just a friend that they have known right from secondary school, that she knows her girlfriend that nothing is between them. I asked her,did he know that you are married, she said of cause, he is aware. I said OK, that day passed, so the call kept coming same time 10pm but not everyday. Later I began to notice that the guy doesn't call in the night again maybe because she have asked her not to call her by that time again. So 3days ago, I had access with her phone, my brothers and sisters, I was shocked, behold the person that told me she has nothing to do with him that is just a friend. All there conversation in that chat was sweetie, sweetie, that's what they call each other. Though, I found out my wife doesn't give him that chance that she's only interested to eat his money because I saw a receipt of 20k he sent to my wife. The guy was seriously asking for her nude videos which she didn't send to her but she instead sent him stickers. The guy will send her some videos showing her how he will sock her breast, and one hot round of sex, my wife will just replied him OK. Last chat my wife chatted him was where she is begging him for 50 to 100k to pay back by June. She don't have anything doing, I wonder where she will get the money to pay him back. Till now the guy have not replied him. I can say she has not started cheating on me because, she just relocated from Awka to Abuja where I leave and she doesn't know anywhere yet. She is always at home. So where I'm confused now is, is she sending him her nude and delete it at instant or she is just playing ▶️the guy? Even at that, as a married woman 👩did she suppose to engage in such conversation with a man? And she is already pregnant, 16weeks pregnant precisely.

Please house, what should I do in this situation, should I confront her or to keep monitoring her but the fact is, it still disturbs me why my wife a married woman should be having such discussions with a man.


What do you think cheating is? Just having sex with another person? Cheating is emotional involvement with another.

You need to confront her. Let her realize her actions are wrong and she should call the guy in your presence and tell him about you.

If she doesn't, well
Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by sanya4good(m): 8:17pm On Apr 16, 2023
1. Postpone the intended wedding ceremony for a year.
2. Carry out DNA test on the child delivered.
3. If DNA test comes out positive, then do only registry wedding with her.
4. If DNA test comes out negative, then end your relationship with her.


Bekeey:
Good morning my people, please pardon my grammatical errors and long writeups. I'm curiously in need of your help to help me decide if I should confront her or not. This is the problem, traditionally I got married to my wife this January 2023 and by grace of God our wedding is coming this July 2023, our IV is already out, we have got 45% of the Wedding needs already, like Asobi clothes, her own clothes and my clothes too, we have also booked for Decorations, DJ, MC etc.

So, here is the issue that I need to confront her or probably council the Wedding because since I got noticed what has been going in my absent, I wasn't myself for past 3days, I am emotionally exhausted. Here is the problem, there is thus guy that always call her late in the night from 10pm, whenever I asked her who was that, she always tell me is just a friend that they have known right from secondary school, that she knows her girlfriend that nothing is between them. I asked her,did he know that you are married, she said of cause, he is aware. I said OK, that day passed, so the call kept coming same time 10pm but not everyday. Later I began to notice that the guy doesn't call in the night again maybe because she have asked her not to call her by that time again. So 3days ago, I had access with her phone, my brothers and sisters, I was shocked, behold the person that told me she has nothing to do with him that is just a friend. All there conversation in that chat was sweetie, sweetie, that's what they call each other. Though, I found out my wife doesn't give him that chance that she's only interested to eat his money because I saw a receipt of 20k he sent to my wife. The guy was seriously asking for her nude videos which she didn't send to her but she instead sent him stickers. The guy will send her some videos showing her how he will sock her breast, and one hot round of sex, my wife will just replied him OK. Last chat my wife chatted him was where she is begging him for 50 to 100k to pay back by June. She don't have anything doing, I wonder where she will get the money to pay him back. Till now the guy have not replied him. I can say she has not started cheating on me because, she just relocated from Awka to Abuja where I leave and she doesn't know anywhere yet. She is always at home. So where I'm confused now is, is she sending him her nude and delete it at instant or she is just playing ▶️the guy? Even at that, as a married woman 👩did she suppose to engage in such conversation with a man? And she is already pregnant, 16weeks pregnant precisely.

Please house, what should I do in this situation, should I confront her or to keep monitoring her but the fact is, it still disturbs me why my wife a married woman should be having such discussions with a man.

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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by benzion72(m): 9:13pm On Apr 16, 2023
Will a responsible person be taking money from opposite sex for nothing

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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by mrcrabs(m): 9:20pm On Apr 16, 2023
Damn this is crazy what is even more crazy is she been in a city where there is money. I will advise you to put that marriage on hold, You seem to ignore that fact that you are going into a lifetime commitment and you are already seeing red flags please do not ignore those red flags deal with it accordingly.
Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by Young03(m): 10:24pm On Apr 16, 2023
My enstraged ex should be 15 weeks pregnant by now, or maybe she has terminated it.

I broke up with her for something similar.

It was a long distance relationship and I pleaded with her to end everything she has with any man before visiting me.

But when she came, it was calls upon calls from different men.
All she keeps saying is there my my toasters.

Some were even sending her money
I complained she said I talk too much.
I let her go back and I blocked her everywhere.

I don't have time for rubbishh things.

I don't trade my happiness over women.

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Re: Help, My 3months Marriage Is In Danger, Should I Confront Her? by 4ward4: 10:29pm On Apr 16, 2023
Just a matter of time, anytime you both are in disagreement just know their is always a joystick she call lean on. Of which disagreement is 90% certain in ever home.
You are a man , and I believe you know what is 70% likely to happen between you and most of your unmarried ex, when given the slightest opportunity. Same thing applies to your wife...Count your teeth with your tongue

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