God bless you@op for this thread .I don't really know where to start my story.Life have been so difficult.I lost my good job two years ago.immediately i start a small business cos i love to be an entrepreneur but things went wrong cant pay my rent,hardly feed my self,I tried a lot of things but always negative answer.
Due to this I have to take a job of 20k per month despite being a graduate of Engineering.Despite the love i have for friendship I always feel alone.My plans was to get married before 30yrs....hmmmm I am 33yrs no serious relationship,no good job and no friends.I am introvert and always shy.
Thank God where i worked now there is free internet 24hrs,it kept me busy and put some evil thinking off my mind.Now I am considering to resign again and start a business again but fear of what happen before always keep me away.
I have photography kit[nikkonD3000 and printer} but i lack marketing skills.
I can do some web design too.

^Hmmmm... Interesting.

^Very true.

chaircover:

My little advise to you is not to resign yet. Try and find a biz you can start side by side with the job you already have. When the biz grows, then you can resign

As for being shy, we are who we are. You dont need masses of friends who mean nothing to you and you mean nothing to. Just a few close people who you really care for and they care for you is what you need. as per not being married. At the right time, you will meet the right person. be yourself, smile, be positive in your words and actions and you will find that people will warm to you. Be prayerful too. It is well.

Thanks a lot I appreciate

God bless u ! Thank u for giving voice to the voiceless!

Thanks so much to whoever created dis thread. I'm very much depressed at the moment nd its rilly weighing me down....I just ended a six year relationship abt a month ago nd its not been easy....i dated dis guy faithfully, did all i culd to make the relationship work...infact i met him when he was still in skul(final year) up until he got a job with an oil company nd all that....when i say i did all i culd...i feel i did, i put in all effort, always read articles abt relationships, appreciated watever he gave, didn't demand so much from him, had cordial relationship with his sibling and all that....it pains me greatly that i'll have to sit nd away all dis...i always avoid being pitied, i always stay strong but it just seems i lost it on this one....i just dnt knw what to do. I'm writing my project nd will soon face my degree exams, I'm trying so hard to get over it....

Kikyben_2: Thanks so much to whoever created dis thread. I'm very much depressed at the moment nd its rilly weighing me down....I just ended a six year relationship abt a month ago nd its not been easy....i dated dis guy faithfully, did all i culd to make the relationship work...infact i met him when he was still in skul(final year) up until he got a job with an oil company nd all that....when i say i did all i culd...i feel i did, i put in all effort, always read articles abt relationships, appreciated watever he gave, didn't demand so much from him, had cordial relationship with his sibling and all that....it pains me greatly that i'll have to sit nd away all dis...i always avoid being pitied, i always stay strong but it just seems i lost it on this one....i just dnt knw what to do. I'm writing my project nd will soon face my degree exams, I'm trying so hard to get over it....

It is normal to hurt and you should not try to eliminate the feeling, it will wear-off gradually. You should immerse yourself in your project and examinations, those are your personal goals which no one but you can take away from you. It should get better with the passage of time- hurting is a part of life, we just need to be able to handle it.

@maclatunji & chaircover, thanks so much...

@Kikyben_2,


I sincerely do not know what to tell you to ease your mind out of this situation and get focused. Maclatunji and CC have given you good advices that if you act on them, you will be able to get it past behind you and smile again.

I have been in your position before and as a male, I can't describe how I felt. I can only imagine how it will be with you being a female who at most times are very emotional. Like CC said, you have to let out that emotional outburst, you need a private time to cry your heart out and move on with your life.

One thing I promised myself when I was disappointed is this, I made up my mind that WHOEVER I eventually marry will one day hug and thank my ex for jilting me. You can apply this to yourself by working on yourself and your goals to becoming a better person by the day.

Above all, it too shall pass soonest and you will smile again. Let him go, bible says "every good and perfect gift comes from God.." Your ex is only a good gift, with patience and endurance, wait for that Perfect gift of man that will come your way.

It is well with you

Thanks @bellong, i rilly do appreciate...

@Rolly

You must be full of bitterness and anger. Take it easy bro. Chaircover is not even a moderator to start with.

Resolve your grievances with Twirl, she is the MOD here in family section.

^^^ I never knew you are one of the MODs. But I wonder why people turn a faceless forum to something they can't do without. Must it always be do or die.


If you are banned, take correction and get on with other things u can do here.

Cool thread Tgirl

cowgurl: Cool thread Tgirl

Thanks dear

Yes i am feeling suicidal even with ♍Ɣ 4 months preg. Pls i wont be able to share ♍Ɣ xperience here but all u can do to help me is to get a good lawyer. I need to make a case cos for over 4yrs man man has tricked me. No marriage ãn̶̲̥̅̊đ when i now decided to keep ♍Ɣ baby after several abortions then i discovered d truth abt him. Pls i need to fight this legally and then i will be at peace within.kindly render help if possible. I just opened athread now pls input on ithttp://www.nairaland.com/1384268/pls-need-lawyer-organisations-look.

^Take it easy. No matter how bad your situation is, you can have a better future.

Not so much suicidal but things seem to have just taken a complete turn for the worst, life is what you make of it I guess.

ibkaye: Not so much suicidal but things seem to have just taken a complete turn for the worst, life is what you make of it I guess.

Its sometimes like that. Life isn't always a straight path. You normally would have countours and curves. All we just need to do is make the best of it and always remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
How are you doing now? But wait when did my little popeye turn male. Don't tell me you had a sex change.

onegig:
Its sometimes like that. Life isn't always a straight path. You normally would have countours and curves. All we just need to do is make the best of it and always remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
How are you doing now? But wait when did my little popeye turn male. Don't tell me you had a sex change.

You're right, I'm doing well thank you, was just having a 'moment' lol I'm male until I feel like changing back

ibkaye:
You're right, I'm doing well thank you, was just having a 'moment' lol I'm male for until I feel like changing back

good to hear that you are fine..we all do have our "server overloaded" moments.make the change soon. It is not easy to be a man:-P.

onegig: good to hear that you are fine..we all do have our "server overloaded" moments.make the change soon. It is not easy to be a man:-P.

lol it isn't any easier being a woman either

Mods might want to check this thread out started this morning by some 23 yr old asking for a painless way to commit suicide.

https://www.nairaland.com/1391528/what-easiest-way-commit-suicide

Unfortunately its been hidden but I believe the mods can still see it.

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^^^^ What is the root cause of the depression?

Double post

@soraya

Sometimes, its like that, you just depressed when you engage in thorough thinking about life, it happened to me this morning, I locked myself inside the room, I didn't want to talk to anyone, not even my hubby, but after a while, I discovered that it wasn't good for me, so I beckoned on my kids to come play with me, after which we went out together and that was the end.
So, when you feel depressed, ensure you are in the company of other people, if there's nobody at home, take a walk or betterstill, go visiting some people, by the time you find yourself with people, the depression will disappear, but it depend on you, you have to be determined that you have to conquer the situation, remember, when there is a wish, there is always a way. There is light after the tunnel. Don't give up, it is well.