Am 23. Got admission to school quite late. Am in 200 level presently. My boify is stable financially and hez been asking that we get married soonest. However, he stays in lag while I school outside lag. Am worried, how wld he cope while am away? And is it advisable that I get married while in school? Thanks!

I got married as an undergraduate in my second semester yr1 but I knew my handle academically before I took that decision. it wasn't easy handling marriage, baby making and schooling but it was what I wanted.Coping wasn't a walk in the park but I carried my stress with dignity and graduated with my peers.Imagine what is like going to class with kids,thank God I was mobile,yawa for gas.I saw the path I chose as an adventure,i was determined to succeed as all watching eyes were almost sure that failure is imminent .I have so much to say to you but I have to go for school run,later........

The major factor you should consider is the type of man you are getting married to,what is his attitude towards education?is he a graduate?How important is education to you? It's most unlikely for a graduate to want a drop out as a wife,thus he ll be more supportive than one who has no regards for education.Do you intend to have babies before or after school?how brilliant are you academically?do you ace your courses effortlessly or are you struggling with them? Please think about these points before I comment further,am quite busy but your topic really caught my interest,i ve been there.......

Thanks Byvan. At wht age did u get married? And how did you cope with pregnancy?

Thanks Byvan. At wht age did u get married? And how did you cope with pregnancy? To answer your questions, hez educated and very concerned about my education. Am jst worried bks we ll be in different states.

I was in a different state too,i was a little younger than you are now when I got married.I travelled every weekend all through my stay in school, except on weekends my hubby did the visiting.We tried not to stay apart for a long period,its unhealthy for a young marriage.We were just two states apart though.

Coping with pregnancies in school wasn't easy, neither was it fun, i read and wrote exams through morning sickness.I once missed writing three papers because I was down with hyperemis gravidarium,oh yes,it can be delightfully frustrating. When the second baby came,i still had to handle the pregnancy and my toddler.i didn't hire a nanny because I feel parents are the only ones that can really care for their kids.At some point hubby had to be with the first baby,he single handedly baby sat my first child all through my remaining stay in school while I took care of the 2nd.

If you are going to this, just make sure you are tough enough,e no easyooooo!!!!Be sure you are doing it with the right person and there are no trust issues.


Please note that having kids in school is not advisable for someone that is struggling with academics,there are times I virtually had only a few hrs to cram my entire note because baby won't sleep for me to read ,i pray to God to retain what I crammed and he always does

Wow! Pls shre ur experiences here, there are two people around ♍ε̲̣̣̣̥ currently doing this and I may follow suit. Hopefully, what I'll learn here may assist ♍Ɣ decision. Thanks

Well...me is get married when i was school. My wives love me so much that i fail exams.

Now i still school since 2001. but one day i will pass out.

If you are determined as a couple and on the same page,there is nothing you can't achieve.I look back and still can't believe I made it!!!!Being a graduate was that important to me.

byvan you have said it all.op just follow what she have told you and it shall be succesful in jesus name

Black Peni5: Well...me is get married when i was school. My wives love me so much that i fail exams.

Now i still school since 2001. but one day i will pass out.

Wit dis GBAGUAN i dnt tink u deserve 2 pass out......go sort out ua sef first wit ua English teachers*no offence BLACK penis*u go fear name na

Hmmm

I ain't a lady, but I know that ish ain't easy, especially when a baby is involved. You have to be sure you can handle it before you venture into it. 200l is too early IMHO.

Can you really cope? Someone like me wouldn't have jeopardised my education because of marriage. Different strokes for different folks. There are people who get married while in school but decide not to take in until they graduate. You both need to come to an agreement. Schooling, kids, husband... Aint Ezi!

ASUU strike, ASUU strike!!!!

Lemme go and grab a wify as well.
Get married jare, My sister. No time.

Why would anyone want to get married at 23?

You are not even done with undergrad??! Oh well, if you are scared that he'll leave, maybe you should think about transferring to another school closer to your new home.

I had many colleagues in school then who were married and pregnant• I always wondered how they fared•

No issues if he has the KUDI BAG!! Goody bag doesn't matter.. Good luck 2 u and Jonathan!!

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If your man is worth it,do it ! ! there is nothing wrong with having it all.i got the man,the babies,the youthfulness and the certificate, so can you!!!!!If this the life you want,make it happen.

Why the rush?Also considering the fact that he resides in another state,i will advice u finish your studies before getting married.Since you said he cares so much about education,explain this to him..i.e finishing your studies before getting married.
Remember,if he truly loves you,he will wait for you..!!!

I wanted to make a joke out of this thread, but i can see its a serious issue. Bt my dear, if ur goal is to privatize kpekus, then you have probably sacrificed your education.

L.M Ayedun..:
ASUU strike, ASUU strike!!!!

Lemme go and grab a wify as well.
Get married jare, My sister. No time.

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Wu Zetian: Why would anyone want to get married at 23?

You are not even done with undergrad??! Oh well, if you are scared that he'll leave, maybe you should think about transferring to another school closer to your new home.

I still wonder,
i cant imagine a 23 year old in ma house...hmmmmmm

OP,
what worked for byvan may not work for yu, yu re certainly not ready for this psychologically and emotionaly.

Marriage is not a childs play. . . . look before u leap

i wish you the best

Time is the worst enemy of man,it waits for no one.If your heart is there and his heart is there with yours,you ll both get there.Marriage and schooling is very capital intensiveoooooo,be sure he is willing to give as much comfort as he can to make it easier,my hubby did the best any reasonable husband could ve done to make it easy for me.Just be sure he ll be there for you,if your heart is convinced, do what you want to.

@Byvan.. You really are a strong lady. But don't compare yourself to the OP. She has not told us how sound she is academically and if she can combine academic and marital life.

From all what you have said. The ball is in the court of the OP to decide for herself, cz you have said it aLLLLLL.

Wu Zetian: Why would anyone want to get married at 23?

You are not even done with undergrad??! Oh well, if you are scared that he'll leave, maybe you should think about transferring to another school closer to your new home.

This was what Aunty Ngozi said when she was 23...now she's 37 and she don dey chyke men! Hmmmmmmm