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Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by mkoabiola: 10:41pm On Jul 21, 2014

Amusaopeyemi: I grew up without a father, i'm an only child and I graduated at the age of 20, i'll be serving next month. I'm proud of who i've grown up to be.
My mom was an iron lady tho, she takes no nonsense. Died last year.

Touching story
Go look 4 ur dadd
He mus b somewhere waiting 4 u

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by Adesolomon2014(m): 10:43pm On Jul 21, 2014

Some single mothers sha, always feelin they can do it all(leavin d fada on flimsy xcuses)...then they xpect a single nd searchin guy to wed them wif anoda man's child.....

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Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by sulmeza(m): 10:44pm On Jul 21, 2014

onyaigo: Anyway...for me sha oooo....it happened when I was a teen,i took in immediately i got disvirgined.....it wasn't funny then....going to school,,,the stigma,,the gossip,,,,breaking my family's heart,,,emotional,,,psychological,,,mental trauma(na die)....thank God I never did an abortion(i for done die of heart attack)....today am a better,,stronger,,prettier,,,classier lady......its been from one blessing to another since then(i can't fit shout).........I have learnt that love ain't sex,,relationship is for the matured in mind,,parents know your kids in and out,make them your best friend.....my advice is,,,no Sex before marriage(u r entitled to ur opinion so don't give me dat look)..,,love is not a feeling but a choice u make,,,,if it is easy getting the right partner we all would have been married by now so chill and be the best you can be(your own dey road)......brb.

God bles u ma'am...nice one

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Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by kemthegirl(f): 10:45pm On Jul 21, 2014

simbaddsailor: Wot were d single mothers thinking wen dey were opening der legs for der boy friends witout protection?

spoken like a child. May ur sister be unable to flush next pregnancy. Ebot.

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Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by Nobody: 10:46pm On Jul 21, 2014

babestell: Someone close to me is a single mom and I know how tough it was for her. She lost her job when the boss found out. Imagine!!! Like how was it her business. Thank God for family that stood by her and protected her from public scorn. Now the kid is 2yrs and everything is fine.

The annoying thing is all those guys that come to marry her but put condition that she will leave the boy behind
I wonder how they just expect her to abandon her son

They probably don't want to be raising another man's child. Don't blame them.

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by brosdoncome(m): 10:47pm On Jul 21, 2014

rozzay: Were do I start from? Thread reminds me of many sad memories dat I wouldn't like to share but to crown it all after 10 yrs I'm proud of myself, wen I luk @ my son nd how he s grown in my next life I'd have him again nd again cos he s my everything, my husband, broda, fada nd son nd I do not regret been a single mom.

U will have him again and again as a single mother

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Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by Nobody: 10:49pm On Jul 21, 2014

abolade62: I have a pretty daughter and I am glad the lady didnt abort the pregnancy when i told her to remove it. I love my daughter, she's the most beautiful-est thing in this world. Cant wait to meet the right person and make more babies.

see ur head..now you have mouth to talk shocked

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by Nobody: 10:51pm On Jul 21, 2014

sulmeza: God bles u ma'am...nice one

amen..tank ya.

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by iceberylin(m): 10:52pm On Jul 21, 2014

Xsenga: AYAM COMING.

I taught u lied

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by Adesolomon2014(m): 10:53pm On Jul 21, 2014

onyaigo: .... mtchewwwww...Na wa to dem o.....pls let that babe love and accept herself fully....it is selfish on the part of those guys to think she will abandon her son...in my own case,,they insist my daughter come along,,na me the refuse them self..there is something about self love,it makes you not to settle for anything less.

To be frank,i jus pity ya daughter cos they may have different crazy agenda for you both

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Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by Nobody: 10:53pm On Jul 21, 2014

Adesolomon2014: Some single mothers sha, always feelin they can do it all(leavin d fada on flimsy xcuses)...then they xpect a single nd searchin guy to wed them wif anoda man's child.....

no one is forcing you naaaa

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Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by Nobody: 10:58pm On Jul 21, 2014

Adesolomon2014:
To be frank,i jus pity ya daughter cos they may have different crazy agenda for you both

eayaaaaa..kpele o...you just brought yourself out....not all men are devils incarnate.....kpele ooo

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by JEITO: 10:59pm On Jul 21, 2014

For those that are single parent already, I pray that God grant you the wisdom, strength and resources you need to bring up the child properly.

For those that are not, don't even give it a second thought; it isn't easy at all especially in a society like ours.

Besides, EVERY CHILD DESERVES TO GROW UP IN A PROPER HOME with father and mother, not father or mother, and certainly not (father-father or mother-mother)

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Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by Nobody: 11:00pm On Jul 21, 2014

brosdoncome:

U will have him again and again as a single mother

am sure u understand wat I mean u are not a kid

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by Nobody: 11:00pm On Jul 21, 2014

brosdoncome:

U will have him again and again as a single mother

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by yungchop: 11:03pm On Jul 21, 2014

My own na when me and ma gf do chaminabamoon for level 100 she cum get belly, (see gbege ) na so the parents come ma house dey shout say I must marry her ( was just 17 then) Imagine that!! Na so we accept fate o, na ehn one day she come go london go complete her studies, till now she still dey there what am trying to say is dat she left me with the cute baby girl to be taking care off since then!! Av been a singlr father. #zainabu wakes me up " oga boss, daddy is calling you down stairs!# grin

to the youths in the house ma advice is avoid chaminabamoon at a tender age it can cause unwanted chiki, kun gane ko?? Yaowa grin

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by chineloSA(f): 11:10pm On Jul 21, 2014

Those who are single parents ( those who were never married and married and divorced) I salute their courage, but I get worried when people come on social or public forums and bit their chests and say " I am proud of being a single parent" ( particularly those who were never married )
1) Ignoring the fact that its not about them and their mistake but its about a child who will be psychologically affected because of an absent father.

Yes it was a decision/ mistake that you did and you had a child out of wedlock, but its not good to condone and justify your behavior on a public forum where the younger generation will learn from you that its OK to be a single parent ( refering to those who never married ).

Having a baby before marriage is " NOT GOOD " for the child. Being single maybe good for you but but a child needs the father.

I am not judging those who are unwedded single parents but I am against those who paint a picture for the younger generation that " single parenthood " is the way to go.
DON'T DECEIVE other people. Single parenthood is harder financially, emotionally etc than you paint it to be. undecided

For christians looking into have children before wedlock, here are words for thought
Wisdom of Solomon 4 : 16 - 19
( Read this chapter and let's debate )

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Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by KingAdeOluomo1(m): 11:11pm On Jul 21, 2014

thread for the aged

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by abolade62: 11:15pm On Jul 21, 2014

onyaigo: see ur head..now you have mouth to talk

My dear, dont mind me. The girl turns out to be a carbon copy of my beautiful mother. I'm just glad she didnt abort it, I just want to be the best father to my little girl and give her the best. She's my world.

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Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by simbaddsailor(m): 11:19pm On Jul 21, 2014

kemthegirl:

spoken like a child. May ur sister be unable to flush next pregnancy. Ebot.

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by Nobody: 11:19pm On Jul 21, 2014

Akinsbobo2:

And the lord shall grant your heart desires in jesus name

Amen..tank ya..

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by Nobody: 11:20pm On Jul 21, 2014

abolade62:
My dear, dont mind me. The girl turns out to be a carbon copy of my beautiful mother. I'm just glad she didnt abort it, I just want to be the best father to my little girl and give her the best. She's my world.

nice...wish ya the very best...

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Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by akpumping7720(m): 11:21pm On Jul 21, 2014

Well! Well!. I regretted having a child out of weddlock. It isn't something I planned for considering †ђξ fact dat I ave a baby girl. And anytime I listen to her voice on fone I always feel guilty for not getting married to her mom. But I want a kind of satisfaction 4 myself in †ђξ future but at †ђξ same time I always feel sorry for my baby girl for allowing her to come into dis world and not enjoy dat parental care and affection she needs to ave. Dat guilty conscience burns my heart everryday. And I always try to make her happy by meeting up with her needs.

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Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by abolade62: 11:21pm On Jul 21, 2014

onyaigo: nice...wish ya the very best...

Same here too. How old is your baby now?

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by boay(m): 11:24pm On Jul 21, 2014

God help you all.

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by boay(m): 11:26pm On Jul 21, 2014

akpumping7720: Well! Well!. I regretted having a child out of weddlock. It isn't something I planned for considering †ђξ fact dat I ave a baby girl. And anytime I listen to her voice on fone I always feel guilty for not getting married to her mom. But I want a kind of satisfaction 4 myself in †ђξ future but at †ђξ same time I always feel sorry for my baby girl for allowing her to come into dis world and not enjoy dat parental care and affection she needs to ave. Dat guilty conscience burns my heart everryday. And I always try to make her happy by meeting up with her needs.

Touching....

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Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by simbaddsailor(m): 11:26pm On Jul 21, 2014

If my sister decides to open her legs for a man witout a protection, she shuld be able to. bear wotever consequencies dat comes out if. Were u forced to v a sex wit ur boy friend witout protection? U women will always be at d receiving end wen d result finally comes out. U r here lamenting being a a single mother wen u failed to do d right tin. If u r nt ready to take responsibilies, close ur legs or advice ur guy to use protection. Some of u were deceived, u delibrately took in for a guy tinking dat wuld make him marry u, wen d guy is nt ready n ditched u, u come here lamenting.

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Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by boay(m): 11:27pm On Jul 21, 2014

KingAdeOluomo1: thread for the aged

And for the young ones to learn from

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by abolade62: 11:28pm On Jul 21, 2014

akpumping7720: Well! Well!. I regretted having a child out of weddlock. It isn't something I planned for considering †ђξ fact dat I ave a baby girl. And anytime I listen to her voice on fone I always feel guilty for not getting married to her mom. But I want a kind of satisfaction 4 myself in †ђξ future but at †ђξ same time I always feel sorry for my baby girl for allowing her to come into dis world and not enjoy dat parental care and affection she needs to ave. Dat guilty conscience burns my heart everryday. And I always try to make her happy by meeting up with her needs.

I am in this mess too, not yet married but then my conscience just wouldnt let me move on. I always ask myself this question, "should I place my daughter's happiness above mine by settling down with the mother just cos she can grow up in a proper family set-up, she should not have to pay for my mistake or i should just do what i got to do to be happy?"

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by boay(m): 11:30pm On Jul 21, 2014

simbaddsailor: If my sister decides to open her legs for a man witout a protection, she shuld be able to. bear wotever consequencies dat comes out if. Were u forced to v a sex wit ur boy friend witout protection? U women will always be at d receiving end wen d result finally comes out. U r here lamenting being a a single mother wen u failed to do d right tin. If u r nt ready to take responsibilies, close ur legs or advice ur guy to use protection. Some of u were deceived, u delibrately took in for a guy tinking dat wuld make him marry u, wen d guy is nt ready n ditched u, u come here lamenting.

I belive we can all make mistakes. We are all exposed to different ideologies when we were younger. No matter the error, 'out of the broken fragments of your past God can build an edifice of hope'

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Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by Nobody: 11:31pm On Jul 21, 2014

akpumping7720: Well! Well!. I regretted having a child out of weddlock. It isn't something I planned for considering †ђξ fact dat I ave a baby girl. And anytime I listen to her voice on fone I always feel guilty for not getting married to her mom. But I want a kind of satisfaction 4 myself in †ђξ future but at †ђξ same time I always feel sorry for my baby girl for allowing her to come into dis world and not enjoy dat parental care and affection she needs to ave. Dat guilty conscience burns my heart everryday. And I always try to make her happy by meeting up with her needs.

I really don't like the word ' regret'...things happen,what can you/what do you wanna do about it?noring I guess......bring out the best in every shit that happens...just do your part by been there for them...your baby will be fine,,her mum will be fine,,you will be fine,,,great things ahead,,but they are always lessons to learn from every experience..cheer up man cool

Re: Thread For Single Mothers/ Fathers by Nobody: 11:33pm On Jul 21, 2014

abolade62:
Same here too. How old is your baby now?

she's 4yrs...and urs?

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