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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by fluffyz(f): 10:24pm On Oct 02, 2014
So sad to hear.she def ain't d matured type more like a selfish lady.
Safari29:
you are def one in a thousand lol and ur husband can't be a young guy that isjust starting his life. I didn't say all single mothers are bad we have good ones too. infact most of them are very matured in decision making understand and manage life better. But when it comes to bad times they are not loyal. They are selfish. ofc I had a bad relationship with one which ended badly recently and I regretted ever meeting her. despite my effort in making her and her kid happy always I was never appreciated which pained me in the ass. she is really pretty and everything has always bn about her. I have to accept the fact that she used me just to raise her self and kid to some conformable position and dumped me when she found someone she actually like. What about my own happiness after all I did
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Vicben(m): 10:31pm On Oct 02, 2014
Love conquers all things and as others have pointed, there are a thousand and one single ladies out there who have had abortions countless times that are walking on the streets today claiming single girls with no child(ren) when they've murdered and buried great men and women. I respect ladies who have the courage of saying no abortion once they conceive.
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Nobody: 10:37pm On Oct 02, 2014
Boomerangoflife:


Am afraid to tell u that ur sex education is too low,.. Some single mothers are tighter than ur so called "brand new" and maybe u don't even know there are drugs used in tighten the va**na. Wrongs girls use such to freak guys like u.
. be afraid o.........
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Safari29: 11:03pm On Oct 02, 2014
fluffyz: So sad to hear.she def ain't d matured type more like a selfish lady.

well may be. I ll never date not to talk of marrying someone that has a child out of wedlock except if am very sure I am maturely prepared and financially stable to manage the situation. to me now they are all hoes

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by niggi4life(m): 11:28pm On Oct 02, 2014
hmmmmmmm.... This is an interesting topic.
I had an experience with a single mother some couple of years back, i must tell you it's not easy ooooo, most especially if you are still a young guy, you have to go some extra miles in not only pleasing her but also her son/daughter. The child MUST like you, most times the child comes first and then anything second. If she isn't financially buoyant then you must fend for her and the child. Do not forget you will automatically have enemies, these enemies are from her ex-husband's family(if she was married b4) or from your own family(am 90% sure your mum wont like the idea) take a look at some foreign movies(think like a man) etc and you see clearly that the stigma isnt just here in Africa, its all over. The single lady i dated showed me hell
It takes a brave man to take the unnecessary journey though. You wanna know what made me quit the relationship with her? She started sleeping with d baby daddy again and the guy finally got the custody of the child after i had spent several cash in sending the little boy to school



Last bullet: if you hate drama don't go near a single father or mother
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by sugaarbear(m): 11:55pm On Oct 02, 2014
Mondisweets: why not older? cheesy
cus am gona adopt the kid as mine
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Nobody: 11:57pm On Oct 02, 2014
sugaarbear: cus am gona adopt the kid as mine
u can still adopt an older kid na
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Tuktuk: 12:15am On Oct 03, 2014
I MARRIED MY LATE HUBBY WHEN HIS WIFE DIED AND THEY HAD FOUR KIDS. WAS SINGLE AND YOUNG WHEN WE MARRIED. HE WAS THE BEST HUSBAND AND THE KIDS(MY 4 KIDS ARE SIMPLY GOD GIVEN) WE HAD ONLY ONE CHILD TOGETHER WEN HE DIED. NOW A SINGLE MOTHER WITH A CHILD. WAS IT MY FAULT THAT HE DIED LEAVING ME WITH A CHILD? IF GIVEN A CHOICE I'D WANT TO MARRY A WIDOWER WITH A CHILD OR TWO COS BASED ON EXPERIENCE WE CAN RELATE BETTER THAN MARRYING A SINGLE, DIVORCEE OR A MARRIED MAN. MIND YOU I AM A MUSLIM. SINGLE PARENTING IS NOT A CHOICE, IF THERE IS SOMETHING THE HUMAN NATURE DETEST THEN IT DEFINITELY HAS TO BE LONELINESS. BUT IN MOST CASES IT CANT BE HELPED. angry sad
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by sugaarbear(m): 1:43am On Oct 03, 2014
Mondisweets: u can still adopt an older kid na
sure buh wouldnt like older kid.....can you marry to a single father?
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by sugaarbear(m): 1:48am On Oct 03, 2014
Tuktuk: I MARRIED MY LATE HUBBY WHEN HIS WIFE DIED AND THEY HAD FOUR KIDS. WAS SINGLE AND YOUNG WHEN WE MARRIED. HE WAS THE BEST HUSBAND AND THE KIDS(MY 4 KIDS ARE SIMPLY GOD GIVEN) WE HAD ONLY ONE CHILD TOGETHER WEN HE DIED. NOW A SINGLE MOTHER WITH A CHILD. WAS IT MY FAULT THAT HE DIED LEAVING ME WITH A CHILD? IF GIVEN A CHOICE I'D WANT TO MARRY A WIDOWER WITH A CHILD OR TWO COS BASED ON EXPERIENCE WE CAN RELATE BETTER THAN MARRYING A SINGLE, DIVORCEE OR A MARRIED MAN. MIND YOU I AM A MUSLIM. SINGLE PARENTING IS NOT A CHOICE, IF THERE IS SOMETHING THE HUMAN NATURE DETEST THEN IT DEFINITELY HAS TO BE LONELINESS. BUT IN MOST CASES IT CANT BE HELPED. angry sad
sorry about that hun buh what happened to your late husband's 4 kids?
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by lanregidi: 5:01am On Oct 03, 2014
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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by gfullmoon(m): 5:56am On Oct 03, 2014
Take note being a single mother does not rule abortion out in the Ladies life. So that should never be a criteria,character and circumstances leading to her status should be our point of making the life time decision of settling down with them. I've known a single mother who committed several abortions,only that this particular one refused to be terminated. So it's a two a edge sword-character and attitude should be our only point of reference nothing more,nothing less!

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Barbie28(f): 6:48am On Oct 03, 2014
Yes i can.Am in a relationship now and my boyfriend has a son with another lady
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by waslite(m): 8:19am On Oct 03, 2014
It depends on d circumstances surrounding her nt bn accepted by d guy n its also all about choice. Bt trully if u knw(new guy) u can't accept it or its nt ur want, it is better u let go b4 she felt heartbroken again
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Nobody: 8:32am On Oct 03, 2014
sugaarbear: sure buh wouldnt like older kid.....can you marry to a single father?
if i love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him, definitely. smiley
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by emmygzy(m): 9:08am On Oct 03, 2014
hell no, i can only f-uck them. ive already f-ucked like two. theyre the easiest, no story or preaching, they allow you easily.
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by olaideslex(m): 9:32am On Oct 03, 2014
Only if the father of that child is late, if not, she ll always go back to the previous husband.
I have experienced it.

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by babeface3: 9:42am On Oct 03, 2014
Talking from experience, the responsibility of bringing up a step son can be very intriguing but absolutely an interesting challenge to the mature minded. Maturity is not just physical maturity et al. There are a whole lot of spiritual underpinnings that could make such union a smooth sailing venture.


Single parents especially those that had traumatic past are always haunted by the same past, they are very suspicious and could go off handle 10 times in a day.

No don't get it twisted, lets go a little spiritual for those that are spiritually mature. The bible says those that are led by the spirit are the sons of God.

Do you know that you could be appointed a shepherd to a person that has had a child and that could be your point of blessing? Do you know that taking responsibility for that child abandoned by the father, (damn the philosophies of men) could herald an open heaven for you, blessing of unimaginable dimension.

Youths be wise, open ur spirit.

I am not saying you should do this but try to be led.

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Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by austinereds(m): 10:05am On Oct 03, 2014
ojialo:

explain better.
________at the end of the day the male kid does not bear the ur surname but his father surname and once there is a reunion with the real father all love transfers to him.except the kid is wise enough to understand.
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by sugaarbear(m): 10:19am On Oct 03, 2014
Mondisweets: if i love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him, definitely. smiley
:| thats cool.......email me pls
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Farouksenior: 11:35am On Oct 03, 2014
Praise5: Hahahahaha I'm just having a good laugh over here. Let me start by saying that I had a child before getting married, not because there is no money for abortion but because I chose to keep my child. Again the father never denied me but I had reasons for not marrying him then. I don't want to quit my education and I was sure that we were not ready for marriage.
Long story short, I can count my mates that got married before me but HONESTLY I can't count the ones that I got married before and the ones still unmarried. I graduated from sch at the right age, got married at the right age, had kids for my hubby at the right age and most importantly I am living a fulfilled life. I am not married to dangote but I lack NOTHING. My husband literally adores me and sorry to burst your bubble, he is just a few years older than me so we are more like age mates. I never lived a promiscuous lifestyle and since I got married, have never cheated on my husband.
I don't support premarital sex but when it happens, keeping your child should be the only option. I forgot to add that my husband begged me to marry him, never threw myself at him.
C'mon girls get a life and the right man will come. I also never hid my status, not for once!!!
Am in a relationship. Wit one. Bt she has dis problem of thinkin too much. Worried abt my family Esp. U eva in dat scenario wit ur naw husband??


[i]I love her alot. My mates tink m weird bt dts dia P[/b] grin
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Safari29: 11:46am On Oct 03, 2014
Farouksenior:
Am in a relationship. Wit one. Bt she has dis problem of thinkin too much. Worried abt my family Esp. U eva in dat scenario wit ur naw husband??


[i]I love her alot. My mates tink m weird bt dts dia P[/b] grin


Wait till u guys have problems or in bad terms. she ll leave and avoid u like a plaque
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by smudge2079(m): 11:59am On Oct 03, 2014
Jamean: hehehe! My Stalker

grin
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by expensive007(m): 1:27pm On Oct 03, 2014
Think b4 u do is better than do b4 u think cool cool cool
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by woptri1: 2:00pm On Oct 03, 2014
[color=#990000][/color] hmmmmmm this topic is pointing directly at me cos that's the trouble av got myself into now. She don love die but I know there will be problem in the future. Thinking of a way to wave it o
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by cutiesoglam(f): 2:13pm On Oct 03, 2014
Guys b lik 'no I can't marry a single mother". U knw in dispart of d world we make life so hard 4 ourselves. Forget abt dchild, first knw d lady's behaviour. Not all single mums rbad. Different circumtances warrants wat made dem a single mum. If u knw at happend to som u will av encourged dem to leave n live happily. Naija men r d reason. Ladies stay in an abusive marriage knowing if u leave ur spouse, Pple wil judge u witout knownig wat uv bin thru. Respect to all single mums out der tryin to make somtin good outta of der life,even after going a lot buh choosing not to stay n b miserable. Respect to dose who trusted a man buh @ d end she was disappointed, respect to dose who choose to. Sacrifice n give birth even thou u had an option. U r still hot . U r strong ,beautiful n who meet a man of ur choice who will love u n ur child,just kip workin onursef.
And all wayward single mums, try n reorganise ur lives and stop being a disgrace to others.

And to all hyprocite guysz,who can want to f*ck a single mum buh say hell no, u can't marry dem, God will judge.
And to guys ,who r willingly to take d chances , I wish u d best.
P.S: m not a single mum, m married wit a kid b4 u guys start. Sayin .............***
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by austine4real(m): 2:41pm On Oct 03, 2014
Yes i can& i wish 2 date 1..just wnt 2 knw hw it feels takin care of kids.. Kudo 2 singlemums
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Nobody: 3:09pm On Oct 03, 2014
emmygzy: hell no, i can only f-uck them. ive already f-ucked like two. theyre the easiest, no story or preaching, they allow you easily.
It's people like you that make some single mothers become gold-diggers. Anyway nemesis has a way of handling folk like you. Continue no problem. Diaris God o!
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Farouksenior: 4:18pm On Oct 03, 2014
Safari29:


Wait till u guys have problems or in bad terms. she ll leave and avoid u like a plaque
Hahahaha. Actually we jst baq frm a brk cool. D ish was dt frnds "tok"was affecting mE. Took its toll on us. #fact- no b lyk say dia own rlshps beta.had to find my hrtdesires. grin
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Safari29: 4:27pm On Oct 03, 2014
Farouksenior:
Hahahaha. Actually we jst baq frm a brk cool. D ish was dt frnds "tok"was affecting mE. Took its toll on us. #fact- no b lyk say dia own rlshps beta.had to find my hrtdesires. grin


bro I mean when u are in bad or hard time and she is not yet stable. She won't be loyal
Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Has A Child? by Safari29: 4:29pm On Oct 03, 2014
woptri1: [color=#990000][/color] hmmmmmm this topic is pointing directly at me cos that's the trouble av got myself into now. She don love die but I know there will be problem in the future. Thinking of a way to wave it o
if the love is genue and not after material things or out of desperation pls don't break her heart

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