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Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by MzAmanda(f): 10:53am On Oct 25, 2014
I recently started dating a ghuy who's been asking me out for like 8mnths nw...I admired him because he didn't relent in his pursuit,I really started to like him and now d relationship is two months. smiley
Buh i noticed sonething about him...he lies pweety well and hardembarassed..i also knw lying is normal buh he lies even for trivial things.Wen we chat he would say something but as dhe chat goes on...he would forget he said et...and rephrase!!...then i would bhe like didnt you jst say sumtyn else nw...but he would change the topic and i will leave it be.
I told a friend about it...he jst shrugged and said "ANY GHUY DHAT DONT LIE TO YOU DOESN'T RESPECT YOU" shocked shocked...Pls I nid your take on this ...and dnt insult mhe plss...et took a lot of courage from my self to write this!!!
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by jcflex(m): 11:02am On Oct 25, 2014
that not truth, to ur frnd dat is her own defination of man respect to a lady.

no mata hw hard d truth maybe, always tell ur partner the truth. dat brings more respect and trust to each other. which is good for any relationship.
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by LaurelP(m): 11:03am On Oct 25, 2014
U nid advice from ladies only?
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by derrick333(m): 11:05am On Oct 25, 2014
Lie's part of life,I do lie2my Barney2 ,jus2cover my a$$ ,he flop,shudnt v let u no he's lieiN, cus u v lost trust in him
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by Mprex(f): 11:06am On Oct 25, 2014
Guys lie, thats fact but when it becomes frequent and even on trivial issues then you have to watch it








maybe he is scared of saying something that will upset you. Yon need to make him more comfortable and free with you

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Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by MzAmanda(f): 11:06am On Oct 25, 2014
LaurelP:
U nid advice from ladies only?
Not dem alone...ah jst tot dhey dhid have some kind of experience abt et...yurs will bhe appreciated too
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by MzAmanda(f): 11:07am On Oct 25, 2014
jcflex:
that not truth, to ur frnd dat is her own defination of man respect to a lady.

no mata hw hard d truth maybe, always tell ur partner the truth. dat brings more respect and trust to each other. which is good for any relationship.
Tankz
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by Nobody: 11:08am On Oct 25, 2014
Like you said, lying is normal, I mean who doesn't lie once in a while? But lying about petty things? Too bad. Persnally, I dislike being lied to but sometimes, some lies are excusable. So why don't you talk to him and know why he does that? Could be he was just tryna impress you with the lies. Don't hide and pretend everything is fine when it's not.
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by MzAmanda(f): 11:09am On Oct 25, 2014
Mprex:
Guys lie, thats fact but when it becomes frequent and even on trivial issues then you have to watch it








maybe he is scared of saying something that will upset you. Yon need to make him more comfortable and free with you
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by MzAmanda(f): 11:11am On Oct 25, 2014
Mprex:
Guys lie, thats fact but when it becomes frequent and even on trivial issues then you have to watch it








maybe he is scared of saying something that will upset you. Yon need to make him more comfortable and free with you
Ah tink tz nt about mhe...he isn't uptight around mhe...I'm tinking tz jst HIM!!Lyk tz his personality
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by LaurelP(m): 11:11am On Oct 25, 2014
MzAmanda:
Not dem alone...ah jst tot dhey dhid have some kind of experience abt et...yurs will bhe appreciated too

Ok
It all depends on u
Do u like being lied to? If not den it doesn't mata wat ur friend said, u r not ur friend.
D problem wt u girls is dat u tend to stick wit guys who lie to u, but hate truthful ones.

And again, u listen way too much to friends, basing very important decisions on their opinions.

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Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by MzAmanda(f): 11:13am On Oct 25, 2014
LaurelP:


Ok
It all depends on u
Do u like being lied to? If not den it doesn't mata wat ur friend said, u r not ur friend.
D problem wt u girls is dat u tend to stick wit guys who lie to u, but hate truthful ones.

And again, u listen way too much to friends, basing very important decisions on their opinions.
Hmmmnh...I tink I'll take dat...abt friends...buh abt being lied to...HELL TO THE NO DUDE...if twz lyk dhat I wldnt bhe ere!!
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by slimzypink(f): 11:14am On Oct 25, 2014
like someone said maybe he is scared of saying sumthin dat wud get u angry..relationship is still nu..so dnt be too hard..but sis if d lies continue....take a breal...life is too short to be with a lying niccur
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by Hawlahscho(m): 11:14am On Oct 25, 2014
I think guys too shud be able to contribute to this. I don't know the kind of lie though but lies are different from lies, and lies change appearance and condemn trust.

What if he says d truth? would you av left him or got angry? he shud not av lied at all, he's not a straight forward guy (I think).

concerning your friend that said if he doesn't lie to you he doesn't respect you. She just missed it all and I conclude she has never been serious wit any guy.

the definition for respect shud be avoiding what can make you lie to her or what can make her sad. If a guy can compose small lie, expect big ones.

I ADVISE YOU TRAP HIM (WITH SENSE O)
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by MzAmanda(f): 11:15am On Oct 25, 2014
MzPreshie:
Like you said, lying is normal, I mean who doesn't lie once in a while? But lying about petty things? Too bad. Persnally, I dislike being lied to but sometimes, some lies are excusable. So why don't you talk to him and know why he does that? Could be he was just tryna impress you with the lies. Don't hide and pretend everything is fine when it's not.
Hmmnh...ah guess I'll have to tink of a way to bring up the topic...Tankz Babe!!
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by LaurelP(m): 11:15am On Oct 25, 2014
MzAmanda:
Hmmmnh...I tink I'll take dat...abt friends...buh abt being lied to...HELL TO THE NO DUDE...if twz lyk dhat I wldnt bhe ere!!

And pls change d way u write
Its too childish for someone of ur age
I can hardly read ur comments
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by Nobody: 11:18am On Oct 25, 2014
I cant trust a liar, In a relationship no matter how bitter the truth is, I say it.
Your intergrity is at stake if you continue to lie even in little things.
I don't take liars seriously.

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Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by MzAmanda(f): 11:19am On Oct 25, 2014
Hawlahscho:
I think guys too shud be able to contribute to this. I don't know the kind of lie though but lies are different from lies, and lies change appearance and condemn trust.

What if he says d truth? would you av left him or got angry? he shud not av lied at all, he's not a straight forward guy (I think).

concerning your friend that said if he doesn't lie to you he doesn't respect you. She just missed it all and I conclude she has never been serious wit any guy.

the definition for respect shud be avoiding what can make you lie to her or what can make her sad. If a guy can compose small lie, expect big ones.

I ADVISE YOU TRAP HIM (WITH SENSE O)
Tankz dude...buh dhat friend of mine is a ghuy...I said HE wen I brought him up
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by MzAmanda(f): 11:21am On Oct 25, 2014
LaurelP:


And pls change d way u write
Its too childish for someone of ur age
I can hardly read ur comments
Will do!!
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by Nobody: 11:23am On Oct 25, 2014
OP better use your head and know how to follow him so you won't end up heartbroken at the long run,lies breeds mistrust and you wouldn't want that,don't be in a rush to do anything with him so u won't blame yourself.

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Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by teewai3(m): 11:24am On Oct 25, 2014
Honesty and integrity are keys to getting respect form anyone. Never lie. A man can not respect you if he can not trust you..som lies are manageable, bt if its getting excess especially for insignificant things, then its too bad, may b u shud talk to him..

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Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by Nobody: 11:27am On Oct 25, 2014
MzAmanda:
Ah tink tz nt about mhe...he isn't uptight around mhe...I'm tinking tz jst HIM!!Lyk tz his personality
its like peak milk,its in him.
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by MzAmanda(f): 11:30am On Oct 25, 2014
miztola:
OP better use your head and know how to follow him so you won't end up heartbroken at the long run,lies breeds mistrust and you wouldn't want that,don't be in a rush to do anything with him so u won't blame yourself.
tankz babe

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Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by MzAmanda(f): 11:32am On Oct 25, 2014
teewai3:
Honesty and integrity are keys to getting respect form anyone. Never lie. A man can not respect you if he can not trust you..som lies are manageable, bt if its getting excess especially for insignificant things, then its too bad, may b u shud talk to him..
The thing is I dnt knw how to bring it up wit him...ah guess I'll have to wait for another obvious lie.
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by Nobody: 11:59am On Oct 25, 2014
Yea,i agree with ur friend,any guy dat doesn't lie to u doesn't respect u....dat quote doesn't apply to d situation on ground,wen a guy lies 2 me once,itz normal,bt if he continue lying,then there's a lot i need to knw,if everything he says is a lie,aw are u sure it isn't a lie when he tells u "I LOVE U".watch ur bck girl.
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by Nobody: 12:12pm On Oct 25, 2014
miztola:
OP better use your head and know how to follow him so you won't end up heartbroken at the long run,lies breeds mistrust and you wouldn't want that,don't be in a rush to do anything with him so u won't blame yourself.

She neva said dude was after it..
Besides;whatz d big deal if dey both did it¿..As if itz only d dude dat enjoys it alone & d gurl doesn't.
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by Nobody: 12:27pm On Oct 25, 2014
Build the foundation of your love on trust. it is normal for anyone to lie, even my boss lies and he would say, technically what I meant was...... lies.
However, most girls like lies, why? If you tell them the truth, they think you are lying and when you lie, they think you are saying the truth. My girlfriend of a year plus, loves(note:I did not use like) lies not until I open up and told her the blatant truth, she began to behave somehow and we had to end the relationship. Naturally, no one like lies, but with my few years on earth, people do not like hearing the truth.

I strongly suggest you let him know you would like to hear the truth and nothing but the truth at all times. The truth is bitter and hurts but it heals. You boyfriend is a SAGUINE.
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by Oahray: 12:30pm On Oct 25, 2014
You seem more upset with him forgetting his lies than you are with his lying at all. I might be wrong, but that's how I see it.

When a partner notices you prefer sweet lies to bitter truth (and many girls do), he'd soon learn to serve it hot as often as possible. Serious lies errode trust, so I wonder why people like that silly quote about lying being a way to respect a woman.

Justice demands you start from yourself though. If you tell him lies, it doesn't make sense to expect him not to reciprocate. If you are sure you don't lie to him, then you can proceed with trying to get him to stop.

Be observant, lying usually follows a pattern. Note the times you catch him in a lie and try to discern why he lied those times. Could it be fear of upsetting you? The need to impress you? To avoid responsibility for action or lack of it? That would help you know what to do about it.
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by teewai3(m): 12:31pm On Oct 25, 2014
okay!!! bt d sooner, the better
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by Nobody: 12:37pm On Oct 25, 2014
sauceny:


She neva said dude was after it..
Besides;whatz d big deal if dey both did it¿..As if itz only d dude dat enjoys it alone & d gurl doesn't.
Uncle where in my post did i mention sexx? And yes its a big deal if they both do it.
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by Nobody: 12:45pm On Oct 25, 2014
miztola:
Uncle where in my post did i mention sexx? And yes its a big deal if they both do it.
you do not like the truth.
Re: Ladies Pls...your Views On This!! by Nobody: 12:46pm On Oct 25, 2014
artisticallyart:
you do not like the truth.
yes i do

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