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Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 3:56pm On Oct 18, 2014 |
breadplanets:I wish you the best. 1 Like |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by luvablesam(m): 4:38pm On Oct 18, 2014 |
Chrisbenogor: Women lie Men lie,Isn't that true? As a Man,what could make one cheat varies from one person to the other. Either as a result of the inadequacies of a partner to the way an opposite sex friend treats u when u are around her(this particularly gets guys to think about what it is to be with this kinda friend). As Men we have this idea that a certain friendship with a female who isn't ours won't get 'septic' until it does. We play with fire a lot until it burns those we truly care about. Have I ever cheated? Yes(emotionally) in previous relationships but not my present one though I have been tempted to. There is always this other woman out there u wish was yours not cos she is gorgeous but she thinks exactly d way u do. Shld this make us cheat? Nah I don't think so. Didn't want to go in this direction buh some wives n gfs are culpable when their man cheats cos they drive them to it with nagging and un found suspicion. 2 Likes |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by breadplanets(f): 6:08pm On Oct 18, 2014 |
sparkymummy:thanks love 1 Like |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by dBard: 12:16pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
O.k.. 3 - 5 days countdown n am trying to kip it all 2gda amidst all... Was hoping f a relatively quiet wedding but present estimates 500+ guests. Are dre any advices I can get here on organization.. drinks, food , service. I think Ive covered all d bases but still wake up wit mild panic attacks. Any advice that'll help will b appreciated. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 1:26pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
dBard:it is usual to have that pre-wedding blood rush, which experts says it is normal. However, make sure you call them( those in charge of handling the section you mentioned 48hours to the D-day),just relax. Happy Marriage in advance. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by breadplanets(f): 3:51pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
Pls how does one deal with a fiance that does not like talking about issues that comes up every now and then. For example i do or say something to annoy him after i apologise and i want to explain why so n so happened he will say *that one has gone*. And i feel like talking about it he would say i like over stressing issues. Like this morning i was annoyed with him n when he tried to explain himself i told him that one has gone, just to see his reaction and he was just too happy to let it go like that. Abeg wetin i fit do o. Cos i feel like any issue we dont tackle properly now might crop up in future by then it might cause more damage. Please helpppp!! |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by mamateniola1: 5:12pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
Hello, everyone. How weekend? @Godmystrenght, how are you oh! Just checking up on you. Read the pages av missed n I realised you have been mute. Hope you r fine. The Lord is your strength sis! @breadplanet. If not the fact that you mentioned he was happy when you too said he shld let it go,wld av said you shldnt worry too much about it.some men no like too much story even me wey be woman,I can't shout so most times I d say abeg, forget it,that one Don go or I don hear n truly l let it go,it's when I don't answer that he will be worried. Communication is key in a relationship so I think you have to find a way of making him listen.oda aunties will soon come n dissect the question for you. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Ilovenigeria(f): 7:54pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
breadplanets:Whenever he is in the mood at night and wants to do something just tell him 'that one has gone' I believe this time he will want to talk about it But seriously Breadplanets, this might really cause a big problem in the future. It is always good to tackle issues, talk about things in other to clear doubts, assumptions and suspicions. If he doesn't want you to talk about it, next time allow him to talk about it, in fact cry if possible. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by breadplanets(f): 8:10pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
mamateniola1 thanks. Its the communication i really want to establish now. Ilovenigeria we are not yet married nau so d doing sontin at night is out of the kweshion hehehehe..... I so much love tackling issues when they come up immediately, haaa who said getting married is easy? If he were to be my boyfriend i know i wont bother my pretty head but as it is.... God help me! |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Ilovenigeria(f): 8:20pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
breadplanets:God will see you through. If this is the only problem you have with him then it's not that bad. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 12:41am On Oct 20, 2014 |
breadplanets: I don't like talking too much about issues either.... And once I say something is gone, it's actually gone FOREVER! If he means the 'it has gone', just let the guy be jare no time for long stories |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Mutaino7(m): 3:01am On Oct 20, 2014 |
It isnt everytime una go dhey die d matter now.. Marriages nowaday suffer 4rm grudges, unresolved issues and lack of communication.. I think in d west b4 d final phase or commencement of divorce couples are booked 4 compulsory councelling sessions 4 3months or so.. Dats is 2 tell u communication is gud and pls do wait till u're married already b4 u rectify d probs. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by breadplanets(f): 5:58am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Thanks aluta and mutaino... For me we must talk o. No b tmrw now person go dey carry face for something we happen for 1860 hehehehe..... Thanks guys. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 6:36am On Oct 20, 2014 |
@breadplanets; My hubby is also like that. He runs from the slightest confrontation and very quick to say "oya sorry, e don do, I no get strenght for wahala". All in a bid to "jump and pass". For lil issues, I let go. But for very significant ones, I tell him I'm really serious and we need to talk about it. If he's still running, I wait till we go to bed and I table the issue. At that moment he knows there is no sweeping under the carpet and we get to trash it out. Its not such a big deal anyways as attribute helps to temporarilly "quench" the fire for not so big issues. If I married someone like me who took every little issue so seriously, the home will be a war zone. So chill, you guys will be fine. By the way, congrats on your forthcoming wedding. Yea yea, I remember you from the wedding thread. Welcome to da club. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Nobody: 6:40am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Godmystrenght; You've been quiet on here. How are you these days? Hope you are much better now? |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by breadplanets(f): 7:02am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Phema:Thanks sweets..... I guess u are right about d home being a war zone if we are alike in this case. Thanks everyone. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by zemaye: 9:59am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Double post |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by zemaye: 9:59am On Oct 20, 2014 |
dBard: Na marriage jitters I pray your caterers are reliable Happy married life |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Fxwarrior: 10:08am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Godspearl: Show her the middle finger.#Not literally She's tryna push you over the hedge. Imagine the nonsense.Tell her assuming she doesn't know your husband birthdate. So you should postpone your husband's own to attend her own husband own. On the contrary sha you may agree depending on her person to do a joint party to celebrate both una husbands.If she says no.Refer to above advice. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by eagleeye2: 3:35pm On Oct 21, 2014 |
Abeg, me I get problem. In fact, am the problem. . . I have always been a introvert, AKA a loner. I started by drowning myself in the world of *make believe* TV when I was still very small. Then, I graduated to reading novel and other literature. It got to a stage where I can't eat well, if am not reading something. Now am addicted to my phone (nothing fanciful). This addiction is not just about the internet. I have downloaded a lot novels and other academic materials on my phone. While eating, am with my phone In a meeting with other people, I still sneak one or two looks at my phone. In bed, with my wife, (during bedtime) I am still with my phone....... This is the major problem now. My wife is threatening to move into her own room, if I continue like this. How do I help myself, to break this addiction before I wreck my young marriage. Can anyone help, with useful tips?? Please. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by bellong: 3:45pm On Oct 21, 2014 |
^^^ Get a Nokia or any other phone without internet capability, insert your Sim and do away with your smartphone, laptop or tablet for two weeks. Let your wife help in checking urgent and important emails at home after office hours not to be tempted into using it. If you stay away from these gadgets for two weeks, you will achieve good progress in breaking this addiction. During these two weeks, if you will watch TV, watch programs that will interest both of you so u can analyse, discuss and laugh over it together. On weekends, don't stay indoors for too long, go out with her and use your phone only when there are calls or text messages. Keep to this for one, two, three...... weeks and you will put this addiction where it belongs. It is well. 7 Likes |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by zemaye: 9:00pm On Oct 21, 2014 |
bellong:Sir bellong you took that straight out of my mouth. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Ilovenigeria(f): 7:56pm On Oct 25, 2014 |
So na like this this thread die. |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by pickabeau1: 9:26pm On Oct 25, 2014 |
^^^^Since there was nothing to talk about the focus shifted to investigative work on cheats.. So the thread was abandoned for CSI NL 4 Likes |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by egopersonified(f): 7:18pm On Oct 26, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Why are you against this thread eh pickabeau, always analyzing the reason for the thread, abeg post your challenge let people help you. No shame here. 2 Likes |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by pickabeau1: 7:20pm On Oct 26, 2014 |
egopersonified: Errm........you better check ur steps. I don't have any problem against your thread Its you lot who r looking for cheats calling others justifiers |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Kimoni: 8:02pm On Oct 26, 2014 |
Pickabeauuuuuuuuuu Lol My friend before before A leopard cannot change its skin sha 2 Likes |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by pickabeau1: 8:03pm On Oct 26, 2014 |
Kimoni: Oga mi....wetin I do oooo |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by Kimoni: 8:04pm On Oct 26, 2014 |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by pickabeau1: 8:06pm On Oct 26, 2014 |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by beeevan: 8:19pm On Oct 26, 2014 |
breadplanets: A lot of men are that way, they prefer to scurry to safety than tackle it head on. Just like Phema said, I have learnt to let stuffs that doesn't really count slide but when is time to talk, i don't mind doing the talking by myself, the ears and the results is all I need. If you start talking about every little thing, then marriage won't be fun at all. 1 Like |
Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by temi4fash(m): 10:49pm On Oct 26, 2014 |
Hello house, hope everyone is good... What's up with Godstrength, hop she is good.. Its been long I saw her post on NL.. My regards to her ooo.. Wish a very beautiful week ahead. May God bless our marriages. |
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