There can hardly be a greater disaster in a marriage than that of infidelity, especially when the woman is the culprit (the world's skewed against the women folks).

For some guys, this signals the eventual END of the marriage union.

For me too, that's the END.

I no get that kind grace to let go oooo! !!

I pray it doesn't happen to us. But it happens sometimes.

What shall be your reactions, husbands?

..

Ummm

I'm nt married but I stil want 2 believ dat I'm already d kind of man I'd b in marriage. As a husband, I'd totally 4give my wife who confessed adultery to me provided she is remorseful and developin strategies to avert such occurrences in d future. Cos dats wat I'd want her 2 do 4 me, even tho I'm yet to figure out wat wud push me in2 adultery

My Hubby won't forgive oh lai lai. He said it while we were dating. His ex while they were in school cheated he discovered and relationship ended despite pleas from d girl.
How much more a wife. No oh.

if a woman can forgive a man for committing adultery, why can't a man forgive his wife if she does same.

that's how I see it.

Teespice:
if a woman can forgive a man for committing adultery, why can't a man forgive his wife if she does same.

that's how I see it.

I just knw say na chikala type dix 1. Well My dear, that's not how the society view it to be.

Teespice:
if a woman can forgive a man for committing adultery, why can't a man forgive his wife if she does same.

that's how I see it.

A very fair opinion. However, we don't see it that way. It's not that easy with us.

okabe:
I'm nt married but I stil want 2 believ dat I'm already d kind of man I'd b in marriage. As a husband, I'd totally 4give my wife who confessed adultery to me provided she is remorseful and developin strategies to avert such occurrences in d future. Cos dats wat I'd want her 2 do 4 me, even tho I'm yet to figure out wat wud push me in2 adultery

Easier said!

dein77:
There can hardly be a greater disaster in a marriage than that of infidelity, especially when the woman is the culprit (the world's skewed against the women folks).

For some guys, this signals the eventual END of the marriage union.

For me too, that's the END.

I no get that kind grace to let go oooo! !!

I pray it doesn't happen to us. But it happens sometimes.

What shall be your reactions, husbands?

forgive an adulteress?
i would rather keep a dozen black mambas in my bedroom.

Wendy80:
My Hubby won't forgive oh lai lai. He said it while we were dating. His ex while they were in school cheated he discovered and relationship ended despite pleas from d girl.
How much more a wife. No oh.

What can be more tormenting than the thought of another man having slept with your beloved, curved wife?

I no fit shout Abeg!

dein77:


A very fair opinion. However, we don't see it that way. It's not that easy with us.

why?

because your egos are involved or could it be that you can't digest the fact that wifey cheated. could it also be that society frowns at a woman cheating and it's something you can't live with.

lanxlot:
I just knw say na chikala type dix 1. Well My dear, that's not how the society view it to be.

I knew someone will say this

tell me, how does society see it?

Teespice:


I knew someone will say this

tell me, how does society see it?

even in d days of Christ, a woman Was caught in d act. Hehehe, not d acts of d apostles o. it wasn't with an animal she had sex with. Was it? why didn't de provide d man?

Teespice:


why?

because your egos are involved or could it be that you can't digest the fact that wifey cheated. could it also be that society frowns at a woman cheating and it's something you can't live with.

With the risk of sounding bias, a man who has multiple sexual partners is very different from a woman having same and with far more far reaching consequences for the woman.

A woman who sleeps with more than one man will probably not be able to determine the paternity of her child especially when the acts took place around the same time.

We therefore run a risk of populating bastards in the society but with the case of the man this is not so as a man can impregnate several women without causing a dispute in paternity as long as those ladies were faithful to him.

See ? Life just aint fair to women sometimes.

miss this is it, a man may b a casanova Or promiscuous even under the watchful gaze of all n sundry. it will b treated lightly. I mean a married man. but let a married woman try, and she will b led to d abattoir....that's society 4 us all

lanxlot:
even in d days of Christ, a woman Was caught in d act. Hehehe, not d acts of d apostles o. it wasn't with an animal she had sex with. Was it? why didn't de provide d man?

and you forget the part where christ forgave her.

oh well

men justifying the act of adultery since 1900

I can forgive everything but a cheating spouse... How sure are you she won't do it again?

Teespice:


and you forget the part where christ forgave her.

oh well

men justifying the act of adultery since 1900

that's not My point. fact is, if d pharisees were fair, de would av brought Both d man Nd d woman caught in adultery 4 christ to pronounce judgement upon. did they do that?

Guitarlife:
With the risk of sounding bias, a man who has multiple sexual partners is very different from a woman having same and with far more far reaching consequences for the woman.

A woman who sleeps with more than one man will probably not be able to determine the paternity of her child especially when the acts took place around the same time.

We therefore run a risk of populating bastards in the society but with the case of the man this is not so as a man can impregnate several women without causing a dispute in paternity as long as those ladies were faithful to him.

See ? Life just aint fair to women sometimes.

at the risk of sounding realistic, you seem to forget that there are risks associated with having multiple partners which you already know so no need stressing it for both men and women.

if the men will accept their responsibility and do right to the woman and child, then the issue of bastards populating the society would hardly be heard of.

You realise that sex occurs between two consenting adults, so why should a man shirk his responsibilities should the woman get pregnant. it is not as if he was coerced into the act.

you are right. society aint fair to women.

Teespice:


why?

because your egos are involved or could it be that you can't digest the fact that wifey cheated. could it also be that society frowns at a woman cheating and it's something you can't live with.

Dear, call it ego or indigestion or whatever. I can't share my wife with any other man. Never. Never.

darisgod:
Ummm

The matter tie wrapper!

Teespice:


at the risk of sounding realistic, you seem to forget that there are risks associated with having multiple partners which you already know so no need stressing it for both men and women.

if the men will accept their responsibility and do right to the woman and child, then the issue of bastards populating the society would hardly be heard of.

You realise that sex occurs between two consenting adults, so why should a man shirk his responsibilities should the woman get pregnant. it is not as if he was coerced into the act.

you are right. society aint fair to women.

dats just it ma'am. not fair at all. unfortunately, Its not gona change in a moment, especially in d African setting. the situation is even better off in d west, u can at least file 4 divorce, but that wouldn't be easy 4 an average Nigerian woman.

dein77:


Dear, call it ego or indigestion or whatever. I can't share my wife with any other man. Never. Never.

thanks.

I have gotten the answer I need

but I need to ask one more question. what would you do if your wife discovers you are cheating or to put it more succinctly "finds out she's sharing you with other women"

Teespice:


at the risk of sounding realistic, you seem to forget that there are risks associated with having multiple partners which you already know so no need stressing it for both men and women.

if the men will accept their responsibility and do right to the woman and child, then the issue of bastards populating the society would hardly be heard of.

You realise that sex occurs between two consenting adults, so why should a man shirk his responsibilities should the woman get pregnant. it is not as if he was coerced into the act.

you are right. society aint fair to women.

You seem to be missing one very important point here.

If a woman sleeps with more than a man at about the same time, how does she know who the legitimate father of the child is ?

Nature itself does not condone women having multiple partners.

The earlier women realised men and women aint got same rights the better for us all.

I dont care if she confessed,,hw am i sure she wasnt blackmailed or threathed,,the only way i will remain with her is if she already hav children 4 me,,jst 4 d sake of d children...but if dere is no child, then each of us to our seprate ways.....i nor fit shout.

lanxlot:
dats just it ma'am. not fair at all. unfortunately, Its not gona change in a moment, expecially in d African setting. the situation is even better off in d west, u can at least file 4 divorce, but that wouldn't be easy 4 an average Nigerian woman.

divorce should be a last resort when all other options have been exhausted.

it would be easy for a Nigerian woman to file for divorce like her western counterparts, the only snag here is that she is seen as a failure that did nothing to repair her marriage.

not to talk of the stigmatisation that follow aftetwards. I can go on and on but no strength to type much story.

kemiola89:
I can forgive everything but a cheating spouse... How sure are you she won't do it again?

are you a lesbian? it attracts 14 yrs imprisonment. juz a reminder

Guitarlife:
You seem to be missing one very important point here.

If a woman sleeps with more than a man at about the same time, how does she know who the legitimate father of the child is ?

Nature itself does not condone women having multiple partners.

The earlier women realised men and women aint got same rights the better for us all.

wow.

but nature condones men having multiple partners

it is well.


as to the question asked, it is pertinent to note that there are risks for both men and women who have multiple partners. whatever happened to being faithful.

Teespice:


divorce should be a last resort when all other options have been exhausted.

it would be easy for a Nigerian woman to file for divorce like her western counterparts, the only snag here is that she is seen as a failure that did nothing to repair her marriage.

not to talk of the stigmatisation that follow aftetwards. I can go on and on but no strength to type much story.

that's the Only criteria mentioned in the bible if one must divorce. men are women are distinct, 4get bout the gender equality Nd equality of d sexes preached, we can Only be equal in heaven, find ursef in hell, u still will b intimidated.. we av never been equal, and I am stating categorically that we can never be equal. as regards this, wen a man is caught, he can b condoned, catch a woman, she's off. in most cases.

lanxlot:
that's the Only criteria mentioned in the bible if one must divorce. men are women are distinct, 4get bout the gender equality Nd equality of d sexes preached, we can Only be equal in heaven, find ursef in hell, u still will b intimidated.. we av never been equal, and I am stating categorically that we can never be equal. as regards this, wen a man is caught, he can b condoled, catch a woman, she's off. in most cases.

the only thing I could get from your post is the fact that men should be forgiven for cheating but a woman should be thrown off.

I get the drift. talking about double standards.

what is sauce for the goose should be sauce for the gander. it is well.

Iceg:
I dont care if she confessed,,hw am i sure she wasnt blackmailed or threathed,,the only way i will remain with her is if she already hav children 4 me,,jst 4 d sake of d children...but if dere is no child, then each of us to our seprate ways.....i nor fit shout.

U even get grace. ....me? Leave that matter.