EnlightenedSoul:
You mean you guys actually want your gf to tell you about every guy that hits on her, flirts with her, and etc.

That is just super weird.

They don't. Anyone saying they do in this thread is single. I was talking to my best friend and he was telling me about a fight he had with his gf. She was telling him about one guy that was hitting on her, and how she was refusing and all that. This is how he put it: (He's hilarious) "I let her say everything she wanted to say. Then I asked her if she was finished. She said yes. Why the Bleep did you think I wanted to hear that?" Cue argument.

My bf once told me about his friend's gf being interested in him. Now I hate her, and I don't even know her. I get pissed if I find out she's around him. And I know he's faithful, but it's still bullshít...

People who tell their significant others are looking for an ego stroke, because all it does is make your bf/gf jealous and suspicious, like you're trying to cover up something worse by sharing something insignificant. And it is insignificant. If I told my bf about all the guys that ask me out, he would think I'd gone mad. And it's awkward on top of it all. "Oh OK, sweetheart, that's great..."

Smh.

NO WAY....she should deal with them hitters, I trust her to do that.

jireh250:


I totally agree with you...mine goes even to the extent of saying who she has crush on...that even helps to make her behave rather than harbour it in secrecy until it leads to some other things. I also open up to her. With this, we caution ourselves when the other might be getting close to this other person unknowingly. Guess what? I trust her so much and can't wait to marry her!

Hmmm! Good though but be watchful sha. She told me about her crush too. But then she started dropping my call to pick his during our conversation. She never did that before

This almost broke my girl and I. She's actually a nice girl, but when she began hanging out with this guy in her fellowship, I had to tear for her.

The point is she may be naive about the other guy's intention, but you my friend must be vigilant.
She even wanted me to be close friends with me, but u said NO!

I had to shout at her one day when I saw the picture she took in the guy's house - something I dreamt about the previous night.

She later understood what was at stake and pulled out completely. Me. No like to dey monitor babe up and down.

All I'm just saying is her crushes are RED FLAGS


@ bolded : me too

Absolutely, my first lady always tell me about all these cats sending her messages and trying to hook up.

The mind of a woman is a dark bottomless crevice so if she chooses not to say a man would never know.

Funny thing is some of these cats are known to me so I have the advantage in knowing what they don't think I do.
I go mark their girls soon as fair reward.

Nor be wen dem ask person question, person go dey xplain? Who ask u to xplain? If u ever do dis without me askin, u become an auto suspect

Yes

echobee:
Coming back to reply. Make i s h i t first

Need tissue paper?

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PinkObsession:

PinkObsession:

True talk.

MissMeiya:


They don't. Anyone saying they do in this thread is single. I was talking to my best friend and he was telling me about a fight he had with his gf. She was telling him about one guy that was hitting on her, and how she was refusing and all that. This is how he put it: (He's hilarious) "I let her say everything she wanted to say. Then I asked her if she was finished. She said yes. Why the Bleep did you think I wanted to hear that?" Cue argument.

My bf once told me about his friend's gf being interested in him. Now I hate her, and I don't even know her. I get pissed if I find out she's around him. And I know he's faithful, but it's still bullshít...

People who tell their significant others are looking for an ego stroke, because all it does is make your bf/gf jealous and suspicious, like you're trying to cover up something worse by sharing something insignificant. And it is insignificant. If I told my bf about all the guys that ask me out, he would think I'd gone mad. And it's awkward on top of it all. "Oh OK, sweetheart, that's great..."

Smh.

LOL I like your best friend

Yh, I wouldn't advise making it a habit, or telling your partner about every - or even most - incident(s), but in some cases (like with a try-hard EX livin' high on something long gone), protecting your partner's feelings could bite you in a.s.s if they end up finding out about it all on their own. And that was my problem.

As for me, I def don't want to know it all, but if there's a persistent badger out there, I kinda wanna know, you know? But then again I kinda don't...

*Sigh*

Evina:


Telling doesn't build trust. It mostly destroys it. What is the point in rubbing it in your man's face that he's got competition? Men have big egos, they want to be known as sole proprietors. Why deflate the ego?

Not wise, if you ask me.

u have a very good point, personally I'd trust her more if she tells me but myt get jealous along the way. D truth is whether she fine or she no fine, once she's a lady oda lads will be after her, hw she handles it nw is the main thing.

berbajiday:
u have a very good point, personally I'd trust her more if she tells me but myt get jealous along the way. D truth is whether she fine or she no fine, once she's a lady oda lads will be after her, hw she handles it nw is the main thing.

Its Kinda of romantic when a lady tells his bf about other d..ks,our ladies should adopt this atitude

Medunah:
NO!!!! Are guys even worth it??

yes dy worth it...it bring trust to dat relationship...d gal must try to open up to d guy,everytin dat hapen during d day,dat a gud n perfect relationship...d guy must still do same

Stephxoblessed:
would comment whn this makes front page.
*modified*
so this finally made frontpage.
back to the ques:: why not? thats y its called Relationship.you share everything........no secrets.

yeah...dat d best tin dat can happen in a relationship,wen dey is trust u can kip secret.

MissMeiya:


They don't. Anyone saying they do in this thread is single. I was talking to my best friend and he was telling me about a fight he had with his gf. She was telling him about one guy that was hitting on her, and how she was refusing and all that. This is how he put it: (He's hilarious) "I let her say everything she wanted to say. Then I asked her if she was finished. She said yes. Why the Bleep did you think I wanted to hear that?" Cue argument.

My bf once told me about his friend's gf being interested in him. Now I hate her, and I don't even know her. I get pissed if I find out she's around him. And I know he's faithful, but it's still bullshít...

People who tell their significant others are looking for an ego stroke, because all it does is make your bf/gf jealous and suspicious, like you're trying to cover up something worse by sharing something insignificant. And it is insignificant. If I told my bf about all the guys that ask me out, he would think I'd gone mad. And it's awkward on top of it all. "Oh OK, sweetheart, that's great..."

Smh.

My mind!

I do

godwinmoffat:


yes dy worth it...it bring trust to dat relationship...d gal must try to open up to d guy,everytin dat hapen during d day,dat a gud n perfect relationship...d guy must still do same

it doesn't bring trust to a jealous guy, it is disastrous as he now lives in fear of losing his love and probably begins to assume she is giving in to those guys. When my prospective fiancee told me, I felt she just wanted me to be jealous. However she was being truthful as I have seen guys toast her in my front..lol

echobee:
Coming back to reply. Make i s h i t first

Or make u booked space!

okparaugo:
Any girl madly in love does that without being asked.

It is necessary..

if she does that she should also tell him those she fall under their trap.

EnlightenedSoul:


LOL I like your best friend

Yh, I wouldn't advise making it a habit, or telling your partner about every - or even most - incident(s), but in some cases (like with a try-hard EX livin' high on something long gone), protecting your partner's feelings could bite you in a.s.s if they end up finding out about it all on their own. And that was my problem.

As for me, I def don't want to know it all, but if there's a persistent badger out there, I kinda wanna know, you know? But then again I kinda don't...

*Sigh*

Oh persistent ones are a different story! Lol. Like you said if they find out on their own, it will totally be a problem. But it would be best to deal with those people before they get to that stage. Because then they might wonder if you're encouraging them.

Jealousy is a bítch lol

Jenams:
Nor be wen dem ask person question, person go dey xplain? Who ask u to xplain? If u ever do dis without me askin, u become an auto suspect

As if conscience dey worry am

If she want to tell me, I'm ready to listen.

ArtanK:


I reckon you'd be as calm and composed if a similar thing happened today lol.

That 'loll' gives me shaki

Loll what are you implying?

That's because being unbiased can be so dang hard at times

A lady should apply discretion, some men can be overly jealous and insecure

MissMeiya:


Oh persistent ones are a different story! Lol. Like you said if they find out on their own, it will totally be a problem. But it would be best to deal with those people before they get to that stage. Because then they might wonder if you're encouraging them.

Jealousy is a bítch lol

Sometimes, thats easier said then done. And if they're really persistent, they'll try anything..

It really is though loll. You know, I was listening to something 2day, and I had a stray thought on how a lot music tracks lately seem about stealing 'ya girl' heh. It's like a trend, or theme, or something.

Medunah:
NO!!!! Are guys even worth it??

kilodee!! Haba na... Don't judge all men coz you've had bad experiences with a few.. Sorry 'bout the hurts.. All fingers aren't equal you know!!

Even though she tells u,she wil only do when she didn't agree. But the ones dat she wil sleep wit she wil neva tell.

there is dis girl (my neighbour daughter) we are gud frnds..wen gisting wit her sumtimes She would tell me d names of guys to whom i also knw dat gist her around dat she decline....and also sum of my frnds tink dat am blasting her becus of our closeness but no....So if dat girl can tell me dat it means girls can tell their bf

I always tell (I'm a lil bit of a talkative) and he uses it against me later *sigh*

Medunah:
NO!!!! Are guys even worth it??

What are you feeling like? Even girls here at the University of Lyon are not as proud as you are.

MissMeiya:


They don't. Anyone saying they do in this thread is single. I was talking to my best friend and he was telling me about a fight he had with his gf. She was telling him about one guy that was hitting on her, and how she was refusing and all that. This is how he put it: (He's hilarious) "I let her say everything she wanted to say. Then I asked her if she was finished. She said yes. Why the Bleep did you think I wanted to hear that?" Cue argument.

My bf once told me about his friend's gf being interested in him. Now I hate her, and I don't even know her. I get pissed if I find out she's around him. And I know he's faithful, but it's still bullshít...

People who tell their significant others are looking for an ego stroke, because all it does is make your bf/gf jealous and suspicious, like you're trying to cover up something worse by sharing something insignificant. And it is insignificant. If I told my bf about all the guys that ask me out, he would think I'd gone mad. And it's awkward on top of it all. "Oh OK, sweetheart, that's great..."

Smh.

Your best friend's reaction could be as a result of how she went about telling him about the other guy or a reflection of his insecurities! It could also be that he didn't really feel something for her or they never had a smooth relationship!

Self-confident and emotionally secure guys do not fret over such matters when presented in the right manner and in the right circumstance! It gives them that feeling of being the guy wanted by the ladies! He feels that you're telling him because you're afraid of losing him and that makes him feel important!

Let me stretch the point again that the manner and circumstance you choose to tell him play a big role in his perception of your message!

As for me, I would want to listen under the right circumstance and presented without pride!

I strongly don't feel it is necessary for a girl to tell her guy about other guys hitting on her because it's like saying the obvious and normal. Any guy in his right senses should know this. If you're a babe and no guy is hitting on you then you have to go see that 'babalawo' near that junction close to the river or better still TB Joshua because you definitely have a big spiritual problem. As for the guys you should be happy that other guys are hitting on your babe - as for me? I am very happy. Because it shows she has got what it takes to be a babe. In a nutshell, therefore, it is very unnecessary, absolutely, because it's childish. If she continues telling him about other guys hitting on her because she hasnt agreed yet. I hope when she eventually agrees to that hitting guy she would equally tell her guy and save him all the stress.