adebisicutie:


No one in a loving, passionate and healthy relationship with his wife will coerce her to have sex with him.the way a woman's body is built is such that once she's not mentally and physically in the mood for sex, she will be dry and there will be friction which leads to tears and pain. You cannot claim to love someone and inflict pain on her

Are you saying that in all the 50years some people have stayed married, it's improbable that a man may have coerced his wife into having sex with him even once?

adebisicutie:


A woman can rape a man, she can give him drugs that will make him not fully conscious but he'll have a hardon.

or the boy could be underage and as such his consent can't be considered valid. Imagine a 15yr old boy lured into having sex with a 40yr old woman. That is r@pe right there. The sad thing is that the little boy won't even know he has just been raped. Instead he might see it as an achievement.

cococandy:
or the boy could be underage and as such his consent can't be considered valid. Imagine a 15yr old boy lured into having sex with a 40yr old woman. That is r@pe right there. The sad thing is that the little boy won't even know he has just been raped. Instead he might see it as an achievement.

Isn't this because most boys/men usually don't assume the 'victim stance' when it comes to experiences with girls/women?

crackhaus:

Are you saying that in all the 50years some people have stayed married, it's improbable that a man may have coerced his wife into having sex with him even once?

The normal thing is to appeal to the woman, the same way a woman will appeal to her husband if he turns her down . If the problem persists then you move on to intervention but never force. No decent man will ever force himself on his wife

crackhaus:

In other words, it's not really r.ape when a woman forces herself on her husband...yes?

As for what would be going on in his mind, well I'm pretty sure it's clearly not going to be 'hey, I'm getting raped', he most probably would be enjoying it.

For a woman, I think that the idea/notion of a sexxual romp (with her husband) getting the r.ape tag, only kicks in after the fact and not entirely during the session...and this will only be so if there's already a strain in that relationship, hence citing r.ape will be a suitable excuse.

I honestly don't think any woman that shares a loving, passionate, and healthy relationship with her husband, will claim r.ape whether or not she was coerced to have sex with him.

Based on what? A loving, passionate, healthy relationship and ra.pe??

It's not as common, but a man can indeed be ra.ped by a woman. It's usually done with the help of drug or drink, not much different from the usual tactic

crackhaus:

Isn't this because most boys/men usually don't assume the 'victim stance' when it comes to experiences with girls/women?

A lot of women in the US and UK have been jailed for statutory rape

cococandy:
Big lie. Hyper sensationalism

we shall continue to educate you....

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adebisicutie:

A lot of women in the US and UK have been jailed for statutory rape

why limit it to statutory räpe for women? so it's only when her victim is a child that she can be guilty of räpe? is that law not ridiculous?

adebisicutie:


Absolutely yes . Rape is rape regardless of it's perpetuated by a man or woman

It's common sense, isn't it?

Timbuktou:


Technically, it is. Really, though, I wouldn't know what to call it other than her doing her thing.

Pretty much or just get it over with biitch, depending on the state of his vitality at that point in time.

True.

Then again, there would/should be no need for coercion in such a marriage.

Indeed, and still you wouldn't call it r.ape nonetheless.

adebisicutie:


A lot of women in the US and UK have been jailed for statutory rape

And how many of those did the boy involved report to the authorities himself as 'r.ape'?

ileobatojo:


It's common sense, isn't it?

Madam with 'uncommon sense', are you still on my case but without the balls to address me directly? Lmao..

I hope you hold a 'Scientific Invention Patent' or 'Nobel Prize' with this your uncommon sense though...joker!

crackhaus:

Isn't this because most boys/men usually don't assume the 'victim stance' when it comes to experiences with girls/women?

who's fault is that
If you guys love being grabbed fvcked against your wish,good for yous

we don't have to like it too
Hence we report.
The onus is on the boy to report such an experience instead of seeing it as a boost to his manhood that he was able to bed a woman more advanced than him

coogar:


we shall continue to educate you?

still women are jailed for such crimes? Huh?
Educate yourself first.

EnlightenedSoul:


Based on what? A loving, passionate, healthy relationship and ra.pe??

It's not as common, but a man can indeed be ra.ped by a woman. It's usually done with the help of drug or drink, not much different from the usual tactic

Agreed.

crackhaus:

And how many of those did the boy involved report to the authorities himself as 'r.ape'?

her reply is hilarious....
we said a woman cannot legally rapê a man, she said a lot of women have been jailed for statutory rapē. according to her logic, a child is a man.

cococandy:
still women are jailed for such crimes? Huh?
Educate yourself first.

statutory rapë is an act of räpe against a minor(a child)....a boy is not a man. you need education.

crackhaus:

Agreed.

Well, it's true. I, however, disagree with your underhanded assertions in that post I quoted

cococandy:
whis fault is that?
If you guys love being grabbed fvcked against your wish,good for yous

we don't have to like it too
Hence we report.
The onus is on the boy to report such an experience instead of seeing it as a boost to his manhood that he was able to bed a woman more advanced than him

Okay, we're not fighting.

The discussion is about a husband and wife (two grown adults), let's put that back into perspective.

coogar:


we shall continue to educate you....

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why limit it to statutory räpe for women? so it's only when her victim is a child that she can be guilty of räpe? is that law not ridiculous?

I've already said above that the laws about rape are old fashioned and they need to be updated because yes a woman can commit rape

crackhaus:

And how many of those did the boy involved report to the authorities himself as 'r.ape'?

I don't have the statistics on that, before boys were taught to consider sex with an older woman as a conquest so majority of them will rather brag about it to their friends than report it. But now young boys are gradually beginning to understand that it isn't something to boast about to their friends but rather a thing to report because it is a crime

adebisicutie:


I've already said above that the laws about rape are old fashioned and they need to be updated because yes a woman can commit rape

so why aren't the soldiers of "gender equality" fighting for this since we are supposed to believe all they care about is the equality of the genders? they would rather argue over gender wage discrimination, child custody & FGM.

adebisicutie:


The normal thing is to appeal to the woman, the same way a woman will appeal to her husband if he turns her down . If the problem persists then you move on to intervention but never force. No decent man will ever force himself on his wife

I understand the process of cajoling and convincing, but we're back to the same question.

Is it improbable that a 'decent man' in a marriage of over 50years could have forced/coerced his wife into sex, even if it was just once?

EnlightenedSoul:


Well, it's true. I, however, disagree with your underhanded assertions in that post I quoted

About citing r.ape after the act, only if there was already a strain in that marriage/relationship?

crackhaus:

I understand the process of cajoling and convincing, but we're back to the same question.

Is it improbable that a 'decent man' in a marriage of over 50years could have forced/coerced his wife into sex, even if it was just once?

Any man who has ever forced himself on any woman, his wife or otherwise is not decent

crackhaus:

Okay, we're not fighting.

The discussion is about a husband and wife (two grown adults), let's put that back into perspective.

an adult woman can still rape a man..
Yea we know men are generally stronger but cases where a woman can over power the man by the use of drugs or whatever happen too even if it is rare.
Have you heard the term "made to penetrate"?
Used to describe a situation where a man is made to have sex without his express consent.
It is recognized and the offender is liable to get jail time

crackhaus:

I understand the process of cajoling and convincing, but we're back to the same question.

Is it improbable that a 'decent man' in a marriage of over 50years could have forced/coerced his wife into sex, even if it was just once?

i think it depends on what each individual classifies as force or coercion. i used to know a dude who told me his girl likes it violently. they must scuffle, tear each other's clothes to shreds before she can get her "high". she needs a bit of adrenaline to enjoy sėx. now - in the eyes of the law, it could be argued it's rapë. hell, if she walks to a police station after the act, the boyf would get a räpe charge.

one just needs to be careful - get everything behind closed doors on tape.

coogar:


her reply is hilarious....
we said a woman cannot legally rapê a man, she said a lot of women have been jailed for statutory rapē. according to her logic, a child is a man.



statutory rapë is an act of räpe against a minor(a child)....a boy is not a man. you need education.

nope. An employer made to have sex with his female boss is a victim of statutory r@pe too.


And I thought you were intelligent.
You even hard some dimwits like your post. Gosh y'all need some time out to go back to high school.

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coogar:


one just needs to be careful - get everything behind closed doors on tape.

By the way, this is the future of sexxual intercourse. Who knows how long before 'yes means yes' becomes the reality of our lives.

lolababe331e:


Any man who has ever forced himself on any woman, his wife or otherwise is not decent

Noted!

cococandy:
nope. An employer made to have sex with his female boss is a victim of statutory r@pe too.


And I thought you were intelligent.
You even hard some dimwits like your post. Gosh y'all need some time out to go back to high school.

you are a bush woman!
statutory rapë is primarily centred on the age of consent, nothing to do with boss/employee relationship. if the employee is over the age of consent, statutory rape does not apply. do you know the meaning at all or which school had the gall to grant you a certificate with this level of illiteracy?

cococandy:

And I thought you were intelligent.
You even hard some dimwits like your post. Gosh y'all need some time out to go back to high school.

I'm guilty of liking his post

But you're also liking posts that make absolutely no sense, does that make you a dimwit also?

crackhaus:

I'm guilty of liking his post

But you're also liking posts that make absolutely no sense, does that make you a dimwit also?

she's the half-wit here....
boss/adult employee forced sex is statutory räpe to her & yet she has access to the internet, she would rather watch telemundo than learn about the world around her