Urine:


I don't think ration is the word, at times keeping a straight face is necessary. It doesn't change that person's love for you. It's a heart and face thing, na the heart be the koko.

excelsia:
When you put restrictions on love, you start having problems in your relationship. Both parties should give 100%, don't create room for issues. I'm no expert but I'm living and learning, think about 1st Corinthians chapter 13, restrictions breed problems in the long run

excelsia:
When you put restrictions on love, you start having problems in your relationship. Both parties should give 100%, don't create room for issues. I'm no expert but I'm living and learning, think about 1st Corinthians chapter 13, restrictions breed problems in the long run

Urine:


Ok, I'm really crazy about you, I've been watching you for a while and I have a strong feeling you're the one. Should I open up to you totally in one week or tell you bit by bit in a month (I might start like a person that's not really interested in you)?

ilori1930:


You would 100 per cent right, but expressing love without restrictions doesn't work well with naija ladies.

If naija gal catch u say u don love up ehn, she go show you shege!

MizMyColi:

Let's Have Your Take On This Please.

I saw a post on here. An Nler was admonishing another NLer, saying that, it is better for him to give a lady, "The More You Look, The Less You See Syndrome"
(That's just the summary of what he was trying to pass across)

In other words, He should make the lady want him more by not always admiring her or making her feel like she matters so much.

In other words, As a man, He shouldn't be "too expressive" --- so the lady won't see him finish

Even though I strongly maintain that this is a form of emotional abuse and manipulation, that's not what I'm here to talk about.


My question is, should the lady in a relationship be advised thus? May we also tow that path?

If yes please state your reasons, If no, let's know why too.

If you're in support of the Nler's opinion, please let us know why, if you're not, we'd like to know why too.

Let's contribute objectively

Cheers.........

Urine:


Ok, I'm really crazy about you, I've been watching you for a while and I have a strong feeling you're the one. Should I open up to you totally in one week or tell you bit by bit in a month (I might start like a person that's not really interested in you)?

MizMyColi:

Let's Have Your Take On This Please.

I saw a post on here. An Nler was admonishing another NLer, saying that, it is better for him to give a lady, "The More You Look, The Less You See Syndrome"
(That's just the summary of what he was trying to pass across)

In other words, He should make the lady want him more by not always admiring her or making her feel like she matters so much.

In other words, As a man, He shouldn't be "too expressive" --- so the lady won't see him finish

Even though I strongly maintain that this is a form of emotional abuse and manipulation, that's not what I'm here to talk about.


My question is, should the lady in a relationship be advised thus? May we also tow that path?

If yes please state your reasons, If no, let's know why too.

If you're in support of the Nler's opinion, please let us know why, if you're not, we'd like to know why too.

Let's contribute objectively

Cheers.........

goofyone:
I don't see what's there not to understand about this English. Seems clear enough to me.

Anyways, back to topic.

It makes no sense for anyone who is usually expressive to start stifling their feelings/expressions in a relationship. Neither is it totally right for the person who isn't expressive to begin yapping more than necessary. It only makes sense to play along as your nature demands, the way i see it.

Rationing may render the person temporarily desirable. Yes, only temporarily. However, lack of consistency is one of the easiest thing to kill a relationship. Your partner knows you as talkative and enjoys it, yet you stifle yourself because you want to be more desirable? Bull..sh.it! Stay true and let it play just as it will.

AreaFada2:



It's a good idea, but ladies are funny people.

The minute they know you're addicted to them, you become boring to them.

Most will become too comfortable and begin to take you for granted and misbehave.

Many female friends have admitted this much.

londoner:
Its very simple.

Men treat your woman how you would like your sister or daughter treated.

Women, treat your man how you would like your brother or son treated.

Its a very accurate way to make sure you do the right thing. I also dont think it s wrong to mirror each other in terms of the affection given and always keep communication number one. You cant go wrong, and where you do, its easily identified and dealt with, before it causes unnecessary problems.

Game playing, manipulation or passive aggressiveness in relationships is a slippery slope to failure.

MizMyColi:
Excelsia

Showcasing excellent representation for her kind since time imoriver.


I never want comment.
Because chruch fit scatter.


Kachisbarbie Ma'am, biko, when you are free, come and contribute here.

AreaFada2:



Most will become too comfortable and begin to take you for granted and misbehave.

Many female friends have admitted this much.

missberrypop5:
i know that feeling. But believe me, most ladies who that, do it to clingy men. You can get addicted, its allowed, but don't be too addicted, It can be annoying.

DutchesSsS:
I believe it depends on the purpose of the relatioship.

Pamcrest:
Why would u want to withhold expressing your feelings to your other half? I don't get that!
Hiding your true feelings can actually ruin d romance, which is not what you really intended. I'm not of d school of thought that thinks its weak to express your feelings, be it man or woman.....if u feel it, live it, show it! Delight in your love interest, unless it's not there oh.
My humble submission

AreaFada2:
,

True, but a man can sometimes be in love and just can't have enough of you.

The balance is very delicate.

Too much attention, you're clingy; too little attention, you are not caring.


There is no "attention-o-meter" to measure these things. The level of attention needed varies from person to person.

I guess one basic fact is two people in love may well be in love to different degrees.


One of them may just be "pragmatically" in love while the other is wholeheartedly in love.

TDstarr:
am tired of this stupid relationship talks, dat let these dumb females say what they cant do and dese males saying what they cant tell their patners.....
if u want anything you should discuss with patner not dumbing issues on nairaland

iceberylin:
Why dont you reduce the English... e much joor..


Nland don turn to class-room

iceberylin:
Why dont you reduce the English... e much joor..


Nland don turn to class-room

Don't tell me it's cabin biscuit that's inside ya head?
Wetin much for that English now?

MizMyColi:

Let's Have Your Take On This Please.

I saw a post on here. An Nler was admonishing another NLer, saying that, it is better for him to give a lady, "The More You Look, The Less You See Syndrome"
(That's just the summary of what he was trying to pass across)

In other words, He should make the lady want him more by not always admiring her or making her feel like she matters so much.

In other words, As a man, He shouldn't be "too expressive" --- so the lady won't see him finish

Even though I strongly maintain that this is a form of emotional abuse and manipulation, that's not what I'm here to talk about.


My question is, should the lady in a relationship be advised thus? May we also tow that path?

If yes please state your reasons, If no, let's know why too.

If you're in support of the Nler's opinion, please let us know why, if you're not, we'd like to know why too.

Let's contribute objectively

Cheers.........