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Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by MizMyColi(f): 8:18pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Let's Have Your Take On This Please. I saw a post on here. An Nler was admonishing another NLer, saying that, it is better for him to give a lady, "The More You Look, The Less You See Syndrome" (That's just the summary of what he was trying to pass across) In other words, He should make the lady want him more by not always admiring her or making her feel like she matters so much. In other words, As a man, He shouldn't be "too expressive" --- so the lady won't see him finish Even though I strongly maintain that this is a form of emotional abuse and manipulation, that's not what I'm here to talk about. My question is, should the lady in a relationship be advised thus? May we also tow that path? If yes please state your reasons, If no, let's know why too. If you're in support of the Nler's opinion, please let us know why, if you're not, we'd like to know why too. Let's contribute objectively Cheers......... 6 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by iceberylin(m): 8:21pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Why dont you reduce the English... e much joor.. Nland don turn to class-room 28 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Nobody: 8:22pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
iceberylin: 4 Likes |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Nobody: 8:26pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
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Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by ilori1930(m): 8:27pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
iceberylin: Lol... "reducing her English" may make her lose some followers like me. I like her construction of grammer and that's one the reasons I like her. 4 Likes |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by iceberylin(m): 8:29pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
ilori1930: Just admit your crushing on her rather than using Big grammer as excuse 21 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Tallesty1(m): 8:31pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Make I dey here dey take my snuf yet. 2 Likes |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Nobody: 8:31pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
ilori1930:yes,we love her.. i can't deny it BUT....i think iceberylin is right. I kinda did not understand the topic cos of the grammer. *Scratches grey hair* 2 Likes |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Nobody: 8:37pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
As for me, none. I have this belief that every affection, or feelings should be mutual. Though many ladies are given this orientation that the male folks should show much affection than them. I don't think its right. It should be mutual. 19 Likes |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by iceberylin(m): 8:38pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Jennimma: Gray hair indeed |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Urine: 8:39pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Firstly, I don't think it's a form of emotional abuse. Secondly, we will all agree that men and women are totally different, we don't and will never think the same way. Men are practical, women tend towards making decisions based on emotions. For example when a man falls in love genuinely, he probably has seen some solid traits in a woman eg intelligence, respect, how she relates with other people but for a woman this is slightly different. Their decisions are based on emotions and emotions do 'fluctuate'. So to create a sort of balance, a man has to be bold and not give in to his emotion @ all times. There are times to show a woman love and there are times to be 100% frank with a woman. So to answer your question, a woman shouldn't do that or better still a woman can't do that. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Nobody: 8:46pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
MizMyColi: To be sincere, this attitude of dudes hiding their feelings and being less expressive have sent many flourishing relationships to their early graves. My thought though! 20 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Nobody: 8:48pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
If you have to ration the feelings then it's not love, true love knows no bound 14 Likes |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Obinoscopy(m): 8:49pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
excelsia:Exactly sweetheart. True love comes straight from the heart. It can't be rationed. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by html14java(f): 8:53pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Erm erm.... Keke man, stop me here Na this thread I dey go 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by mcdokwe(m): 8:53pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Y should they? |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by DutchesSsS(f): 8:53pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
I believe it depends on the purpose of the relatioship. |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Nmeri17: 8:53pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
mizmycoli and her text formatting-____- na yo type dey use fine writing confuse lecturer during script marking @topic girls are in a default mode of hoarding love from their partners o 3 Likes |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by TDstarr: 8:54pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
am tired of this stupid relationship talks, dat let these dumb females say what they cant do and dese males saying what they cant tell their patners..... if u want anything you should discuss with patner not dumbing issues on nairaland 5 Likes |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by mcdokwe(m): 8:54pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Love is best expressed without reservations 2 Likes |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by ilori1930(m): 8:54pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
I am in agreement with the positon of the Nlander. The guy should not be too eager to exude his emotions to the lady, at least at the early stages in the relationship. Most ladies, when they become too sure of your love, they tend to misbehave confidently with the assurance that the guy, being in love, can not bite. So, it is good to make the lady slightly uncertain of your love to make her uncertain of your reactions to whatever silly ideas, if any, that she may be nursing. She has to be aware that there is an acerbic side of you just as there is the loving side. 5 Likes |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by epospiky(m): 8:55pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Whatever. So far the love exists shikenan |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Nobody: 8:56pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Can true love be hidden? I doubt,except its faked.. Why ration love,when expression of it makes it grow fonder,and keep the union strong. Except its been expressed to a lady,or guy, who truly didn't love the guy,or the lady,so will find it difficult to reciprocate it. Expression of love is good,no overdose,no excess calories. 6 Likes |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Matthewbriggs(m): 8:56pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Obinoscopy: I think you are more expressive than your partner. Nice one. . There is need for balance. 7 Likes |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Nobody: 8:56pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
K |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Nobody: 8:56pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Hmmmm.... |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Urine: 8:56pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
excelsia: I don't think ration is the word, at times keeping a straight face is necessary. It doesn't change that person's love for you. It's a heart and face thing, na the heart be the koko. 2 Likes |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by AreaFada2: 8:57pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Okikiki: It's a good idea, but ladies are funny people. The minute they know you're addicted to them, you become boring to them. Most will become too comfortable and begin to take you for granted and misbehave. Many female friends have admitted this much. 7 Likes |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by ilori1930(m): 8:58pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
iceberylin: And would I be committing any crime by crushing on her I like intelligent people and I beleive she is one of such |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Nobody: 8:58pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
I don't see what's there not to understand about this English. Seems clear enough to me. Anyways, back to topic. It makes no sense for anyone who is usually expressive to start stifling their feelings/expressions in a relationship. Neither is it totally right for the person who isn't expressive to begin yapping more than necessary. It only makes sense to play along as your nature demands, the way i see it. Rationing may render the person temporarily desirable. Yes, only temporarily. However, lack of consistency is one of the easiest thing to kill a relationship. Your partner knows you as talkative and enjoys it, yet you stifle yourself because you want to be more desirable? Bull..sh.it! Stay true and let it play just as it will. 5 Likes |
Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Urine: 8:59pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
ilori1930: 100000000 likes. 2 Likes |
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