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Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Matthewbriggs(m): 7:34pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: I would not collect a gift from my mother if it would make my family unhappy in anyway. This is FACT. All I can do is try to convince her I need to accept it if she still insist. My focus would shift towards mending the rift between them, than gallivanting around celebrating the fact my Mum gave me a gift ... Also based on the data on ground I would make the right decision on the next course of action to take. FYI. The use of the word her "joining her father", is a figure of expression intended not to be taking literally ... It is used in this context to emphasis the strain her accepting that gift would have on our relationship, that does not mean I would I would send her packing. 1 Like |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Truckpusher(m): 7:35pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
Tashamania:I don't get you o. Don't beg them o,they started throwing stones and what I'm just doing is to judge them by their standard.....That's all Mondi was even the main culprit in this case ,she was just unfortunate to have made a very painful,ridiculous and silly comment about men being silly over a story without a reliable source hence the hammer, I have two backward,frustrated, and ugly women that years is no longer on their side on my radar and so far they've been avoiding me like ebola. Every thread that has to do with family they will show up and use it to ridicule marriages especially Nigerian marriages. I understand that most of are from broken homes and homes where their fathers treated their mothers badly but you can't use your own house as a yardstick for every Nigerian family out there.That's insanity 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Truckpusher(m): 7:39pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
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Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Nobody: 7:42pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
coogar:its obvious he cannot afford buying her a car, so why should that be made every one else's problem? who chose the hubby for her? did i?she chose her own husband but i doubt she chose suffering just because she doesn't want to bruise his ego! So her whole world has to turn around and become more difficult because her husband can't afford doing something her father can to do for her? i expect her to have considered all these things before bringing him to my house that she's found the one. i don't do medicine after death. all i need to ask if she's sure the man she's brought home is her wish. i would endeavour to ask her these questions 3 times before giving my blessings to them. if she answers affirmatively, then i dare not interfere until they seek my counsel.she still is her father's daughter and he can still do whatever he wants for her and he doesn't have to get permission from anyone to do so. How is making life much easier for one's daughter interfering with her life? How has a gift become an inconvenience? How sure are you that she didn't have to call her father to come to her rescue a few times before because her husband was unavailable? |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Truckpusher(m): 7:42pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:I'm sure that if your mother-inlaw should bring in another woman for her son when you can't make babies you'd gladly welcome the new wife too? 7 Likes |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Nobody: 7:45pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
Truckpusher! ! ! |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Nobody: 7:46pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
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Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by LordReed(m): 7:47pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
coogar: OK so you will tell your FIL before you marry his daughter that he should never give his daughter any gift unless you consent. Good luck with that. 3 Likes |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Truckpusher(m): 7:50pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie:Yes ma'am. What have I done wrong again? I'm sure you don't want me to keep quiet when people are making mockery of Nigerian marriages as if they are all living in hell. I have sisters that are married and their husbands aren't beasts ,so I will not fold my hands and watch some never-do-wells that probably left the shores of Africa unceremoniously paint my dear country men and women as suffer heads in their marriages just because they've been granted asylum by their slave masters. I'll talk even if everyone of them detest me,I do not need anyone's validation to breath. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Nobody: 7:50pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by LordReed(m): 7:51pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
Truckpusher: Yeah cue in the amazing problem solver in marriages, sleep with another woman. 6 Likes |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Nobody: 7:53pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
coogar: A doting father plays a huge role in his daughter's life . If you would fail to play that role,don't bother having them. 2 Likes |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Truckpusher(m): 7:53pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
Tashamania:I'm not a troublemaker,I say things the way they are..........The two things are here so afraid to quote me lemme take their poor asss to the cleaners. Goddammit! 2 Likes |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Truckpusher(m): 7:54pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
LordReed:I don't get you. 1 Like |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by EfemenaXY: 7:55pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: Hahaha! If this isn't crazy, then I don't know what is! Lol @ neckless heads running amok because of "moto a.k.a my father's car"! |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Truckpusher(m): 7:57pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
EfemenaXY:Are you validating their silly assumptions or you're just one of them? Speak. 2 Likes |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Nobody: 7:59pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
Matthewbriggs:You have started again with your epistles? have you ever thought that maybe we are not dealing with a sane man in this particular case? |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Nobody: 8:02pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
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Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Ilekokonit: 8:03pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
Truckpusher: Now, I get your logic. Basically what you are saying is that the parent of one party to a marriage should not use the other parties perceived or real weakness to spite that party. It happens a lot in nigerian marriages where for example the husbands mum is looking out for the wifes weakness or the wifes dad is looking out for the husbands weakness (maybe lack of money) and is stepping in to fill that gap with or without the husbands knowledge or consent. Its very common with men who only have daughters as children and because they have not brought up a male child in real life, they forget how territorial a man is and once their daughter WRONGLY starts telling them how she is suffering in her husbands house, the dad WRONGLY steps into their marital affairs to the chagrin of the fiercely independent husband. I've actually seen a marriage with 2 kids break up because of the overbearing influence of the wifes dad in the marriage and the fiercely independent husband not being ready to be colonised by a fellow man. I actually blamed the woman in my example for going behind her husbands back to give her dad a running commentary of happenings in her marriage over a long period and the dad advising her on how to relate to her husband. the wifes dad in this case also had only 3 daughters and because he was used to bullying them including their mum, he WRONGLY thought he could bully a fellow man in his son in law with the result that he scattered his own daughters marriage with his meddlesome character. My advise to couples is NEVER involve any inlaw or outlaw or parent or pastor into your marital matters. They may mean well to start with but they complicate matters on the long run. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Nobody: 8:05pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
Nonso23:If she was insane she would have refused her father's gift and continued to suffer just to nurse his little ego 5 Likes |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by kaboninc(m): 8:06pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
See as people dey fail exams? Major cause of our problem is solving a problem based on assumptions. Everyone is assuming. Everyone is saying the truth. No one is just listening. For a man to react the way he did, there must be an underlying issue. For God's sake, if the FIL buys a car without some form of notice to his SIL, he's meddling in their affairs. Simple. He can buy the car, and the husband can insist that the car be returned. He's the husband to the wife, not the father. Let's get this straight! How would that same FIL feel when someone buys a car for his wife without any hint from any source? Please let's stop thinking like boyfriend and girlfriend! Lol. 4 Likes |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by LordReed(m): 8:07pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
Truckpusher: Never mind. 2 Likes |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Nobody: 8:08pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
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Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Ilekokonit: 8:09pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
Nonso23: Wisdom nuggets. I'll add that Marriage is a completely different kettle of fish with some dynamics that even the Pope can not comprehend. A marriage may be tottering on the bring but an outsider including inlaws and outlaws may not know this and any real or perceived intrusion or perceived judgemental presents and/or criticisms from any parent might be just the final nail in the coffin of a marriage that is beginning to tire one or both parties. A muslim father would probably have given the car gift to the couple jointly so as not to unintentionally call the mans capabilities into question. (I've seen this in real life). Its possible that the husband has some hidden animosity towards his father in law from past issues that borders on the father in law's unwillingness to release his daughter from his apron strings or maybe the father in law had meddled in their marriage openly or covertly in the past. |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Nobody: 8:09pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
This agbero truckpusher quoting me up and down. Your mama no teach you respect for elders ? 6 Likes |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by cococandy(f): 8:09pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
This nairaland is just full of too many xtupid discussions that have no place in 2014. 6 Likes |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Matthewbriggs(m): 8:12pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
Mondisweets: You have started again with your pseudo feminism. . Have I ever thought what First what evidence do you have aside what the Op posted that provides us with enough information about the context of this gift that makes you think we are not dealing with a sane man who might be reacting in a sane way to gift given with insane intentions. We have no data or proof whether he is Sane or not, We have no detailed understanding of the context surrounding his actions. But you and your lot find it cool painting the man as the devil in this scenario, who would sacrifice his wife's joy to sooth his almighty ego. with out caring to ask the op for more information about why he acted the way he did or the context surrounding his actions. 4 Likes |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by EfemenaXY: 8:12pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
Truckpusher: And you are? 7 Likes |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Nobody: 8:15pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
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Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Nobody: 8:16pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
EfemenaXY: Some men are achieving great things in life and these mumus are crying because a wife got a car from HER FARHER. What a freak show! 8 Likes |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Nobody: 8:16pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
Truckpusher: Intelligent comparison. I am impressed. 4 Likes |
Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Nobody: 8:18pm On Dec 20, 2014 |
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