byvan:
She had it coming, single ladies should wait for single men and stop lingering around married men hoping to become the next best thing in their lives.

I was going to say something in these lines. A guy I met in a cybercafe while applying for a job helped me secure my current job.

I really liked his level of intellectualism and requested that he mentor me.

The moment I found out he was married with a child.

I took to my heels. He didn't ask me out, no. He didn't make amorous advances either --- but I knew, I just knew getting closer would be setting myself up for trouble.

Turned out he had an issue with his wife who is an alleged chronic cheat, this made him "pursue" me more.

I ran harder. I avoided his calls as much as I could, I still do, even though he claims they are separated.


This is life FCOL --- anything can happen!!!!!!

A man tells you he divorced his wife for her inability to conceive and you just decided to shook head?

Like seriously? Just like that?

Oma se o

We young people should learn from this woman's story and not try to justify her stupidity (sorry I used the word, we've all acted stupidly at one point or another though).

MizMyColi:

protegesol:

No need for pushing blames. She should count her blessings or losses and move on with her life.

Idowuogbo:
Feisty Mondi

dorlapoh20:
this is a very sad story, The lady made some mistakes though. she shouldn't ave married the man she barely knew i bet she did not know his resident.
she should have indirectly asked for his divorce papers
but the deed has been done.
Get a job and take care of your children.God will judge the man and all those involved.

Mondisweets:


Anyway its capisce not capische... You are welcome

Clearly, that was a typo. Thanks btw. I corrected one or two in yours before quoting you, scroll up and check

Owh, I just corrected another

She met him years ago, so its not unusal unusual if they get serious in a couple of months. like i said many couples were friends for years and they marry after months of dating and they still live happily under normal circumstances

Good.
Now please remind me again, what's normal about this man's "circumstances."?

I was only emboldening it to show you how clueless you are about the difference between a relationship and marriage diverting the issue to insulting my "salient points" didn't make you sound any clever anyway.

This is emboldening

[size=14pt]This is [/size] emboldening and ensizening (sic)

Btw, the term relationship is an umbrella word.
It encompasses a lot. You should know that.
There is platonic, marriage, convenience, and a host of other kinds of relationships.

Now, who's clueless here

One more thing, I don't insult people, not when I can help it. It's an aberration on my person.
You're prolly used to doing so around here.
Lolz.

The point i made was that a normal human being who has reasonable belief that she is not being deceived, wouldn't under normal circumstances stalk her partner, because she is of the reasonable belief that she is marrying someone who is being genuine with her since she actually was formally introduced to the family ( like every other normal couple)

And the point I made is that, This Is Life.
It's not all black and white.
A person who has been bonded to another shouldn't come to marry you and you accept just like that because, you've developed a trust of sorts for them.

Get proof, get irrefutable proof, be prepared. Don't be gullible, don't act out of desperation. Except a man is separated from his wife by death, I would that "normal" ladies steer clear off them "married divorced" men.

MizMyColi:



Clearly, that was a typo. Thanks btw. I corrected one or two in yours before quoting you, scroll up and check

Owh, I just corrected another

Good.
Now please remind me again, what's normal about this man's "circumstances."?

This is[/b] emboldening

[size=14pt]This is [/size] emboldening and ensizening (sic)

Btw, the term relationship is an umbrella word.
It encompasses a lot. You should know that.
There is platonic, marriage, convenience, and a host of other kinds of relationships.

Now, who's clueless here

One more thing, I don't insult people, not when I can help it. It's an aberration on my person.
You're prolly used to doing so around here.
Lolz.

And the point I made is that, This Is Life.
It's not all black and white.
A person who has been bonded to another shouldn't come to marry you and you accept just like that because, you've developed a trust of sorts for them.

Get proof, get irrefutable proof, be prepared. Don't be gullible, don't act out of desperation. Except a man is separated from his wife by death, I would that "normal" ladies steer clear off them "married divorced" men.

protegesol:
I wonder what the girls are getting worked up on Mizmycoli and Mondisweets.

Apparently, the lady in question gets child support so I guess she can make it legally binding on the man and move on with her life.

She can still find love even after two children. Her past mistakes doesn't mean the end for her.

In other countries it's common place to find single women with one or two kids.

Let her consider this a life lesson.

Mondisweets:
Okay it was a typo you made repeatedly

bukatyne:


What will attract a single 28yr old to a divorced 48yr old after 10yrs of marriage? Money? Desperation?

What was even the probability that the problem was not with the husband?

Mondisweets:
I have repented

protegesol:
I wonder what the girls are getting worked up on Mizmycoli and Mondisweets.

Lolz @worked up.

Blame it on the holidays and boredom, maybe

protegesol:

Give Mizmycoli a hug and say sorry.

protegesol:

Give Mizmycoli a hug and say sorry.

Ishilove:
They used her star to open the first wife''s womb, because how else can you explain the four months difference in both their children's ages?

When a man tells you about issues with his wife, jump and pass. Marriage is not the beginning and end of life.

Ishilove:
They used her star to open the first wife''s womb, because how else can you explain the four months difference in both their children's ages?

When a man tells you about issues with his wife, jump and pass. Marriage is not the beginning and end of life.

jingh:
so you believe in spirituality

MizMyColi:


Clearly, she was already coveting the man and thought she could be the solution to his problems.

Which is why she didn't take the pains to find out the truth for herself --- if only she applied some brain.

Now, what do we blame her current predicament on?

Her desperation and gullibility or greed?

**modified**

Someone quoted me and talked about going with his family --- that's a good point.

Is there a possibility the "family" was deceived too?
Or were they in on the whole thing?
The human race isn't particularly known for "Goodness."


This isn't me trading blames. Trust me, I feel this woman's pain, I'm just not willing to put it all in writing at the moment.

But as ladies, we need to learn. We need to stop taking things at face value and put on our thinking caps.

It's okay to live and love like your life depended on it.

However I believe that there is a spirit in man, the inspiration of the almighty gives us understanding - of what is right, of what is wrong, of what to do, of what not to do.

I can bet my Nairaland account that before she decided to go on with this man, there were red flags, ones she ignored for whatever reasons there might be. That's if she even took time to court him first or thoroughly listened to her inner light.

andromida:
Choi!